Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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It is a female. Thanks for informing me.
Yes I am and if you don't like what I have to say makes no difference in my life. Please start cursing, showing more of your ignorance and how you can't get your point across without doing so. You come onto a public forum talking about your problems and get mad at a total stranger for voicing their opinion which is sad and funny. It's my opinion and if you gave a problem with that, so be it lol
 

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Not everybody. If you feel you have to play these games to have positive interactions with somebody then it's best you not talk to them. Frankly, I don't see how anybody can keep up the facade for an extended period of time.
I don't play games either but when you ignore someone for bad behavior and move on with your life it tends to make them chase you more. I keep it moving and don't look back because exes are in the past for a reason.
 

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Yes I am and if you don't like what I have to say makes no difference in my life. Please start cursing, showing more of your ignorance and how you can't get your point across without doing so. You come onto a public forum talking about your problems and get mad at a total stranger for voicing their opinion which is sad and funny. It's my opinion and if you gave a problem with that, so be it lol

gave? smh

You're dismissed.....
 
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My girl broke up with me two Tuesdays ago...just an feel like talking about. This was an estimate I decided to get back with. At the time I thought it was good idea I MIGHT elaborate later.
 

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Go back to school and learn reading comprehension. Gave? I assume you meant HAVE.

Anyway run along and quit trolling.

....peace

hahaha gosh this is funny. Typo error, you idiot. You def have a chemical imbalance....are you okay.

Anyways! I love reading you guys stories on this thread and responding with advice. There are some good men/women on this forum and I won't let one poster with obvious issues make me believe otherwise.
 

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hahaha gosh this is funny. Typo error, you idiot. You def have a chemical imbalance....are you okay.

Anyways! I love reading you guys stories on this thread and responding with advice. There are some good men/women on this forum and I won't let one poster with obvious issues make me believe otherwise.

idiot lol

Well look who is the FIRST to resort to name calling. It isn't the big scary objectifying man, it's the pure, innocent, objectified woman.

Hey i'm just pointing out your spelling errors baby, it's not my fault you can't spell. Don't get mad at me because my keen eye noticed it :umad:
 
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My girl broke up with me two Tuesdays ago...just an feel like talking about. This was an estimate I decided to get back with. At the time I thought it was good idea I MIGHT elaborate later.

you still dropping that field guild that you were talking about a few months back?
 
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I don't play games either but when you ignore someone for bad behavior and move on with your life it tends to make them chase you more. I keep it moving and don't look back because exes are in the past for a reason.

People say this a lot but it has not been my experience.

When I ignore people they tend to just disappear / fade into obscurity, which tells me that they didn't give a fukk to begin with. This is especially true for girls.

I will say that I do have ulterior motives though. & this is not something I'm proud to admit. I have friends who were kinda dikks and the relationship was tilted in their favor initially but I'm still talking to them either because (1) They have something I want or (2) I was the bytch in the relationship for so long that they warmed up and we turned into actual, legitimate friends. There are ppl out there who are very guarded, so that "bad behavior" you see initially might just be insulation to protect them from the a$$holes of the world but once you get past the tough exterior they are actually pretty alright ppl. Of course you have to be very careful with this. If you are tolerating bad behavior but don't have an elaborate and realistic end-game (a la The Prince by Machiavelli or House of Cards) then it's better to just dead it. It's not worth it.

My conclusion from my small experiences dealing with ppl is that there are no hard and fast rules. What helps in the long run is being positive (if you start off by assuming everybody is an a$$hole well ... good luck), being very observant (actions speak louder than words, and nonverbal cues / body language are underrated) and of course having your priorities in order (having an end-game).
 
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People say this a lot but it has not been my experience.

When I ignore people they tend to just disappear / fade into obscurity, which tells me that they didn't give a fukk to begin with. This is especially true for girls.

I will say that I do have ulterior motives though. & this is not something I'm proud to admit. I have friends who were kinda dikks and the relationship was tilted in their favor initially but I'm still talking to them either because (1) They have something I want or (2) I was the bytch in the relationship for so long that they warmed up and we turned into actual, legitimate friends. There are ppl out there who are very guarded, so that "bad behavior" you see initially might just be insulation to protect them from the a$$holes of the world but once you get past the tough exterior they are actually pretty alright ppl. Of course you have to be very careful with this. If you are tolerating bad behavior but don't have an elaborate and realistic end-game (a la The Prince by Machiavelli or House of Cards) then it's better to just dead it. It's not worth it.

My conclusion from my small experiences dealing with ppl is that there are no hard and fast rules. What helps in the long run is being positive (if you start off by assuming everybody is an a$$hole well ... good luck), being very observant (actions speak louder than words, and nonverbal cues / body language are underrated) and of course having your priorities in order (having an end-game).
I totally agree, excellent thoughts. Nothing wrong with ulterior motives....I just hate when those games are played on people closest to me or even me. For me, the bad behavior has come out like after 3 months, maybe they get bored or it's not working or what have you. But it's whatever, people have the right to change their minds or behavior. But you're so on point.
 
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you still dropping that field guild that you were talking about a few months back?

Well I Just got of a relationship . It's something I wanna take of before I just jump back out there. I do want do it to see what's diffrent out her now that I'm 32 . My ex was 25 so I wanna see what have changed about the game if anything at all. I wanna start that approach 5 chicks a day for 8 weeks straight in September. I just got a lot on my plate as far as personality stuff for now.
 

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I tend to do more day/rooftop parties than clubs since it's the summer time. I still have a hard time with the initial opener, but having a conversation and closing is easy for me.
Any tips on improving my initial opener?

It's a bit challenging because of the loud music but one thing I suggest is go for the ones that's casual dressed.

As for openings just go "hey how u doing"? And if she's responsive with good how are u? Then you're open. But instead of continuing on, drop game in droplets. Respond with "cool I'll be back in a few".

During that time approach at least 2 others the same way. More depending on your game. Always go back to the first chick and continue conversation from there, Since you have no problems in closing deals you'll be fine.
 
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It's a bit challenging because of the loud music but one thing I suggest is go for the ones that's casual dressed.

As for openings just go "hey how u doing"? And if she's responsive with good how are u? Then you're open. But instead of continuing on, drop game in droplets. Respond with "cool I'll be back in a few".

During that time approach at least 2 others the same way. More depending on your game. Always go back to the first chick and continue conversation from there, Since you have no problems in closing deals you'll be fine.

Definitely going to try that this weekend. I tend to over think my openings which makes it harder than it is suppose to be and sometimes leads me to not approaching at all.
 
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