Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

how many times have you heard of situations where some woman is getting beat on but keeps going back to the guy that is putting them hands on her? Then you might have Mr. Nice Guy flying through the air with that S on his chest trying to save the day... either trying to fight the other guy or by trying to 'put baby up on game. And 9.98 times out of 10, the fella that came out the gates trying to save the woman is either in prison or worse and even if he did 'end up' with the girl, he'll find she was cheating on him with the ex that was beating her down.

Let's also be real too. Men shouldn't hit women, but then again most men don't just haul off on females for no reason. She's doing something to make him react, meaning if you get with her you will have to deal with that same behavior. Funny as it sounds, some women subconsciously seek to get beat up by their man and if you don't put your hands on them they will leave you because they feel as if you don't care.

Let me be clear here. Women do NOT appreciate negroes that come to save them. How many cats paid off a woman's rent, paid for the girl's school, was there for her while she went through all of her trials and tribulations and gave her a host of other benefits and she still cheated or left him? And as the fella posted, after all them hands she received, she still loved the guy beating her up. What's an even more interesting situation is sometimes you have a couple fighting and then some guy runs to step in and then the couple turns on Mr. I gotta save her, INCLUDING the woman he was trying to rescue.

NEVER deal with a woman that's still in love with another man off top, and if he's beating her and she still comes around, that's a whole lot of drama you will avoid by leaving her alone.

This is true

My godson is nearly 3, her baby dad hit her, gave her an std, cheated on her numerous times, I've heard it all how she hates him
Etc. then a week later I go pick up y godson and dude is opening the door at like 7 in the morning.



I even have shared my story how I dated a chick who got out of abusive relationship even had to live in a homeless shelter, had a restraining order against dude, dude hit her numerous time put a gun to her dome etx

Cheated on me

 

[MikelArteta]

Are you seriously gonna go out and pick some messed up woman and go after that? why aren't there plenty of single women that aren't in love with other men to go after.

take it from a man that's dealt with his share of messed up women sometimes you gotta step back and ask three questions:

why am I doing this?
are there better options available?
is this even worth it?

A lot of men I was once one of them have that white knight syndrome let me rebuild this girl show her not all men are bad out there

Don't do it

Put yourself first you don't need the stress you dot need to be her therapist.

 

[winb83]

A lot of men I was once one of them have that white knight syndrome let me rebuild this girl show her not all men are bad out there

Don't do it

Put yourself first you don't need the stress you dot need to be her therapist.

The thing I've learned in life is people are comfortable right where they are. They might not be where they wanna be but they're comfortable. When they no longer are they'll do whatever it takes to change their position.

now if you step in and offer to help them they'll take free help but even still that deep down desire to change is not there. They're just gonna drag you down to their level and nothing positive will come of it.

this is why you can't fix people. When they wanna be fixed they'll do it themselves and when you try to do it for them they'll stay the same and drag you down to their level.

 

[Ohene]

Sorry for the long story in advance.


My friend is an idiot. I am questioning our friendship because this is a mark on his character.

So bascially back whenm I was pulling factory workshifts my bro and I knew this nikka Roger. Anyways we left the factory as he works in Customer service for a big department store/ furniture retailer. Lets say IKEA but it isnt and I work for a financial services company. @ Ikea my friend works there too and theres some next chick who does that is a 7 on her BEST day. HER BEST. Crooked teeth. Bad weave selection the one time i saw her. Long nails. And no fitness.

So as they all working it comes to light that the chick is one of Rogers girlfriends (she thinks its an exclusive thing but nonetheless). Now last year there was a time we went to the beach and we saw Roger and I introduced em before we even knew this chick. While we were with him for a moment we saw this dude chasing mad tail. Hes the kinda who dgaf he will try to bag anything that interests him.

So fast forward later...He tells me about the chick and how her bf is named Roger and my bro already told me this recently so I was like "oh Roger? Yea you already met that nikka. Remember that dude at Woodbine Beach who was bagging bytches? Yea him" He's like, " Man they were dealing at the time. This nikka flakin on this bytch"

Me and my bro: Yea? Dont say anything () and he agrees

All this was going well. But he kept pulling some simp shyt listening to this girls relationship issues with the nikka and all this. I told him to stop listening because girls dont ask for advice they look for validation and will never listen to what you say unless it coincides with their beliefs. I told him to tell her to shut the fukk up and then leave the nikka if thats the case. Multiple times. But i dont know what he be texting and talking to the bytch about anyway. He his own man. So this chick and Roger get to a strife and she starts questioning him blah blah...you know. And yesterday my bro tells me that the other day she tells Roger that my friend knows something (she thinks) and she bets he's hiding it. Roger ssays "man if you think thats the case...then go and ask the nikka. Tell him were broken up and hell probably spill the beans then if there are any to spill."

(Now caribana weekend, a week ago again we saw this dude and we both hailed em up.)

Tell me how the chick follows dude instructions and my dude spills the beans. As soon as she says they broke up he Talking about "man its a good thing you broke up, that guy was doing you dirty, you deserve better blah blah blah"

and you was just hailing the man last week what kinda snake shyt is that? For this bytch who aint even no model chick ? This nikka straight bytchmade for this man. I'm ashamed to be associated with him.

And the kicker: The bytch and Roger are STILL cool. What the fukk did this nikka think was gonna happen? That he could swoop in and save her? Abomination.

 

[Captain Crunch]

Dude broke the bro code

 

[Ohene]

A lot of men I was once one of them have that white knight syndrome let me rebuild this girl show her not all men are bad out there

Don't do it

Put yourself first you don't need the stress you dot need to be her therapist.

i didnt even read this before i dropped my story. figures

 

[Ohene]

Dude broke the bro code

thank you for reading.

i know right

idgaf anymore man. I dont think I can associate with him
there were other reasons and this may ice it.
Sounds immature on my part but

ive tried to teach him but he still be doing this foul shyt. my nikka from elementary too.

 

[Dr.seuss Swag]

Are you seriously gonna go out and pick some messed up woman and go after that? why aren't there plenty of single women that aren't in love with other men to go after.

take it from a man that's dealt with his share of messed up women sometimes you gotta step back and ask three questions:

why am I doing this?
are there better options available?
is this even worth it?

No...just curious

 

[Nintendough]

Are you seriously gonna go out and pick some messed up woman and go after that? why aren't there plenty of single women that aren't in love with other men to go after.

take it from a man that's dealt with his share of messed up women sometimes you gotta step back and ask three questions:

why am I doing this?
are there better options available?
is this even worth it?

Exactly, cleaning up another mans mess is too much of a hassle. These dudes need to focus on being a good man instead of trying to be a super hero.

 

[Nintendough]

@ the Nudie story. Simps like to wait in the shadows for the chance to make a move.

 

[Ohene]

@ the Nudie story. Simps like to wait in the shadows for the chance to make a move.

Yea man. Stay away from that.

I mayve told this story but there was one chick at school. Fine as a motherfukka . Body is great, beautiful mouth. That nice choco complexion. Nice all black straight weave etc etc. Shes a 9/10.

Last year we was working on a project with some other people including her best friend at school a chick i mentioned earlier who is a Junior CA Associate at PwC that has a kid.If she aint had a youte I'd be on it probably. Shes mad sexy. Polish chick. Sloppy sometimes when shes real comfortable around you though . The friend was flirtatious with the god. They all are when the come in close contact me and me and the black chick have a sliiiiiiight history. We went on one date (my first date ever with a chick). Were talking and then it just fizzled i guess. Anyways, the friend and I would flirt and the black chick caught mad feelings.

The kicker....this girl has a boyfriend and has been with dude for 2 years. The flirting made her so uncomfy to the point where she addressed the friend and I saying it makes her uncomfy and even said that if we were to hookup just please let her know first. Ultimate cockblock. Wasnt even that serious (at least on my end ). She also continued when talking to me saying how one day she wants to be with me exclusively (am I 2nd string? fukk yourself) and what not but just needs some time to break up with her bf and be single etc. This was all about a year ago. 9 months i'd say mind you. There were times shed ask for advice on her shyt and I didnt give a fukk so Id state my piece and then leave it. More times I would endorse the dude in the process cause I refuse to badmouth a nikka I dont know and ruin his relationship. I havent heard his side and wouldnt want that done to me.

(Sidenote: There was once a time where I was mourning a break up the summer earlier and I would do this thing where if texting her I wouldnt mention her name. I'd just refer to her has "her" or "she". The chick told me to stop being waste basicalyl and just get over the chick. Like its that simple. . Lesson, girls want you to talk to them about their issues but never yours because if you have issues youre a p*ssy.)

Long story short. She'd never take my advice and would come back with the same issues so after a while I told her to leave me alone with that. I'd just act very apathetic towards her shyt and not offer insight. Came to the point where she began calling me a bad friend and all this shyt and I kept that in the arsenal. She is still with her boyfriend too. She still talks to me but I treat her like every other bytch because thats exactly what she is. I'm so snide to her i dont know why she even still texts me. Her number aint even saved on my pphone...i guess shes hoping I can be that backup but hell nah.

Only reason I dropped this story was because the girl just messaged me saying how her bf is pissing her off and not cooperating with her on her birthday and its annoying. My response:

"Nooooooooooo commmmmmment" Quote...unquote.

 

[Nintendough]

The kicker....this girl has a boyfriend and has been with dude for 2 years. The flirting made her so uncomfy to the point where she addressed the friend and I saying it makes her uncomfy and even said that if we were to hookup just please let her know first.

If you try to be friends with a lady some of them actually have the audacity to want you to be a semi-boyfriend to them.

 

[Ohene]

seriously. you have a nikka and now you tryna block me from increasing my body count. fukk is wrong with these hoes ?

bytch even knew I was recently dumped by my ex who i loved so dearly and couldnt even allow me to use this next chick as a reup. And the friend had a bf./bd who put her through nufffff shyt. Nevermind me but she cant even let her girl have a respectable dude in her life. Not that I was tryna even get with her like that, but you see what I''m saying?

I knew from then these girls are cobras. Unfathomable.

 

[MikelArteta]

Friends who are females want you to be single because they know of you are to get on a relationship or deal with a female etc that most likely she will be cut, or that girl won't like her etc.

 

[Turbulent]

i think i already touched on this but i'll go in more details.

once a chick has put you in a certain category or cast you in a certain role, it's a wrap. if you don't like that role you're fukked. the reason is that if you've already set a precedent and established an identity, and then all of a sudden you act out of character, then she'll perceive you as a fake and inconsistent. now if the girl is a random bird then it no biggie of course. i'm talking more about a quality chick that you actually want in your life.

there is however one way to get out of that role. the way is to cut her off and then if you cross paths with her again, you have a new opportunity to establish a new "identity". the reason is, after a while, she will figure that you lived life and the person you were is "dead". it's like she's meeting you for the first time eventhough you guys "know" eachother. how much time? it really depends. there is no set time. it all depends on her perception of time. but in the meantime, focus on building yourself, meeting new people, move on from her, etc. cause it would be a shame if you try that shyt and cut her off for a year and then when you meet her again by chance, she still puts you in the simp category.

work on yourself (physically, health wise, financially, mentally, intellectually, spiritually) establish a code, live and die by said code, and let the chips fall where they may.