Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Get checked up bro, and I say that as someone who is suffering from a mental health issue as well. These things are hard to identify. What you need to do is determine how whatever it is you suspect you have is negatively impacting your life, and kinda use that as a platform to launch off while engaging the doctor.

Seriously man, go for it. Even some of my own family members don't know I struggle every day and the few that do don't realize the depths of the issue. You can be damn sure nobody on the coli will help you out for this. You don't need any "feel good" responses, you need to talk to a professional. So book yourself an appointment. Best of luck breh.

It's reads bad but it isn't as bad as it sounds. I'm pretty picky so people think I'm crazy (plus I only date black women so I'm horribly frustrated limiting myself to them) and I LOVE being by myself. I also can be pretty short with people because I only want one thing from them (don't really like hanging out with dudes unless I grew up with them or are similar to me, only like hanging/talking to women that I can sleep with). People don't understand this so I rarely choose to explain it (and it sounds bad lol). I'm a loner so people like to diagnose (hence my ex saying these horrible things about me lol) me but they just don't understand that I'm not really interested in normal conversation, people really do bore me because I just don't care. I choose not to have friends because people are way too demanding (one reason why I'm probably single lol, I just couldn't bare having to be around someone, like being obligated to be around them) I don't think I'm terribly crazy, just an a$$hole lol but I'm not gonna lie and say that I haven't thought about talking to someone. I just wanted to know if other guys were like me and how they dealt with dealing with women :ld:
 

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Man breh's, I had to cut a chick from the team the other day. So we made plans to grab a beer at one of the pubs. I had fancied her because she works in IT too, so we have something in common and she is in a profession than most other females that I have met that are at dead end jobs. So we agree that friday we'd chill and throw a few back and talk. So, I text her friday afternoon around 4 asking if she still going; mind you, we've been talking about this shyt all week. Well, after I texted her, she didn't hit me back, so I hit her on LinkedIn (because we used mostly that to talk because we're at work and whipping out our phones aint the business) - no answer. So the broad hits me back like 3 hours later; so it's around 7:30 (we're suppose to meet up at 8 as we agreed upon earlier) and says "OMG I'm so sorry, I forgot my girlfriend is in town.... I want to see you still if you would still like to have me...". I'm like... :francis: Mind you, I just got out of a 15 year relationship so my attitude towards shyt like this is straight savage mode :upsetfavre:

So i hit, "yup, been down this road before; naw I'm good, imma keep it moving. Good luck". :scust:

She was like "what are you talking about?"

I hadn't replied since. nikka i aint chasing no hoe whatsoever, I got plenty to offer to be sweatin some hoe like her. :smugdraper: Tell you breh's, I'm fitting to be hog out in these streets. :birdman: I already got 3 coming on the team pretty soon. :banderas: Never be afraid to let a hoe know she's replaceable.

im kinda jealous of the savagery you displayed here. one of my biggest problem in the past was not being resolute when i make a decision to dead a chick. when they come back begging, i usually forgive them with little to no retribution. but i learned.
 

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I was checking out that thread about the dude possibly moving in with his girl of 2 years, and so many people were telling him to just go ahead and do it. Caught me off guard. And many of them weren't even providing compelling reasons for such a big decision.

Saying things like "do it so you can get to know the real her and then break up with her if it doesn't work out" is horrible advice. Breaking up with someone is already hard enough, but doing it when you live together can be a disaster.

Why not just try spending more time together or live together for a short time while one of you transitions to a new place?

I get wanting to save money on rent if you're spending so much time together, but since when is that a good reason to sacrifice your privacy and independence if you're not ready for that step yet?

The kicker was people talking about marriage being the end goal of every relationship. That causes far more problems than it solves in my opinion.
 

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I was checking out that thread about the dude possibly moving in with his girl of 2 years, and so many people were telling him to just go ahead and do it. Caught me off guard. And many of them weren't even providing compelling reasons for such a big decision.

Saying things like "do it so you can get to know the real her and then break up with her if it doesn't work out" is horrible advice. Breaking up with someone is already hard enough, but doing it when you live together can be a disaster.

Why not just try spending more time together or live together for a short time while one of you transitions to a new place?

I get wanting to save money on rent if you're spending so much time together, but since when is that a good reason to sacrifice your privacy and independence if you're not ready for that step yet?

The kicker was people talking about marriage being the end goal of every relationship. That causes far more problems than it solves in my opinion.

Was mainly brehettes talking that noise.

As expected moving in was to show off, rather than making the dude happy enough to even propose the idea himself
 

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I'm ashamed brehs :francis:

You should be.

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I'm not sure if anyone dropped this gem but if your girl threatens to get out the car and walk or anything foolish shyt like that, all that is is a cry for attention. Under no circumstances do let her walk on some HOH mentality unless you don't give a shyt.
 

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im kinda jealous of the savagery you displayed here. one of my biggest problem in the past was not being resolute when i make a decision to dead a chick. when they come back begging, i usually forgive them with little to no retribution. but i learned.
I don't know if it was really savagery, but I ain't putting up with lies and bullshyt from jump street.
 

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Man breh's, I had to cut a chick from the team the other day. So we made plans to grab a beer at one of the pubs. I had fancied her because she works in IT too, so we have something in common and she is in a profession than most other females that I have met that are at dead end jobs. So we agree that friday we'd chill and throw a few back and talk. So, I text her friday afternoon around 4 asking if she still going; mind you, we've been talking about this shyt all week. Well, after I texted her, she didn't hit me back, so I hit her on LinkedIn (because we used mostly that to talk because we're at work and whipping out our phones aint the business) - no answer. So the broad hits me back like 3 hours later; so it's around 7:30 (we're suppose to meet up at 8 as we agreed upon earlier) and says "OMG I'm so sorry, I forgot my girlfriend is in town.... I want to see you still if you would still like to have me...". I'm like... :francis: Mind you, I just got out of a 15 year relationship so my attitude towards shyt like this is straight savage mode :upsetfavre:

So i hit, "yup, been down this road before; naw I'm good, imma keep it moving. Good luck". :scust:

She was like "what are you talking about?"

I hadn't replied since. nikka i aint chasing no hoe whatsoever, I got plenty to offer to be sweatin some hoe like her. :smugdraper: Tell you breh's, I'm fitting to be hog out in these streets. :birdman: I already got 3 coming on the team pretty soon. :banderas: Never be afraid to let a hoe know she's replaceable.

I kicked a girl out my room for making fun of my sleeping machine cuz I got sleep apnea
We fukked and bout 15 mins later said lets go to sleep she saw what I had talked that shyt said :ufdup: and gtfo threw her out just in her bra and under wear 2am told her have fun waiting on the train since it ain't coming till 5am
fukk I look like tolerating that's shyt
She even called me next day saying sorry said Na u cut from team go to someone who gives a damn
shyt happened back in the day
 

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when I was in high school and my 1st years of college chicks my age were so insecure they felt the need to show off their body in just about every pic they took. whether it was them in short shorts, swimsuits, or tank tops with their breast looking nice :ahh:. Now Im older and I've notice these same chicks take more conservative pics. Maybe because they've matured, body fell off, or they trying to attract a man :manny:

any of y'all notice this?
 

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Keep things stress free and keep your focus on women maybe as a 3rd if not lower priority. They are there to aid you in your mission and to make your life better. If they can't do that, they are wasting your time. Plus, you'll have a lot better interactions with women stepping in as a leader and not as a puppy following her around.
 

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Man breh's, I had to cut a chick from the team the other day. So we made plans to grab a beer at one of the pubs. I had fancied her because she works in IT too, so we have something in common and she is in a profession than most other females that I have met that are at dead end jobs. So we agree that friday we'd chill and throw a few back and talk. So, I text her friday afternoon around 4 asking if she still going; mind you, we've been talking about this shyt all week. Well, after I texted her, she didn't hit me back, so I hit her on LinkedIn (because we used mostly that to talk because we're at work and whipping out our phones aint the business) - no answer. So the broad hits me back like 3 hours later; so it's around 7:30 (we're suppose to meet up at 8 as we agreed upon earlier) and says "OMG I'm so sorry, I forgot my girlfriend is in town.... I want to see you still if you would still like to have me...". I'm like... :francis: Mind you, I just got out of a 15 year relationship so my attitude towards shyt like this is straight savage mode :upsetfavre:

So i hit, "yup, been down this road before; naw I'm good, imma keep it moving. Good luck". :scust:

She was like "what are you talking about?"

I hadn't replied since. nikka i aint chasing no hoe whatsoever, I got plenty to offer to be sweatin some hoe like her. :smugdraper: Tell you breh's, I'm fitting to be hog out in these streets. :birdman: I already got 3 coming on the team pretty soon. :banderas: Never be afraid to let a hoe know she's replaceable.
15 years fam...we need that story :feedme:
 
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15 years fam...we need that story :feedme:


He shared, I think, in fragments.

It's kinda sad actually fam. If you go far back in his posting history you can see the times where he talks about his marriage and family. Stuff like how he appreciates his marriage so much, how much he loves his wife ... one of those feel good type of relationships.

& then ... :demonic:

But @Blaxican707 it'd be dope if you dropped the story in its entirety cuz i don't even know about it too much.
 

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He shared, I think, in fragments.

It's kinda sad actually fam. If you go far back in his posting history you can see the times where he talks about his marriage and family. Stuff like how he appreciates his marriage so much, how much he loves his wife ... one of those feel good type of relationships.

& then ... :demonic:

But @Blaxican707 it'd be dope if you dropped the story in its entirety cuz i don't even know about it too much.

I will brother, I'll do it this weekend and drop it in here or just make another thread.

moral of the story is, I learned in the most stinging way that females will flip on you no matter how much you do for them and how good you treat them.
 

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Never be honest with women, they'll resent you for it.

I would not say that; be truthful and just don't give a fukk of what the think. Keep it 100, I'm pretty sure they'll respect that more than someone lying - at least i would
 
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