Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Been talking and dating this chick but it feels like I text or call too much so I thinking on falling back and seeing if she gonna contact me. What's y'all take on this?
One thing I've learned in dating scene is that you can't control a woman's actions. As long as you're confident in what you're doing, then it's fine. Only change when you feel like it. Of course, ideally, the woman should show equal interest as well but I wouldn't hold my breath for it. Communicate with her and let her know how you feel about always being the one to initiate contact. Never be afraid to ruffell some feathers. You as a man want her to know that what she doing isn't okay. Either she falls in line or you move on.
 

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As I sit back and look at my healthy savings and checking account, I'm remembering all the frivolous spending I did on these chicks in the past, and most of them aren't even around today :snoop:

Brehs, don't try to win a chick with your money, be wise and save that shyt instead. Be smart with your spending, if you wouldn't spend it on any other day, don't play yourself trying to spend it and show out for these women.
 

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It never works, because that chick can get someone else who has more money than you.

Find a woman who likes you for you



As I sit back and look at my healthy savings and checking account, I'm remembering all the frivolous spending I did on these chicks in the past, and most of them aren't even around today :snoop:

Brehs, don't try to win a chick with your money, be wise and save that shyt instead. Be smart with your spending, if you wouldn't spend it on any other day, don't play yourself trying to spend it and show out for these women.
 

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from what i've heard and I'm VERY intrigued. I've yet to meet one though :mjcry:
 

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Just aren't a priority, best to just delete, get on with your life and if they contact you again you can take it from there or not


Phone works both ways, breh.

This chick I met on Tinder, I noticed I was the only one initiating the convo.

She was super responsive whenever I would contact her, but she would never text or call first.

So eventually I just quit talking to her. :manny:
 

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As I sit back and look at my healthy savings and checking account, I'm remembering all the frivolous spending I did on these chicks in the past, and most of them aren't even around today :snoop:

Brehs, don't try to win a chick with your money, be wise and save that shyt instead. Be smart with your spending, if you wouldn't spend it on any other day, don't play yourself trying to spend it and show out for these women.

Yep, all those women are nowhere to be found and a woman that is actually interested in you for you doesn't require you to pay for these lavish dinners and to 'ball out' in order to get her attention.
 

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As I sit back and look at my healthy savings and checking account, I'm remembering all the frivolous spending I did on these chicks in the past, and most of them aren't even around today :snoop:

Brehs, don't try to win a chick with your money, be wise and save that shyt instead. Be smart with your spending, if you wouldn't spend it on any other day, don't play yourself trying to spend it and show out for these women.

Real talk.

I'm mad if I spend even $25-30 on a woman and then she disappears out of my life.

It's not even the money so much as the principle.

I was going on a 2nd date with this chick a few weeks ago and we were going to this swanky happy hr social spot. She had a voucher for them for a free meal or something.

So we get there and she tells me there's a 45 min wait. So we both agree to go elsewhere. So we walked over to this other little casual restaurant across the way. We go in, she orders, then I order....and she sort of falls back as the cashier tells me the total.

I didn't make a big deal of it bc it was only like $15....BUT my thing is, the other place we were supposed to go to first was basically going to be free.
But bc we ended up going elsewhere, now I'm the one paying.

Principle.
 

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How do you guys deal with performance anxiety? I'm 26 and I don't have a lot of experience and I think this and the pressure to be good and live up to a women's expectations make me unable to enjoy it and be in the moment. It also effects my erections as well. I really wish I could stay out of my damn head
 
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How do you guys deal with performance anxiety? I'm 26 and I don't have a lot of experience and I think this and the pressure to be good and live up to a women's expectations make me unable to enjoy it and be in the moment. It also effects my erections as well. I really wish I could stay out of my damn head



Work on the areas of weakness first. You have to put the work in thoe and be willing to make a mistake. I think also you have to have hobbies that you truly love. I say this because it gets you out of your head and your hobbies relax you. So when a women rejects you or what not it coo it will be other and you have a life outside of women...which IMO is very important a life you enjoy that is. Either women can deal with who you really are assuming you re confident in your approach or they can step off. You have to be cutt throat with these women breh but it's going to take practice on your part. I subject listen to the black phillip show on YouTube.
 

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How do you guys deal with performance anxiety? I'm 26 and I don't have a lot of experience and I think this and the pressure to be good and live up to a women's expectations make me unable to enjoy it and be in the moment. It also effects my erections as well. I really wish I could stay out of my damn head
Not a dude obviously, but you are putting too much pressure on yourself. I never take it that serious. Sex is supposed to be fun. You're not that experienced and that's ok. Just put in work and practice. Find a chick that you are comfortable with even if it's just a friend with benefits and have fun just trying out different things, look up techniques, do your research if that will give you a bit of confidence. But the best thing to do, if you "mess up" even though you can't really, is laugh it off. When you act awkward, you make the situation and the other person feel awkward. Just laugh it off and try again. The best fun I had was with my ex, just trying out new things, some worked, others didn't but we didn't let that stop the fun.

Like the other dude said trying new hobbies will help you become used to being vunerable, used to getting over the feeling of being inexperienced, and getting out your comfort zone. Sex is when people are the most naked and vunerable. You gotta be comfortable with yourself.

Plus, if you can eat and get her off first, she won't mind as much if you cum quick or can't get it up cause she'll be happy and satisfied and might even just return the favor.
 

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How do you guys deal with performance anxiety? I'm 26 and I don't have a lot of experience and I think this and the pressure to be good and live up to a women's expectations make me unable to enjoy it and be in the moment. It also effects my erections as well. I really wish I could stay out of my damn head
stop jacking off so much. When you're having sex you should be too horny to think about anything but the girl in front of you.
 

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Why do females assume that they're always goin to be hot and they're always goin to have guys chasing after them?

Because of the internet. The internet has made even mediocre looking women online divas whose inboxes are flooded with messages. When you're getting that kind of attention, it's no surprise that they can be super selective. If I was a mediocre looking dude, but had 20 messages a day from different women, I'd feel like I was the bomb and I'd be heavily screening them too. Also, when it's said and done, most people don't have the foresight to realize that their primes don't last forever.
 

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so I get a text from an old chick talking about "I think we should try to date each other one more time" :dahell:, right before Valentine's Day huh? This chick wasn't trying to get down when I wanted her, wasn't completely over her ex, didn't really trust guys, and etc.

When you miss the boat with me, you just miss the boat. I have no room to entertain anymore women.
:mjlol: brehs this chick keeps texting me random shyt. She just hit me saying "so I'm making seafood chowder and sausage..."

:lolbron:She's really trying to win me back. I respect that she realizes the error of her ways, but it's too late, she already got replaced :umad:
 
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