Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[jadillac]

I have never posted in this thread until now but I figured I could contribute as I was in a very similar situation to this last Summer. I went out a few times with this chick but the ex still appeared to be in the picture (yes, even the shared dogs) but he had a "new girl" or whatever... still, it was not good. she was still obsessed with this guy and was going out of her way to accommodate him.

I cut it off. She was fairly attractive, juicy ass, was legitimately funny.. but I just do not have time to wait for a girl to get over her longterm boyfriend.

She still hit me up for a while afterwards but I was on to someone else so we never went out again. Sometimes it's best to cut your losses even if you're feeling her.

yeah, I think I'm gonna tell him that. That or at least just know what ur getting and don't try to get serious with her.

He said she's nice and seems trustworthy, but like I told him, any woman, unless shes an IDIOT, is gonna make herself appear in the best light possible in the beginning.

 

[winb83]

Cuz she said my government name I cropped

Like I say I'm perfectly content and happy how my life is
Being single and stress free>>>

women think they are Neo in the Matrix. like they can just pop up whenever they want and make the rules of the world bend to their will.

this woman clearly thought that all she had to do was show back up in your life and give you an opening and you'd fall over yourself trying to get back to her.

honestly i think you kept it a bit too civil. when my ex text or call me they get no answer and no response. if they saw me in person i'd totally ignore them. they're dead to me.

 

[Seth Brundle]

Got a whiff of drama, dropped the bird. Single and stress-free.

I gotta thank my ex-wife for inspiring this iron-clad constitution of mine. I'm not suffering shyt from here on out.

 

[Sharp]

Do you have a girlfriend that snoops through your stuff?

If you ever find yourself in a situation where a woman has went through your personal belongings (phone, pockets, etc.) dismiss her asap.

Do not even attempt to defend yourself or explain to how that she was wrong. Women will somehow attempt to justify their actions even if it means going into your property to do so.

Just tell her "I don't think we should see each other any more. I don't appreciate you going thru my personal belongings."

As a woman, she will try to argue with you. But the reality is that people only argue when they want to stay together. You've already declared that you are leaving, so why would you waste your time arguing with her or defending your point.

You leave at that instant, or if she is at your place, ask her to leave.

I know this may sound harsh, but you are instilling discipline in yourself and you are teaching this woman a valuable lesson: "that there are consequences for your actions"

A man who is not afraid to leave a woman at the drop of a dime is a powerful man. And don't apologize or admit any guilt because she's not apologizing for going thru your phone or your pants pockets.

It's more than likely she will call back weeks later to apologize, and if you do decide to give her a bench spot (recommend against it) she will know her place. And if she doesn't, well you just got rid of a potential headache early.

 

[Cory MBA]

 

[MikelArteta]

women think they are Neo in the Matrix. like they can just pop up whenever they want and make the rules of the world bend to their will.

this woman clearly thought that all she had to do was show back up in your life and give you an opening and you'd fall over yourself trying to get back to her.

honestly i think you kept it a bit too civil. when my ex text or call me they get no answer and no response. if they saw me in person i'd totally ignore them. they're dead to me.

She's not an ex, I literally saw this chick 3 times in my life, just bat ish crazy.
I thought t was someone else why I replied

 

[Nintendough]

Cuz she said my government name I cropped

Like I say I'm perfectly content and happy how my life is
Being single and stress free>>>

"Can you delete my number? "

 

[sixsixtwo]

 

[Red Omega]

What often happens is that men are chasing the dopefiend fantasy. The first hit is always the best and they spend the rest of the time hoping they can re-experience that high. In other words, the first few months of a relationship are almost ALWAYS the best. That is when you just meet the girl, you're excited because you know little to nothing about her and she just seems so sweet. She's on her best behavior. She is pretty, she has awe some conversation, and everything is so beautiful. You start dating her and months pass and cracks start developing but you ignore them because you are in love. Time goes on and she becomes more entrenched in your life. You start noticing more and more cracks, but she almost becomes a completely different person. The man thinks if maybe he approaches things a little differently he can convince her to return to being the woman that he 'fell in love with.' What he really fell in love with was a fantasy... aka her personality make-up. Time eventually washed off all of the layers of fabricated sweetness and you are left with the real her... and it's nothing like what you thought it was.

 

[Red Omega]

I felt the simpness rising within me the last few days, and I knew exactly where to come, man I love you guys

now im simp free

 

[sixsixtwo]

Another marriage narrative:

"I’m living this reality right now as well. Ten years of marriage, 15 together in total and I’ve finally woken up to these red pill truths thanks to sites like this. We met when we were 18 and she convinced me that our love was this perfect romantic love without conditions. I responded like most men, especially those who are still really kids, and bought into her vision of us being soul-mates hook line and sinker. I ignored the times over the years when I had stumbled and her unconditional love suddenly became very conditional.

Two years ago I lost my job and suddenly I was as disposable as a used kleenex to her. Contemptuous talk about me, disrespect and other men coming out of the woodwork. She had the audacity to tell me she was finally going to live the life of freedom I’d denied her by insisting on a relationship so young, a total rewrite of the truth. It’s not as if I had been 18 and dying to get married and the fact that I held out against marrying her until I was in my 20s did nothing but piss her off.

A young guy who came by one day to fix our fridge was an object of absolute lust for her and she made it clear how useless I was in comparison to him. He was one of several she told me I couldn’t measure up to, guys who lived how they wanted, worked out and socialized all day when not on shift and drank and slept around at night (so basically everything I the perfect beta husband had given up on in order to be with her years ago).

I recovered financially last year and she never cheated physically (carefully verified), but now I’m awake to reality. She is loyal to me only as long as I fulfill all her fantasies, whatever they are in a given moment, and pay all her bills no matter how wasteful some of her expenditures are (at one point when I was jobless we had $100 in the bank to last two weeks and she went out and spent $80 of it on a scarf). This wasn’t a temporary thing, but a pattern I’d ignored throughout our marriage. Even when I was at my lowest, unemployed and living on savings, she was laughing at me and telling me my whole reason for existing was to pay her bills, true for any real man she said. She even convinced me to finally convert to her religion and promptly fell into a flirtation with the minister advising us, my lowest point.

She’s well past her prime now at the age of 34 and I’m only beginning to come into my own, which is why I assume she never left or slept around. I’m now getting fit, making great money and can more than live without her (always could but now I know it). She said we might be over before long if my attitude doesn’t change and I just laughed and said so what? That shocked her and she was the one jumping through my hoops for a while there. But I can tell she’s biding her time and she fully expects me to fall back under her whole Disney princess spell and go back to working my butt off for her and loving her no matter what, but I’ve seen the truth now. You can’t unring a bell and she can’t unsay the venomous things she said to me when she thought I was useless, flirting with men in front of me while I blamed myself for not having work. I’ll do what’s good for me now and she’s welcome to come along for the ride, but on my terms. If not, she can take a walk. I regret marrying and if it doesn’t last I won’t marry again, but I’m just fine with that."

 

[MikelArteta]

Great story

 

[jadillac]

Alright brehs, I gotta question need some advice:

I think I'm bout to stop talking to this chick altogether.....I just dont think I can trust her, and though I tried to give myself the benefit of the doubt and be fair to her in regards to that, I pieced some signs together that tell me to just cut it off ASAP.

Problem is, I left my data cable for my phone at her place last time I was there... ....so I need to at least get that back. So I gotta play it cool/normal so I can get over there again.

Now, once I'm there:

1. Do I tell her? "Hey....this aint gonna work b/w us" Or something regarding that. I really dont feel like arguing about this though.

OR

2. Do I just go over there and leave like normal(although probably avoiding and any hug or kiss) and then just ignore her texts or calls, essentially disappearing?

Also, now that I'm looking back, I might have simped a lil or made myself appear too eager(I know...I know. SMH *lessons learned*)...but she was loving it at the time and was responsive.
Because of that, I wanna at least make sure I go out in the best way possible to make myself look like I'm leaving with the power. So that's why I'm leaning towards #2....

 

[Cory MBA]

Alright brehs, I gotta question need some advice:

I think I'm bout to stop talking to this chick altogether.....I just dont think I can trust her, and though I tried to give myself the benefit of the doubt and be fair to her in regards to that, I pieced some signs together that tell me to just cut it off ASAP.

Problem is, I left my data cable for my phone at her place last time I was there... ....so I need to at least get that back. So I gotta play it cool/normal so I can get over there again.

Now, once I'm there:

1. Do I tell her? "Hey....this aint gonna work b/w us" Or something regarding that. I really dont feel like arguing about this though.

OR

2. Do I just go over there and leave like normal(although probably avoiding and any hug or kiss) and then just ignore her texts or calls, essentially disappearing?

Also, now that I'm looking back, I might have simped a lil or made myself appear too eager(I know...I know. SMH *lessons learned*)...but she was loving it at the time and responsive.
Because of that, I wanna at least make sure I go out in the best way possible to make myself look like I'm leaving with the power. So that's why I'm leaning towards #2....

Tell her you need to pick up your data cable....

If you are not feeling her, only respond when you want or not at all.

 

[Ohene]

just disappear breh. theyll do the same to you

and anything you tell her shell try to "rationalize" why it occured or why she does it to make you feel like youre overreacting