Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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First of all, I'm thankful for everyone on here and the support that they can provide. As for my current situation, where to begin; i sat down to send an email from our house laptop (my work computer was packed up) on Xmas eve and noticed that my wife's email was open. I saw a sent email that had some racey pics and one thing led to another and I found her secret email account. In that account I discovered that she has been having an affair for over 2.5 years. To a lesser extent I also found out of multiple online romances that may or may not have been physical as well. The emails included pics and a video, makes me sick thinking about it. My wife came clean right away and immediately laid the blame at my feet because I didn't treat her the way she deserves to be treated. We have 2 DD (getting the abbreviations down) that factor into the equations. Also, the day I found out I sent the evidence to the spouse of my wife's adulters, who wouldn't initially Believe it. The husband finally confessed so they are on their own course now...there are so many details that I didn't includefor the sake of length...where do I go? I took my kids and went to my parents house on Xmas day and haven't been back. I'm the bread winner in the family (she works) but getting a divorce will tear our lives apart. I bought a house about a year into her affair. So it looks like I stadn to lose my kids 50% of the time as well as my house and child support. I'm so lost and confused.






 
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I'm wondering when this shyt gets better man. I'm starting to think chillin with this new girl isn't the right thing for me right now (probably not fair to her either). I still can't believe my girl would do that to me. I've been feeling sick to my stomach and everything. Every time someone asks me if I'm doin okay I just feel like sitting in a corner and crying. I guess I'm weak. Trying to take my mind off things but it hasn't worked yet. I haven't spoken to her since though and like I said I don't plan on it.
 

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I'm wondering when this shyt gets better man. I'm starting to think chillin with this new girl isn't the right thing for me right now (probably not fair to her either). I still can't believe my girl would do that to me. I've been feeling sick to my stomach and everything. Every time someone asks me if I'm doin okay I just feel like sitting in a corner and crying. I guess I'm weak. Trying to take my mind off things but it hasn't worked yet. I haven't spoken to her since though and like I said I don't plan on it.

in time breh in time.

I dunno why are you with this new chick? just toss her to the bushes, look you do not need a woman or girlfriend to "validate" your manliness to anyone. There is nothing wrong with being single mourning getting over it, building yourself back up and then you'll be ready to date.

Don't put anything past anyone, I never thought my exz fiance could stab me in the back with lies, or my last ex cheat on me.

The feeling sick to your stomach, no appetite, feeling like crap its natural everyone feels that after being betrayed we are all human.

Time and what you do with th ttime will heal in due time, I've been there constantly thinking, thinking about her it fades trust me it does

watch swingers, watch forgetting sarah marshall :blessed:
 

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I'm wondering when this shyt gets better man. I'm starting to think chillin with this new girl isn't the right thing for me right now (probably not fair to her either). I still can't believe my girl would do that to me. I've been feeling sick to my stomach and everything. Every time someone asks me if I'm doin okay I just feel like sitting in a corner and crying. I guess I'm weak. Trying to take my mind off things but it hasn't worked yet. I haven't spoken to her since though and like I said I don't plan on it.

Hey brother we in the same boat. It's been since July since my ex split from me. I've been on a few dates but always in the back of my mind she creeps into it. And now she has a new bf and it stings. But like the brothers say on here don't feel sorry for yourself. Just take it one day at a time. Get into some positive activities and channel your hurt into constructive things. I produce music and rap and do a radio show. And I started going to the gym. I reconnected with friends who I didn't see much while doing all I can for this ungrateful woman. I also started reading books again attaining knowledge (I'm into astromy and studying the planets and stars) and just stay positive. Plenty of women out here. Trust me. I'm a fat nikka and my phone hasn't been stopped ringing since I've been single. Some of my female friends were happy she left and they hated her. And then they gave up the snatch. Life is beautiful brother. Let's enjoy it.
 

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Hey brother we in the same boat. It's been since July since my ex split from me. I've been on a few dates but always in the back of my mind she creeps into it. And now she has a new bf and it stings. But like the brothers say on here don't feel sorry for yourself. Just take it one day at a time. Get into some positive activities and channel your hurt into constructive things. I produce music and rap and do a radio show. And I started going to the gym. I reconnected with friends who I didn't see much while doing all I can for this ungrateful woman. I also started reading books again attaining knowledge (I'm into astromy and studying the planets and stars) and just stay positive. Plenty of women out here. Trust me. I'm a fat nikka and my phone hasn't been stopped ringing since I've been single. Some of my female friends were happy she left and they hated her. And then they gave up the snatch. Life is beautiful brother. Let's enjoy it.


trust me brehs even though it looks like darkness now there will be light, I never thought it was possible getting over my ex fiance then especially my last ex and I did and they both screwed me over in ways unimaginable.

Take the time work on yourself, just have to keep reminding yourself you are worhth more than some discarded coffee cup

although its cliche more than liekly one day you will meet a better women that you just click with and you'll back and be like damn what was I thinking.

I only think about my exes when I force myself to, and its no punch to the gut or tears or angrer anymore its just :ehh:
 
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