Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MollyGalaga]

She's making it very clear that she doesn't want to take it to that level, she respects you guys friendship, and she's not over he last ex breaking up with her. Believe her and don't press the situation. Any thoughts of you being able to change her mind about you two, toss that shyt out the window and continue to move on with your dating life. If you play this back and fourth with her, you will get burned and will only have yourself to blame because she is clearly telling you right now what she doesn't want.

"doesnt want to take it to that level"
"was all up on me saturday before, then texted me she had fun basically she wanted to do that"

The problem is you are getting pulled into her pace. fukk all of that dramatic mess.

I would not mess with a female who daddy died recently and was involved with any Man during that time period. She will never forget his ass and there's too many Women in the world who don't have daddy issues to be bothered with that mess. Now I've met Women whose daddy died when they were younger and they are strong and resolute (in the true sense, not fake) but they are few and far in between.

Lol, i think shes a strong one but like these guys below said scatterbrained.

I know you like this girl, and I can see that youre trying to pull her into fukking and being her friend with benefits, but she really isnt at a stable place in her life mentally. this could get so messy for you. I recommend you stay cool with her and dont fukk her at this time. show some restraint and LISTEN when she tells you that shes in a bad place. and if you look at how shes iffy and back and forth with her actions, then that is also her telling you shes really not ready.


if she ever gets ready then Im sure youll be someone she hollers at. but you, for you sake and hers, I would say let her have some space. I would not fukk her. shes really scatterbrained like breh said and it looks like shes isnt all there.

i want to, but not really, more so tryna start a relationship with her. right now tho im tryna just be there for her like theres few ppl i really care about and she's one of them.

I can't really read the text message it's too small. But from I could make out sounds like she's still grieving over the dad and boyfriend leaving. Or she could be playing the sympathy card. How'd he meet her, online ikr or old acquaintances?

Not online, known her for almost a year, but her cousin and my sister are real good friends. Thats not how i met her tho.

Maybe he'll come back and explain how he met her, not sure. I mean I get everything in her life is hectic right now BUT if I recall right, when he asked was she still with her boyfriend she said "No but I talk to somebody though" which means she's not messed up enough to be messing around/sleeping with the other guy right?

read above i explain how i met her. I THINK she was lying when she said that. Cause no way.

I really hate this backburner shyt that some women do. If you're gonna give me my L, let me gracefully take it and be about my way. But folks just have to keep a finger on something they don't want, just to know they have it. Some selfish shyt right here.

huh you gonna have to explain this one to me. So her making out with me is her way of keeping her finger on something she doesn't want?

So what happened at the party? Did you fukk?

I got a rule: don't fukk with broke chicks. Has nothing to do with money. She seems like she got some deep emotional shyt going on that you may not wanna be involved with long term. She sounds way too dependent. Obviously there's the daddy thing. Sounds like she used her ex as a crutch. No one should be depending on anyone else for happiness. That's a clear sign of instability.

If you decide to move forward (and I would caution against that given her apparent state, but I don't know her or the situation), I'd stick to short answers to dissuade this kinda talk. You trying to fukk or be this chick's therapist? That's with any chick. Don't allow her to make you into a texting buddy. If you keep texting long paragraphs then that's exactly what you will become in her eyes. Anytime she's feeling down she's gonna text you. Don't be that guy. Keep your answers short and direct. And kinda be a dikk. Chicks love that.

No we didnt fukk but made out. Honestly ion know what i want. I wanna fukk but i want to be there for this girl. And trust me i don't think shes gonna make me a texting buddy. She's doing the read n dont reply thing again she does. Which is funny cause i know as soon as i leave her alone n stop texting her shes gonna pull the "hey stranger" text or "don't text me no more" in person which she always does

 

[MollyGalaga]

Hope I quoted everybody who said something n wanna know details. Shes prob def not right in the mind but you know I care about her too much to just toss her around n away. Even tho she does read n dont reply (lol) im sure she really likes me (im going by all the times shes still talked to me when i told her i wasnt talking to her/her cousin told me she really likes me) but doesn't wanna get hurt again right now
Def gonna keep a distance away from her tho to be safe, but ion know. Anybody else with more advice quote me id appreciate it.



Crazy this is not the first chick who's being crazy towards me. Another story for another time but just know what goes around comes around.

 

[PinotNoir]

@the bolded you think so? Why do you say that? Just curious.

I just don't want to get someone who is just living "that" life (Partying/Hollywood) We've both seen the stories of couples where one person has been with everyone in that small community(both men and women do this) and I just would like to avoid that . Want someone cool, reserved/low key, not that that's impossible for someone in that industry, just saying.

@the underlined sounds like a story there lol

Overall, I know you're right. Patience is a virtue. Yeah most of law school (end of 1st year until now) I've been going through the process of bringing this project to life. Just learning the business from everyone that's been doing it for twelve,15, 20 years. On weekends, catching flight for different meetings and then flying back home on Sunday night so I could be in class on Monday morning. And yeah if casting this upcoming week goes well, then shooting the pilot is the next big step.

What I mean about the industry is that so many you'll get to work closely with who are women and not to mention the ones you'll meet at various events. The options to date would be there.

I know how it feels to want to someone you could build with and try to make things work. I've hit a couple of guys with the going with the flow even though I really liked them at the time but to hear a guy say it is so different. I'm a bit wiser now and know what I want and have determined that going with the flow is a bunch of baloney lol...I'll leave it at that!

The industry is so large and you'll get to meet so many people. Have you thought about doing entertainment law?

 

[satireprod]

What I mean about the industry is that so many you'll get to work closely with who are women and not to mention the ones you'll meet at various events. The options to date would be there.

I know how it feels to want to someone you could build with and try to make things work. I've hit a couple of guys with the going with the flow even though I really liked them at the time but to hear a guy say it is so different. I'm a bit wiser now and know what I want and have determined that going with the flow is a bunch of baloney lol...I'll leave it at that!

The industry is so large and you'll get to meet so many people. Have you thought about doing entertainment law?

Oh ok i get what you mean about the industry, its a lot of people around it. I kind of always imagined my lady as a professional 9-5 woman, who knows. Cant be dismissive of the possibilities, right?

Going with the flow is cool...until it isnt! Lol

Ive thought about doing entertainment law as a lot of the artists I know want me to look over their contracts (which are generally pretty standard if theyre coming from big studio networks). Plus I'll already be around the people i need to be around to do my art thing lol

 

[kevm3]

You know sometimes we sit back and look at mice and rats and think how stupid they are for grabbing a piece of cheese that they see on a trap, but we as men are little different. Just switch a bit of cheese for a fine woman with an amazing body and most men will rush into the trap KNOWING they are about to get destroyed, but they don't care. Just look at all of these athletes and musicians and the women they choose to make their wife.

 

[satireprod]

You know sometimes we sit back and look at mice and rats and think how stupid they are for grabbing a piece of cheese that they see on a trap, but we as men are little different. Just switch a bit of cheese for a fine woman with an amazing body and most men will rush into the trap KNOWING they are about to get destroyed, but they don't care. Just look at all of these athletes and musicians and the women they choose to make their wife.

That analogy

 

[kevm3]

That analogy

I can understand your struggle of wanting to find that woman that will build with you before you make it as opposed to attracting fame junkies and money groupies. It's very difficult in this day and age man. There are very little sources nowadays giving women the information of what it takes to be a great wife. Rather, society is teaching them to be pseudo-males, and hence we have all this dysfunction nowadays.

 

[satireprod]

I can understand your struggle of wanting to find that woman that will build with you before you make it as opposed to attracting fame junkies and money groupies. It's very difficult in this day and age man. There are very little sources nowadays giving women the information of what it takes to be a great wife. Rather, society is teaching them to be pseudo-males, and hence we have all this dysfunction nowadays.

Yeah man trying to find a woman before you get success is like a catch 22 now.
Pseudo-males , thats like a perfect description of some women..aka Think like A Man...when the Act like a lady part gets ignored (not that I agree with Steve's philosophy but I know a lot of women do)

 

[Jesus Shuttlesworth]

No we didnt fukk but made out. Honestly ion know what i want. I wanna fukk but i want to be there for this girl. And trust me i don't think shes gonna make me a texting buddy. She's doing the read n dont reply thing again she does. Which is funny cause i know as soon as i leave her alone n stop texting her shes gonna pull the "hey stranger" text or "don't text me no more" in person which she always does

Don't you see? You just discovered the secret to women.

When you stop sweatin em they can't stop sweatin you.

You're living proof of this so why would you go back to texting paragraphs to any chick?

You said it yourself, breh. I've said it a thousand times. Indifference is the key with women.

Don't fall into them bullshyt ass "hey" texts. She's seeking your attention. Tell her your time is valuable by not responding for at least an hour. And then hit her with an equally valueless "sup" or something. You start texting your life story she's just gonna think "oh yeah, I still got this one" and just ignore you. Yall boys be in here posting this stuff then continue to do it over and over?

Do you want arthritis in your thumbs and no response from a chick, or to be care free and have her jockeying for your attention? I don't understand yall, brehs.

 

[TRUEST]

Don't you see? You just discovered the secret to women.

When you stop sweatin em they can't stop sweatin you.

You're living proof of this so why would you go back to texting paragraphs to any chick?

You said it yourself, breh. I've said it a thousand times. Indifference is the key with women.

Don't fall into them bullshyt ass "hey" texts. She's seeking your attention. Tell her your time is valuable by not responding for at least an hour. And then hit her with an equally valueless "sup" or something. You start texting your life story she's just gonna think "oh yeah, I still got this one" and just ignore you. Yall boys be in here posting this stuff then continue to do it over and over?

Do you want arthritis in your thumbs and no response from a chick, or to be care free and have her jockeying for your attention? I don't understand yall, brehs.

homeboy has already screwed up too many times with all that unnecessary texting. the only thing he can do now to redeem himself is if whenever SHE hits him up, he goes:

her: her stranger
him: hey u! good to hear from u. how are u?
her: im great. u?
him: me too. havent seen u in a while. i miss u. when are u free to get together
her: (any response she gives here that isn't a definite time should NOT be responded to)

Talk about reward. if her response to a meetup is not to the liking of the guy, ur punishment is the removal of your attention.

eventually, or very soon, she'll learn to attribute her foolishness to your lack of response. and she'll get in line on her own. but i havent read too much of what ol boy been posting. seems to me she aint feeling him like that and he needs to fall the fucck back.

 

[360dagod]

homeboy has already screwed up too many times with all that unnecessary texting. the only thing he can do now to redeem himself is if whenever SHE hits him up, he goes:

her: her stranger
him: hey u! good to hear from u. how are u?
her: im great. u?
him: me too. havent seen u in a while. i miss u. when are u free to get together
her: (any response she gives here that isn't a definite time should NOT be responded to)

Talk about reward. if her response to a meetup is not to the liking of the guy, ur punishment is the removal of your attention.

eventually, or very soon, she'll learn to attribute her foolishness to your lack of response. and she'll get in line on her own. but i havent read too much of what ol boy been posting. seems to me she aint feeling him like that and he needs to fall the fucck back.

Thats a no-no

 

[TRUEST]

Thats a no-no

lol. trust. its all mind games.

 

[360dagod]

lol. trust. its all mind games.

it becomes a dignity thing at this point.

when your in his position, he gotta at least act like he's got other women..

simply ask for a date to meet up...

she dosent give an answer of liking...fukk it

 

[chabvongaBlackus]

Sharing knowledge ..... I agree fully with what's below though sometimes I don't follow

Now, here's what happens when you DO cold approach:

• The 93% of women (or whatever it is) who aren't interested in you lose a minute or two politely turning you down, and get both a bit of annoyance ("Do I REALLY have to tell this guy I'm not interested?") and a bit of a self-esteem boost ("I am SO in demand")
  
  
• The 7% of women who think you're clever and amazing and attractive are THRILLED because they've met you and they like you and it's wonderful
  
  
• YOU get great interactions with women, get dates, get laid, get girlfriends, hone your social skills, develop a social intuition that makes you better able to avoid the women who aren't interested and home in on the women who are, and turn yourself into the kind of really attractive man that most women only rarely get to meet and interact with
  

 

[Youseenmywork]

it becomes a dignity thing at this point.

when your in his position, he gotta at least act like he's got other women..

simply ask for a date to meet up...

she dosent give an answer of liking...fukk it

I plan on writing a post reason on why men should act like they have other women in the life all the while bettering themselves...and there lifes