Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[TRUEST]

So i use to talk to this girl back in sept till about october. Shorty would call me every night and me and her would chat (mostly her fingering herself).

we stopped talkin in november and she hits me up today on bbm and I'm like we haven't spoken in 3 months...and in that time, you never hit me up. Why the change all of a sudden?

she goes i was away on vacation for a few weeks and i'm like

i was short and cold, and she was like you don't wanna talk to me woww

told her i ain't a dikkhead, we was cool before, but things change and life goes on...now she like i'm terribly sorry, i didn't mean it like that...i wanna start from scratch yada yada.

for the record, i never smashed this girl. She lives 3 hours away by plane and i ain't even emotionally invested in her. I just used to talk to her for the sake of talking and shyt.

good play my dude.
be careful about those long distance relationships though. however light the relationship maybe, they tend to have the tendency to contribute to wasting time. this is something i've learned to come to grips with. if u intend to have a real relationship, keep the distance between u and her to under 30 minutes drive if u can. this can be debated, but trust me on this.

if ur just out to have fun, then, do u. but those seeking relationships, long distance aint the deal.

 

[kevm3]

good play my dude.
be careful about those long distance relationships though. however light the relationship maybe, they tend to have the tendency to contribute to wasting time. this is something i've learned to come to grips with. if u intend to have a real relationship, keep the distance between u and her to under 30 minutes drive if u can. this can be debated, but trust me on this.

if ur just out to have fun, then, do u. but those seeking relationships, long distance aint the deal.

Yeah, it's hard enough to find a woman loyal when you're right there in her face. When she got all that distance, there's no telling what she's doing. For the most part, my experiences tell me that most women end up doing what they feel when they feel they won't get caught, and what they feel usually isn't being loyal.

 

[Dreamzeedream]

You ever had a woman just switch up??even if yall wasn't that serious ir just "friends"

 

[Ohene]

You ever had a woman just switch up??even if yall wasn't that serious ir just "friends"

Everybody has. It's in their nature

 

[MikelArteta]

Yup but eh, I used to have close female friends but once they married or entered relationships or had children we drifted

Which is life

Most people are seasonal anyways imo

You ever had a woman just switch up??even if yall wasn't that serious ir just "friends"

 

[kevm3]

Honestly, I can respect a 'female friend' that cuts me off when she gets a man. Just shows she's showing him enough respect not to be chilling with dudes on the side.\

 

[RealAssanova]

good play my dude.
be careful about those long distance relationships though. however light the relationship maybe, they tend to have the tendency to contribute to wasting time. this is something i've learned to come to grips with. if u intend to have a real relationship, keep the distance between u and her to under 30 minutes drive if u can. this can be debated, but trust me on this.

if ur just out to have fun, then, do u. but those seeking relationships, long distance aint the deal.

lol i got no plans to get into any relationships fam. Shorty was just a time waster that i used to talk to almost every night for the sake of just talking.

i never once took her serious

she did say she was tryna fly outchea for dis dikk but i kno girls and their unsubstantiated claims

i was just posting the message above to once again prove something all of us already know and say time and time again...women are really stupid.

 

[MikelArteta]

Yup

Honestly, I can respect a 'female friend' that cuts me off when she gets a man. Just shows she's showing him enough respect not to be chilling with dudes on the side.\

 

[12345677]

Aye bruhs, lemme get y'alls take on a situation I got going on.

Had a Tinder date with a chick last week. It was okay, but she was wasn't really my type at all and I had no plans of ever seeing her again. She originally was saying she just wanted to be friends blah blah blah before we met, jokingly calling me her best friend, but me being the cocky nikka I am and knowing what I'm capable of I figured I could still smash even though she said that. During the date she was giving off the 'just friends' vibe, so I mentally hit her with the mid date, even though she was pretty sexy.

During the week after the date she would text me, and I was short...barely caring, and ignoring her most of the time if I was doing something. She texts me on Friday and somehow she ended up inviting me to her apartment. "Just to hang out" She said...nothing sexual. I wasn't doing anything that night so figured this is the last time I'm going to try to hook up with her. If this fails.....bushes.

I get there Friday and it's like she's a different girl. Funny, smart, just really enjoyably to kick it with. One thing led to another and I ended up getting her naked in bed after giving her a massage. I try to kiss her at first and she's like "no....best friends aren't allowed to kiss me"...but then a few minutes later she lets me kiss her. She did this with everything, she'd say no when I tried to take her bra off...then she took it off. She said no, when I started felling on her booty, then she let me feel on her booty. I try to finger her and she's bucks me off so I didn't try again after that. She was telling me earlier in the night how she tells dudes she just wants to be friends and not hook up on Tinder and they don't think she's serious, and she ends up throwing em in the bushes. I'm thinking to myself "you said you just wanted to be friends with me and I got you naked grindin your ass on my dikk" So I'm not sure what to believe. What do y'all think this chick's motives are?

Update
So I hit homegirl up on Monday saying wassup, how was the rest of her weekend, let's chill this weekend, normal bullshyt. She says some shyt about how she went to a club and there were a lot of dudes there she'd hook up with...I'm like shyt just confirms what y'all were saying about shawty playing mind games...so in my mind I'm just like ok hoe and deaded the convo. Hit her up again today to plan my weekend ( AKA see if I can get in them guts) and she acts all difficult and different...even though we've already done what we did. Talking bout how she didn't wanna go to this shyt I know is happening this weekend and if I wanna go I should just get another girl off of Tinder to go with. I'm like and hit her with "I got girls to go with, I invited you but ok" Then she's like "if you think something has changed between us last weekend, it hasn't," so I'm like "reeeeealy?!" in my mind. Shawty is regretting getting seduced by ya boi even after she tried to establish a friendzone and I slickly maneuvered around it. I was like, this is what this is about? Man I could give a fukk about that I actually enjoyed hanging with you as a friend (and in all honesty we actually did have a lot of fun before shyt got sexual). She's like "yeah, because friends feel on other friend's boobs" :dahellterminator:. Shawty took her shirt off and let me....along with grindin on my dikk. I didn't even mention how she initiated the whole shyt...because you know how some chicks are...logic doesn't work for em.

What y'all were saying about that regret shyt is true....chicks get caught up in the moment, and then afterwards they try to move their responsibilities of starting something sexual onto someone else when they realized they broke down and gave into their desires.

After that I hit her with "ok, if it's like that...feel free to erase my number and don't hit me up again." She was like "hahahahaha you're so angry"...I'm like "not angry...I just don't deal with stupid shyt".. She triple texts "hahahaha" "ok" "chill" on some shyt when I talked about dropping her off of the roster. She's European...and if you think American dudes have a simp culture, the Europeans take it to another level. Dudes probably play these games with her, because she's attractive, chase hard, do whatever she wants, end up getting played. I'm a bit more savy 2 the game so I'm stopping that shyt now. Deaded it, didn't respond...planned some shyt with my boys on Friday and some shyt with another group, including a chick who's been trying to get at me for a minute, on Saturday. No longer pursuing shawty....throwing her in the oven...and if/when she's ready she has to initiate shyt. Not dealing with these games.

 

[reserved_one]

It turned out the chick my homegirl tried to hook me up with last night was actually cool as fukk...we share alot in common

She already spoiling me....she cooked for me, offered to pay my phone bill, wants to give me money and hook me up with a job .

I didn't even ask her to do any of that lol She ain't a dime but she looks good...Black and Indian....has all natural hair, big t*ts

She a real simp tho.....The chick is already feeling me and I didn't even hit yet



The problem is that I think she's trying to go 0-100 real quick of having a relationship with me. Its not that I don't want one....I'm just ain't the type to fall for a chick that quick. In the past, chicks I was talking to that wanted to get with me thought I was always playing hard to get which I wasn't. I just ain't trying to come off simpish, all lovey dovey and shyt.....especially with chicks I barely know.

 

[kevm3]

It turned out the chick my homegirl tried to hook me up with last night was actually cool as fukk...we share alot in common

She already spoiling me....she cooked for me, offered to pay my phone bill, wants to give me money and hook me up with a job .

I didn't even ask her to do any of that lol She ain't a dime but she looks good...Black and Indian....has all natural hair, big t*ts

She a real simp tho.....The chick is already feeling me and I didn't even hit yet



The problem is that I think she's trying to go 0-100 real quick of having a relationship with me. Its not that I don't want one....I'm just ain't the type to fall for a chick that quick. In the past, chicks I was talking to that wanted to get with me thought I was always playing hard to get which I wasn't. I just ain't trying to come off simpish, all lovey dovey and shyt.....especially with chicks I barely know.

Sounds like a super clinger... like one of those mamis that always need to be in relationships. I usually look at all kindsd of gifts and stuff as a down payment

 

[Mr210]

any plans for Vday

 

[MikelArteta]

From the book of reinscarf
If you have to write paragraphs about a girl you ain't even dating nor have slept with

Bushes

I'm glad you walked away

Update
So I hit homegirl up on Monday saying wassup, how was the rest of her weekend, let's chill this weekend, normal bullshyt. She says some shyt about how she went to a club and there were a lot of dudes there she'd hook up with...I'm like shyt just confirms what y'all were saying about shawty playing mind games...so in my mind I'm just like ok hoe and deaded the convo. Hit her up again today to plan my weekend ( AKA see if I can get in them guts) and she acts all difficult and different...even though we've already done what we did. Talking bout how she didn't wanna go to this shyt I know is happening this weekend and if I wanna go I should just get another girl off of Tinder to go with. I'm like and hit her with "I got girls to go with, I invited you but ok" Then she's like "if you think something has changed between us last weekend, it hasn't," so I'm like "reeeeealy?!" in my mind. Shawty is regretting getting seduced by ya boi even after she tried to establish a friendzone and I slickly maneuvered around it. I was like, this is what this is about? Man I could give a fukk about that I actually enjoyed hanging with you as a friend (and in all honesty we actually did have a lot of fun before shyt got sexual). She's like "yeah, because friends feel on other friend's boobs" :dahellterminator:. Shawty took her shirt off and let me....along with grindin on my dikk. I didn't even mention how she initiated the whole shyt...because you know how some chicks are...logic doesn't work for em.

What y'all were saying about that regret shyt is true....chicks get caught up in the moment, and then afterwards they try to move their responsibilities of starting something sexual onto someone else when they realized they broke down and gave into their desires.

After that I hit her with "ok, if it's like that...feel free to erase my number and don't hit me up again." She was like "hahahahaha you're so angry"...I'm like "not angry...I just don't deal with stupid shyt".. She triple texts "hahahaha" "ok" "chill" on some shyt when I talked about dropping her off of the roster. She's European...and if you think American dudes have a simp culture, the Europeans take it to another level. Dudes probably play these games with her, because she's attractive, chase hard, do whatever she wants, end up getting played. I'm a bit more savy 2 the game so I'm stopping that shyt now. Deaded it, didn't respond...planned some shyt with my boys on Friday and some shyt with another group, including a chick who's been trying to get at me for a minute, on Saturday. No longer pursuing shawty....throwing her in the oven...and if/when she's ready she has to initiate shyt. Not dealing with these games.

 

[MikelArteta]

From the book of reinscarf
If you have to write paragraphs about a girl you ain't even dating nor have slept with

Bushes

I'm glad you walked away

Update
So I hit homegirl up on Monday saying wassup, how was the rest of her weekend, let's chill this weekend, normal bullshyt. She says some shyt about how she went to a club and there were a lot of dudes there she'd hook up with...I'm like shyt just confirms what y'all were saying about shawty playing mind games...so in my mind I'm just like ok hoe and deaded the convo. Hit her up again today to plan my weekend ( AKA see if I can get in them guts) and she acts all difficult and different...even though we've already done what we did. Talking bout how she didn't wanna go to this shyt I know is happening this weekend and if I wanna go I should just get another girl off of Tinder to go with. I'm like and hit her with "I got girls to go with, I invited you but ok" Then she's like "if you think something has changed between us last weekend, it hasn't," so I'm like "reeeeealy?!" in my mind. Shawty is regretting getting seduced by ya boi even after she tried to establish a friendzone and I slickly maneuvered around it. I was like, this is what this is about? Man I could give a fukk about that I actually enjoyed hanging with you as a friend (and in all honesty we actually did have a lot of fun before shyt got sexual). She's like "yeah, because friends feel on other friend's boobs" :dahellterminator:. Shawty took her shirt off and let me....along with grindin on my dikk. I didn't even mention how she initiated the whole shyt...because you know how some chicks are...logic doesn't work for em.

What y'all were saying about that regret shyt is true....chicks get caught up in the moment, and then afterwards they try to move their responsibilities of starting something sexual onto someone else when they realized they broke down and gave into their desires.

After that I hit her with "ok, if it's like that...feel free to erase my number and don't hit me up again." She was like "hahahahaha you're so angry"...I'm like "not angry...I just don't deal with stupid shyt".. She triple texts "hahahaha" "ok" "chill" on some shyt when I talked about dropping her off of the roster. She's European...and if you think American dudes have a simp culture, the Europeans take it to another level. Dudes probably play these games with her, because she's attractive, chase hard, do whatever she wants, end up getting played. I'm a bit more savy 2 the game so I'm stopping that shyt now. Deaded it, didn't respond...planned some shyt with my boys on Friday and some shyt with another group, including a chick who's been trying to get at me for a minute, on Saturday. No longer pursuing shawty....throwing her in the oven...and if/when she's ready she has to initiate shyt. Not dealing with these games.

 

[TRUEST]

Update
So I hit homegirl up on Monday saying wassup, how was the rest of her weekend, let's chill this weekend, normal bullshyt. She says some shyt about how she went to a club and there were a lot of dudes there she'd hook up with...I'm like shyt just confirms what y'all were saying about shawty playing mind games...so in my mind I'm just like ok hoe and deaded the convo. Hit her up again today to plan my weekend ( AKA see if I can get in them guts) and she acts all difficult and different...even though we've already done what we did. Talking bout how she didn't wanna go to this shyt I know is happening this weekend and if I wanna go I should just get another girl off of Tinder to go with. I'm like and hit her with "I got girls to go with, I invited you but ok" Then she's like "if you think something has changed between us last weekend, it hasn't," so I'm like "reeeeealy?!" in my mind. Shawty is regretting getting seduced by ya boi even after she tried to establish a friendzone and I slickly maneuvered around it. I was like, this is what this is about? Man I could give a fukk about that I actually enjoyed hanging with you as a friend (and in all honesty we actually did have a lot of fun before shyt got sexual). She's like "yeah, because friends feel on other friend's boobs" :dahellterminator:. Shawty took her shirt off and let me....along with grindin on my dikk. I didn't even mention how she initiated the whole shyt...because you know how some chicks are...logic doesn't work for em.

What y'all were saying about that regret shyt is true....chicks get caught up in the moment, and then afterwards they try to move their responsibilities of starting something sexual onto someone else when they realized they broke down and gave into their desires.

After that I hit her with "ok, if it's like that...feel free to erase my number and don't hit me up again." She was like "hahahahaha you're so angry"...I'm like "not angry...I just don't deal with stupid shyt".. She triple texts "hahahaha" "ok" "chill" on some shyt when I talked about dropping her off of the roster. She's European...and if you think American dudes have a simp culture, the Europeans take it to another level. Dudes probably play these games with her, because she's attractive, chase hard, do whatever she wants, end up getting played. I'm a bit more savy 2 the game so I'm stopping that shyt now. Deaded it, didn't respond...planned some shyt with my boys on Friday and some shyt with another group, including a chick who's been trying to get at me for a minute, on Saturday. No longer pursuing shawty....throwing her in the oven...and if/when she's ready she has to initiate shyt. Not dealing with these games.

u did the right thing by deading it. based on this post, i already know u kinda like this girl. if u really want to one-up these chicks and always get what you want from them, u goto know how to analyze what they say and do. see, if i say something to a chick and she responds in a short manner (few words). i'll give her a second chance. and if her response this second time is also short, i revert immediately to silence.

a text like this "ok, if it's like that...feel free to erase my number and don't hit me up again." is bad on soooooo many levels. way too much talking. considering u like this chick, u just made it harder for her to hit u up again. a simple "cool" woulda sufficed.

stop trying to reason with chicks through text. it gives off the impression you're trying too hard. when u start typing a text and u start seeing ur text wrapping around to the next line, thats when u know u are beginning to go overboard. if you must write a long sentence, it should be after she's already sent u a lengthy text. and whatever text u respond with must be shorter than hers.

if u insist on getting ur point across, texting aint the way to do it. and dont call her either to argue. if she does, sure, pick up.