I have to hand you,
@kevm3 and the other brehs in here. When I was feeling all shytty about my relationships not going the way I hoped, I came in here and saw everything you guys spoke about and have been putting it into practice ever since.
I see you've got a new job prospect as well, good luck
Man being a christian and just looking back at my life I see things differently.
I fully believe things happen for a reason, even at the hardest moments in my life I learned lessons to be content with the little, or reconnecting with my passions or even just plain old forgiveness.
I used to be afraid to let go. I was blinded by jealousy at the thought of chicks with another man
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I was scared to think I would never find someone as beautiful or successful as these brehettes again
And I masked my insecurities and convinced myself that I was fighting for love, or that we were meant to be together, when in reality I was just fearful to do it all again and face life on my own. No one said it's easy, accepting it's over and moving on is difficult, especially since no one knows what the future holds in store for them. However I firmly believe that holding on to someone who you are not compatible with just leads to emotional scarring, drama and you waste precious time and delaying what God has in store next.
So now I'm at the point in my life where shrugs if a women departs yeah the emotional withdrawal will sting for awhile, but there will always be more opportunities and doors open. I'm at peace, I don't care whose talking to who, whose adding so and so to facebook, is she going clubbing, is she talking to an ex, nope all my thoughts are on myself
So I just look at every breakup, exes as a learning experience, they were there in my life for a purpose and that purpose was fulfilled. It's like training wheels on a bicycle, the purpose was served I no longer need them. So I can look back at every woman I've been with and if I stayed with them or they didn't dump me etc., my life would be stagnant, my faith wouldn't have been so strong, I would have continued to serve two masters, I would not be at the gym, I would not be travelling, I would not be writing.
My life has prospered so much especially since I finally cut my ex out of my life more than a year ago after 5 years of up and downs, literally the moment I finally said no more like a month later I met this chick although it only lasted 2 months it showed me damn God was telling me to let go all these years and instead I held on, I cringe sometimes just thinking of all the great women that were probably on the path for me and I was fighting God and hanging onto poison. And even after that ending with that chick, I ended up coming across the model and that was one of the best weeks of my life.
Many of these women we come across are going on a separate path than us, the devil will always attack your weaknesses, and if that's women he will send the beautiful sexual ones your way and laugh as you continue to fall. These chicks are incompatible if your living a life trying to serve God they are not the right woman for you. That's why now I'm at peace, if she's meant to be in my life she will be. If she is not I firmly believe God will remove her from my presence. So now I just live, no social media, no dating sites/apps, I've spent years and years finding women and it was always the same result. So now instead I'll use my time wisely and invest and focus on me and if it's meant to be then cool and if its not meant to be then
I'm not dependant on a woman for my happiness or joy.
So why stress about life or things I can't control? if I continue to be stuck on what could have been or feeling sad or depressed because of the hardships or roadblocks or failure of relationships then I may miss my blessing. Because like Maya angelou said Love is like a virus. It can happen to anybody at any time.
i will put you on ignore
