Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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@Malta @kevm3 yo brehs im kinda heated at how much of a fool i was believing shyt she said. She told me the reason her and her ex broke up was because he had a daughter she didn't know about. But check how i look in her twitpic folders and see a pic from 09 of her holding that little baby girl in a pic with dude titled "My step daughter". bytch i thought he cheated on you and got another bytch pregnant??? Hoes really love to lie about their pasts im glad we broke up tho for real...


My mindset has always been, if they lie about one thing, chances are they're lying about another. Good thing you broke up with her, no way you can stay around someone you don't trust. My ex used to lie about damn near everything, I was a sucker at the time though cause she looked extremely good, and she was really nasty when it came to sex. But, once the fog cleared I started to think what if this chick burned me, what if this chick got pregnant, what if I had to be with her for the rest of my life.


A dishonest person, man or woman is not someone I want around me, so a woman that I'm dealing with is on a 1 strike policy. Lie once, and it's pretty much a wrap.
 
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It's kind of funyn reading the comments section here:
More wives paying husbands alimony after divorce | 7online.com

where they are talking about more women are starting to get hit with alimony payments. it's funny now how when they are affected, it's all about, "We need to make the system fair. I shouldn't have to support another grown adult..." But when they were getting pay-outs, it was 'get-em girl!!!"
 

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some real gems in here, but dam i aint tryin to read all of it :noah:

ive seen too many dudes, young and old, get caught up off of females. im not tryin to be one
 

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Learn how to cut women off completely.

Women are over zealous and think by default they are smarter than us in terms of relationships and scandals.

If she acts up, dismiss her with no hesitation. Once a woman realizes you do not factor emotion into making decisions, she has no power over you.

That's why women argue, they need you bring you into an emotional state so that they can dominate.

Never fight for a woman. KevM says it all the time. Don't keep a woman who doesn't want to be kept.

Learn to read red flags to make future predictions. People do change, but it's gradual. Are you willing to bet your next 10 years on it?

Tell her that you don't think it's gonna work and move on to the next.

The next thing is to be respectful.

Any form of disrespect is you showing emotion and lettin her know she hurt u with her actions. When she realizes this, she will butter you up and if your mood changes to extreme happiness, then she knows she has you. She has identified herself as your source of happiness. Never allow your world or emotional state to revolve around a woman.

So don't curse, don't tell, don't argue. Jut politely end your dealings with her. Don't linger neither. No smart comments on Facebook, no talking to mutual friends about her, no subliminal messages ever. Just move on with your life.

She's gonna talk shyt and probably call u every name in the book for next month or two, but overtime she will respect you for standing your ground (which makes you more desirable). she'll never forget about u, yet it's irrelevant because u moved on. Lol.

Reputation means everything. What u say and do affects it. Keep that in mind when dealing with women and emotions.
 

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If you have her email go to pipl.com and search for it, you will find blogs, dating sites, old myspace accounts

If you meet a chick from a dating site I guarantee she's on all of them, when I was using for example datig sites I met a check from okcupid, she deleted her profile but she was also on pof actively logging in daily.

I know folks say don't check bla bla, time is the most important thing you have in life, don't blow it on someone who doesn't deserve it.

If your buying a used car your getting th car fax, you want to know about the previous owner so why wouldn't you if your getting serious with someone
 

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@Malta @kevm3 yo brehs im kinda heated at how much of a fool i was believing shyt she said. She told me the reason her and her ex broke up was because he had a daughter she didn't know about. But check how i look in her twitpic folders and see a pic from 09 of her holding that little baby girl in a pic with dude titled "My step daughter". bytch i thought he cheated on you and got another bytch pregnant??? Hoes really love to lie about their pasts im glad we broke up tho for real...

Breh remember women end the majority of relationships and hop to the best dude ASAP, never believe a word women say about their exes.

Look at chicks out there who cheat on their man and find a new girl instantly, you think she's tellin her new bf that she cheated last relationship?
 
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Fun times:

"My wife's libido vanished when she got pregnant with our first and never recovered. I'm still looking for it, mostly without her help, since she simply deprioritizes it and tries to tell me it's just her body getting older/recovering from pregnancy... even though she's only 32, and our youngest kid is already 5.

The thought of me sleeping with other women has crossed my mind, but what I really want is for her to resume many pre-kids acts that she was happy to give before (bj's, doggystyle, her on top, her awake the whole time, her making noise). She's told me "just don't bring std's home" when I mention how she would feel if I had to go to other women to get the kinds of sex I crave, but I would be quite enraged and jealous if she slept with other men, because of the possibility of her giving to another man what she refused to give to me for the past several years. So I'm afraid to act."
 

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Everyone knows my stance on insider trading of your investment

Keylogger
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If you have her email go to pipl.com and search for it, you will find blogs, dating sites, old myspace accounts

If you meet a chick from a dating site I guarantee she's on all of them, when I was using for example datig sites I met a check from okcupid, she deleted her profile but she was also on pof actively logging in daily.

I know folks say don't check bla bla, time is the most important thing you have in life, don't blow it on someone who doesn't deserve it.

If your buying a used car your getting th car fax, you want to know about the previous owner so why wouldn't you if your getting serious with someone

Wouldnt call it insider trading as thats illegal breh :ehh:

This is merely just securities analysis. Financial statements, economic trends, checking out news and forecasts, volatility and risk measuring...the whole 9 :manny:

I googled my girls name when I was away from her (before we were exclusive) just so I could see what shes saying on twitter and see how hew trip was going. Everything was good. Found her website where she sells weave to girls and books people for makeup artistry and I was impressed. My girls a hustler :lawd:

Only thing I did find was from some blog way back. Some girl in high school was dissing her anonymously on some immature hater shyt. Was from 2009 though so I lowed it
 

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Moms gone wild: '40-year-old reversion'

Editor's note: Shanon Cook is an entertainment contributor for CNN and has
interviewed Peter Gabriel, Sting, Britney Spears, Kanye West, Mariah Carey, Alicia Keys and Yo-Yo Ma. Cook grew up in Australia and now lives in New York with her husband and daughter. Follow her on Twitter @ShanonCook.

(CNN) -- In a shocking article on TheAwl.com, author and mother Amy Sohn writes that moms in her affluent Brooklyn neighborhood are going through something called "the 40-year-old reversion." The tedium of raising children, she says, is driving moms in her circle out at night to party to the extreme as if they were 25 again.

Sohn likens the scene to the HBO show "Girls," which depicts life in New York for the post-college crowd: "...We're masturbating excessively, cheating on good people, doing coke in newly price-inflated townhouses, and sexting compulsively—though rarely with our partners. Our children now school-aged, our marriages entering their second decade, we are avoiding the big questions—Should I quit my job? Have another child? Divorce?—by behaving like a bunch of crazy twentysomething hipsters. Call us the Regressives."

It's a grim portrait of parenthood and marriage. And cringe-worthy tales of a drunk mom falling down the stairs while leaving a party and a mom who went to third base in the back of a minivan with a man who wasn't her husband could make a person who's thinking about getting pregnant hit the pause button. Sohn's salacious revelations have some people suggesting she made it all up: Her new novel comes out in August, after all. (When I contacted Sohn directly and asked if everything she wrote was true, she referred me to her publicist, who said the author wasn't doing interviews until the book releases.)

But when I think about it, I've encountered plenty of this mischief myself, particularly the cheating. A former co-worker once described how a mom of three threw herself at him on a business trip, claiming she was having a hard time at home and really needed to have sex with him or she'd die. Sort of like he was a missing vitamin.
CNN\'s Shanon Cook
CNN's Shanon Cook

If there's an uptick in Moms Gone Wild behavior among the Brooklyn co-op set, it wouldn't be anything new. Heck, if "Mad Men" is any measure, this generation's mommies were regularly tucked into bed by parents already three sheets to the wind before heading out to the neighborhood key party.

Cultural depictions of modern motherhood tend to be much tamer, however. When I became a mom, I never expected I'd go out nearly as much as I do. I thought I'd always be home knitting mittens, singing lullabies and falling into exhausted sleeps on top of my husband.

Sure, I do all that stuff (except the knitting). But I also go out for cocktails and adult conversation every couple of weeks or so.

Mind you, the first time I hit the town post-baby was a bit of a disaster. New York was in the grips of the worst blizzard it had seen in decades. But I was oblivious; I'd barely been outside since my daughter's birth three weeks earlier. And the intensity of new motherhood combined with winter confinement was seriously tugging at my sanity.

A kind of courtship: Finding a mom friend in the big city

"It's snowing pretty heavily out there," my husband cautioned.

"It is? We'll see," I said, zipping up my boots.

As soon as I stepped outside, I was waist-deep in snow. But instead of going back indoors like a normal person, I waded oafishly through the powdery sea of white to get to the cab.

Over drinks with friends at a bar downtown, I shared baby pictures on my phone, my eyes misting with pride. I laughed loudly at everyone's jokes -- even the average ones. It felt so wonderful to be out in the world again!

But by the time the joint was clearing out, the storm had progressed mightily. Cabs and subways could no longer operate. I was stranded. So I did what every good parent warns you not to -- I accepted a ride from a stranger who was voluntarily circling the city in an off-road vehicle rescuing lost souls and delivering them home. My eyes scrunched shut the whole way uptown, I prayed that this nice man wasn't going to feed me to his rottweiler. I also prayed my daughter would never do anything this stupid.

There's something about New York City that makes misbehaving seem a little less like misbehaving. It's like the city dares you to take risks and try new things while seductively whispering in your ear, "I won't tell anyone." I once struck up a conversation at a bar with two ladies in their early 40s, both married with kids, who were very comfortable admitting they were having affairs.

"My one piece of advice," one of them told me like it was a given I'd eventually need to know the ins and outs of cheating. "Delete ALL your text messages. Delete, delete, delete."

I'm jealous of my baby -- a Mother's Day confession

Another sliver of wisdom, this time from a PR executive and mother of two grown children, was that if I was ever tempted by another man I should "jump in with both feet" regardless of my marital status.

"Falling in love isn't something you should ever pass up," she said.

Even if it might tear my whole family apart?

Of course it's not just a New York thing. When having dinner at a pub in Montclair, New Jersey, my girlfriend, a local, started pointing out patrons she knew who were at the bar cheating on their spouses. They were all parents and none of them seemed to be looking over their shoulders. Later she introduced me to a couple with kids who decided to make their marriage an open one after the wife's affair with a neighbor was exposed.

Perhaps it's not so hard to see how some of this happens. To save money on sitters, it's often just one parent who goes out. After a few rounds at the bar, mom might start to actually feel a little on the single side. And her susceptibility to do something nutty might correlate to the challenging -- even desperate -- day she had.

While I've not made out with a bartender or snorted cocaine off the back of a toilet seat recently, there has definitely been some less-than-honorable after-dark behavior since I became a mother. Sometimes you've just got to blow off a bit of parental steam.

Nights out with my newly single friend Claire are often something to behold. One time we got into a heated, alcohol-fueled argument at a SoHo bar with a bunch of lawyers because one of them told me my dress was awful. The argument concluded when Claire threatened to take all the lawyers outside and "hit their faces." Then there was the time, emboldened by a couple of glasses of white, I told a stranger his girlfriend reminded me of a prostitute I'd seen in the paper. Claire scolded me and said I needed to work on channeling my inner Kate Middleton.

Celebs and civilians alike expected to 'bounce back' after baby

While there's nothing wrong with a mom embracing her precious moments of freedom, there is certainly an old-fashioned expectation swirling that once thou hast procreated, thou shalt be home by 8 p.m. While enjoying the conversation at a concert after-party well past midnight a few months back, I kept getting worried glances from a dad.

"Shouldn't you be at home?" he said. "Should we get you into a cab soon?"

Clearly his wife doesn't go out. After a while he just went quiet around me, as though he suspected that my partying was indicative of deep problems at home.

Au contraire. Truth be told, I actually enjoy going out more now, simply because I'm a parent. There's a sense of accomplishment that I haven't felt before, having co-created this awesome little creature who giggles her way through the day. These days I feel lighter and happier when I'm on the town. I laugh more because my baby constantly reminds me how funny we all are. I relax more because I know it's useless wasting rare moments away from the house on being uptight.

Also, the pressure's off. I'm one of the lucky ones who doesn't have to size up every dude in the bar to see if they fit the husband mold. My husband is at home playing video games or dozing peacefully in the room next to my sleeping kid. Or, even better, it's date night and he's right in front of me topping up my wine. My nights out end the same way, with me going back to a home that makes me happy.

I'd like to think I'm progressing, not regressing. Sure, I'm not perfect, as a few benders with Claire can attest to, but I seem to be getting the balance down.

Meanwhile, the party moms who delight in taking things into the danger zone didn't invent the art of smoking illicit joints and having tawdry affairs. They're just keeping the torch (or bong, or hot sex flame, whatever the case may be) alive. Yes, it's all been done. The question is, will it be their undoing?

Revisiting battlegrounds of the sexes

Do you know moms who've gone overboard in an effort to blow off a little steam? Share your experiences in the comments section below.

Moms gone wild: '40-year-old reversion' - CNN.com
 

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Sad. That mentality is making women act like that even when they pushing middle age. Never marry to an extroverted women that was raised in the land of the beast: America.
 

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Man that's what's so serious. The husband is at home, babysitting the kids... paying all the bills and all of that. These women are 'going out' with their girlfriends, meeting some young dude and letting him go to town... and they aren't feeling regret. They think they are 'keeping the torch lit.' This is exactly what happens when you start being with these women for a long time and they go cold out of nowhere. They've found someone who they've already let get it, and they like the thrill of someone new.

These women feel not an ounce of remorse, but rather see it as some kind of fun, taboo adventure. How exciting to sneak out on the guy taking care of you, doing the nastiest things imaginable right under his nose without him knowing and coming home to give him a big kiss after her 'fun romps.'
 

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It's kind of funyn reading the comments section here:
More wives paying husbands alimony after divorce | 7online.com

where they are talking about more women are starting to get hit with alimony payments. it's funny now how when they are affected, it's all about, "We need to make the system fair. I shouldn't have to support another grown adult..." But when they were getting pay-outs, it was 'get-em girl!!!"

Kev How do you feel about certain celebrity relationships? I know you can never tell 100 percent from the outside looking in.....but I am seriously starting to think that Jay is one of the few guys to have a rare women that genuingly is fitting everything we are talking about......

Guys need to follow the direction like he did alot more and marry UP.

I think alot of guys get confused by marrying up and assumes that it means you look for a woman who literally makes more than you. But not necessarilly, it can be a successful independent woman. Look at what happened when Tiger married a "nanny". :dead:

The problem is that its pretty much a crapshoot because even when you do follow the method of marrying up, because of how complicated women are.......problems still end up occuring anyway.

Another note to make pages back in here someone brought up about staying away from women who are far too enamored with Marilyn Monroe.......well you can also replace Kim Kardashian with that, and especially those girls who say they "love her". You don't have to hate her to show your not a hoe........but at least be indifferent to her or critical of someone like her.

For someone to put their facebook statuses about how much they "LOVE" a person like that kind of makes them sketchy to me. Even if it is an older female family member like your own mother.......it is giving you hints that they could have possibly been a certain way when they were younger or could still be that way.

:shaq:

Another thing I cannot be the only person in here annoyed as fukk by those men especially around my college campus that do that corny ass cuddling something like where he has his head in her breasts and she is rubbing his head........and this dude is making kiddy noises

Instead of holding your head up like a real man and having her put her head on the shoulder....not the other way around or as a "team".

But if you say this to people they will say your being overdramatic when in all actuality it is true, because look at how these guys who are hugged up all so close emasculating themselves act like in the relationship .....

And those guys who are aggressive with their women who think they are "brandishing their prize" by grabbiing her t*ts and ass in public,etc think they are being alpha when in all actuality when you think about it, its actually thirsty attention whoring.

Because think about it for a second.......







If you are showing them off THAT MUCH, its pretty much in the same vein as simping and your no different than a simp; This is gonna end up giving her an inflated ego even if your a stereotypical brolic "alpha" who thinks their women is so impressed with them.

I cringe whenever going to classes and seeing these "Oh baby i love you so much" fruitcups
 

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Sad. That mentality is making women act like that even when they pushing middle age. Never marry to an extroverted women that was raised in the land of the beast: America.

Not saying an introverted girl cannot also be this way but it definitely is more rare.

I feel more calm when around those introverted girls who are SINCERELY down to earth and not just a narcisstic loud mouth gold digger putting "down to earth" on her resume or facebook profile to butter herself up.

Being around those women who are genuingly down to earth and have been conditioned well by their parents is the most beautiful thing...

:wow:

Hearing conversation about things other than Facebook, Twitter, sexy pics they put on Instagram, Rihanna, Chris Brown, Rihanna, Chris Brown, Beyonce, Chris Brown, Robyn Fenty, .....and some of these women are gonna be nursing majors......... I don't know how some of them can be so intelligent in fields like that and yet dumb and shallow at the same time :snoop:


It has always been the most hilarious thing to me hearing some of them talk about how mean or much of an a$$hole their father is, when they probably were spoiled by them when younger.......

:comeon:
 

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Not saying an introverted girl cannot also be this way but it definitely is more rare.

I feel more calm when around those introverted girls who are SINCERELY down to earth and not just a narcisstic loud mouth gold digger putting "down to earth" on her resume or facebook profile to butter herself up.

Being around those women who are genuingly down to earth and have been conditioned well by their parents is the most beautiful thing...

:wow:

Hearing conversation about things other than Facebook, Twitter, sexy pics they put on Instagram, Rihanna, Chris Brown, Rihanna, Chris Brown, Beyonce, Chris Brown, Robyn Fenty, .....and some of these women are gonna be nursing majors......... I don't know how some of them can be so intelligent in fields like that and yet dumb and shallow at the same time :snoop:


It has always been the most hilarious thing to me hearing some of them talk about how mean or much of an a$$hole their father is, when they probably were spoiled by them when younger.......

:comeon:

a lot of women didn't grow up with a father. So that's why they so damn emotional. Women like that are usually bratty and rude as fukk. Sometimes, their father instilled them of that princess mentality and look at society now :skip:
 

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Jay Z made the right move in that situation. He didn't come simped out with it like Nas. He got with a woman that has just as much if not more than him. In other words, he reversed the game on the woman. Nas, with Kelis, had all this sympathy for her and put a go-getter on a pedestal because she 'understood his story' or some nonsense like that. But prior to that, this was the girl talking about her milkshakes brings all the boys to the yard. Now I don't necessarily believe Beyonce will be monogamous, but if she does end up cheating, Jay ain't going to be forced to give her all this money. Negroes need to understand that hoes have the best conversations because they 'love people', so they really know how to stroke a man's ego and make him feel like he's on another level. They will 'understand your story', but understand the next 10 negroes story as well. They understand your story because they've understood countless stories before that.

The root word for simping is sympathy. A lot of these men get caught up because they sit around feeling sorry for these women that they don't need to feel sorry for. Kelis tears this negro Nas up in divorce court, she probably was cheating on him, but he comes through talking about let me make love to you one last time. Most likely she was showing that text to another dude who was tearing that thing down and laughing at that negro about that.

A lot of men haven't been reared with the understanding that having a tender heart towards a female will do nothing but get you used and abused. If you think about it, who has the most women? These warm and cuddly type negroes get put into the provider category whereas she manipulates them so she can live off his back while she is dealing with a dude who is cold towards her and ain't putting a dime down on her... but she's letting him tear that thing up all the while rewarding him with the provider's resources. Feeling sorry for these sneaky broads is NOT the way to go and giving them a free ride is NOT the way to go.

A lot of these modern women simply have a leech's mentality, and they will poke and prod and look for that generosity gene, and when you've shown it to them, they will latch on and suck you dry. They don't appreciate what you do for them, but simply look at you as a host to nourish themselves. I warn these fellas that once they spot these traits, they better kick babygirl to the curb... and never come out as a tenderheart to a woman. She will simply look at you as weak, and either leave you if you're lucky, or latch on, start draining you, and taking all those resources to another dude that doesn't play that.

All those dudes playing cute, rubbing their heads in a female's chest like they are a little puppy... a woman will awwww and that's so cute them, but will be moaning, grunting and going live for a man that doesn't play that. She will be busy for the puppy boy when it gets down to the nitty gritty, but she'll make time for a man who ain't going to trade his self-respect for her attention.

With your real friends, with your family, with those who actually need it like the poor, you can be generous with your resources. With women, you shouldn't be generous unless she's shown she's down for you 2,000% because otherwise you will get taken advantage of and look dumb. Be generous to those who appreciate generosity and who can't help themselves. These women can definitely help themselves and will help themselves right into your pockets if you let them.
 
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