Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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brehs. Never set a date for anything more than 3 days in advance. If you do you're asking for a chick to flake on you.

I tell this girl we should have dinner when she's back in town (she was visiting her friend in another city far away). She aggrees and suggests Friday...probably about 8 days away. I message her Wednesday after an hour long call on the weekend.. Ask her if theres anything specific she wants to do Friday. She mentions going to DC...something related to her cousins wedding

:snoop: I mention how I thought we had plans. Girl doesnt even have the decency to respond/reschedule.

Why are women so unreliable. Luckily I set something up for Saturday with someone else. Gonna use that Friday t evening to study instead.
 

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Question, how long do you think it's acceptable for a girl to get back to you before you bush her as a lost cause?
 
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brehs. Never set a date for anything more than 3 days in advance. If you do you're asking for a chick to flake on you.

I tell this girl we should have dinner when she's back in town (she was visiting her friend in another city far away). She aggrees and suggests Friday...probably about 8 days away. I message her Wednesday after an hour long call on the weekend.. Ask her if theres anything specific she wants to do Friday. She mentions going to DC...something related to her cousins wedding

:snoop: I mention how I thought we had plans. Girl doesnt even have the decency to respond/reschedule.

Why are women so unreliable. Luckily I set something up for Saturday with someone else. Gonna use that Friday t evening to study instead.

Damn, that's cold. But honestly not entirely unexpected. Right now I can only say there's maybe 3 ppl max who I talk to who would never leave me hanging like this (guys ofc, chicks lool no). Perhaps she was busy and forgot (it happens) but if this has been a repeated pattern of behavior on her part then it's a good thing y'all didn't even hook up.
 

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I need some guidance. So last week when I was out with some friends my ex called me. We have not talked for over 3 months. I returned her call the following day and we talked, and long story short she wanted us to be friends. Then Tuesday night she called me and asked why does she always have to call me and not the other way around. I could not provide her a good answer to the question but I told her I would make an effort to reach out to her from time to time. We talked some more that night which lead to her asking if I was having sex with someone else and a few other questions. Then I found out that the dude she cheated on me with proposed to her. She said that she didn't say yes or no but she did take the ring. Fast forward to yesterday I sent her a text saying that this will not end well if we were to interact with each other as long as that dude is in her life. I received a bunch of text telling me to stop and that she loves me and wants me in her life so I backed down on my stance about us not communicating with each other. So later that night she calls me and she just did a complete 180 saying that we should never talk again and we need to cut all ties with each other. So my questions is, should i reach out to her and find out why she did a complete 180 or should i just keep it moving?

it is clear when u spoke to this girl she saw that u were still on the hook.

when a girl who ur interested in says she wants to be friends, NEVER EVER ACCEPT IT. ur response should be:

listen hun, being friends doesn't appeal to me...unless u mean friends with benefits. if that's not what you mean, i cant agree to it nor will i participate in it. i wish you the best of luck though. call me if you change your mind.

it's better u do this via text so u can just stop responding if anything she says after this isn't her agreeing to what u want. matter of fact, its in ur best interest to keep all ur convos to text. women are pretty good in coming up with sh1t in milliseconds and she will run circles around u if u keep talking on the phone. keep it to text so u can have time to think. and if she insist on talking on the phone, avoid it at all cost.
 
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it is clear when u spoke to this girl she saw that u were still on the hook.

when a girl who ur interested in says she wants to be friends, NEVER EVER ACCEPT IT. ur response should be:

listen hun, being friends doesn't appeal to me...unless u mean friends with benefits. if that's not what you mean, i cant agree to it nor will i participate in it. i wish you the best of luck though. call me if you change your mind.

it's better u do this via text so u can just stop responding if anything she says after this isn't her agreeing to what u want.

I think I made a screw up with my ex. We've been fukking and such again for the past three weeks and I told her today that I date other women as well as her. She said she fine with it and it doesn't hurt her but I can tell she acting different now...should I just back off on this and cease contact till she does or does not hit me up?
 

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brehs. Never set a date for anything more than 3 days in advance. If you do you're asking for a chick to flake on you.

I tell this girl we should have dinner when she's back in town (she was visiting her friend in another city far away). She aggrees and suggests Friday...probably about 8 days away. I message her Wednesday after an hour long call on the weekend.. Ask her if theres anything specific she wants to do Friday. She mentions going to DC...something related to her cousins wedding

:snoop: I mention how I thought we had plans. Girl doesnt even have the decency to respond/reschedule.

Why are women so unreliable. Luckily I set something up for Saturday with someone else. Gonna use that Friday t evening to study instead.

if its a girl u met online and have not physically met yet and u try to set up a date and she makes it 2 days into the future, that's bad. i see it like this, if we met on a tuesday and i ask u to meet that same day or the next day, and you cant, what's your reason? if chris brown asked u, would u say no? would u push him back in ur schedule? of course not.

approach ur dealings with women with this mindset and u'll know when and who to bush.
 

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I think I made a screw up with my ex. We've been fukking and such again for the past three weeks and I told her today that I date other women as well as her. She said she fine with it and it doesn't hurt her but I can tell she acting different now...should I just back off on this and cease contact till she does or does not hit me up?

u shouldn't have flat out told her u are dating other women. it should have been a question u allow to linger in her mind. remember, she ditched u. u dont owe her any sympathy.

since u already did what u did, u need to fall back. and dont EVER bring up the other girls. for example, if she wants to hang out on a monday at 8pm but u cant, tell her u cant. dont give her a reason. dont tell her its because u have a date. just tell her u have other arrangements. is it a girl? hun, come on, dont be insecure. dude, u need to be a flat out pathological liar or a an evasive psychopath when women are grilling u for anwers. never give them a direct answer. EVER.
 

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u shouldn't have flat out told her u are dating other women. it should have been a question u allow to linger in her mind. remember, she ditched u. u dont owe her any sympathy.

since u already did what u did, u need to fall back. and dont EVER bring up the other girls. for example, if she wants to hang out on a monday at 8pm but u cant, tell her u cant. dont give her a reason. dont tell her its because u have a date. just tell her u have other arrangements. is it a girl? hun, come on, dont be insecure.
Yeah I def think it was a glaring error on my part :snoop: and a weakness of my actually caring that she knew. Gonna fall back, and shyt was going so smoothly too. At least I have a date on sunday with a new chick. Still I need to stop doing weak shyt :snoop:
 

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if its a girl u met online and have not physically met yet and u try to set up a date and she makes it 2 days into the future, that's bad. i see it like this, if we met on a tuesday and i ask u to meet that same day or the next day, and you cant, what's your reason? if chris brown asked u, would u say no? would u push him back in ur schedule? of course not.

approach ur dealings with women with this mindset and u'll know when and who to bush.
met her in person . she lives a pretty far distance away too...probably like an hour from toronto

she was the one i was most interested in but she just went down in the power rankings. :yeshrug:
 

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met her in person . she lives a pretty far distance away too...probably like an hour from toronto

she was the one i was most interested in but she just went down in the power rankings. :yeshrug:

its the long distance that did u in my friend. even as a guy, long distance relationships are really tiring. just today, i had the chance to meet up with a chick that was a good hour away from me. she's bad. but, i couldn't muster up the energy to drive that distance. just wasn't worth it to me. and im a guy. imagine a girl with far more options.
 

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I think term friend is being used loosely these days.In order for a man and a woman to be friends.There has to be mutual affection,respect etc...a lot of times friendship is confused with association.Mainly friendship is about action.You can't have a lopsided friendship where your always calling more then her,texting more then her.If your giving more then her it's a problem.Everything has to be 50-50
 

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I need some guidance. So last week when I was out with some friends my ex called me. We have not talked for over 3 months. I returned her call the following day and we talked, and long story short she wanted us to be friends. Then Tuesday night she called me and asked why does she always have to call me and not the other way around. I could not provide her a good answer to the question but I told her I would make an effort to reach out to her from time to time. We talked some more that night which lead to her asking if I was having sex with someone else and a few other questions. Then I found out that the dude she cheated on me with proposed to her. She said that she didn't say yes or no but she did take the ring. Fast forward to yesterday I sent her a text saying that this will not end well if we were to interact with each other as long as that dude is in her life. I received a bunch of text telling me to stop and that she loves me and wants me in her life so I backed down on my stance about us not communicating with each other. So later that night she calls me and she just did a complete 180 saying that we should never talk again and we need to cut all ties with each other. So my questions is, should i reach out to her and find out why she did a complete 180 or should i just keep it moving?

Man cut her off. You already tasted her snakish ways and now she is trying to do to her current man what she did to you. She'll do the same thing to you again if you deal with her. What really can you get out of her that is of any worth? Ain't no need to lower your standards for that. Keep it pushing.
 
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