Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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So girl i've been seeing is getting super impatient i feel, We've known each other for four months and been dating for two months. So far she's asked me when can she meet my mom, told me she wants things to move forward a little faster, even asked me that "where is this going" question :whoa:. She's told me that she is interesting in having kids in the future and i am too but i know for sure i don't want it to be right now. I told her to chill out and relax, lets take our time with this but she feels like i'm going to lose interest in her and that i kept her waiting those first two months of knowing each other. :patrice:Should i take this as a red flag?.
 

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How old is she?
Simply ask her 'why' when she hits you with these questions. If it sounds like she just want to hit milestones, ill be a bit :patrice:

Also sounds like you need to give her something to do mayn.

Whole scenario aint necessarily a bad thing if you want to be serious..but do you?

Edit: BTW in her head youve been dating for 6 months breh

So girl i've been seeing is getting super impatient i feel, We've known each other for four months and been dating for two months. So far she's asked me when can she meet my mom, told me she wants things to move forward a little faster, even asked me that "where is this going" question :whoa:. She's told me that she is interesting in having kids in the future and i am too but i know for sure i don't want it to be right now. I told her to chill out and relax, lets take our time with this but she feels like i'm going to lose interest in her and that i kept her waiting those first two months of knowing each other. :patrice:Should i take this as a red flag?.
 

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So girl i've been seeing is getting super impatient i feel, We've known each other for four months and been dating for two months. So far she's asked me when can she meet my mom, told me she wants things to move forward a little faster, even asked me that "where is this going" question :whoa:. She's told me that she is interesting in having kids in the future and i am too but i know for sure i don't want it to be right now. I told her to chill out and relax, lets take our time with this but she feels like i'm going to lose interest in her and that i kept her waiting those first two months of knowing each other. :patrice:Should i take this as a red flag?.

How old is she?
Simply ask her 'why' when she hits you with these questions. If it sounds like she just want to hit milestones, ill be a bit :patrice:

Also sounds like you need to give her something to do mayn.

Whole scenario aint necessarily a bad thing if you want to be serious..but do you?

Edit: BTW in her head youve been dating for 6 months breh

Ask her; what are your literal, concrete, actual plans in getting married and having a child?

None of that stuff is play-play.

It's easy to try to "force" a man into that situation, it's another to have plans when/before you get there.
 

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How old is she?
Simply ask her 'why' when she hits you with these questions. If it sounds like she just want to hit milestones, ill be a bit :patrice:

Also sounds like you need to give her something to do mayn.

Whole scenario aint necessarily a bad thing if you want to be serious..but do you?

Edit: BTW in her head youve been dating for 6 months breh

Ask her; what are your literal, concrete, actual plans in getting married and having a child?

None of that stuff is play-play.

It's easy to try to "force" a man into that situation, it's another to have plans when/before you get there.

She's 26 years old a few months older than me, i turn 26 this November. I'm not against getting serious but at the same time i can't lie i am enjoying the freedom i have with no kids and not married. I'll ask her why and what are the plans when we talk tonight.
 

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Brah im 26 in a few months too, that talk is so foreign to me right now.

But should the right one come along, then hey..maybe..hey..

Yeah breh when she started hitting me with those questions i was :merchant::huhldup:on the inside. At 26 we are only just getting started in life and i still got some things i want to achieve feel me?. I'll see what i can do though, she really is a nice beautiful smart woman and i don't want to hurt her.
 

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She's 26 years old a few months older than me, i turn 26 this November. I'm not against getting serious but at the same time i can't lie i am enjoying the freedom i have with no kids and not married. I'll ask her why and what are the plans when we talk tonight.
Actually that's a decent age to think about marriage. But, hopefully she atleast have a plan to go with that pressure and she's willing to collaborate and see where ya'll can meet in the middle. :yeshrug: Marriage is forever, what's the rush?
 
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brah your underestimated what ignoring these hoes does to their heads. the less attention you pay to them the more they will want you. its a fukking game to them.

This chick at my job be grillin me hard and i dont even look at her:pachaha:

She starting to "crack"..

I can feel it:leostare:

I dont do the co-worker thing, but its crazy how they try to put themselves in your view
 

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All that wait until you're 30 to get married because you'll know what you want stuff is nonsense. When you're 30, you're going to be dealing with the women that have been passed around or they got personality flaws that you haven't experienced yet for the most part. If you decide to marry a woman a lot younger, you'll also have to worry about the higher likelihood of her stepping out because she wants to be entertained by someone her age.
I'm not saying to rush into marriage as soon as possible, but if you find a high quality, moral woman, and marriage is something you actually want, then putting it off until as late as possible won't do anything but have you stuck in the minefield that is the current dating scene.
 

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So girl i've been seeing is getting super impatient i feel, We've known each other for four months and been dating for two months. So far she's asked me when can she meet my mom, told me she wants things to move forward a little faster, even asked me that "where is this going" question :whoa:. She's told me that she is interesting in having kids in the future and i am too but i know for sure i don't want it to be right now. I told her to chill out and relax, lets take our time with this but she feels like i'm going to lose interest in her and that i kept her waiting those first two months of knowing each other. :patrice:Should i take this as a red flag?.
Seems like her main motive is to get married by any means necessary. Be careful breh, use protection, dont get yourself trapped.
 

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Get this my girl got mad at me because I don't get angry supposedly. I laughed and said there is a time to be angry and this is my personality. I've been through enough situations in my life where I learn to harness my emotions, I don't scream or get upset at every little thing and there is the door because I'm not changing into some Chris Brown rollercoaster. She started to cry and said I didn't mean it like that bla bla.

And I hit back I said I don't care about your little tests I see them a mile away, and your trying to provoke me, il see you tomorrow and click.
 

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Brah im 26 in a few months too, that talk is so foreign to me right now.

But should the right one come along, then hey..maybe..hey..

I'm 31 and at 26 I had messed an engagement with my ex. We were engaged, then she wanted to move in together, I made the decision not to and realized she wasn;t the girl I could see myself with for the rest of my life. Attractive, cool but had a nasty attitude. After almost 4 years, I got beyond the looks and really knew I couldn't take that step with her. I realized our personalities just wasn't working together anymore. Mighta been my job environment and people I'd work with (white chilled folks), then I'd come back to her (hood pr chik). I started to develop more interests in things happening outside of our environments while she'd be stuck to the TV screen and trap music. shyt she'd talk about I'd have no interest in. Didn't wanna travel beyond the carribean islands like the rest of the world didn't exist. This was years ago though.

I'm starting to get the itch where I want to settle down and start a family. I will most likely marry the girl I'm with now. I've had a good run as far as women. I've smashed all types, smashed on every vacation I've taken solo, I've had one night stands, threesomes, did the long distance thing. Met some great women who helped expand my way of thinking. Don't really feel like I'm missing anything as far as women at this point.
 
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