This thread is contrary to a lot of the advice men are likely to receive, which is what I like about it. Most of us have been reared with the mentality that we need to pander to women, to give in to what they want, etc. We've seen it all throughout television and have had countless simp advisors tell us the same. "Well you need to compromise. You need to put that woman first. You need to man up, etc. Vagina runs the world." All pathetic sayings. The average woman isn't changing for us, so why are we changing for them?
The Bible tells us 'a double-minded man is unstable in all his ways.' The reason so many men are confused is that they are following after women, who are even more confused than themselves. The Bible also tells us the man is to be the head of the family and to let no woman have authority over him. Is it any wonder that men are constantly questioning themselves when they've been told to do everything to cater to and appease women? They've lost themselves and have no sense of direction and are essentially the blind following after the blind.
It's liberating simply having the attitude of I don't really care if she leaves or stays. I'm going to be who I am regardless. When you try to cater to women and think that your actions have some bearing on whether she is going to be loyal or not, it almost feels like you are working another job. You always watch what you say for how she's going to respond. You wonder if you're demonstrating enough distance or whether you're caring enough. Basically, you worry about 20,000 inconsequential things and you might even go so far as to change your character and morph into a pseudo 'bad boy' to entertain her, which is pathetic.
That's why I couldn't get into PUA. Their whole essence is morphing into the man that can sneak into a woman's vagina. Their whole concept of 'alpha' revolves around morphing into some guy that can 'rack up notches'... They even will analyze 'text game' and look for strategies on texting women to maximize interest. Honestly, what in the world is any woman bringing to the table for all of that effort? We've said that same thing over and over, but really, think about it. Dudes are catering their every action to what they imagine turns a woman so that they can potentially get a bit of extra vagina. How weak are those principles?
Interestingly enough, something I found in life is if you stop living life trying to impress others, others will actually try to impress you. They will wonder why you seem so rock solid. Imagine working at a company where the boss constantly tried to impress his employees. You would think the boss was weak. A strong company had a mission to complete before any particular employee arrived and will have one even if some particular employee leaves. That's how a man should be with a woman. His mission ISN'T the woman, but he allows a woman to enter into his midst if she will help him complete his mission, and if she decides to leave, no big deal because the show will go on and there will be another woman who can play a part if the current one leaves or isn't working out. In other words, your mission isn't to morph into an object of lust for the ladies, but it's to be the man God wants you to be and to allow the right woman to come along and participate. That means you have principles that are stronger than any woman that you will not compromise even if they meant her leaving.
It's sad that so many young men had to waste so much time listening to utterly atrocious, simped-out advice on women growing up. It takes a while to deprogram yourself from woman pleasing mode and wondering whether your every action is pleasing to her or not or whether it will procure her loyalty. Complete waste of time. As a man, WE'RE the heads. We should be the one leading and women should be the ones trying to figure out how to please us and get OUR attention, but the average American male is so thirsty, women don't have to put in any effort. There was actually a time when women had to learn to be seductive and sweet. Now, not so much because men have so low standards they accept anything.
. Now I can initially pull a chick, my approach game is nice but everything after that just seems to fall apart. Around females im not interested in im actually pretty decent, hella bad chicks cool being 'friends' but im not sure how to tweak that into being a boyfriend.
a chick will be hot for you one week, and cold the next..shyt is annoying to the highest degree. #HOH in the new year, focusing on this career and savings. I don't want a main chick at all at this point. Just going to do me.
