Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[360dagod]

A girl that i used to be very cool with in college but we fell out, told my now main for 2-3 years when me n my main first met that i wasn't shyt and i was this and i was that..

now

that same girl is going around claimin that she was the one that hooked my main up with me, which is a lie.


tthoughts

A good man can never be tarnished

 

[MollyGalaga]

Nothing wrong with that. See if she's receptive bro. But if she seems distant or doesn't respond still you know what's up.

Well she responded and its much clearer

 

[chabvongaBlackus]

Way too much texting

I can understand when a nikka got that juice flowing..the thirst is serious

which way I should have gone on this one....I actually thought I texted less in tryna set a meet up quick ?

 

[satireprod]

Well she responded and its much clearer

Word? She seems down?

 

[Easy-E]

All these games we're (m & w) have to play with each other...and folk wanna get married, too...u playing games til deaf?

" Imma sleep over Steve house, tonite, can't have her thinking she and the kids "got" me."

No shots at my brehs...i get it (hate the game , not the player). But, I feel better not being in the game.

#singlessquad

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

you know you're dealing with a quality female if:

she has very few guy friends. and knows not to talk to her EXes without you having to tell her.
she knows how to cook and if she doesn't, she's very willing to learn whatever you like so u can be happy
she is not a club rat. she only likes going to parties/clubs/bars for special occasions and when she does, her man is usually with her.
she can help you save and doesnt engage in activities that'll drain your pockets
she never talks to you in a disrespectful tone in public.
when you're out with her, she may mix and mingle with others but she'll want to spend most of her time by your side
when you're out in public, she rarely makes eye contact with other men. if she does, it wont be enough for u to notice or be bothered by it. she's classy!
when you take her out to eat, she offers to pay and if u say no, she insists on at least leaving the tip -- > a girl that does this, boy, u better hold on to that.

I been talkin to one recently who fits most of the shyt you described like paying/offering to pay all that, stays by my side, only interested in me when we out. She do seem real classy but it is the bolded that concern me and why I haven't pulled the trigger on a relationship. She is out with her friends at the club quite a bit and she says she goes for them because they ain't got nobody else to chill with but it's hard to believe, she could be truthful in that she ain't there lookin for dudes but I don't know if I believe it and I don't know if it's within my boundaries to tell her leave that shyt alone. So I just ain't pullin the trigger

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

which way I should have gone on this one....I actually thought I texted less in tryna set a meet up quick ?

From reading the times it looked like she was taking a while to get back to you, I wouldn't worry about it, she was probably using you as a backup plan in case her other plans fell through and then when she realized it wasn't gonna happen she didn't want to say it wasn't gonna happen because

A) some women want to be "nice" but by doing so it makes it all the more frustrating
B) she may have contacted you another day with that "hey" outta nowhere bullshyt.

I don't think you necessarily did anything wrong, she's a young college bird. You didn't hit her up at the right time. Another night and she ain't have shyt to do she might have went for it. College broads have so many options available to them it's crazy. You gotta hit it at the right time.

Edit: Which is why it's a numbers game in college. You just talk to every broad you can. Get dozens in your phone. You're bound to hit one who might not have any plans. Spend all Freshmen/Sophomore year racking up #s, social media, whatever. If you can't hit in the first year good chance they will be around Junior year on some "we shoulda chilled sooner" bullshyt. It don't matter. You ain't gonna wife a broad in college.

 

[VFib]

which way I should have gone on this one....I actually thought I texted less in tryna set a meet up quick ?

Why didn't you just call her? Why all the texting to set up a date?

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

Why didn't you just call her? Why all the texting to set up a date?

She might not have picked up the phone, I can't fault him there. Texting is their comfort zone. They don't have to be quick on their feet and they can easier hide their intentions. If he called she probably wouldn't have answered, they fold under pressure situations like that

This is how it goes in 2015 unfortunately

 

[Jesus]

Once you finally get that stride as a man and know your worth...dealing with the females is easy. You nikkas with the manuals on picking up women and the repeated attempts at chasing a single one. Have a backbone and know the shyt you won't put up with. Don't be afraid to say no and call their bluff. Follow your gut and stop chasing when you know it's futile....trust your instinct when she feels trifling.

If you have to engage her with the convo and questions all the time...fukk it. Even the shy ones can reciprocate the interest and pick your brain for a change.


Maybe I'm brazen from years of bullshyt...

Dating this one for almost 2 months now and she's lovely...I don't want to fall in love and be vulnerable though.

 

[sfgiants]

*This post is more about dating in a college town, if you're just trying to get laid some of this may apply but not as much so

I have to admit, I've had a rough time dating women in my 6 years of being in a college town. (I'm in law school, hence why 6 years)

I'm a good looking guy, in shape and hopefully with a good future in front of him but I'm naturally a really shy person and when I try and be outgoing I think it probably comes off as forced (I know it feels forced). I feel like I'd be a good boyfriend or whatever to a woman but very few women in a college town that are at least somewhat attractive seem interested in a not douchey guy. That said, looking back on the various women I've talked too, I've noticed a trend:

- Can't be too aggressive with the texting. It's so dumb but messaging a girl too much comes off as desperate. Girls get impressed when you get them to text last as dumb as that sounds. Or when they feel compelled to start the convo. Also, don't always text them immediately back. Sometimes it's ok but sometimes wait an hour or two, this shows her you're not too desperate and you have a life going on but it also gives you the chance to think of a really good response to what she says.
- Can't be too aggressive trying to see the girl either or it comes off as creepy. I've noticed when I leave a cooling off period in between trying to see a girl I get a much better response as opposed to like texting her the next day after seeing her already trying to set something up. If you're not bf/gf, no real reason why you should try and see a girl more then 1-2 times a week for the first few months.
- Try to come up with with a variety of things to do together. Not just drinks and not just food either. Do something active that shows you're fun outside of restaurant/bar setting. When planning stuff, take initiative but plan something unique.
- Get in situations where you'll take pictures with her and she's likely to post them on social media. Being on her social media reinforces the idea of your friendship...or something more. Sort of goes back to the unique date idea. Go to like the state fair or for a hike somewhere cool or something different and casual and notable that she's going to want to take a picture with you at.
- Don't forget about your guy friends:
1. They make the cooling off period in between women much better
2. It makes you more attractive to girls you have reliable guy friends. Shows you're not a loser/creep basically. They think it's weird/there's something wrong with you if never have any friends around when you see her. She doesn't even have to be there. Even like just snapchatting her something goofy with a bunch of guy friends in it helps a lot. Or posting on IG/FB a pic with your crew, she'll see it.
- Don't forget about your family either. Girls want to be wives and/or moms one day and they want to see you care about your family.
- Dress well: doesn't have to be brand name but make sure your clothes fit right, matches, is ironed and has no stains.
- Get a hobby. At my school I was really involved in SG. Not only are there a lot of girls in SG but it showed I had more on my mind then just boning girls 24/7.

I think most of all, something I was bad about for a while is TAKE IT SLOW AND PACE IT. Now that doesn't mean go so slow it lets other guys jump in, but I quickly realized that girls get turned off if you're trying to schedule too many things too quickly or trying to talk too much. Girls are being chased by lots of guys and although many of them want a bf, they don't want a big time commitment right after meeting you. They want to do their due diligence and be eased into it and they need to be convinced they need to commit to YOU over everyone else. Anyone can send a girl a text everyday. It comes down to quality over quantity. I feel like from the time you first meet a girl, it's realistic to expect 3-5 months minimum before you're a thing, no matter what you do. And no one wants three months of "what's up" or "got any plans tonight" texts. If she likes you, she'll start asking you to hang beyond the 1-2 times per week you see her that you plan and that's when you know it's escalating into something more.

Dating culture is kind of ridiculous, they want you to seem only half-interested at first. Don't let them think they've "got you" because if they do then you lost.

Uh... Taking selfies with bytches is what's being recommended here now

This just seems like way too much effort. Planning photo ops and shyt in advance. I rarely took pics with my ex and I as with her for 3 years.

 

[duncanthetall]

I've been getting regular p*ssy for the past couple weeks. Not dating a chick but we're having good sex and are pretty good friends. More may happen later down the road and the friendship/fukking will probably end tragically Lmao. But for now it's great and all I can really deal with in a female right now.

It's just crazy how other birds out of nowhere just seem to come at me right now. Not really monogamous with this one chick now or anything but I don't have much reason to be fukking a bunch of randoms. It's like they can smell the other p*ssy on me

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

which way I should have gone on this one....I actually thought I texted less in tryna set a meet up quick ?

You kept tryna set something up when she kept flaking.
Shoulda just fell back and waited for her to let you know she was down to go out.

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

I been talkin to one recently who fits most of the shyt you described like paying/offering to pay all that, stays by my side, only interested in me when She do seem real classy but it is the bolded that concern me and why I haven't pulled the trigger on a relationship. She is out with her friends at the club quite a bit and she says she goes for them because they ain't got nobody else to chill with but it's hard to believe, she could be truthful in that she ain't there lookin for dudes but I don't know if I believe it and I don't know if it's within my boundaries to tell her leave that shyt alone. So I just ain't pullin the trigger

Even If you tell her to leave the club alone dont mean she will. (Especially since she's not in a relationship with you)

If she wants to go, she'll go whether you like it or not.
She might still be trying to seek attention/validation from other dudes.

 

[VFib]

She might not have picked up the phone, I can't fault him there. Texting is their comfort zone. They don't have to be quick on their feet and they can easier hide their intentions. If he called she probably wouldn't have answered, they fold under pressure situations like that

This is how it goes in 2015 unfortunately

Wow. This is only true for daters 25 years old and younger right? Just...wow.