Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Scotch Hall]

Like kevm3 said earlier you gotta appreciate your freedom and yourself, before you go out there.

Gotta do stuff for yourself too, I've been cleaning and cooking since I was 8. I ain't need those hoes for that. Gotta be upfront with them.

 

[jadillac]

You can't paint every ringless woman in the same vein.

My mom has NEVER worn a wedding ring and my parents have been married over 30 years. Only time I've seen it is when she goes to some special function....but on the daily, nope.
My dad doesnt wear a band either.

Hell b/c of that, I probably wont wear one either....but I would expect my wife to wear her ring.

But I'll cross that bridge when I get to it.

 

[jadillac]

just to piggy back on what u said SIMPING JUST LEAVE U HEARTBREAK AND BROKE AND BITTER

DONT DO IT
DONT BE THAT GUY

True. I think we've all had to learn that.

However, there is a way to salvage....once you realize the situation, TAKE YOUR FEELINGS OUT OF IT.....then you can just quit contacting her, play her off, be real short...be a semi-jerk, etc.

Some girls need that attention...you quit talkin to them for a day or two and they will see you have other options. Then at that point they're hittin you up....even if you never get anywhere with her, at least the situation will fade w/ you in control somewhat.

 

[jadillac]

im ashamed of it i need to get my on

breh im about to start simping

Here's the problem....you often dont know you've simped until it's too LATE.

Then you're like "DAMN, I did it!!!"

You might do something nice, or go out ur way, or break character.....then later you realize she aint really on ur team like you thought.....then you realize what you've done and how she might/probably views you now after said simping.

From that point, you just gotta try to salvage....see my previous post.

 

[Soundbwoy]

ok brehs how should I proceed I used to work with this chick but never tried to pursue her because we were working together, we got back in contact again and its like im getting to see a new side i didnt see before, im falliing for her im ready to throw the rest of team in the bushes

 

[twan83]

ok brehs how should I proceed I used to work with this chick but never tried to pursue her because we were working together, we got back in contact again and its like im getting to see a new side i didnt see before, im falliing for her im ready to throw the rest of team in the bushes

u never throw ur team in the bushes until u do a 100% scouting job on her.

just add her to ur team and u can focus on her a lil more just to see what she about but keep ur team in tact cuz shyt HAPPENS she might be BAT shyt CRAZY or something that might make u wanna DIP.

take ur team scout her out for a while if u like her enough add her to ur team and if u want to make her ur focal point thats fine but u never throw away ur team unless u are ABSOLUTELY 100% SURE she is worth it

another thing dont go simping her off the bat be urself dont throw ur cards all on the table just yet. be smart think observe

 

[Sharp]

Everybody has simped at some point in their lives. As men we have to distinguish between simping and being a gentleman.

Simping is doing nice things to get a woman to like you, spend time with you. In other words you are doing things in hope that she will reciprocate.

Being a gentleman is doing a nice gesture for a woman with no expectations. But at the same time, it is convenient for you. Never go out of your way for a woman, she won't do the same.

I always say don't do anything for a woman if you are expecting her to return the favor because it is unlikely.

For example, a female that I'm kicking it with asks me for a ride somewhere. If it is convenient to me, isn't putting me out of my way, or isn't preventing me from taking care of something else, then I'll give her a ride. I'm not expecting nothing in return, nor am I ever bringing it up. I did it because I chose to do it, not because I expect some reward from her.

At the same time, don't allow yourself to be used. Favors are supposed to be in moderation. A woman who asks you for favors all the time but does nothing for you in return is a user. You become a simp where you become dependable to a woman who feels like she doesn't have to do anything for your favor.

A simp will be like "but I gave you a ride to the mall". Expecting her to appreciate the gesture and reciprocate. Not gonna happen.

A non-simp will realize she's a user and everytime she asks for a favor will say "Nope, I can't help you"

The most impressive thing a man can do in terms of a woman is "Stand his ground. Make your NO 's really count, so that your YES'es are even more valuable".

 

[ineedsleep212]

Reminds me of something Dante Nero said along the lines of the more you do favors, the more it becomes a habit/obligation and she expects them and doesn't really appreciate them.

 

[jadillac]

Everybody has simped at some point in their lives. As men we have to distinguish between simping and being a gentleman.

Simping is doing nice things to get a woman to like you, spend time with you. In other words you are doing things in hope that she will reciprocate.

Being a gentleman is doing a nice gesture for a woman with no expectations. But at the same time, it is convenient for you. Never go out of your way for a woman, she won't do the same.

I always say don't do anything for a woman if you are expecting her to return the favor because it is unlikely.

For example, a female that I'm kicking it with asks me for a ride somewhere. If it is convenient to me, isn't putting me out of my way, or isn't preventing me from taking care of something else, then I'll give her a ride. I'm not expecting nothing in return, nor am I ever bringing it up. I did it because I chose to do it, not because I expect some reward from her.

At the same time, don't allow yourself to be used. Favors are supposed to be in moderation. A woman who asks you for favors all the time but does nothing for you in return is a user. You become a simp where you become dependable to a woman who feels like she doesn't have to do anything for your favor.

A simp will be like "but I gave you a ride to the mall". Expecting her to appreciate the gesture and reciprocate. Not gonna happen.

A non-simp will realize she's a user and everytime she asks for a favor will say "Nope, I can't help you"

The most impressive thing a man can do in terms of a woman is "Stand his ground. Make your NO 's really count, so that your YES'es are even more valuable".

Even as a grown man, this thread is still good. Just seeing someone say stuff you agree with is good.

I think we have so much pride as men and not wanting to be made a fool of/played that we lose sight of what is simping and what is just trying to be ourselves(nice) and not letting the past women turn us into jerks and ruin something that MIGHT have potential with the new girl. Unfortunatey, I think you need to always have that vulnerability to be PLAYED, ..... otherwise you may never truly embrace someone who might be a good match. You can't really like/love from a distance and be comfortable. If you do find out you are being played, you gotta let it go...dont let it go to your ego or hurt your pride or think there's something "wrong" w/ you. In most cases, you were just being a man and trying to be a gentlemen.

In teh end, if a woman is not who she APPEARED to be, then why take that out on yourself? She was the dishonest one.

However, the simp/nice guy & gentleman seems to be a fine line at times.....

 

[Nintendough]

ok brehs how should I proceed I used to work with this chick but never tried to pursue her because we were working together, we got back in contact again and its like im getting to see a new side i didnt see before, im falliing for her im ready to throw the rest of team in the bushes

Hang out with her and see what happens. Don't get too far ahead of yourself though.

 

[Ohene]

ok brehs how should I proceed I used to work with this chick but never tried to pursue her because we were working together, we got back in contact again and its like im getting to see a new side i didnt see before, im falliing for her im ready to throw the rest of team in the bushes

no matter how much you care about a girl...do not throw all the other girls out the picture. leave them there to marinate until you ready to walk down the aisle I feel. How often do teams outright come out right after the lottery and say, "With the #1 pick we are going to select _____" even if the pick is extremely obvious when the draft is in months? They still evaluate the other prospects.

Cause even if a girl gets rid of her roster she can build another one instantly. There are dudes that will always try to contact her waiting for you to fukk up. And she will have at least one dude a week try to holla at her if shes decent looking.

As a young 19 year old in 2010 I was cordial enough to tell my 3-5 deep roster that I had got a girlfriend so I wouldn't be able to kick it with them/freak em like that anymore. My first sweetheart...I didnt anticipate the relationship would be easy at all but I was ready to work through the good and bad on some wedding vow shyt . I thought she was my ride or die.

Girl broke up with me months later over some bullshyt and I was left with nothing but an empty soul, and a penis full of cum. That girl really didnt realize how much I cared for her. Not even on no simp shyt but genuinely as a friend. If she did she obviously didnt give a shyt.

Point is, a girl can flip at any given second whether its warranted or not. You dont wanna be left in the dust man. I been there and I'm pretty much still recovering.

 

[winb83]

ok brehs how should I proceed I used to work with this chick but never tried to pursue her because we were working together, we got back in contact again and its like im getting to see a new side i didnt see before, im falliing for her im ready to throw the rest of team in the bushes

two words: rebound guy. Always assume these women you used to know that suddenly pop back up are trying to make you into one. You never drop all the other women either.

 

[winb83]

Everybody has simped at some point in their lives. As men we have to distinguish between simping and being a gentleman.

Simping is doing nice things to get a woman to like you, spend time with you. In other words you are doing things in hope that she will reciprocate.

Being a gentleman is doing a nice gesture for a woman with no expectations. But at the same time, it is convenient for you. Never go out of your way for a woman, she won't do the same.

I always say don't do anything for a woman if you are expecting her to return the favor because it is unlikely.

For example, a female that I'm kicking it with asks me for a ride somewhere. If it is convenient to me, isn't putting me out of my way, or isn't preventing me from taking care of something else, then I'll give her a ride. I'm not expecting nothing in return, nor am I ever bringing it up. I did it because I chose to do it, not because I expect some reward from her.

At the same time, don't allow yourself to be used. Favors are supposed to be in moderation. A woman who asks you for favors all the time but does nothing for you in return is a user. You become a simp where you become dependable to a woman who feels like she doesn't have to do anything for your favor.

A simp will be like "but I gave you a ride to the mall". Expecting her to appreciate the gesture and reciprocate. Not gonna happen.

A non-simp will realize she's a user and everytime she asks for a favor will say "Nope, I can't help you"

The most impressive thing a man can do in terms of a woman is "Stand his ground. Make your NO 's really count, so that your YES'es are even more valuable".

These days being a gentleman will be met with the same response as simping by most women. Kindness doesn't pay in a world full of people looking to get over on the next person for their own selfish gain.

 

[You_Ugly_on_Skype]

These days being a gentleman will be met with the same response as simping by most women. Kindness doesn't pay in a world full of people looking to get over on the next person for their own selfish gain.

So sad but so true...

That's why when I find people with my values, morals and integrity, I keep em around; and at the first sign of them defecting from those qualities, I cold cut them.

It's made my circle of good friends really small, but it's a quality circle. I don't have to worry about the people being home wreckers if I'm in a relationship, them having drugs in the car when the police pull us over, etc.

 

[Sharp]

These days being a gentleman will be met with the same response as simping by most women. Kindness doesn't pay in a world full of people looking to get over on the next person for their own selfish gain.

This is quite true, but we can't let women dictate how we act as men. Remember, the act of being a gentleman is more about you than her.

Doing something nice does not compromise your integrity or your principles. You want to be stern, but you don't want to be an a$$hole.

The problem with most simps is that they don't know how to say NO to a woman. Learn to say NO, be confident about that NO, and don't let her talk you out of that NO. Users have been trained since they were kids to coerce a NO to a MAYBE, and then a YES. You know the people who keep asking you even after you say no. I personally stay away from people like that in general. It's a bad trait and shows signs of selfishness.