Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[The Frozen One]

i got played harsh.. i thought i had a loyal down to earth girl .. different from the other ones .. mostly cause i believed everything she told me .. but lesson learned..

don't wanna post the story cause it was basically my own fault and stupidity. i ignored all the redflags ..

 

[jadillac]

lol unlike most dudes on here, i have no qualms admitting i'm a nasty guy when it comes to women. i fucck anything i wanna fukk with no fuccks given. only time i'm faithful is when my main woman is giving her all, coooking, doing my laundry, aint challenging my authority. then i feel bad. so i just focus on her.

but if a chick does anything that even resembles dishonesty, i'm out there doing me. diversifying your emotions across the board makes it extremely difficult for one woman to get to u. it allows u to be the master of text. when u text chicks, u dont have time to be writting wrap-around text....cause u got other chicks to text. ur texts are short. and in effect, it drives these women crazy. and when they're crazying, thinking about what u do, they will forever be in a harem...one dedicated to you!

man, i read this thread and i just kinda shake my head some times. guys, have funnnnnnn!!!! that one loyal woman will come along when u aint expecting it. and when she does, u better be ready.

and yes believe it or not, i'm also a religious guy. why is a religious guy speaking like this? well, the solomon had many wives. king david had wives. these great men had many women to satisfy their sexual needs. why on earth would any one man claim to be so religious to not wanna be with as many women as is humanly possible (safely of course, no random raw fuccking). yall get the point man. if u dont, the point is, man, do you. dont be so focused on one girl that u find yourself giving a rat's ass if shes on a dating site.

I feel you breh, and I don't disagree w/ some of the stuff you say.....it's just that I don't have time to try to get to know a bunch of different women like that. Nor do I have the patience to be honest b/c it feels like a cycle of rinse/repeat convos. Aint nothing new under teh sun and most of these women aren't talking about anything interesting enough for me to try & build a conversation w/ them.


If I had no goals and was just settled-in going to work everyday living a ho-hum groundhog day life, I'd have ZERO problem trying to date multiple women. But everything you do has a consequence, and doing that takes alot of time and even if ur a player, it takes focus when you have 3-4 women getting at you at once.

I'm working towards a goal at the moment and don't have time/focus for a lot of distractions. Just want an honest female to chill, hang-out with, etc and see where it goes


Ultimately man, I'm not built for wining/dining or laying w/ a woman on a Saturday night and she was just laying up under some other nikka Friday night. I know some dudes don't care about that, but that's just how my mind is. I'm from the South and I didn't grow up around women like that, that ain't what I consider "dating" where I come from.

 

[jadillac]

i got played harsh.. i thought i had a loyal down to earth girl .. different from the other ones .. mostly cause i believed everything she told me .. but lesson learned..

don't wanna post the story cause it was basically my own fault and stupidity. i ignored all the redflags ..

Post the general summary my nig. Take that L. We all have at some point.

Nobody will laugh at you, and you may even help someone else realize something about their situation.

 

[kevm3]

Brehs...

The worst thing about online dating is seeing the other person on Tinder/POF, etc after you'[ve been talking/texting, etc. You think y'all are hitting it off well, you text or talk somewhat frequently & then you see them logged on there later.

Obviously y'all arent married or serious yet, but it's like how do I know whether or not you're being fake w/ me and then being the "real" you w/ other dudes you're talking to on there? It's almost pointless to me b/c it's like, I'm NOT down w/ sharing or being a stop gap while you search for someone you THINK is better. Either you like me or you don't.

Now granted, I'm logged on there too , BUT I know myself and my intentions. However, I DON'T know YOU (the woman) like I know myself, and at the same time I also know how grimey some other dudes can be & how gullible women can be to fall for it. And on any given online site, women get a zillion messages & they entertain many of them as ego boosters. But who knows how far it goes beyond that?

Might delete my profiles soon just to avoid distractions & lack of focus.

If you two were getting somewhat serious, then obviously it's somewhat of a warning sign. In my mind, I'd be wary of her because I'd think she's still cultivating options.

We have so many problems nowadays because people simply cannot keep it 'straight-edged'. They always try to put themselves in an advantageous position instead of offering a fair deal. How I see it, if you are seriously talking to someone or dating them, even if you aren't official, you should cut off other people. Instead, people love hovering around some gray area... "We're not OFFICIALLY together, so I'm still going to talk to other people."

All these other dudes might be 'ego boosters' until she sees one that is paying her attention that she feels is flyer than you. It's always, "Oh well, I was just doing it for fun. I like to see who was into me. It's nothing serious..." until it is.

 

[kevm3]

Here's something else for you fellas
Women KNOW what they're doing.
When they're out of pocket... when they're out of line, they are perfectly clear on what they're doing. They most likely already have the excuses built up in their mind. You're dating, but she's on some dating site? She knows what she's doing. She's hanging around with sketchy dudes that she knows want one thing, but she's calling them a friend? She knows. She will just hit you up with the built in excuse when she gets caught. "Well he tricked me!" "I don't know how it happened! The alcohol made me do it!" "You weren't paying me enough attention!" Need I continue?

If her ACTIONS aren't telling the correct story, then you already know what it is. Treat everything that comes out a woman's mouth as a fiction novel... 'entertaining but not to be taken too seriously or believed as real.'

 

[TRUEST]

I feel you breh, and I don't disagree w/ some of the stuff you say.....it's just that I don't have time to try to get to know a bunch of different women like that. Nor do I have the patience to be honest b/c it feels like a cycle of rinse/repeat convos. Aint nothing new under teh sun and most of these women aren't talking about anything interesting enough for me to try & build a conversation w/ them.


If I had no goals and was just settled-in going to work everyday living a ho-hum groundhog day life, I'd have ZERO problem trying to date multiple women. But everything you do has a consequence, and doing that takes alot of time and even if ur a player, it takes focus when you have 3-4 women getting at you at once.

I'm working towards a goal at the moment and don't have time/focus for a lot of distractions. Just want an honest female to chill, hang-out with, etc and see where it goes


Ultimately man, I'm not built for wining/dining or laying w/ a woman on a Saturday night and she was just laying up under some other nikka Friday night. I know some dudes don't care about that, but that's just how my mind is. I'm from the South and I didn't grow up around women like that, that ain't what I consider "dating" where I come from.

i hear u. if u feel the way u do, honestly, and i'm being very honest here, ur best bet for a wife (or a real relationship) is one of them muslim chicks that be wearing a head scarf. like seriously. when i see those women, they never EVER EVER look at any one. they keep their eyes down, and u will never find them giving some random guy ideas to approach her. those are the chicks that will give u the peace of mind i gather u want. and if u are able to snag one of those women, consider urself lucky. cause a lot of them be looking really really goood despite the fact that they cover up their body.

 

[The Frozen One]

Post the general summary my nig. Take that L. We all have at some point.

Nobody will laugh at you, and you may even help someone else realize something about their situation.

not much to tell breh.. classic case of being stuck in the friend zone without me realizing what was happening... even though i smashed shorty few times ..

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

What's going on fellas. Been a while. I don't really post in here often but I try to keep an eye on this thread when I can. Most of the homies that post here regularly are familiar with me. I'm on a deployment right now in Qatar and I'm having a great time here. Listen to what people are saying, travel. I've met some of the most beautiful women in my life, downtown. There are people from all over the world here. Everyone here for the same reason, to get this money. Really makes me not want to head back stateside. Anyway, I'm just out here flexing both physically and mentally. You fellas really need to get out there and live. Don't spend too much time in this thread. Hope everyone is doing well.

 

[MikelArteta]

Look at this way would you want a woman who Has sex with her friends?

i got played harsh.. i thought i had a loyal down to earth girl .. different from the other ones .. mostly cause i believed everything she told me .. but lesson learned..

don't wanna post the story cause it was basically my own fault and stupidity. i ignored all the redflags ..

 

[Bless't]

lol unlike most dudes on here, i have no qualms admitting i'm a nasty guy when it comes to women. i fucck anything i wanna fukk with no fuccks given. only time i'm faithful is when my main woman is giving her all, coooking, doing my laundry, aint challenging my authority. then i feel bad. so i just focus on her.

but if a chick does anything that even resembles dishonesty, i'm out there doing me. diversifying your emotions across the board makes it extremely difficult for one woman to get to u. it allows u to be the master of text. when u text chicks, u dont have time to be writting wrap-around text....cause u got other chicks to text. ur texts are short. and in effect, it drives these women crazy. and when they're crazying, thinking about what u do, they will forever be in a harem...one dedicated to you!

man, i read this thread and i just kinda shake my head some times. guys, have funnnnnnn!!!! that one loyal woman will come along when u aint expecting it. and when she does, u better be ready.

and yes believe it or not, i'm also a religious guy. why is a religious guy speaking like this? well, the solomon had many wives. king david had wives. these great men had many women to satisfy their sexual needs. why on earth would any one man claim to be so religious to not wanna be with as many women as is humanly possible (safely of course, no random raw fuccking). yall get the point man. if u dont, the point is, man, do you. dont be so focused on one girl that u find yourself giving a rat's ass if shes on a dating site.

This is how I am towards MOST women. Until I meet one that DESERVES my time and commitment, I'm out here focusing on me. I'm having fun without being tethered to a succubus. But when I do meet someone I feel connected to, my time and effort is all about her (like now).

 

[MikelArteta]

Brehs...

The worst thing about online dating is seeing the other person on Tinder/POF, etc after you'[ve been talking/texting, etc. You think y'all are hitting it off well, you text or talk somewhat frequently & then you see them logged on there later.

Obviously y'all arent married or serious yet, but it's like how do I know whether or not you're being fake w/ me and then being the "real" you w/ other dudes you're talking to on there? It's almost pointless to me b/c it's like, I'm NOT down w/ sharing or being a stop gap while you search for someone you THINK is better. Either you like me or you don't.

Now granted, I'm logged on there too , BUT I know myself and my intentions. However, I DON'T know YOU (the woman) like I know myself, and at the same time I also know how grimey some other dudes can be & how gullible women can be to fall for it. And on any given online site, women get a zillion messages & they entertain many of them as ego boosters. But who knows how far it goes beyond that?

Might delete my profiles soon just to avoid distractions & lack of focus.

this is why I don't mess with online dating/apps if you want something of substance, unless its like a paid site but even those suck.

i'm too old and too smart to be dating just for hell of it.

You feel like your going somewhere with a chick, then you see her still logging in and you know she checking those 100msgs, and odds are there is a guy richer, in better shape, a guy making her laugh etc. that she is clicking with even more than you, so like a gladiator you continue to battle it out as she multi dates for her approval and maybe you win in the end and maybe you don't even if she doesn't sign in or closes her account the first hiccup she will be right back on it.

 

[ReadOneBookAWeek]

i got played harsh.. i thought i had a loyal down to earth girl .. different from the other ones .. mostly cause i believed everything she told me .. but lesson learned..

don't wanna post the story cause it was basically my own fault and stupidity. i ignored all the redflags ..

go ahead and expound on it brotha, we all been there b4

 

[MikelArteta]

not much to tell breh.. classic case of being stuck in the friend zone without me realizing what was happening... even though i smashed shorty few times ..

let it out we've all taken major L's brehs

look i've been there sleeping with a chick, her telling me all this, how much she cares, talking about the future and all that, and this went on for months and months, then one day I get hit with the i'm going out on a date tonight and im like , and then your a great friend that's why i'm telling you. Yeah a great friend and you were riding me a few days, a great friend and you were pouring out your emotions talking about the future etc.

 

[ReadOneBookAWeek]

diversifying your emotions across the board makes it extremely difficult for one woman to get to u.

 

[MikelArteta]

I feel you breh, and I don't disagree w/ some of the stuff you say.....it's just that I don't have time to try to get to know a bunch of different women like that. Nor do I have the patience to be honest b/c it feels like a cycle of rinse/repeat convos. Aint nothing new under teh sun and most of these women aren't talking about anything interesting enough for me to try & build a conversation w/ them.


If I had no goals and was just settled-in going to work everyday living a ho-hum groundhog day life, I'd have ZERO problem trying to date multiple women. But everything you do has a consequence, and doing that takes alot of time and even if ur a player, it takes focus when you have 3-4 women getting at you at once.

I'm working towards a goal at the moment and don't have time/focus for a lot of distractions. Just want an honest female to chill, hang-out with, etc and see where it goes


Ultimately man, I'm not built for wining/dining or laying w/ a woman on a Saturday night and she was just laying up under some other nikka Friday night. I know some dudes don't care about that, but that's just how my mind is. I'm from the South and I didn't grow up around women like that, that ain't what I consider "dating" where I come from.

I'm the same way, few women ever reach my standard, so I ain't all on having a bullpen or whatever. Which of course doesn't match up to this hookup generation.

I live my life the way I would want my woman to, sadly there are few who live it that way