Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Malta]

Yup it's all manipulation tactics, all these jocks are alive and well and probably never even think of you.

Like I said yesterday I even had chicks cut themselves and show me the marks,
How there going to run away from him. Chicks willing to do any and everything,
Young women are masters at this.

Ask any man here whose over 25 if they are still with the same girl they were at 21

Yeah man, the ex before my current girl used to say all this shyt too, I always corrected her on some "Oh, you can't live without me, so how'd you live this long prior to me".

why must it be so hard? I feel its inevitable too

I hear you guys though. *sigh*
It's so hard because this kinda knowledge will have you paranoid and fukking shyt up in the process. But then the paranoia with have you feeling like a naiive fool if you dont make it known. I dont know man. It's a lottery at the end of the day...we'll see what numbers roll uo

Enjoy your time with her, but understand this is most likely not going to be the woman you ultimately end up with. Use a condom whatever you do, I rolled the dice a lot when I was younger and luckily never got any of my exs pregnant.

It's not naive breh, most of the dudes in here are older and went through what you're going through right now. Enjoy her company, but keep all thoughts of some long lasting future out of your head and take it day to day, she will change more in time than you will. You don't even need to be paranoid, just keep it in the back of your mind, and do not think she is perfect or even close, nobody is.

 

[Ohene]

Yeah man, the ex before my current girl used to say all this shyt too, I always corrected her on some "Oh, you can't live without me, so how'd you live this long prior to me".



Enjoy your time with her, but understand this is most likely not going to be the woman you ultimately end up with. Use a condom whatever you do, I rolled the dice a lot when I was younger and luckily never got any of my exs pregnant.

It's not naive breh, most of the dudes in here are older and went through what you're going through right now. Enjoy her company, but keep all thoughts of some long lasting future out of your head and take it day to day, she will change more in time than you will. You don't even need to be paranoid, just keep it in the back of your mind, and do not think she is perfect or even close, nobody is.

thats what I'm tryna do breh.
peep the question in the edit;. Would you discuss it with the chick down the road ? I wonder if something like thats ever been done.

probably pointless right? cant let em see you sweat either

 

[Malta]

thats what I'm tryna do breh.
peep the question in the edit;. Would you discuss it with the chick down the road ? I wonder if something like thats ever been done.

probably pointless right? cant let em see you sweat either

You can discuss it, but at the end of the day she might not know what she wants, women can be fickle. She's just so young that she will grow, and with growth comes problems.

There's nothing beta about it either, you just trying to find out if there's a future there. I don't play games in any way, I'm pretty much up front with women how I'm feeling good or bad. I'm a difficult person to read so I have to tell them what I'm thinking.

 

[Ohene]

exactly. The fairweather mentality of women is the worst part.

also I'm still in the stage where she says I'm hard to read and figure out...we all know that this can be a game to these women and then once they have you they get bored. I just try and keep her on her toes not even deliberately.

One thing I do know though is to listen to old heads.
Ive said many times that when we get our first girl we are all so enthralled that we ignore the advice passed down thinking nah, these dudes are bitter or idiots until we go through it ourselves. All the shyt yall tell me believe me, i know already and the stuff I dont I will certainly take it into account.

Thanks brehs.

I try to be direct too. quick Story about that in a second...busy at work

 

[MikelArteta]

Man but just because your sister and her husband did it doesn't mean it will be the same for you.

My parents been married for 30 years, my sister has only been in two relationships in her life the first one ended and she was heartbroken, the second one she married and theyve been together for 4 years and have two kids.

My sister is only a year and a half older than me. That's the luck of the draw I've been given.

Just got to tread carefully if she's feeling distant or you feel something is going wrong don't avoid it same with red flags

Looking back at all my young relationships a month or two in there is always something that I knew was wrong but the girl seemed so good i just let it go

 

[Malta]

exactly. The fairweather mentality of women is the worst part.

also I'm still in the stage where she says I'm hard to read and figure out...we all know that this can be a game to these women and then once they have you they get bored. I just try and keep her on her toes not even deliberately.

One thing I do know though is to listen to old heads.
Ive said many times that when we get our first girl we are all so enthralled that we ignore the advice passed down thinking nah, these dudes are bitter or idiots until we go through it ourselves. All the shyt yall tell me believe me, i know already and the stuff I dont I will certainly take it into account.

Thanks brehs.

Just enjoy her company and learn from this relationship, if it's meant to be a long lasting one, it'll happen. If not, just chalk it up to the game and move on, and since you're only 21....travel my dude, do not let a relationship stop you from seeing the world.

The world > All women that aren't related to you, it's the greatest gift we got.

As a man, becoming worldly and well traveled should be the number 1 goal above all else, not the pursuit of money or relationships, the pursuit of new experiences and things your eyes have never seen before.

 

[Ohene]

i need that 2014 Brazil World Cup in my life.

But if I transfer schools i wont graduate debt free and cant afford it...then again that school has the best recruiting fo rfinance so the summer internships will hold me down.

 

[jadillac]

why must it be so hard? I feel its inevitable too


would you guys recommend discussing this with her down the road even?

Look breh. Take all of what we're saying as possibility for and advice for a "what if"....that way if she does flip and change, you won't be blindsided and go into a depression shell or lose ur mind like some men do.

Until then, relationships are something you have to dive into. You can't love from a distance. So enjoy it as long as things are fine.

Perhaps you found a girl who you will marry and spend your life with.....but at teh same time, don't let ur life hinge around her. People can change.

Whatever you do, at this stage, DO NOT tip ur hand as to let her know you feel like She should see you as someone who has other options, whether you do or don't.

 

[Scustin Trillberlake]

The audacity of this broad.. Can't be serious..

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Funny thing is, that list is pretty much Western women in a nutshell. Has to be a troll job it is so obvious. That lists actually teaches us a lot about how these women think/feel.

 

[sixsixtwo]

ladies how many men have you "slept" with - Topix

"My beloved would be horrified at my total, I was a wild, wild chick who could't get enough, from the age 20-28 I always had 3-4 guys on call, I must have done well over a 100, sounds a lot but not for 8 years."

"I had had all my share of white, black, spanish, indian before i got married (atleast 50 so far)...every one them unique and pleasant in a certain way."

"I am 34 and have been married for 9 years. Including my husband I have slept with 26 men.He thinks the number is 10.No sense bringing up the past we are happy."

"I'm 23 years old and lost my virginity at 15. In the last 5 years I have slept with only 2 people. Between the ages of 15 and 18 I slept with 55 different people. None of them were one night stands or one timers. I had a lot going on and my coping mechanism was to find comfort in the fact that guys found me attractive enough to take me to bed. I have worked hard to keep away from temptation, but even now if I get stressed I find myself wanting to 'hook up' with anyone.


I've slept with married men, my best friends boyfriends, my brothers friends, work colleagues, family friends, complete strangers and even a guy with a 30 year age gap. In a group of 8 guys that are all friends with each other I have slept with all of them, but they don't know about each other.


I'm not proud of my past, I didn't tell my previous partner because I was scared he would hate me for it. I told my current partner not long after we first got together, telling him I wasn't that girl anymore, but if he felt like he couldn't cope with my past then I would understand. We have been together for 2 years now and happily living together and recently engaged. Like I said I still struggle now not to go finding someone, but all I have to do is look at him and feel safe and wanted."

 

[Fatboi1]

ladies how many men have you "slept" with - Topix

"My beloved would be horrified at my total, I was a wild, wild chick who could't get enough, from the age 20-28 I always had 3-4 guys on call, I must have done well over a 100, sounds a lot but not for 8 years."

"I had had all my share of white, black, spanish, indian before i got married (atleast 50 so far)...every one them unique and pleasant in a certain way."

"I am 34 and have been married for 9 years. Including my husband I have slept with 26 men.He thinks the number is 10.No sense bringing up the past we are happy."

"I'm 23 years old and lost my virginity at 15. In the last 5 years I have slept with only 2 people. Between the ages of 15 and 18 I slept with 55 different people. None of them were one night stands or one timers. I had a lot going on and my coping mechanism was to find comfort in the fact that guys found me attractive enough to take me to bed. I have worked hard to keep away from temptation, but even now if I get stressed I find myself wanting to 'hook up' with anyone.


I've slept with married men, my best friends boyfriends, my brothers friends, work colleagues, family friends, complete strangers and even a guy with a 30 year age gap. In a group of 8 guys that are all friends with each other I have slept with all of them, but they don't know about each other.


I'm not proud of my past, I didn't tell my previous partner because I was scared he would hate me for it. I told my current partner not long after we first got together, telling him I wasn't that girl anymore, but if he felt like he couldn't cope with my past then I would understand. We have been together for 2 years now and happily living together and recently engaged. Like I said I still struggle now not to go finding someone, but all I have to do is look at him and feel safe and wanted."

This the type of shyt that makes me rather not talk about the past. If I had a chick currently and knew about that I'd probably drop her like a hot pot.

 

[Sensitive Blake Griffin]

ladies how many men have you "slept" with - Topix

"My beloved would be horrified at my total, I was a wild, wild chick who could't get enough, from the age 20-28 I always had 3-4 guys on call, I must have done well over a 100, sounds a lot but not for 8 years."

"I had had all my share of white, black, spanish, indian before i got married (atleast 50 so far)...every one them unique and pleasant in a certain way."

"I am 34 and have been married for 9 years. Including my husband I have slept with 26 men.He thinks the number is 10.No sense bringing up the past we are happy."

"I'm 23 years old and lost my virginity at 15. In the last 5 years I have slept with only 2 people. Between the ages of 15 and 18 I slept with 55 different people. None of them were one night stands or one timers. I had a lot going on and my coping mechanism was to find comfort in the fact that guys found me attractive enough to take me to bed. I have worked hard to keep away from temptation, but even now if I get stressed I find myself wanting to 'hook up' with anyone.


I've slept with married men, my best friends boyfriends, my brothers friends, work colleagues, family friends, complete strangers and even a guy with a 30 year age gap. In a group of 8 guys that are all friends with each other I have slept with all of them, but they don't know about each other.


I'm not proud of my past, I didn't tell my previous partner because I was scared he would hate me for it. I told my current partner not long after we first got together, telling him I wasn't that girl anymore, but if he felt like he couldn't cope with my past then I would understand. We have been together for 2 years now and happily living together and recently engaged. Like I said I still struggle now not to go finding someone, but all I have to do is look at him and feel safe and wanted."

I know a whore who keeps a list of all the people she fukks, she has a kid too, but she is actually hot as fukk.

 

[winb83]

Also, I know it sounds weird & opposite of what alotta dudes say, but it'd be wise to NOT look at women just for sex.

Why? Because when you do you can wind up making a fool outta yourself because ur eager to hit it, or you appear to be thirsty. Then, whether she knows it or not, she has that(sex) hanging over ur head. And it clouds ur judgement about her in general b/c ur looking past flaws and red flags cause you wanna hit it. You'll spend money you'll regret later and or waste time you'll regret later, or behave like a simp ALL because of sex.

I think Reincar posted a link several pages back in this thread that said you should jack off before going out on a date with a new girl...

It sounded crazy when I read it....but when you think about it it makes sense. Because then when you go out w/ her you'l be thinking with your brain, and you'll make better assessment about her apart from a physical attraction.

I don't know that I'd do it....but it makes sense.

p*ssy has no real value. men psych themselves out into thinking it has value because for the most part women maintain an air of selectivity about who they give their particular p*ssy to.

thing is every woman has a p*ssy so that kills its value. add to that there are more women in the world than men. if the greatest trick the devil ever pulled was convincing the world he didn't exist. the greatest trick women ever pulled was convincing men p*ssy has any real value.

i'll take it a step further. you can provide your own sexual gratification without p*ssy. you can masturbate, experience sexual pleasure, and get a nut no p*ssy involved further diminishing the value of p*ssy. sure sex is the greater experience but i got a 42 inch TV in my home. i know they make 70+ inch TVs with a better picture than i got but my 42 does me fine. sure i'd like a bigger TV but i don't have to have it.

if all women have pussies and beyond that men can provide their own sexual gratification whenever they want on the spot then why do males put so much time and effort into getting p*ssy?

beyond the biological drive the other answer is ego. the male ego is his greatest enemy. its a lie he tells himself about himself that even in the back of his mind if he knows it isn't true he goes to great lengths to protect it and pretend as if its real. like emotions it often leads him into actions that aren't in his best interest.

 

[winb83]

This the type of shyt that makes me rather not talk about the past. If I had a chick currently and knew about that I'd probably drop her like a hot pot.

what difference does it make who's been with her before you? as long as she's STD free why would you even care? that's your ego flaring up. you wanna in a way posses her and have her be yours and yours alone. on some shyt where it's as close as possible to you taking the factory sealed wrapper off her vagina and owning it ever since then.

really though who she was with before you is irrelevant in the face of her having no STDs.

 

[Fatboi1]

what difference does it make who's been with her before you? as long as she's STD free why would you even care? that's your ego flaring up. you wanna in a way posses her and have her be yours and yours alone. on some shyt where it's as close as possible to you taking the factory sealed wrapper off her vagina and owning it ever since then.

really though who she was with before you is irrelevant in the face of her having no STDs.

Hypothetically speaking lets say some chick you was eyeing was already smashed by one of your relatives and you found out later. Now you want to still smash this girl and you like her a lil but knowing that someone else you know already did that how would that make you feel?