Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Playeroni]

My first time coming in this thread. Im not surprised to see that many brehs are having the same issues i am.

I grew up with all females, so reading women has never been hard for me. I kind of got a head start. I was also called ugly alot when I was younger by both males and females. I always got friend zoned, never really had a chic have a crush on me, none of the grade school shyt. It got to the point were I stoped giving a fukk about having a girlfriend at all.
But I grew into my looks, and that all changed. I got attention that i wasnt used to, and can pull any chic I want (no i wont post a pic ill prove it if a nyc coli meet ever happens) anyway. After dealing with a good number of women, I lost my ability to detach amd just not care. I met a beautiful young lady just as I was coming into my own and we had an on again off again relationship for 8 years. I dont regret a single moment, its was a fun,fulfilling,exciting relationship. But now that It has completey ended,im drained....
I dont want to drag on, thats why im being short but ive went thru what seems like every issue thats been layed down in this thread in an 8 year span. I know it may seen excessive but I swear it seems that way. I never want to do that again. Never can I see myself giving 8 years of my life to someone else again. I never want to feel those emotions again. Yes im damage goods, not aftaid to admit it. I dont hate women tho unlike some dudes here. I still treat them like a lady should be and with respect but it goes no further then that. It was a learning experience, one that I take alot from. I have no one to blame but my self, I knew shyt wasn't right and I let it drag on.
We were broken up for 2 years but carried on like we still went out when ever we were around eachother. Im not gonna lie I always thought @Emperor_ReinScarf was a bit extreme in some of his views, and always glossed over his comments about keeping contact with ex's. But i completely understand where hes coming from now. Like he said earlier in this thread, it leaves scars when you do that and its exactly what I have. I also regained my fukk it attitude about chics. If it comes, it comes im tryna get some bread in my pocket fukk what these freaks talking about.
I have no point to prove just wanted to get that out because I talk to few people about the situation and I know probably one other dude whose going thru the exact same thing i went thru. Im good now tho. Peace of mind is a highly underrated attribute in this life. Not saying i have complete POM but i have peace. Im really interested to see our generation when we're all old. shyts gonna be odd i can gurantee it. But to all my Africans in here keep pushing shyt always comes full circlr we'll be good.

 

[The Frozen One]

man i've been away from this thread for a minute.. i got a lot of catching up to do.. seems like @kevm3 still dropping bombs.

 

[MikelArteta]

My first time coming in this thread. Im not surprised to see that many brehs are having the same issues i am.

I grew up with all females, so reading women has never been hard for me. I kind of got a head start. I was also called ugly alot when I was younger by both males and females. I always got friend zoned, never really had a chic have a crush on me, none of the grade school shyt. It got to the point were I stoped giving a fukk about having a girlfriend at all.
But I grew into my looks, and that all changed. I got attention that i wasnt used to, and can pull any chic I want (no i wont post a pic ill prove it if a nyc coli meet ever happens) anyway. After dealing with a good number of women, I lost my ability to detach amd just not care. I met a beautiful young lady just as I was coming into my own and we had an on again off again relationship for 8 years. I dont regret a single moment, its was a fun,fulfilling,exciting relationship. But now that It has completey ended,im drained....
I dont want to drag on, thats why im being short but ive went thru what seems like every issue thats been layed down in this thread in an 8 year span. I know it may seen excessive but I swear it seems that way. I never want to do that again. Never can I see myself giving 8 years of my life to someone else again. I never want to feel those emotions again. Yes im damage goods, not aftaid to admit it. I dont hate women tho unlike some dudes here. I still treat them like a lady should be and with respect but it goes no further then that. It was a learning experience, one that I take alot from. I have no one to blame but my self, I knew shyt wasn't right and I let it drag on.
We were broken up for 2 years but carried on like we still went out when ever we were around eachother. Im not gonna lie I always thought @Emperor_ReinScarf was a bit extreme in some of his views, and always glossed over his comments about keeping contact with ex's. But i completely understand where hes coming from now. Like he said earlier in this thread, it leaves scars when you do that and its exactly what I have. I also regained my fukk it attitude about chics. If it comes, it comes im tryna get some bread in my pocket fukk what these freaks talking about.
I have no point to prove just wanted to get that out because I talk to few people about the situation and I know probably one other dude whose going thru the exact same thing i went thru. Im good now tho. Peace of mind is a highly underrated attribute in this life. Not saying i have complete POM but i have peace. Im really interested to see our generation when we're all old. shyts gonna be odd i can gurantee it. But to all my Africans in here keep pushing shyt always comes full circlr we'll be good.

I don't think anyone here hates women. Hate the way some of them act yes but hate them nah.

And I know exactly what you mean my last ex it was 5 years and I only was in a relationship for 8 months, yet it was up and down, not talking and talking for 5 friggin years till I said no more. Basically blew half of my 20 on some manipulative minded chick, the second I moved on she'd draw me back in and I was weak I admit it and put the blame on myself, but I finally said NO MORE, and If there was anything I learned is that why I just detach quickly, no friendship, no chasing, the moment she messes up that crosses my boundary I cut all cords and never look back. I'm not wasting any more of my life on a chick who isn't worth it.

Women have no qualms keeping exes or guys around for years, blink your eyes and your back and forth with a chick wasting prime years, getting nothing of value in return.

Thats the mantra I'm on now, no dating sites/apps. Just living my life and if it happens cool if not cool again. I can say it with 100% that being single beats most relationships hands down. A great relationship is great but the majority aren't. I love the peace of mind, I love not worrying if my chick is stepping out, or whose that new dude following her on instagram or adding her to facebook,

The funny thing is I see dudes doing all these seal tricks, or these dudes doing anything for puzzy never having a girl and all that , all sad and ish. And I'm like here take my life, women have caused me nothing but trouble . I love my life, but my life would have been 100 times better at this moment if I was a virgin who never got play from women.

Most people think i'm extreme with my views, but my views is the fastest way to help you recover and get on with life. Of course I'd love to be friends with certain exes, I mean we talked about everything and some of them know me better than anyone else, but that emotional connection will be reforged and its not worth it. Life is to friggin short to waste time on people who don't feel the same way about you the way you do for them.

 

[Atlrocafella]

@Mr.GetNasty Welcome to the thread breh.. The mindstate of "If it comes, it comes" Is such a great feeling. I'm in that mode now, I'm enjoying myself, not worried about chasing these women, just chasing this bread and trying to excel in my career because those two things haven't failed me yet. I'm trying to travel somewhere exotic this summer and just live life. Parents always bugging me about when I'm going to get married, but life is too short to even be worried about something like that

 

[MikelArteta]

@Mr.GetNasty Welcome to the thread breh.. The mindstate of "If it comes, it comes" Is such a great feeling. I'm in that mode now, I'm enjoying myself, not worried about chasing these women, just chasing this bread and trying to excel in my career because those two things haven't failed me yet. I'm trying to travel somewhere exotic this summer and just live life. Parents always bugging me about when I'm going to get married, but life is too short to even be worried about something like that

parents really don't understand the market out here, back in the day dad could court mom and go to the drive in or out to dinner, call her at home and had to ask to speak to so and so, come by to pick her up and had to meet the parents. Mom wasn't talking to 10 other guys.

Now times are different, it's literally battling it out as gladiators for teh attn of some chick amongst her gaggle of men, more than likely she's multidating, and on pof/okc/tinder/match if she's single. I mean sure you can settle and then get divorced like many folks out there.

If it comes is literally the best imo, because to me thats genuine. My two best relationships were the ones where I least expected it and was just living life and enjoying it, not the ones where I was on tinder or online dating messaging a bunch of chicks or desperately searching.

 

[MikelArteta]

As well for me the messed up thing is i've had like 10 women in my life told me they loved me, talk about marriage, a future. How there not like that bla bla Hell I even been engaged once and almost a second time, and where are these women now? No idea , prob gargling on some dudes cock right now

So I'm a cynic to words yes I am. I've seen it to many times and not only in my life, but in others as well. And as I get older i still ponder is it even worth it? I'm bored of the whole song and dance, meeting someone new, asking questions and answering, going to the same places but with someone else. On some edge of tomorrow repeat after repeat, maybe this girl will go a little longer 3-4 dates, maybe this girl we will get in a relationship a few months honeymoon bliss then the nose dive. Like I said before I'm not eeyores tail that I can keep attach and detach and its the same as before.

And It's literally all in your head, the emotional connection, the dopamine, the infatuation/lust/limerance/love, chemistry and sparks, these women ain't special, if they were they'd be by your side right now.

 

[Playeroni]

@Emperor_ReinScarf

Breh the prime years is what made me stop the whole thing. I couldn't allow myself to waste another minute. And there is no way im going to get in a relationship, say at 33, it lasts 8 yearS and falls apart, NOW YOUR 41! fukk that! im all about me and my youth (29) and living it up. These coli lames think 30 is old but it infact is young. Its all about how you feel. And when you speak of your ex, thats the same exact shyt mine would do. She would always be the one to reconnect while i never reached out. As I said its my own fault. Its just that im extremely loyal, if you have my loyalty then i will do my absoulte best to protect and care for you if you come knocking. She knew this, and ran it into the ground. I cant change having a good heart its embedded in me, but I cant allow myslef to be made a fool of. I love my life too breh just trying to improve it and keep pushing. Im sure you know this, but fukk the past. I think about "what if" situations but its pointless. There is no time but now, you cant go into the past, theres no changing it so I just focus on Now,this moment, and shaping my future. I fukk with you but you gotta stop talking bad about detroit brodie i know my birthplace is tore up you dont have to shyt on it breh

@Atlrocafella
Breh, when you finally get control over your dikk and stop letting the box control you its. Dont get me wrong I love sex still. Nothing like a women's body, it just doesnt faze me when I have none on deck. And I think all us africans (Americans) need to start traveling more itll do us some good im looking into the summer as well.
My fam doesn't ask me any more. They know our generations are nothing alike, they can see the disaster im faced with. On a side note, do you get the "whats wrong with you? Are you gay?" When you tell these chics your single, no kids, and not ready to mingle? Ive gotten it so much I knoe exactly when its coming abd yhey can't seen to understand why when i explain....SHOCKER

 

[MikelArteta]

@Emperor_ReinScarf

Breh the prime years is what made me stop the whole thing. I couldn't allow myself to waste another minute. And there is no way im going to get in a relationship, say at 33, it lasts 8 yearS and falls apart, NOW YOUR 41! fukk that! im all about me and my youth (29) and living it up. These coli lames think 30 is old but it infact is young. Its all about how you feel. And when you speak of your ex, thats the same exact shyt mine would do. She would always be the one to reconnect while i never reached out. As I said its my own fault. Its just that im extremely loyal, if you have my loyalty then i will do my absoulte best to protect and care for you if you come knocking. She knew this, and ran it into the ground. I cant change having a good heart its embedded in me, but I cant allow myslef to be made a fool of. I love my life too breh just trying to improve it and keep pushing. Im sure you know this, but fukk the past. I think about "what if" situations but its pointless. There is no time but now, you cant go into the past, theres no changing it so I just focus on Now,this moment, and shaping my future. I fukk with you but you gotta stop talking bad about detroit brodie i know my birthplace is tore up you dont have to shyt on it breh

exactly what I mean, it's also why women hate wasting time and want that ring fast, because time in terms of aging, having kids is more precious to time. But to me time is important as well, time is the one thing no one knows how much they have. I can wake up tomorrow with severe pain got o the dr and find out I have terminal cancer. One of my hs friends died of cancer at 28, hell imagine that was me, i would have wasted the last few years of my life being saddled to a chick.

And man its like the same script they all do, I'd literally go get on wiht my life not hear from my ex for ike 3-4 months, then come home from work and shes there, then she starts texting me all day, then inviting me over and right back I was under her string them drift apart and yet again. Find out im talking toa girl she pops back up, this ish woulda prob went on till we both died if I let it.

I'm turning 30 in a few months and my commitment is like a vvirgin womans vagina, I ain't giving it away to anyone that easily. Once you've dated beautiful women, dated successful women, ish like that doesn't phase you anymore, good looks and a career ain't getting my commitment box so to speak.

I'm the same this is the way I was brought up, genuine love, commitment, loyalty, monogamy, and sadly I allowed broken women in the past to take my gifts and use em for their pleasure.

And I'm the same which is why my dignity is above all, I stil treat people with respect and all that but the moment i'm underestimated or taking for a fool I'm gone and I never look back. Just because you have a vagina and your pretty means nothing to me, my ex was beautiful and our connection was great yet I fully walked away and haven't said a word to her since dec 18, 2013, my ex fiance I haven't said a word to her since sep 18 2008 and I'll take my silence to my grave.

Marinating on the past and the what ifs wll keep you rotating in circle, best thing is just to accept it and move on

 

[Playeroni]

exactly what I mean, it's also why women hate wasting time and want that ring fast, because time in terms of aging, having kids is more precious to time. But to me time is important as well, time is the one thing no one knows how much they have. I can wake up tomorrow with severe pain got o the dr and find out I have terminal cancer. One of my hs friends died of cancer at 28, hell imagine that was me, i would have wasted the last few years of my life being saddled to a chick.
Damn breh this some real shyt i ive almost lost my life a few times and each year i get older i realize how fukked up it would have been if i wasnt so lucky
And man its like the same script they all do, I'd literally go get on wiht my life not hear from my ex for ike 3-4 months, then come home from work and shes there, then she starts texting me all day, then inviting me over and right back I was under her string them drift apart and yet again. Find out im talking toa girl she pops back up, this ish woulda prob went on till we both died if I let it.
She used to try justify the goofy shyt. "Its a rollercoaster relationship, its just how it is well get thru it, WERE ALWAYS GONNA BE IN EACH OTHER LIVES" i use to believe it, and was cool with it for a while but it just wore on me. I tapped out. Benjamin Button was one if our movies and we always said that was us. Always finding our way back to eachother. But the range of emotions you go thru during that time period takes years off your life. Its not healthy. I still havent faced that test. I dont know if she has enough balls to come back. And i dont know how im gonna react when i see her smile. It gets me everytime, but im gonna stand my ground this time. I hope she doesnt put me in that position again and respects my wishes.

I'm turning 30 in a few months and my commitment is like a vvirgin womans vagina, I ain't giving it away to anyone that easily. Once you've dated beautiful women, dated successful women, ish like that doesn't phase you anymore, good looks and a career ain't getting my commitment box so to speak.
Haha i finally learned you cant give the fire pipes out at random your asking for trouble. And ive been past looks, the prettiest are usually the craziest and very very insecure.
I'm the same this is the way I was brought up, genuine love, commitment, loyalty, monogamy, and sadly I allowed broken women in the past to take my gifts and use em for their pleasure.

And I'm the same which is why my dignity is above all, I stil treat people with respect and all that but the moment i'm underestimated or taking for a fool I'm gone and I never look back. Just because you have a vagina and your pretty means nothing to me, my ex was beautiful and our connection was great yet I fully walked away and haven't said a word to her since dec 18, 2013, my ex fiance I haven't said a word to her since sep 18 2008 and I'll take my silence to my grave.
:Salute: its gonna take more dudes like us (@ kevm you spit that real too) to combat this new age female.
Marinating on the past and the what ifs wll keep you rotating in circle, best thing is just to accept it and move on

 

[kevm3]

The dating scene is garbage. Most women nowadays are emotionally unbalanced due to what I was talking about earlier, coupled with feminists and television telling them they can have it all and essentially whore it up until they are in their 30s and they'll have some super simp to save em and give em kids. It's absolutely amazing how many women follow the script verbatim... "I had my fun. I was wild back in the day but I'm ready to settle down now. etc." They wild out until they hit 30, when they know they are falling out of their prime and their biological clock is ticking. Then it's time to dump her college debt on some simp and tie him up with a kid or two before she divorces him 5 years later because 'he's too boring' or 'he's not showing enough affection'. As a man, your commitment is of utmost performance, so why give a woman your commitment if she's not going to give you her prime.

The average woman now wants one man for pleasure and then another man to provide. They don't ever think to combine these two roles and try to find that in one man, which should be their husband. They use one man up for his resources and all kinds of favors and the other guy they all themselves to be used by him. The game is that simple, but many of us don't want to say it because it's a harsh reflection on reality. It's why I'm sitting the game out. I refuse to be a resource provider/favor buddy, and I'm not interested in being some broad's boy toy on the side.

A lot of men simply want a decent woman to BUILD with, but these women want to step into the castle after you've already won the empire and put on the crown of queen with no effort on their part. Not happening. It seems like these days, to keep a woman, you have to be a circus-master and come at her with 1,000 tricks and sideshows to keep her interested. Not worth the effort. I'm not going to fabricate dramas, bring up arguments, slap her or whatever other nonsense she requires to be entertained enough to stick around.

I think what the average man is starting to realize is the immense amount of effort they are putting in for virtually no reward. Guys are taking her to dinner, doing all kinds of things with her and then after a couple of weeks she 'disappears' because she's busy. In reality, she has 10 other guys she's talking to, and even with you, she's still stockpiling options. "Thanks for the dinner, but I'm over here with someone else now." It's why I keep telling dudes, if you found a decent woman, you better hold on and stop playing around. It's really not pretty out here.

 

[kevm3]

What I'm convinced of is the disposability of the male in the mind of many of these women, especially if she sees you as a simp. These broads will willingly walk into a minefield after you told her not to and then expect you to jump on the mine for her before she steps on it.

Look at the thread about the dude getting a call at 2 in the morning. She was with this abusive, drug-dealing dude for several years. She knew what he was about, but she stayed there until she got put in a very bad situation. Still, she didn't want to call the cops on him herself or even get her family involved. Instead, she calls a guy she barely knows at 2 in the morning to come pick her up, possibly putting himself in a position to get killed.This was a dude she knew she could hit up for favors. If a woman gets the notion that she can get favors out of you, you become a favor-buddy. She'll get everything she can out of you, but when you need something, can she be found?

You tell these women to stop hanging around this or that crazy dude, they ignore you, get whipped, and then expect you to come over there and save her... and then go back with the 'bad boy' right after... which leads me to my next point. If she has a history of dealing with crazy or violent dudes, do NOT deal with her at all, much less befriend her. There are situations where dudes have been killed because of a jealous ex, and you don't even have to be dealing with the woman. It just takes him having the IMPRESSION that you are for him to get ready to strike. The thing is if you even befriend these women, they're going to expect you to get involved in tangling with this dude. It's not worth it at all.

 

[kevm3]

Now, realistically speaking, how many of you know of a CONSISTENT woman? You know, one you can easily get a hold of every day at a reasonable time when you try to get a hold of her? A lot of these women will simply ignore your call or text and act like she's busy. More than likely, the women you come across will be cool for a few weeks, disappear for a week, pop back up, disappear, etc.

 

[BrehWyatt]

Gonna meet up with a chick tomorrow and I chose to meet at BArnes amd Noble, and she was like and why that place . Thinking it would be a nice spot to see what she was about before i drop some cash on her but i didnt tell her that. Now ill see how this will play out.

This might have gone well and if so, but, if she had that kind of reaction when you suggested the place, that's something I would have been mindful of as a potential red flag.

 

[jadillac]

Brehs...

The worst thing about online dating is seeing the other person on Tinder/POF, etc after you'[ve been talking/texting, etc. You think y'all are hitting it off well, you text or talk somewhat frequently & then you see them logged on there later.

Obviously y'all arent married or serious yet, but it's like how do I know whether or not you're being fake w/ me and then being the "real" you w/ other dudes you're talking to on there? It's almost pointless to me b/c it's like, I'm NOT down w/ sharing or being a stop gap while you search for someone you THINK is better. Either you like me or you don't.

Now granted, I'm logged on there too , BUT I know myself and my intentions. However, I DON'T know YOU (the woman) like I know myself, and at the same time I also know how grimey some other dudes can be & how gullible women can be to fall for it. And on any given online site, women get a zillion messages & they entertain many of them as ego boosters. But who knows how far it goes beyond that?

Might delete my profiles soon just to avoid distractions & lack of focus.

 

[TRUEST]

Brehs...

The worst thing about online dating is seeing the other person on Tinder/POF, etc after you'[ve been talking/texting, etc. You think y'all are hitting it off well, you text or talk somewhat frequently & then you see them logged on there later.

Obviously y'all arent married or serious yet, but it's like how do I know whether or not you're being fake w/ me and then being the "real" you w/ other dudes you're talking to on there? It's almost pointless to me b/c it's like, I'm NOT down w/ sharing or being a stop gap while you search for someone you THINK is better. Either you like me or you don't.

Now granted, I'm logged on there too , BUT I know myself and my intentions. However, I DON'T know YOU (the woman) like I know myself, and at the same time I also know how grimey some other dudes can be & how gullible women can be to fall for it. And on any given online site, women get a zillion messages & they entertain many of them as ego boosters. But who knows how far it goes beyond that?

Might delete my profiles soon just to avoid distractions & lack of focus.

lol unlike most dudes on here, i have no qualms admitting i'm a nasty guy when it comes to women. i fucck anything i wanna fukk with no fuccks given. only time i'm faithful is when my main woman is giving her all, coooking, doing my laundry, aint challenging my authority. then i feel bad. so i just focus on her.

but if a chick does anything that even resembles dishonesty, i'm out there doing me. diversifying your emotions across the board makes it extremely difficult for one woman to get to u. it allows u to be the master of text. when u text chicks, u dont have time to be writting wrap-around text....cause u got other chicks to text. ur texts are short. and in effect, it drives these women crazy. and when they're crazying, thinking about what u do, they will forever be in a harem...one dedicated to you!

man, i read this thread and i just kinda shake my head some times. guys, have funnnnnnn!!!! that one loyal woman will come along when u aint expecting it. and when she does, u better be ready.

and yes believe it or not, i'm also a religious guy. why is a religious guy speaking like this? well, the solomon had many wives. king david had wives. these great men had many women to satisfy their sexual needs. why on earth would any one man claim to be so religious to not wanna be with as many women as is humanly possible (safely of course, no random raw fuccking). yall get the point man. if u dont, the point is, man, do you. dont be so focused on one girl that u find yourself giving a rat's ass if shes on a dating site.