Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

Real men aren't victims. They assess the situation, exercise righteous judgment and better the future for not only themselves, but for others

-We can sit around and keep on dealing with these entitled women and experiencing the same problems over and over or we can take moves to put ourselves in a better position. The first key is to Make women your 4th or so priority. If the thought of what a woman is doing or how you're going to get in some draws is dominating your day, you really need to rearrange your mindset. There is SO much more to life than dealing with women. This is part of stop making your behavior contingent on women.

Enjoy your relationship with God, your family, your friends. Read some interesting books. Make some music. Eat at a new restaurant. Create some art. Write something. There are so many activities that we could be expending our energy on as opposed to dealing with the same frustrations over and over. Why waste all your energy arguing, worrying, and allowing a woman to put you into a zone of negativity when you could go out and enjoy the beautiful weather?

The key is to put yourself in the mindset and circumstance where the woman is grateful to be in your presence. This requires you to recognize your inherent worth and to stop gameplanning and chasing after a penny. This requires you putting your principles and self-respect WAY ahead of her vagina. If she disrespects you, you do NOT continue to deal with her in hopes that she may give you a speck of sand at the beach, which is her sex.

You want to know the key to dealing with the problems of a woman? The key is to DON'T DEAL WITH IT! Don't allow her to bring drama in your life. If she brings it, she has to fix it herself or she has to go. Bottom line. A woman brings flakiness to the table? Bye bye. She rejects your offer to take her out? Do you fret over losing a penny from your wallet? No, you keep it pushing, knowing that you have much more value within yourself... and knowing you can easily find another penny elsewhere.

Enjoy your life and let the women chase you. The more you enjoy your life and build up things in a righteous and proper fashion, the larger the pool of women you will have to deal with. Like I said, women will always follow up behind a man. Do women watch the NBA more or the WNBA? Who are the majority of her favorite comedians, male or female? Are males trying to break into female only institutions or vice versa?

These women will always be there, but what a man needs to recognize is that he has the power to FILTER these women... and indeed he should. He should only accept women that enhance his life... and even if he doesn't have a woman at the current moment, he is unbelievably happy because he has sufficiently built his base of happiness on a much stronger foundation than the whims of a woman. This will help put you in a situation to neutralize low-worth women and to remove your emotions from the whims of unpredictable women. It will also put you in a situation to deal with high quality women, since you are able to filter through a larger pool of them. This attitude is thus a solution to the problem that has been prevalent. Do not deal with low quality attention and disrespect from women and always keep your principles and values ahead of them... enjoy life and live righteously no matter what, and the rest will come.

Amen This is why you should not chase women, as a man of value I'd rather them find me therefore I am the one on control. When I'm in control, I dictate the pace. Maybe once in a while, if you want to chase skanks just know the risks and partake at will. But you want to be happier, let them chase you if that is possible.

You see (and I will play Captain Obvious for a second) our society is grow on the belief that the man HAS TO chase the woman. Screw that. I am not big on conformity. I tend to be outside of the realm of the mundane and common practices. Be a rebel. Not like the biker/badass kind of rebel but a self-thinking, logical, intelligent rebel. Go your own way. Why should we always chase the woman? If they are too lazy and beetleheaded to strive for what they want because society told them to let us chase them, then why bother with a female like that in the first place.

Women want the advantage. Some men think they Have the advantage by giving chase. And some do. But there is a risk of rejection and potential injury to one's pride and confidence. If you hold those dear, let the women chase you. They want to do the rejecting and the jeering. Screw that.

Hell in my life I played video games more than I ever chased females. In fact I rarely, if ever, gave chase. Why? Video games are less harmful to my mental and physical health. Since they want to push decent guys away then fine.

Congratulations girls, you have completed your mission. Enjoy your Tervavian Badasses, Chris brown/Usher wannabes, thugs, and a$$holes. Don't come crying to me when they mentally destroy you because I will be too busy playing a good ol' game of NCAA football and Not to mention I would have probably already found a LADY and not some venomous invertebrate such as yourselves. Learn to treat good men like human beings and MAYBE I'll give you the time of day and treat you with the respect that you THINK you deserve.


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[MikelArteta]

Damn straight..

That's why I mainly post in here, too many jellyfish mangina nikkaz in this forum.. Ex: Bus driver thread & the PANIC thread..

Some dudes will kiss these bytches asses until the end of time, I just laugh at them.. No dignity, no self-esteem.. Quite pathetic..

Yup and its sad but ah we'll, I always remember when on here I posted my pic and all the chicks were like wow I didn't expect how you posted that you would look like that, because you don simp and speak out against their whorish ways they think yor some fat obese shrek looking dude , nope I've dated dimes from all different races


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[kevm3]

I wouldn't say any of us here are mentally battered. Rather we're the ones conscious enough to avoid the mental batterings. The cats who really ARE battered are the ones paying alimony and child support, giving up that house they paid off, all the while his ex love is slurping off some new guy... the cats that are battered are the ones dealing with all the drama in prison because some girl lied on him and said he raped her. Remember that young black kid who had a sports scholarship and lost it because some girl lied to her and they ended up catching her on tape saying the reason she didn't come with the truth was because she didn't want to give up all that money? The ones who are really battered are the ones who built their emotional and financial life around their woman and found out she was nothing like he expected and that deep rooted depression sets in. I really feel bad for that guy.

I would say this forum is for the men who enjoy their peace of mind and don't want to participate in the drama.

you can see in that bus driver thread what it really is. The woman was clearly wrong, cursing out and punching a 60 year old man and she got struck back... and then you got these dudes talking about what they would do to this bus driver. You might have some lieutenant save em all day come in and kill this man, and someone in that man's family retaliates and it will kick off a whole big clan/gang war... and what happened to that loser broad? She's still alive and kicking, screwing up some other man's life while a whole bunch of negroes are dead or in the pen. That's simping to the extreme, putting your life on the line when a woman is CLEARLY in the wrong.

Most men simply like the fantasy of being with the woman than the actual reality. They kind of got this rap video fantasy or movie fantasy of him 'getting the woman', them being in love, her holding him down, riding for him hardcore, being sweet and loyal, etc. More times than not, it's nothing like that when you 'get' a woman, aka commit. That woman might be sleeping with all these other dudes, attempting to manipulate you for all kinds of luxuries, she might be bipolar and on drugs, she might nag you and nag you and nag you. I can go on and on. That's why I don't feel the need to commit. Only way I will commit is if she is bringing a net positive to my life, and not very many women are doing that in this day and age.

Just look at the end result of all of these 'superplayer' athletes at the end of the day. Mike Tyson got sent to prison and got the rapist label off of a woman lying. 2pac got the same thing. Kobe almost got sent to prison on them rape allegations. Look at Evander Holyfield, having to keep on fighting because he's broke due to him having to split child support in so many ways due to all the women he impregnated. Antonio Cromartie is the same way. As soon as he gets the check, it's going out to all these different women. Look at Terrell Owens. Chad Ocho Cinco... He was back playing for his home team, but let Evelyn Lozada in his life and now he's out the league. Look at all those simps that rushed to Rihanna's defense. Rihanna probably provoked the encounter, Chris brown beat her up and all these simps popped out of the wood works trying to fight Chris Brown. Latest we hear, she's right back with him.

I can say I'm relieved more than anything. These negroes who aren't paying attention are caught up in financial slavery, paying all of these women for the next 18 years if not life... and if they can't pay? Time to go to jail. No need to deal with the nagging, the craziness, the constant favors, the financial slave chains, the financial expenditures, the emotions, etc. I can go on and on. I find my current position quite lovely. If a negro wants to be brainwashed and deal with all of that for no benefit in return, it'll be him that's really the one that's 'angry' and 'bitter' when his baby momma is telling his kid that he's a loser even though she's the one keeping him from his son and using the child support payments on herself.

 

[CASHAPP]

Kev what do you think about the whole Kanye/Kardashian situation. At first I thought Ye was just trolling his ass off to me and everyone, and was just having her as a "muse" for his music....

But recent events and this whole "White Dress" situation and with Kanye actually sounding on that(no autotune) like he is genuingly falling in love with her is making me worried.....

Yeah its other people's lives and they should live it how they want to but at the same time, you feel a kind of certain way seeing another man, especially another black man simp out like this and make themselves look like a fool later down the line......

I am sure that in Nasir's Street Disciple time period, he didn't think sweet and innocent Kelis would change....

 

[kevm3]

Kim Kardashian is an attention whore to the extreme. She even faked a wedding for attention. There's nothing she isn't willing to do for attention. She got put onto the fame game via a sex tape that supposedly her mother submitted. if her mother is that ruthless, you can get a glimpse of what the daughter is about.

What people need to realize is that hoes have incubation periods. Hoes aren't these caricature, super sexual, porn-staresque, every word that comes out of their mouth is something filthy deviants. More times than not, hoes have the best conversations. They can make you feel relaxed, chop it up with you about music or about anything and ya'll two are just cooling... and it's only a few days in and you are just really flowing it with her and she lets you get that thang. You think it's because your game is just so unbelievably smooth. It's more that she was a hoe and stroked your ego and she will let the very next negro do the same thing. A hoe can be with you and tells you she loves you every day and play that miss sweet role for you, but her chameleon nature comes out and when she's around a group of negroes that demand sex, she morphs into miss freak.

With these fame chasers, they are still in the egg during the first month to couple of years where they have decent behavior, make you think they are loyal and make you think things have changed... They basically make you feel like you are the king of the world and that you did the unthinkable-- rearranged her lifestyle around. Then they get bored or get that money, fame or whatever else they came in for, and bam, they are working it for another negro.

Kelis came in the game talking about the 'boys' meaning multiple men come to the yard for her milkshake. When Nas was chopping it with her, she was cool as the breeze and 'understood his story.' As soon as she got him hooked and made sure she got that Nas cabbage, she went ahead and peeled off... in that divorce proceeding cold as ice, getting all she could.

 

[Ohene]

i think thats why Reincar used the quotes...because people will think were bitter, battered or paranoid when in actuality its just some wisdom

 

[kevm3]

yeah exactly. the cats in here with this knowledge are way better off... not an iota of battered or bitter souls. Just a bunch of fellas that realize 'what it is' and take steps to avoid the pits out there for us to fall in.

 

[Rekkapryde]

Always be careful when dealing with a chick who makes more than you she will start to look down on you, and think she can do better. Why you never tell chicks how mich you make.


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Not always true. You do have to be careful though. Do your homework on these broads. If there is any hint of her throwing that shyt in your face, you gotta bounce.

My wife always made more than me. And I do pretty decent.

 

[Sharp]

I don't understand why a woman would even feel she's worth fighting for? Who fills their heads up with this bullshyt?

Both people in a relationship are equal. She's not the prize possession. It's this pedestal mentality that has some of these women out here thinking they can get away with murder because there's always some silly ass dude that will do whatever it takes to make her happy even when she displays detrimental behavior.

I let a heffer walk. I will never ever put a woman before me, my mental health and my well being. You treat me good, I treat you good. You treat me bad, I'm not gonna be sitting here trying to figure out ways to make you happy. I'm leaving you. Point blank period.

 

[TRUEST]

while this thread is very powerful, there are too much information here that will just confuse the hell out of those who are new to the game.

my only advice really is, to you guys out there, learn to pay attention to your instincts. realize that in a relationship, it is in a woman's nature to go nurture her man. how is ur woman treating u? does she nurture u? does she make an effort to please u? so she cant cook? has she made any efforts to read up on how to cook or to learn it by trial and error? has she ever bought u anything outside of special occasions? does she respect your feelings and does not seek to arouse your anger?

i was at a bookstore a while ago and i saw this girl reading a book on how to speak Chinese. i was curious because she was white. why was she reading a Chinese book? i struck up a conversation with her. she was very nice. had a very pleasant aura about her. she told me she's trying to learn Chinese so she can speak it with her boyfriend's mom....so she'll like her. and i thought, wow. she must really like her man for her to go through the hassle. that says something.

now, ask yourself, does this girl love her boyfriend? if ur answer is yes, why? what did she do in this story i just told to make u believe that? i'll tell you. she discomforted herself....for.......you guessed it...her man!

i mean, this maybe a lot to take in for some of you, but if u had to keep anything in mind, get this:

When a woman sacrifices herself for you, puts herself in discomfort repetitively just to make u happy, know that you may have found your wife.

 

[Scustin Trillberlake]

is it a bad sign if a girl has

1.has alot of tattoos
2.smoke way too much weed
3.wears leopard print
4.has more then one male friend

Most of the posters in this thread seem to be a bit more conservative and religious than I am, so they will obviously tell you to avoid women like this. I am going to put a different spin on this though.

The thing is....it doesn't matter what type of women you get involved with Conservative women, liberal women, religious women, non-religious women, hipster women, bookworms, "good girls", etc. All Western women have been born into and conditioned by a system that is heavily influenced by second and third wave feminism.

Lets take the "church going good girl" that so many posters here seem to love. Here is my experience with them:

- Usually slightly racist(i am white so my experience might be different)
- Thinks life is all about her, "When are you going to buy me a house"
- "When are you going to give me a family"
- "When are you going to buy me a car"
- They usually live in a small ultra conservative bubble, a fantasy land
- Constantly gossiping about other people in the church, very noisy and
snotty.

You start to see the trend of what is called in the manosphere as the "She Train. "SHE, SHE, SHE" Everything is about her.

What i am trying to say is, it doesn't matter what type of women you choose to be involved with, they have been raised in a system that:

- Values women's lives more than mens
- Values women's education more than mens
- Values women's health care more than mens
- Values women's feelings more than mens
- Values women's futures more than mens


i was dating a really liberal arty girl last summer, she was really nice but would use shaming language over the most ridiculous shyt.

"Why are you wearing that baggy J Dilla t-shirt, it's stupid put on a nice fitting dress shirt"

She actually said that to me. My hobbies, interests, friends meant nothing to her, i was a side piece, a appliance in her life just so she could say she had a boyfriend. In reality, she hated everything i like, she wanted to shape and shame me into becoming something i am not...the worst part is, she felt no remorse for this..no concept of mean spiritedness.

That's how deep the rabbit hole is......IT DOESN'T MATTER

Dating women in Western society is like politics, the lesser of two evils. Sure a bookworm girl might have less sexual partners than a hipster girl, she might have less baggage, but she will still play the feminist game, trust me.

Thats the great thing about this thread and Men's rights. It gives us armour and defence to play the game. I don't want to use this knowledge to shame women, or build lists of entitlement like women do. I use this knowledge to better myself and not get played. I am not bitter, i am not mad. I see it for what it is and laugh now.

I live how i want, enjoy what i want and help my true friends. Like Kev has been saying, women are 4th - 5th on my list of priorities. If a great girls happens to come into my life, and she is good enough that i can deal with the feminist bullshyt she will undoubtably bring, then thats great, if not

 

[Ohene]

i wanna touch on Timber and Sharps remarks because theyre true

Its crazy how hypocritical society lets these women be.

Just the other day I was with my girl and her friends just choppin it up. And they were talking about how a guy will want their girl to lose weight but they just wont say it. Another friend then said how her boyfriend is honest. Said if she blows up or were to get skinny he'd leave her ass. My girl said, your boyfriend is sick or cool or something while laughing and then said if a man told her that she would tell him to leave if he wants.

But let it be a time where they have a problem with you...physically, mentally whatever...and if you pull that its an issue. My girl thinks my mind is a little corrupted due to my ex. One day I told her that if she were to leave me or threaten to break things off...no matter how much I may want to win her back...after one good effort to compromise/resolve the situation she'll never hear from me again."She couldnt believe me saying "its like you dont even care then...how could you say that? " I told her it isnt a matter of caring or not...I just know the runs.

Its okay if she can tell me to walk when I have a problem as opposed to hitting the gym (if i wanted her to lose weight)...but low and behold that she has an issue and shee wants to take a break prompting me to delete her number, cut it off and all that...I'm a monster who never really cared about her in the first place.

These women will do that brehs. They will act as if their needs and worth > yours. Its just so difficult to notice as it happens right before your eyes but when you notice it its eye opening.

 

[Rekkapryde]

Personally, tats on a woman are a HUGE turnoff.

 

[sixsixtwo]

2nd string nikka:

"My back story - I've never dated a single mother. At the age of 20 I made a choice to never have kids, after a pregnancy scare. I talked to my doctor about a vasectomy but have never gone through with it. I remain fertile to this day. Then about 3 months ago I reconnected with a high school friend, Lindsay [f26]. I met her daughter, Olive [f6] and really enjoyed both their company. My entire opinion on children has changed in these past three months. My answer to the question "would you ever have kids?" has changed from "no" to; "depends on the person."

Lindsay backstory - Lindsay has always had a type of guy she would date. The tattooed bad boy or older guys who have spent time in jail. Her past three bf have spent light jail time and were possessive and abusive. Her daughter's father wasn't in her life for the first three years or so. She seems to welcome negativity into her life. I think this is why she is a little shy and hides her feelings.

When we reconnected three months ago we became good friends. But I made it clear friends isn't what I wanted. I wanted more from her. But she was a little stand off-ish and would only hang out with me around other friends. Until about three weeks ago. I openly confessed my feeling towards her. She accepted and we have been dating since then.

Last night we were having a nice, cute talk about us. I asked her, "why me? What is it about me that makes you want to be with me?"

She told me, "Honestly, I like you because how much Olive (her daughter) likes you and how well you treat her."

Is that a good thing? It kinda makes me feel like if Olive wasn't in her life she wouldn't want to be with me. The thing is, I have totally fallen for both Lindsay and Olive. They make my life so much better. I wouldn't want it any other way.

When we first reconnected I wanted to show her I accept her and her daughter. So I would focus my attention on Olive. Be stern but kind to her. Listen when she had something to tell me. Watch when she wanted to show me something. Help her mom when it's bedtime or she needed time to relax. Olive has taken to me very well and always asks her mom when I'm coming over again. She told her mom how happy she was when she mistakenly saw us kiss.

So I am asking you this. How can I get Lindsay more into me? Am I doing the right thing? I feel like I'm not really her type. I have tattoos and piercings. But I'm not a douche bag lol. At my age I look at women differently. I see a future with her. How can I show her I'm the right guy for her?"


Source: I am [m28] dating a girl [f26] with a 6 year old daughter. She [f26] told me last night why she likes me. Not the answer I expected.. Single mother advice wanted! : relationships

 

[MikelArteta]

Another reason to never date a single mom