If you’re taking care of business in the bedroom and dikking her down good along with tender loving care, you won’t be out of her good graces for long (if you screwed up and have been evicted from her good graces), well, as long as you didn’t cheat on her or something other really foul that can truly mess a woman up, damaging her heart (heart chakra).
However, for some guys, they are dikking a woman down so good that the woman is so sprung on the dikk, even if he has cheated on her, she allows him back into her good graces (and that other ‘thing’ between her legs), self-placating her emotional hurt and pain just to be with him and receive his physical pleasure. Believe me, it does happen. It usually happens with women who are dependent or suffering with codependence and/or abandonment issues, a host of other issues (e.g. low self-esteem, poor self-image, lack of self-confidence, etc.) and who are operating from their lower chakras.
It is damaged women that allow or tolerate damage being done unto them because to them it’s the norm, operating from a position of weakness or victim consciousness. It’s what they are used to. It feeds their sick appetite that has overindulged in accepting mistreatment from men and now there is addiction (subconscious demand and allowance) to the treatment or mistreatment.
Fellas, women do not like for men to kiss their ass. Usually it is simpish males (can’t call them men here) who think that by kissing a woman’s ass they are going to get or are getting into her good graces before getting into her panties. Not the case!
Women generally like for men to be men. Alpha to the heart! Not kissing a woman’s ass, especially when there is no need to, because it shows strength. It shows a man who won’t and don’t take no shyt and believe it or not, women like that. Woman like a man who can keep them under wrap. Women know they be on some petty and bullshyt at times (for some women, most of the time) and know they need checking. Some women will even subconsciously do things to a man for him to purposely put her in check. She wants it! It turns her on (sexually). Now not all woman are like this, but most are. Remember, there’s always an exception to the rule and you must be aware of that. All women are not the same so you must get to know the woman as an individual in order to know ‘her’ and what she likes.
Even if a woman wants you to kiss her ass just on some female general principle, it is in your best interest not to. Don’t always do what a woman is asking you to do. Be true to yourself as a G! If you feel like doing a thing, do it. But if you don’t, don’t! That simple! This is called being quintessentially true to one’s self and a woman will respect this trait you display. It shows that you have personal integrity and that’s an admirable and noble trait.
Back in the early 1990s, my baby brother was dating this gorgeous Creole redbone model. Baby brother was very young and inexperienced with females, especially older females, and this particular female was older than my brother. She was out there too because she had three kids by three different dudes. Like my late uncle Sam ‘The Bam’ Cunningham used to say, “pretty girsl get all the dikk they want.” My brother’s girl was no exception to the rule here. She was bangin’ (in the worldly sense) and not just because she was Creole or redbone. She had a lot of other things going for her self physically.
Anyway, one late night or actually early A.M. she called my brother up to come over to her apartment, evidently for some sex as the relationship was purely sexual. My brother didn’t turn her on or stimulate her mentally or spiritually (as she told this to me personally, justifying why she always liked conversing with myself, always a mental and intellectual cat) so their union was one of low vibrational sex.
Now it’s about 2:00 A.M. and my brother is sleepy as hell but he goes to ole girl’s apartment in Northridge, California (we’re residing in Los Angeles at the time), a long distance to travel even on the freeway. Well, when he gets there, ole girl opens the door and the first words out her mouth is: “You disgust me!” She then slams the door in his face. My brother comes home hurt and confused.
The next morning I see him and can tell something is wrong with him so I ask him, “what’s wrong?” and he tells me of the situation and tell me he’s confused at her actions. I told my little brother, “Man, you messed up by going over there.” He says to me, ‘But she called me and told me to come over and I did.” I responded, “And that’s where you messed up at.” “She wanted you to tell her ‘no!’, but you’re p*ssy-whipped and she knows it and she’s losing or perhaps already lost respect for you.” “She really didn’t want you to come over, she knew it was late as hell; she was merely testing you.” “She wanted you to tell her ‘no!’, which would have turned her on and you would have felt that the next time you had sex with her.”
Little brother didn’t know that there’s more dynamic than just sex. No matter how good the sex is, it won’t last forever (unless the couple decides to get married or stay together in a so-calld common law marriage).
Sex is never enough to hold a relationship together and this particular female was looking for an alpha male and one who could not only dikk her down good and mentally, intellectually, and spiritually stimulate her, but also guide her or offer her guidance in life.
A lot of women out there are looking for a thing or things they never got from a father, especially an absentee father. A lot of women out there are looking for a father figure, a “daddy” and in the form of a lover or boyfriend; a man who will protect her, give her guidance, keep her in check (usually from herself), help her solve her problems (that she’s the cause of in most cases), make her feel safe and secure, and most importantly, feel loved. In the sex act, she may even call this man “daddy”, a sexual term of affection, especially for a man who’s hittin’ it (stroking her vagina) right.
Back to my brother’s situation, after the sex died down, ole girl came to her senses and started requesting that my little brother help her out with her bills and debt which my brother had issues with. I tell dudes all the time, especially younger cats, that when a woman is giving you the p*ssy upfront (usually because she likes you and she wants the sex more than you), it’s not for free. It’s on consignment, or on credit. You’ll have to pay for it later, well, if you stick around, that is. Some dudes are smart enough to bounce after hittin’ it knowing what he’ll be in for if he sticks or hangs around - a step daddy to children not his own, and/or, a biological ATM machine to help her pay her bills and debts that she incurred before she met him.
I have a former best friend who is in this situation right now, with a woman who threw that P (in Anquette fashion) on him and got him whipped and now he’s taking care of her and her three children by three different baby daddies and the dude stays broke. In fact, he’s in trouble with child support services right now because he won’t pay child support for his own biological children. Sometimes p*ssy can be that good and powerful to a dude he’ll get caught up like this. Either a dude truly ‘falls’ in love with the female or he’s just a Class A simp! One or the other!
Sidenote: Anquette is the name of a 1980s Miami, Florida female rap group who released a song called “Throw That P!”
In closing, fellas, if you’re acting like a simp ass dude over a female, stop it right now before you lose her. Stop kissing her ass and cupcaking with her, trying to please her and/or get some p*ssy like you’re desperate. Cut it out, right now! She doesn’t respect you for acting like this and she may have already stopped liking you if she in fact once liked you. It’s not cool! It’s not G-ish!
Don’t always be or make yourself available for a woman. Let her know or even make her think that you have things to do and places to be that doesn’t include her. Always being at her beck and call will also make her lose respect for you. She’ll see that big ass “S” on your chest that stands for SIMP!
One more story before I close this article out:
My older brother was dating this female from the hood (of South Central Los Angeles), her name was Christine. Christine was built or stacked, as we used to say back in the day. She had ass like a Shetland pony and actually wanted to be sexually rode like a thoroughbred. She was a hood girl. But my brother didn’t have game at all. A real live simp in action. Always being at her beck and call, taking her all over the city when she called him for a ride; hell, even having him drop her off at other dudes’ house under the guise it was her girlfriends’ house. My brother was too simple (notice the word “simp” in “simple”). Too available! A proverbial ‘yes’ man and nice guy when it came to females.
These guys (nice guys) always and will always finish last (with women). They just don’t understand the female psyche and how females are wired.
Long story short, my brother didn’t take advantage of what he had in Christine. Instead of sexing her up (which is what she wanted), he preferred to only cuddle, to hug and kiss, like a simp. He would always be buying her gifts and presents, always buying and giving her big teddy bears when he should have taken my father’s advice and gave her a big teddy dikk which is what she wanted. How do I know? Well, because a young 17 year old dude from Detroit with street game came up on her, never bought her one thing, simply spat game at her and hit the skins, impregnating her too (she had his child). Now back then, folks was wondering what was wrong with Christine. How could she choose a street dude, a thug, over a nice guy like my brother. It was easy, for those of us who have and understand game, ole boy from Detroit had game, macking skills, swagger, was suave. He macked her and hit the skins in no time at all. See, Detroit dude displayed alpha male traits while my brother displayed beta male traits. My brother came off like a simp, a wussie! And that made all the difference in who she chose (to have sex with). Remember, women always do the choosing when it comes to sex (though a lot of females don’t like to take responsibility or personal accountability for their sexual choices in men and acts).
Detroit dude had no money, no car, bought her no gifts, didn’t take her out to dinner or the movies, and all the other things my brother did for Christine and yet ole boy scored without effort (pertaining to all the things nice guys do or think or believe they have to do to get some trim or to simply please a female).
Detroit dude got into her mind via spittin’ game and that was the precursor to getting some behind (ass)! That’s how it goes, fellas!
Now this is not to say that there aren’t women out there worthy of or who don’t like or desire true romance, being wined and dined, bought nice gifts, going on trips, etc. because there are (and they’re worthy of such), but they don’t want these things in place of the alpha male or alpha male traits. A dude has to be balanced. Stand his ground, go with the flow whether it’s a yes or a no (based on how he’s feeling). Not always pleasing or placating the woman at the cost of displeasing himself. He must be true to himself and then the woman will respect him and also be true to him. Women are true to men who are true to themselves.
Basically fellas, just be yourself but develop or polish your self confidence, be elusive (a mystery), have a sense of humor (keep her smiling and laughing), be intellectually and mentally stimulating (develop conversation by gaining knowledge from reading, studying, learning), get or have your money right (no romance without finance), and keep yourself well groomed. Very basic and simple rules, fellas.
In closing, kissing ass is not the way to get some ass, fellas. It’ll only get you assed out. Be a gentleman. Be considerate. Be polite. Be honest. When you’re wrong admit it (to her). But don’t kiss her ass, especially just because she wants you to! She’s testing you to see if you’ll cave in and or stand your ground. This determines if she’ll give you some (you know what)!
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at least he's done with her now.. they just had a pregnancy scare at the end of july too 
