Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Youseenmywork]

 

[DarkHorse23]

Jesus this girl is so damn frustrating. Always wanna argue. We have a man in our department who i refer to as "new" because he's never, or i've never seen him working in shoes on the floor, and she wants to argue that he isn't new because he's been working at dillards longer than me. SMH i'm not referring to how long he's been at dillards i'm referring to him just now being in women and men's shoes. SMH apparently i'm the one who likes to argue

I made such a mistake talking to this girl. Like she said we are two different people, and i agree wholeheartedly. Should have talked to the light skin black chick instead. SMH if i'm going deal with a females with issues let her at-least be physically worth it.

Should have left this alone on Saturday, and never tried to save this friendship.

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

Sounds like a nonsensical argument honestly. You already lost for caring that much.

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

Typing on my mobile so sorry that this post looks like trash.

Anyone obviously mentally off? As a teen a teacher asked me if I had add (I get bored pretty quickly) and my ex would always say that I was bipolar/delusional/obsessive/autistic. Since being single it's been pretty much confirmed that I probably have something (I'm a pretty high functioning logical thinking guy but I do lack empathy ) and I'm not looking for help in that regard. I just wanna know how other people deal with shyt like this? I'm not taking any meds but I may speak to a psychiatrist so that advice isn't needed.

Also, any addicts (I use this term loosely) in here (nothing hard)? If so, do you guys tell women or do you just let them find out on their own? I'm pretty upfront about everything but a few girls have given me the side eye. I've also found that the better girls generally don't get messed up, does anyone agree?

I'm reading this post dying because it reads so badly and it seems like I'm a bad guy but I'm generally interested in what people think

Get checked up bro, and I say that as someone who is suffering from a mental health issue as well. These things are hard to identify. What you need to do is determine how whatever it is you suspect you have is negatively impacting your life, and kinda use that as a platform to launch off while engaging the doctor.

Seriously man, go for it. Even some of my own family members don't know I struggle every day and the few that do don't realize the depths of the issue. You can be damn sure nobody on the coli will help you out for this. You don't need any "feel good" responses, you need to talk to a professional. So book yourself an appointment. Best of luck breh.

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

Brehs.......I think I fukked up
So about an hour ago I was at the train station waiting for the train like usual after work with my buds in like posted on the wall. Bunch of women walk by but that's the usual so I don't think much about it, I just enjoy the view . Then I see this lightskin chick walk pass and buy a ticket. She looked kinda like her

but a shade lighter and was rocking this

. She sits down on the platform bench and starts talking to this girl about her ticket. About 15 mins later she gets her stuff, walks over to me and puts her stuff down. Inside i'm like because this shyt has never happened before, so I'm expecting her to say something but she just posts on the wall messing with her phone. 5 minutes go bye then she says in an Dominican or Island accent ( I swear brehs I thought she was one of those hood East Oakland light bright broads) "So are you riding the train", "Yeah, what's up", "I just wanted to know if I have to buy another later on", "Naw, you're good, just stay in the zones and don't pass the time", "Are you sure, because I was about to buy another ticket", " that would've been an mistake", "Ok, just making sure lol". I put my buds in and start messing with my phone. 15 mins later the train starts approaching and ask we're walking towards it, she says "My days off are always crazy" then looks my way and does the . I fumbled my response and couldn't think of nothing to say but there was still hope I followed her to the train cart she was sitting in and there was a seat on the opposite side of her open I had to think quick....





but I let my nerves get to me and walk pass to a seat like 3 rows back I need to take a class or some shyt brehs. I passed what looked like an open lay up

I'm ashamed brehs

Don't sweat it homie. This event ethering your soul will teach you to make the most of any situation.

I've taken advantage of a lot of situations and most of them turned out to not be as great as i'd imagined them initially. maybe this chick was just being friendly even though it seems unlikely given the way you've told your story. in any case, opportunity will knock again in the future. hoes are not some type of door that closes and never opens. in the meantime plot how you will the next broad.

 

[TRUEST]

Jesus this girl is so damn frustrating. Always wanna argue. We have a man in our department who i refer to as "new" because he's never, or i've never seen him working in shoes on the floor, and she wants to argue that he isn't new because he's been working at dillards longer than me. SMH i'm not referring to how long he's been at dillards i'm referring to him just now being in women and men's shoes. SMH apparently i'm the one who likes to argue

I made such a mistake talking to this girl. Like she said we are two different people, and i agree wholeheartedly. Should have talked to the light skin black chick instead. SMH if i'm going deal with a females with issues let her at-least be physically worth it.

Should have left this alone on Saturday, and never tried to save this friendship.

somewhere in ur interaction with the nigerian chick, u made her see u as lower than her through the excitement u exuded while talking to her or being in her presence. u may not have done it on purpose, but yeah, she's now feeling herself too much and is somewhat letting that get to her head. i mean, generally, likeskin chicks are usually prefered over darkskin chicks. and the fact that u went over the lightskin chick to talk to her (she's well aware of this) had her on cloud nine. u need to break this b1tch. but u cant, since u work together. if u care about that job, be amicable with her but gently eliminate the banter.

im a very arrogant person and the mere thought of a chick mouthing off to me will have me shunning her something serious.

 

[DarkHorse23]

somewhere in ur interaction with the nigerian chick, u made her see u as lower than her through the excitement u exuded while talking to her or being in her presence. u may not have done it on purpose, but yeah, she's now feeling herself too much and is somewhat letting that get to her head. i mean, generally, likeskin chicks are usually prefered over darkskin chicks. and the fact that u went over the lightskin chick to talk to her (she's well aware of this) had her on cloud nine. u need to break this b1tch. but u cant, since u work together. if u care about that job, be amicable with her but gently eliminate the banter.

im a very arrogant person and the mere thought of a chick mouthing off to me will have me shunning her something serious.

Yeah i know where and when it was. Will never make that mistake again of being honest and putting himself in a vulnerable place with a woman.

 

[Jesus]

Dealing with a recently divorced woman and seeing the few things that doesn't have her maiden name...80% of things have been changed, but still annoying.


We were out downtown and a random nikka nods us in the car driving by. She looks startled and says that looks like her ex-husband. I say..."and?" Later that night I told her don't bring that shyt up...she says she's afraid of him and I looks at her and tell her that's insulting to the man you're with about his protection skills to be afraid of another nikka... She starts to rant about how he was verbally abusive and she doesn't want to talk about him again. First time she's brought him up and she's been divorced for slightly less than 2 years, but still....




Everytime me and my girl get into it...she'll eventually asks for us to stop talking about the issue and I press the convo to get the shyt resolved. Who's in the wrong?

 

[360dagod]

[QUOTE="Black Jesus, post: 17920012, member: 472"]Dealing with a recently divorced woman and seeing the few things that doesn't have her maiden name...80% of things have been changed, but still annoying.


We were out downtown and a random nikka nods us in the car driving by. She looks startled and says that looks like her ex-husband. I say..."and?" Later that night I told her don't bring that shyt up...she says she's afraid of him and I looks at her and tell her that's insulting to the man you're with about his protection skills to be afraid of another nikka... She starts to rant about how he was verbally abusive and she doesn't want to talk about him again. First time she's brought him up and she's been divorced for slightly less than 2 years, but still....




Everytime me and my girl get into it...she'll eventually asks for us to stop talking about the issue and I press the convo to get the shyt resolved. Who's in the wrong? [/QUOTE]

 

[International Playa]

Yeah i know where and when it was. Will never make that mistake again of being honest and putting himself in a vulnerable place with a woman.

You should have talked to all the women involved in a friendly professional manner just to feel their vibe. Then you woulda picked the one feeling you the most.

Nigerian women tend to be less feminene & sometimes come off very rude, not very ladylike

 

[360dagod]

Typing on my mobile so sorry that this post looks like trash.

Anyone obviously mentally off? As a teen a teacher asked me if I had add (I get bored pretty quickly) and my ex would always say that I was bipolar/delusional/obsessive/autistic. Since being single it's been pretty much confirmed that I probably have something (I'm a pretty high functioning logical thinking guy but I do lack empathy ) and I'm not looking for help in that regard. I just wanna know how other people deal with shyt like this? I'm not taking any meds but I may speak to a psychiatrist so that advice isn't needed.

Also, any addicts (I use this term loosely) in here (nothing hard)? If so, do you guys tell women or do you just let them find out on their own? I'm pretty upfront about everything but a few girls have given me the side eye. I've also found that the better girls generally don't get messed up, does anyone agree?

I'm reading this post dying because it reads so badly and it seems like I'm a bad guy but I'm generally interested in what people think

I have the same problems

I become a different person without variety..and its not good

Even my job tries to accommodate me

 

[DarkHorse23]

You should have talked to all the women involved in a friendly professional manner just to feel their vibe. Then you woulda picked the one feeling you the most.

Nigerian women tend to be less feminene & sometimes come off very rude, not very ladylike

Well I didn't just jump at the Nigerian chick over the black chick. I took a couple days engaging in small talk and felt based on that she was the one feeling me the most, but regardless she wasn't the one I was most attracted to anyway. I honestly just went with the one who I felt was most nice to me who I thought would give me the most play. That was a mistake. Should always go for who you really want regardless of the results or don't go at anyone at all.

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

Nigerian women tend to be less feminene & sometimes come off very rude, not very ladylike

Not my experience at all breh, this is a generalization. Bottom line is she just seems like a waste of time, her being Nigerian shouldn't even factor into anything.

 

[Solano707]

Man breh's, I had to cut a chick from the team the other day. So we made plans to grab a beer at one of the pubs. I had fancied her because she works in IT too, so we have something in common and she is in a profession than most other females that I have met that are at dead end jobs. So we agree that friday we'd chill and throw a few back and talk. So, I text her friday afternoon around 4 asking if she still going; mind you, we've been talking about this shyt all week. Well, after I texted her, she didn't hit me back, so I hit her on LinkedIn (because we used mostly that to talk because we're at work and whipping out our phones aint the business) - no answer. So the broad hits me back like 3 hours later; so it's around 7:30 (we're suppose to meet up at 8 as we agreed upon earlier) and says "OMG I'm so sorry, I forgot my girlfriend is in town.... I want to see you still if you would still like to have me...". I'm like... Mind you, I just got out of a 15 year relationship so my attitude towards shyt like this is straight savage mode

So i hit, "yup, been down this road before; naw I'm good, imma keep it moving. Good luck".

She was like "what are you talking about?"

I hadn't replied since. nikka i aint chasing no hoe whatsoever, I got plenty to offer to be sweatin some hoe like her. Tell you breh's, I'm fitting to be hog out in these streets. I already got 3 coming on the team pretty soon. Never be afraid to let a hoe know she's replaceable.

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

Man breh's, I had to cut a chick from the team the other day. So we made plans to grab a beer at one of the pubs. I had fancied her because she works in IT too, so we have something in common and she is in a profession than most other females that I have met that are at dead end jobs. So we agree that friday we'd chill and throw a few back and talk. So, I text her friday afternoon around 4 asking if she still going; mind you, we've been talking about this shyt all week. Well, after I texted her, she didn't hit me back, so I hit her on LinkedIn (because we used mostly that to talk because we're at work and whipping out our phones aint the business) - no answer. So the broad hits me back like 3 hours later; so it's around 7:30 (we're suppose to meet up at 8 as we agreed upon earlier) and says "OMG I'm so sorry, I forgot my girlfriend is in town.... I want to see you still if you would still like to have me...". I'm like... Mind you, I just got out of a 15 year relationship so my attitude towards shyt like this is straight savage mode

So i hit, "yup, been down this road before; naw I'm good, imma keep it moving. Good luck".

She was like "what are you talking about?"

I hadn't replied since. nikka i aint chasing no hoe whatsoever, I got plenty to offer to be sweatin some hoe like her. Tell you breh's, I'm fitting to be hog out in these streets. I already got 3 coming on the team pretty soon. Never be afraid to let a hoe know she's replaceable.

Fantastic way to handle that situation. Not sure if I would have handled it the same way tbh because i'm in such a bad situation that i jump at every opportunity.

But when you witness some lame behavior like she just showed, it gives you a window into what kind of person she is (someone who does not respect your time) and it becomes a slippery slope.

& when it becomes repeated pattern of behavior in pretty much every woman you encounter, you become and you become super efficient in how you curve these hoes