Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

This is helping a nikka out tremendously. i been outta the game for a hot lil minute, so this is preparing me for the swan dive back into the dating scene....

My question for the panel is: how do you let go completely? i know that my marriage is over and I need to skate, but my mind is always telling me that i should try to work it out. but there is CLEARLY nothing left to work out. we still live in the same house, so it's hard to move on and see her face/interact with her everyday. what do i do?

just envision your ex is out there not thinking of you hving a great time, canoodling and cavorting with others, talking to new guys and telling them how horrible of a ex you were. that she has no feelings for you and you are hte last guy on earth she would ever want to be with at this point.


when a woman loses feelings for you its done its over, right now your just a friend to her, seeing her everyday and interacting makes things harder, i have a ex that lives on my street, even if you hurting inside be non chalant, when ou talk dont talk about "us", if it has nothing to do with the kids or bills say nothing.

this is when it gets tricky when women tell you suddenly dont care and slowly detaching away, she may start to act nice, give you a blow job or sex, to draw you back in and if you fall for it, you will be thinking those thoughts hey maybe we can work it out again, only to be hit the it was just a mistake, i still love you steve just not like that

the key is to be a step ahead, you kno in your mind shes prob out screwing around or talking to otehr guys, so why stay grounded? throw your pic on a dating site, go to a bar come home late, its none of her business what you do,

 

[TRUEST]

This is helping a nikka out tremendously. i been outta the game for a hot lil minute, so this is preparing me for the swan dive back into the dating scene....

My question for the panel is: how do you let go completely? i know that my marriage is over and I need to skate, but my mind is always telling me that i should try to work it out. but there is CLEARLY nothing left to work out. we still live in the same house, so it's hard to move on and see her face/interact with her everyday. what do i do?

fucck as many women as you possibly can after a bad breakup.

i dont care what anyone on here says. i've been through bad breakups and nothing, i repeat NOOOOTHING healed my heart faster than the feeling of new puccy. not just any puccy, top notch puccy...if you can get them. top notch puccy means a fine asss chick who u're actually not embarrassed to be seen with in public.

sh1t. i remember my last bad breakup. the pain was indescribable. i hurt to the core of my bones. my thoughts were heavily saturated with distorted memories of past moments of bliss. to say that i wasn't hysterical would be an outright lie. i surely was devastated. this i wont deny. melancholy violated me with several stabbings of depression. sadness and utter sorrow rained down upon me with a torrential force. i thought the end was near. i wondered how could i ever regain my happiness.

but i tell you, the first date i went on after that breakup. it was like the girl i met was heaven sent. within a few weeks, my heart started to rejoice. my soul danced a dance of jubilation. i gleamed with joy. why? all because i met new women who treated me like a king.

so, my friend. if u are dealing with a bad breakup, FUCCCK AS MANY WOMEN AS YOU CAN. just being in the company of someone gorgeous who adores u is strong enough of a cane for you to stand on. fuccking that gorgeous woman (or women) regularly, will get u back on your feet faster.

stay blessed!

 

[Atlrocafella]

just envision your ex is out there not thinking of you hving a great time, canoodling and cavorting with others, talking to new guys and telling them how horrible of a ex you were. that she has no feelings for you and you are hte last guy on earth she would ever want to be with at this point.


when a woman loses feelings for you its done its over, right now your just a friend to her, seeing her everyday and interacting makes things harder, i have a ex that lives on my street, even if you hurting inside be non chalant, when ou talk dont talk about "us", if it has nothing to do with the kids or bills say nothing.

this is when it gets tricky when women tell you suddenly dont care and slowly detaching away, she may start to act nice, give you a blow job or sex, to draw you back in and if you fall for it, you will be thinking those thoughts hey maybe we can work it out again, only to be hit the it was just a mistake, i still love you steve just not like that

the key is to be a step ahead, you kno in your mind shes prob out screwing around or talking to otehr guys, so why stay grounded? throw your pic on a dating site, go to a bar come home late, its none of her business what you do,

fucck as many women as you possibly can after a bad breakup.

i dont care what anyone on here says. i've been through bad breakups and nothing, i repeat NOOOOTHING healed my heart faster than the feeling of new puccy. not just any puccy, top notch puccy...if you can get them. top notch puccy means a fine asss chick who u're actually not embarrassed to be seen with in public.

sh1t. i remember my last bad breakup. the pain was indescribable. i hurt to the core of my bones. my thoughts were heavily saturated with distorted memories of past moments of bliss. to say that i wasn't hysterical would be an outright lie. i surely was devastated. this i wont deny. melancholy violated me with several stabbings of depression. sadness and utter sorrow rained down upon me with a torrential force. i thought the end was near. i wondered how could i ever regain my happiness.

but i tell you, the first date i went on after that breakup. it was like the girl i met was heaven sent. within a few weeks, my heart started to rejoice. my soul danced a dance of jubilation. i gleamed with joy. why? all because i met new women who treated me like a king.

so, my friend. if u are dealing with a bad breakup, FUCCCK AS MANY WOMEN AS YOU CAN. just being in the company of someone gorgeous who adores u is strong enough of a cane for you to stand on. fuccking that gorgeous woman (or women) regularly, will get u back on your feet faster.

stay blessed!

the advice in this thread..No wonder this is one of the most viewed threads on this site.

 

[winb83]

fucck as many women as you possibly can after a bad breakup.

i dont care what anyone on here says. i've been through bad breakups and nothing, i repeat NOOOOTHING healed my heart faster than the feeling of new puccy. not just any puccy, top notch puccy...if you can get them. top notch puccy means a fine asss chick who u're actually not embarrassed to be seen with in public.

sh1t. i remember my last bad breakup. the pain was indescribable. i hurt to the core of my bones. my thoughts were heavily saturated with distorted memories of past moments of bliss. to say that i wasn't hysterical would be an outright lie. i surely was devastated. this i wont deny. melancholy violated me with several stabbings of depression. sadness and utter sorrow rained down upon me with a torrential force. i thought the end was near. i wondered how could i ever regain my happiness.

but i tell you, the first date i went on after that breakup. it was like the girl i met was heaven sent. within a few weeks, my heart started to rejoice. my soul danced a dance of jubilation. i gleamed with joy. why? all because i met new women who treated me like a king.

so, my friend. if u are dealing with a bad breakup, FUCCCK AS MANY WOMEN AS YOU CAN. just being in the company of someone gorgeous who adores u is strong enough of a cane for you to stand on. fuccking that gorgeous woman (or women) regularly, will get u back on your feet faster.

stay blessed!

or you could just let it go. you don't have to carry baggage around if you don't want to. in fact the only way to carry and baggage around is voluntarily. saying you need to fukk other chicks to get over one is like saying you're dependent on women for how you feel. you fukk those chicks cause you want to but they should have nothing to do with helping you get over a relationship.

ultimately you have to give yourself permission to let it go. you're simply setting a requirement of fukking with these other women before you give yourself permission to let it go. you could skip the requirement and be ok because you know how to let go and life goes on.

 

[TRUEST]

or you could just let it go. you don't have to carry baggage around if you don't want to. in fact the only way to carry and baggage around is voluntarily. saying you need to fukk other chicks to get over one is like saying you're dependent on women for how you feel. you fukk those chicks cause you want to but they should have nothing to do with helping you get over a relationship.

ultimately you have to give yourself permission to let it go. you're simply setting a requirement of fukking with these other women before you give yourself permission to let it go. you could skip the requirement and be ok because you know how to let go and life goes on.

telling someone who is brokenhearted to "let it go" is a pretty ridiculous thing to say. would u tell a man who got shot in the leg to walk it off? would u? of course not.

heartbreak isn't a physical baggage u hold on to. it is a leech that attaches to the heart. the only way to get that leech off is to loosen its grip on you. and the way to loosen the grip is through involving urself with other women.

when ur suffering from heartbreak. one of the thoughts that dominates ur mind is what ur ex is currently doing. and who is currently blowing her back out. if ur dumbass is out in the gym or with a bunch of guys doing dumb sh1t that dont involve women, its only gonna intensify ur hurt because u wont be able to stop thinking of ur ex.

if ur too busy digging through the legs of other women, u aint gon have time to be thinking about ur ex.

a broken heart is really like a half filled glass of dirty water. if u keep pouring clean water into that cup, eventually, all or at least MOST of the dirty water will wash out of the cup. and the water that will be left in the cup will be much cleaner than it was.

clean water = new women
dirty water = memories of ur ex
glass/cup = your heart

 

[Swing]

telling someone who is brokenhearted to "let it go" is a pretty ridiculous thing to say. would u tell a man who got shot in the leg to walk it off? would u? of course not.

heartbreak isn't a physical baggage u hold on to. it is a leech that attaches to the heart. the only way to get that leech off is to loosen its grip on you. and the way to loosen the grip is through involving urself with other women.

when ur suffering from heartbreak. one of the thoughts that dominates ur mind is what ur ex is currently doing. and who is currently blowing her back out. if ur dumbass is out in the gym or with a bunch of guys doing dumb sh1t that dont involve women, its only gonna intensify ur hurt because u wont be able to stop thinking of ur ex.

if ur too busy digging through the legs of other women, u aint gon have time to be thinking about ur ex.

a broken heart is really like a half filled glass of dirty water. if u keep pouring clean water into that cup, eventually, all or at least MOST of the dirty water will wash out of the cup. and the water that will be left in the cup will be much cleaner than it was.

clean water = new women
dirty water = memories of ur ex
glass/cup = your heart

I think that shyt works for some people...and for others it really doesnt. I broke up with my girl and the same night I was over at some chicks house and she topped me off... That shyt made me feel even worse I aint gon lie

 

[MikelArteta]

I think that shyt works for some people...and for others it really doesnt. I broke up with my girl and the same night I was over at some chicks house and she topped me off... That shyt made me feel even worse I aint gon lie

yep only for some ppl it works, everyone is different, i know in certain situations exes of mine were just constantly in my mind, i was comparing everything even the sex, the girls didn't measure up lookwise to my exes because after a breakup your ex seems hotter than she really is because you can't have her. As well you may also get messed up thoughts like oh if i sleep with this chick hen for sure its over giving up that last faint of hope.

time and no contact is the best remedy

as a man esp if you wre in a relationship with a beautiful woman (look wise) and it was a ltr and you were faithful, you basically have to learn to ride the bike again, it gets discouraging esp if you have to keep in contact with a ex, how easy it is fo rher having a bunch of guys talking to her wanting to get into those pants, while you sitting at home googling, watching porn or striking out at hte bar. Why it is important to view youself as the prize, know it was a privilege for her to even be with you. I always say of myself I AM GREAT, and every chick who has the privilege to be called reincar girl knows it, when you view yourself as this and know its true, yeah she may have 100 guys after her like any chick does.

 

[jadillac]

My best friend a few years ago found out his wife was cheating on him.

They'd been married for a little over a year but had been together for 7 years before geting married.

Once she lost feelings for him or lost confidence in him, he said it was over. Towards the end of tehir relationship, around Christmas, he bought her a $1,000 Coach purse she had been wanting. Didn't change a thing, she never even said "Thank you." And he was working TWO jobs at the time to help provide and make sure she was comfortable.

He used to call me and come over damn near in tears and angry b/c she would be talking/texting, on & off the phone to some other dude she worked with, but he didnt have any hard proof of her cheating yet.

I think some of her friends at work basically dimed her out and confirmed it to him.

I dont know how he got over it, I dont know if he fully has b/c that was his wife and someone he was with a LONG time, and he's only 29.....but you just move on. ESPECIALLY when you as a man never did anything wrong on ur end.

But he's fine now and happy b/c he said he feels "free".

So go out with other women. Hang out with them just for fun. Get comfortable being a single man again. Don't necessarily go out with them in hopes of marrying them or even sleeping with them. Just have fun.

 

[jadillac]

To me, it seems that women are like pendulums.

I have a cousin, love her to death, she's more like my sister than cousin.....but when she meets someone she'll be telling me about it and it seems like they're in love and he's "this and this and this and that..." she's changing her fb pic to something related to the guy......few weeks later I'll ask her about the same guy and she's like "Mmmm "

All these stupid ass movies like the Notebook and other chick flicks dont help either. Alot of Women are gullible and they believe in fairy tales and they believe that they are these movie characters, and many of them see themselves in scenarios they see in these movies. They watch movies and see characters having an affair and they imagine themselves taking a day off of work and spending it with the other guy and they go and make love in hopes they dont get caught and the drama and excitement are what draws them.
"Leaving the nice guy, to follow ur heart, find true love with the guy who you never thought you'd be with, but deep down you feel he's the one"

They're always on end or the other end of the spectrum....especially these "modern women". Our mothers and aunts aren't typically the women we are describing in this thread.

And like many have said in this thread, they'll justify in their mind(to distance themselves from accountability) that their actions are perfectly logical and justified. "Well we weren't compatible sexually....so I needed to explore with other men to fulfill my needs....I'm a woman, an adult, its my body and I have a right to do so."

 

[sixsixtwo]

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[MikelArteta]

My best friend a few years ago found out his wife was cheating on him.

They'd been married for a little over a year but had been together for 7 years before geting married.

Once she lost feelings for him or lost confidence in him, he said it was over. Towards the end of tehir relationship, around Christmas, he bought her a $1,000 Coach purse she had been wanting. Didn't change a thing, she never even said "Thank you." And he was working TWO jobs at the time to help provide and make sure she was comfortable.

He used to call me and come over damn near in tears and angry b/c she would be talking/texting, on & off the phone to some other dude she worked with, but he didnt have any hard proof of her cheating yet.

I think some of her friends at work basically dimed her out and confirmed it to him.

I dont know how he got over it, I dont know if he fully has b/c that was his wife and someone he was with a LONG time, and he's only 29.....but you just move on. ESPECIALLY when you as a man never did anything wrong on ur end.

But he's fine now and happy b/c he said he feels "free".

So go out with other women. Hang out with them just for fun. Get comfortable being a single man again. Don't necessarily go out with them in hopes of marrying them or even sleeping with them. Just have fun.

He got married to early, Divorce rate is highest when marrying a broad like 18-24.
average first marriage lasts 7 years not surprising for your friend.

And It sucks as a man getting played, your friend had to learn the hard Way, you can love cherish, be faithful and still get screwed over. It doesn't matter If you take a bullet for her give her a kidney or buy her a purse she wants, when the feelings are gone its done over.


And as a man it's frustrating you don't know what to do, the best thing you can do is nothing and quietly exit, many women get into the affair fog, and some guy they just met or their ex is everything while you are nothing.

It doesn't matter how much game you have, how good you look or how rich you are, when she loses it for you it's done it's over, counseling none of that works

As a man who was almost married once and been in other ltrs, it's just not worth it, it's literally a ticking time bomb. It's not even per say dealing with custody and divorce, or payments. It's the peace of mind, the heartbreak.

The pain in your chest when your ex wife is screwing someone else and there is nothing you can do about it.
at that life.




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[MikelArteta]

To me, it seems that women are like pendulums.

I have a cousin, love her to death, she's more like my sister than cousin.....but when she meets someone she'll be telling me about it and it seems like they're in love and he's "this and this and this and that..." she's changing her fb pic to something related to the guy......few weeks later I'll ask her about the same guy and she's like "Mmmm "

All these stupid ass movies like the Notebook and other chick flicks dont help either. Alot of Women are gullible and they believe in fairy tales and they believe that they are these movie characters, and many of them see themselves in scenarios they see in these movies. They watch movies and see characters having an affair and they imagine themselves taking a day off of work and spending it with the other guy and they go and make love in hopes they dont get caught and the drama and excitement are what draws them.
"Leaving the nice guy, to follow ur heart, find true love with the guy who you never thought you'd be with, but deep down you feel he's the one"

They're always on end or the other end of the spectrum....especially these "modern women". Our mothers and aunts aren't typically the women we are describing in this thread.

And like many have said in this thread, they'll justify in their mind(to distance themselves from accountability) that their actions are perfectly logical and justified. "Well we weren't compatible sexually....so I needed to explore with other men to fulfill my needs....I'm a woman, an adult, its my body and I have a right to do so."

Amen
Time Is the great equailizer, my best friend is a female who I've known since I was a wee little lad, this chick has dated the worse of the worse, been in abusive relationships, cheated on numerous times, guys just hit it and quit. Then she finally got a decent guy, a guy who appreciated her, was working, treated her like a queen, and then she ends up cheating on him and dumping him because she "found someone better" oby for that someone to impregnate her and jet and now she's a single mom.

This is how a lot of women think, after years and years of dealing with no good men they finally get a good one, then suddenly think hey I can do better only to then realize in the long run.

This is why when you hear women talking about settling down run. Settling means to overlook faults, looks, morals rules that you set.

This is why I rarely feel sympathy for any woman, any single mom out there for the most part past up good honorable men, you reap what you sow.


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[sixsixtwo]

 

[sixsixtwo]

"When a woman has a high partner count and has to tell it honestly to a man she REALLY likes, she holds off or fudges not because she’s afraid he won’t be able to take it, worried about a double standard or any other such nonsense. She is finally made aware of what her sexuality means and truly IS ashamed of her past actions and is trying to rewrite the past rather than acknowledge it."

All Woman Lie About Their # of Sex Partners! | Don Diva Magazine

 

[sixsixtwo]

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