Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

A lot of cats do things for women and not for themselves what I mean they go work out not to be healthy and for themselves but to impress women, they buy a car they don't need to impress women not the car they love. They move out because they care what women will think

They buy expensive shoes and clothing not because they like it but trying to impress women

Stop

I'm not saying there is anything wrong with working out or buying a nice car, or nice clothes

But do it for yourself.

 

[MikelArteta]

So i got a girls number a couple of weeks ago at my friends bachelor party(we were all destroyed and went out to a pub). I was really attracted to this girl but i haven't called or texted her in the two weeks since i got her number. Have a waited to long? Should i just delete or is it worth a shot?


I was thinking of inviting her out on some friendly shyt when me and my friends get together.

Doesn't hurt to call and ask her out, if you get the I'm busy or oh it's not a good time or pick up her somewhat not interested tone just delete

If a girl likes you there is never a waited to long unless she has a bf by now

 

[Cory MBA]

Chad should have been reading this thread.....

 

[The Message]

^^^^ Exactly. Only deal with females who have just as much to lose as much as you do. Know who you're dealing with.

 

[ReggieFlare]

Spoiler

Exactly, you will get 10,000 times better quality of attention if you put yourself in a position to be chased rather than doing the chasing. That's why you hear that saying, we don't chase 'em, we replace 'em. Chasing is a form of following, because your actions are wholly determined by the moves the woman is making when you chase her, thus you losing control over your own actions.

If babygirl wants to get ghost, you got to let her and just leave that roster spot open for the next woman. Her actions do not determine yours. You get to chasing that woman and you'll catch the cold shoulder or get manipulated into a place you don't want to be. Women absolutely do not respect men that they have or can easily have, which is why 'nice guys' get tore up by women. They offer themselves up to be had on a platter. It's why you see women who have men paying for their school, letting them drive around in fancy rides, taking them shopping and all of that cheat on them with some negro who hasn't done an iota for them that she met at the club. One negro has been had and the other hasn't and doesn't allow himself to.

Another example are those women who deal with celebrities. These women are nasty as the inside of a garbage can and is 'willing to do anything' for the celeb she hardly knows, but as soon as this celeb brings that woman into his life and starts letting her think she is on equal terms with him, the manipulative behavior begins. Soon she will be denying him sex, talking to his other celebrity pals and cheating on him with them, and a host of other things. Even worse is if you elevate these women and try to make them a star. Look what happened when Joe Buddens put that camera on Tahiry. She peeled off and let that tire smoke hit Joe in the face. Drake has all of these women on him because of his celebrity status, but as soon as he starts really dealing with one, he gets done bad and then gets in a studio and writes a song about it... They love Drake at first because he's this bigger than life celebrity, but then meet him and he does everything to dispel that and gets to treating these women.

Some cats got the misconception that it's money or nice looks that gets the women... but not really. They help, but what really gives you an advantage when dealing with women are certain personality traits, and the ability to avoid being owned or led by women is a huge one.

Spoiler

Some of the realest stories on dealing with women are in the Bible. Samson got a little too laid back and started telling Delilah his secrets because he was entranced by her seduction. Guess what happened? She snitched his weakness out and got him killed. Guess what happens if you, as a man, start laying back and telling your woman your secrets and weaknesses? That's right, sooner or later she's going to slam that right in your face.

Adam and Eve's story is twofold. Firstly, women like the forbidden fruit. And secondly, it shows what happens when you go following up behind women. If Adam would have stood his ground as a man and said, "Look, I'm not going to do that. God told us to leave that alone and there will be repercussions behind not listening," we'd still be in paradise right now. You let a woman lead you and you're headed for self-destruction. You must be the leader as a man. In regards to the forbidden fruit point, it alludes to women wanting what they can't have. Why do you think when you get a woman, all of a sudden these other women start coming out of the woodworks wanting you? You're now that forbidden fruit that she shouldn't be able to have. Why do you think they keep gay guys buzzing around them and are in love with them? Because they can't have them. When it comes down to it, what really keeps a woman interested is not in HAVING what she says she wants, but rather the journey of her attempting to have something she is forbidden to have or can't have. This is why women say they want nice guys, but go for the so called 'bad-boys.' The bad boys don't allow themselves to be controlled or 'had'. THis is why when you first deal with a woman and you're cool and nonchalant, she is on her absolute best behavior with you, but once she 'has' you, whether it be in marriage or some serious commitment and starts getting comfortable, her whole personality can change for the worse. The key is to never be owned, had, controlled or led by women.

Spoiler

This all goes back to that point we've been making earlier. Your exclusivity is to be WON. You don't rush to give it away by accepting any kind of woman that steps to the plate.

You simply have to enjoy being single and you have to be complete before entering a relationship. By enjoying being single, I'm not talking about going around sleeping with as many women as possible, but more along the line that you are able to enjoy life to a high degree without even dealing with a woman. Your hobbies, your job, and all of that are something that really keeps you occupied and challenged. This is so you do not end up looking for completion and fulfillment for some void in your life in a woman, and thus overlook a ton of bad behavior, which will make that void you were trying to fill widen tremendously.

Do NOT accept bad behavior from a woman. If a man feels like he can't live without the presence of a woman, he really needs to work on himself. A man of value will only accept HIGH QUALITY behavior and time with a woman. You cannot control what a woman does, but you can control what behavior you will and won't accept if she is to be in your presence. This is a mind game as much as it is a heart game. If you don't have your mind right, your emotions will have you accepting and making excuses for a lot of these women just because she is fine or because you've gotten addicted to her seduction. Accepting bad behavior is a no-no, and sometimes you will even have to override your emotions to eliminate improper behavior from entering your life.

Spoiler

Exactly, these women are 'equal' and 'grown, independent women'. Let them handle their own financial responsibilities like you said. Just like the recent situation with Malik, most women don't hit you up until they conveniently need a favor. They are gone for months, but a few days before they need something before you they 'pop up' and are extra friendly, buttering you up until the request comes in. Oh hey sweety, how have you been? It's been such a long time. I just wanted to catch up with you... bla bla bla... How have those ladies been treating you? Oh wow, that's a shame, you're any woman's dream. I got a quick question for you. Can you do me a favor?" If a woman asks you for a favor, let's be real, she's most likely highly interested in some other guy and messing with him. I don't know why this is, but just about every situation in which a guy was paying for his girl's school, she was cheating on him... You know the QUICKEST way to get your car wrecked or to have some other negro in it? That's right, loan it to a woman and let her drive it around. And those women you do a favor for? Be assured you won't be able to find her for a long time and she'll be avoiding you for the longest hoping you forget her not paying you back... and if you don't look like the type that would want to be paid back, she'll only hit you up sporadically for more favors. Being the 'favor buddy' of a woman is an absolute no-no. Co-signing for a female is definitely a no-no.

Man this is why this isn't 'common sense'. You would think you do a favor for someone and they appreciate it and would be willing to return the favor. With women, it doesn't work that way. You do a favor for them and they are more likely to return it with the cold shoulder or dismissive or even snake-like behavior.

Let's be real here. A lot of these women are cordial and half-way friendly with a bunch of dudes who they never really seem to be consistent with and then hit them out of the blue when they need something, aka favor buddy. In the meanwhile, they are spending all of that quality time with the men they actually desire. If she was really down to be your friend, she would have spent tons of time with you consistently without asking for favors.

My dude...you have made too much sense in here...

 

[kevm3]

Chad should have been reading this thread.....

Chad is one of those guys who probably thought he 'knew it all' and was a natural and thought he was so fly he doesn't have to abide by the rules of the game. It doesn't matter if you have $1 or $1,000,000-- the rules apply to you all the same.

Let's break down some of the rules he was in violation of
1) Don't make a ho into a housewife
She's got a very active reputation and he KNEW this, but he still decided to wrap her up.

2) Stop believing what a woman says
Supposedly she said it was fine for him to sleep around and she'd accept that. A lot of men believe what these women say until they find she will flip out on the exact thing she said he could do.

3)If you want to be single, be single. If you want to be in a relationship or married, be that.
Keep your life simple and if you want to talk to multiple women, be SINGLE. If you're in a relationship, BE LOYAL. Saves a TON of drama as Chad is now finding out... and it's doubly worse if you're a married man since you will get zinged for all of those assets. You know one guy who you don't really hear about in the news because he knows how to obey this rule? Derek Jeter. This guy wants to live that single lifestyle so that's exactly what he does. When you start lying, leading people on and doing things 'just cuz society/mom/dad/my boys, etc.' want you to and not because that's where your heart is really at, you will get punished.

4) Never think you are too fly for the rules of the game/life
- Guys, especially athletes, get women with little to no effort at all because of the fame and money associated with themselves. They develop this complex that the game no longer applies to them because they are living in a deceptive haze caused by the fame. Bible says, pride comes before a downfall. You start thinking you're too fly and don't have to obey the life rules, you will get punished.

5) Do not be unequally yoked
- She has a LOT more to gain from this than he does. She gets to be on television because she's 'with a baller', and I'm sure he had a lot more money than her when she came into his life. Can you marry a woman that makes a deal less than you? Yes, but everything else on her absolutely must be on point. The fact that she left another dude for losing his money tells you what she's going to do with him when his ship sinks. The yoking concept applies ESPECIALLY to marriage. If you want to be married, you have to be marry-worthy as does she. If either one of you aren't, you're going in separate directions and heading for disaster. The Bible has a lot of wisdom.

From now on Chad will have to walk around tip-toeing because she WILL hold that incident over his head and will jet on this negro, taking half of his assets. He spent his whole life working to obtain that, taking all of these hits on the field, and now he's at risk of giving away more of it than he earned because he didn't wisen up. Alimony and half of those assets she can have NOW... I wouldn't be surprised if she stuck around to pop out a kid or two before she jetted just to get those child support payments. Best believe though she will leave if she gets any sign that the ship is sinking, aka Chad starts losing money. He should have known from watching Antoine Walker what it was going to be. She jetted on him when his finances started getting low.

That negro Kanye is next. Cats be around here talking about "Yeezy won." "Yeezy taught her" and all other sorts of nonsense. She bought that negro a car, but thats an INVESTMENT. What's a car if you can marry a negro worth hundreds of millions and jet a couple of years later and take half? What's a a car if you can eat off the fame of an extremely famous man for free? But yeah, "Yeezy taught her." This the same woman that completely staged a wedding and allowed a sex tape of her to be leaked for attention. Ya'll don't think she can play the sweet and demure role for a little while to get that big paper?

Here's a point a lot of men really need to know
BE AWARE of seduction
- a lot of women will be sweet and play the role of sweetheart and the perfect girl when she's around you to get what she wants. She can make you think she was never like that and people were just saying things just to say them and make you think you came across a diamond in the rough... this is why you ALWAYS need to look into a woman's history and observe her patterns of behavior. How she is with you today or the next few months isn't necessarily how she will be when she's comfortable with you and has those financial hooks in you.

 

[ReggieFlare]

You gotta stay on your toes at all times brehs, women will lull you to sleep by pretending they happy just so they can catch you slippin. You gotta always pay attention to all the little things or else.......

she gonna establish her dominance and you gone be sittin there wonderin how the fukk you got there in the first place, and how you finna get out of it

That GIF really complemented your post

 

[kevm3]

1) YOU need to be in the front and your woman behind you. Both physical and mentally.
One guy I can give props to is Ludacris. He has a fine woman, and if you notice, she's usually BEHIND him in these pictures.. You can tell he's the one in control in that relationship. He's also smart enough not to rush to put her on camera and observe that in just about every pic of them, she is indeed walking BEHIND him. The man needs to be in the FRONT. She quit her school to be with him, not the other way around. He allowed himself to be chased to an extent. Now do I have this misconception that she won't hit him with that whole child support/alimony hustle? Absolutely not. For now though, Luda is handling the situation as he should.

Stop 'upgrading' these women and stop dealing with attention whores and do NOT deal with a woman that does not allow you to lead, aka be in front. Here are some visual cues as to what I'm talking about:

You never hear about her and every time you see her, it's with him. You ever hear about Ladanian Thomlinson's wife? They have low-profile women and they aren't rushing to show them off on national television. At least on the surface they are playing the game right. If a woman isn't willing to let you be in the front, don't deal with her.

Now this is Joe Buddens and Tahiry

This fella is either on the side of her or behind her and is ALWAYS attention whoring, using him as a prop, showing off her booty... and throughout their whole relationship, Buddens empowered that behavior, putting her all on camera. You all know how this one turned out. Let me reiterate: Be in FRONT, be in control, avoid attention whores and do not deal with women that do not allow you to lead.

 

[winb83]

So i got a girls number a couple of weeks ago at my friends bachelor party(we were all destroyed and went out to a pub). I was really attracted to this girl but i haven't called or texted her in the two weeks since i got her number. Have a waited to long? Should i just delete or is it worth a shot?


I was thinking of inviting her out on some friendly shyt when me and my friends get together.

why shouldn't you call? what's the worst that can happen?

 

[winb83]

Chad is one of those guys who probably thought he 'knew it all' and was a natural and thought he was so fly he doesn't have to abide by the rules of the game. It doesn't matter if you have $1 or $1,000,000-- the rules apply to you all the same.

Let's break down some of the rules he was in violation of
1) Don't make a ho into a housewife
She's got a very active reputation and he KNEW this, but he still decided to wrap her up.

2) Stop believing what a woman says
Supposedly she said it was fine for him to sleep around and she'd accept that. A lot of men believe what these women say until they find she will flip out on the exact thing she said he could do.

3)If you want to be single, be single. If you want to be in a relationship or married, be that.
Keep your life simple and if you want to talk to multiple women, be SINGLE. If you're in a relationship, BE LOYAL. Saves a TON of drama as Chad is now finding out... and it's doubly worse if you're a married man since you will get zinged for all of those assets. You know one guy who you don't really hear about in the news because he knows how to obey this rule? Derek Jeter. This guy wants to live that single lifestyle so that's exactly what he does. When you start lying, leading people on and doing things 'just cuz society/mom/dad/my boys, etc.' want you to and not because that's where your heart is really at, you will get punished.

4) Never think you are too fly for the rules of the game/life
- Guys, especially athletes, get women with little to no effort at all because of the fame and money associated with themselves. They develop this complex that the game no longer applies to them because they are living in a deceptive haze caused by the fame. Bible says, pride comes before a downfall. You start thinking you're too fly and don't have to obey the life rules, you will get punished.

5) Do not be unequally yoked
- She has a LOT more to gain from this than he does. She gets to be on television because she's 'with a baller', and I'm sure he had a lot more money than her when she came into his life. Can you marry a woman that makes a deal less than you? Yes, but everything else on her absolutely must be on point. The fact that she left another dude for losing his money tells you what she's going to do with him when his ship sinks. The yoking concept applies ESPECIALLY to marriage. If you want to be married, you have to be marry-worthy as does she. If either one of you aren't, you're going in separate directions and heading for disaster. The Bible has a lot of wisdom.

From now on Chad will have to walk around tip-toeing because she WILL hold that incident over his head and will jet on this negro, taking half of his assets. He spent his whole life working to obtain that, taking all of these hits on the field, and now he's at risk of giving away more of it than he earned because he didn't wisen up. Alimony and half of those assets she can have NOW... I wouldn't be surprised if she stuck around to pop out a kid or two before she jetted just to get those child support payments. Best believe though she will leave if she gets any sign that the ship is sinking, aka Chad starts losing money. He should have known from watching Antoine Walker what it was going to be. She jetted on him when his finances started getting low.

That negro Kanye is next. Cats be around here talking about "Yeezy won." "Yeezy taught her" and all other sorts of nonsense. She bought that negro a car, but thats an INVESTMENT. What's a car if you can marry a negro worth hundreds of millions and jet a couple of years later and take half? What's a a car if you can eat off the fame of an extremely famous man for free? But yeah, "Yeezy taught her." This the same woman that completely staged a wedding and allowed a sex tape of her to be leaked for attention. Ya'll don't think she can play the sweet and demure role for a little while to get that big paper?

Here's a point a lot of men really need to know
BE AWARE of seduction
- a lot of women will be sweet and play the role of sweetheart and the perfect girl when she's around you to get what she wants. She can make you think she was never like that and people were just saying things just to say them and make you think you came across a diamond in the rough... this is why you ALWAYS need to look into a woman's history and observe her patterns of behavior. How she is with you today or the next few months isn't necessarily how she will be when she's comfortable with you and has those financial hooks in you.

Society has created a situation where if a marriage fails one side is punished while the other is almost rewarded. Every deal you make in life should be set up to be win win for both sides. Marriage is win lose for the man and win win for the woman.

this is why I'm anti-marriage because when you go into a deal that's win lose for you but its win win for the other side you're probably gonna get screwed over.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

You cats got to realze this.If you want a woman,wife etc.... Your going to realize she isnt perfect. Yes this is cliche and common sense,but remember COMMON SENSE isnt COMMON. You have to realize,you have to TOLERATE or ACCEPT her. Reason I say TOLERATE is because your woman will test you or get on your nerves,you guys kissed and make up after your argument.Oh she cooks and cleans?Yes thats for now.Wait until she leaves her socks around and it gets on your nerves..Nobody is perfect,so that means there will be one area of weakness you know she has. For example she may be opionated,a shopper.Cats wanna say "wifey" is all that.Guess what,she has flaws and once those flaws come out.You are going to realize what you can handle and what you CANT.In a marriage you must realize people change.She can go from innocent to demonic overnight.I hate to say it but every man needs an opt out clause.Relationship,marriage,it may damage you financially or emotionally,but you can get over it. SOME women arent stable and are confused.You have to realize this.As Kevm3 says always be a step ahead of your woman.If you aint the leader,your relationship-marriage is over.

 

[Rominati]

1) YOU need to be in the front and your woman behind you. Both physical and mentally.
One guy I can give props to is Ludacris. He has a fine woman, and if you notice, she's usually BEHIND him in these pictures.. You can tell he's the one in control in that relationship. He's also smart enough not to rush to put her on camera and observe that in just about every pic of them, she is indeed walking BEHIND him. The man needs to be in the FRONT. She quit her school to be with him, not the other way around. He allowed himself to be chased to an extent. Now do I have this misconception that she won't hit him with that whole child support/alimony hustle? Absolutely not. For now though, Luda is handling the situation as he should.

Stop 'upgrading' these women and stop dealing with attention whores and do NOT deal with a woman that does not allow you to lead, aka be in front. Here are some visual cues as to what I'm talking about:

You never hear about her and every time you see her, it's with him. You ever hear about Ladanian Thomlinson's wife? They have low-profile women and they aren't rushing to show them off on national television. At least on the surface they are playing the game right. If a woman isn't willing to let you be in the front, don't deal with her.

Now this is Joe Buddens and Tahiry

This fella is either on the side of her or behind her and is ALWAYS attention whoring, using him as a prop, showing off her booty... and throughout their whole relationship, Buddens empowered that behavior, putting her all on camera. You all know how this one turned out. Let me reiterate: Be in FRONT, be in control, avoid attention whores and do not deal with women that do not allow you to lead.

A very nice concept & analogy.

 

[MikelArteta]

Hypothesis: Women use their looks to evaluate a man's confidence, or lack of.

If she can de-stabilize a man with her looks alone, he's weak. Show her a man who can tell her to go to hell, especially if she's beautiful, and now she'll have her minimum proof he's "strong". Women's looks are just another test, or rather the first one that determines that fatal "you only need 2 seconds to make a lasting impression".

And when they pass you up guys, that is very telling - they are not really attracted to you. Do not take them back years later because what they claim to now feel for you will not be genuine. You are dull. You are not exciting. What business do you have making their lives more boring by being with them? Give them what they really want. Your non-presence.

 

[MikelArteta]

yea last year i was dealing with this chick that did the same, talked nothing but bad things about her ex....but still sleeps with him whenever

"hea such a a$$hole he cheated on me and treated me bad"

Yet you continued sleeping with him and even pumped out a few kids for him

 

[ThiefyPoo]

Be funny, intelligent, kind also make sure cash right and everything else will fall into place