Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Jesus]

Got a job opportunity on the east coast in PA making good money from what I'm making now....my girl is reluctant from moving with me and her mediocre job. I know she's close to her nephews since their mother isn't around, but I'm trying to do my own thing. Feel like if she comes over with me in a few months...we might grow apart from being long distance...fukk it though I gotta go get this bread.

 

[Kal El]

Got a job opportunity on the east coast in PA making good money from what I'm making now....my girl is reluctant from moving with me and her mediocre job. I know she's close to her nephews since their mother isn't around, but I'm trying to do my own thing. Feel like if she comes over with me in a few months...we might grow apart from being long distance...fukk it though I gotta go get this bread.

How long ya'll been together?

 

[Jesus]

How long ya'll been together?

A bit over a year now. Moved out here for her and got a job in CO, but the cost of living is horrible. Our lease is up now and I was just applying for jobs nationwide. She enjoys her job out here, but it's far from anything great. I'm getting a 20k increase in salary for this job...told her she could find something part time to cover her personal bill and I could easily cover the rest. Maybe I'm reaching out too much for her...I'm getting a complacent vibe from her.

 

[Chef]

Never ever build your life around a woman. You let her tag along in your life, not center your life around her. If you want to have a messed up life, build your life around women. The one thing I know about most women is that they are always setting up new options for themselves and as soon as they find something they feel is better, they are gone, so mentally, you need to have that open door policy of enjoying her while she is there, but opening the door for her when she is ready to leave and not think twice about it.

Dealing with a situation like this for the past month. We weren't exclusive but I know she was dating others and I didn't have an issue with it. Time has passed with no communication between us and I don't feel nothing for her and the other women I put on the back burner.

 

[TRUEST]

A bit over a year now. Moved out here for her and got a job in CO, but the cost of living is horrible. Our lease is up now and I was just applying for jobs nationwide. She enjoys her job out here, but it's far from anything great. I'm getting a 20k increase in salary for this job...told her she could find something part time to cover her personal bill and I could easily cover the rest. Maybe I'm reaching out too much for her...I'm getting a complacent vibe from her.

dont ever, ever hold up ur dreams for a chick. women who are down for u will be excited to follow u wherever u go. i told a story many pages back about an ex that wanted to follow me to another part of the country. she was ready. all she was waiting for was for me to say do it.

in ur case, even if ur girl comes with u, she'll make u feel shytty for "uprooting" her life and will start making impossible demands on u. if ur not careful, that 20k increase in salary will vanish if u have to take care of her responsibilities, out of guilt. unless she has no marketable skills, she should be able to find a job wherever u go.


if shes not down to go where u are, or is hesitant, u need to sit her down and have a serious conversation. "honey, i love u. i moved here for u. now, i have an opportunity to make my/our life better. if u dont come with me, u'll be making a statement that i cant and wont ignore".

 

[Jesus]

dont ever, ever hold up ur dreams for a chick. women who are down for u will be excited to follow u wherever u go. i told a story many pages back about an ex that wanted to follow me to another part of the country. she was ready. all she was waiting for was for me to say do it.

in ur case, even if ur girl comes with u, she'll make u feel shytty for "uprooting" her life and will start making impossible demands on u. if ur not careful, that 20k increase in salary will vanish if u have to take care of her responsibilities, out of guilt. unless she has no marketable skills, she should be able to find a job wherever u go.


if shes not down to go where u are, or is hesitant, u need to sit her down and have a serious conversation. "honey, i love u. i moved here for u. now, i have an opportunity to make my/our life better. if u dont come with me, u'll be making a statement that i cant and wont ignore".

She promised her nephew to be in town for his martial arts black belt test in August. She was planning on staying mid July until the end of Aug/early September for that...rather than spend the $300 for the plane ticket and stack extra money living with her home girl a bit. I don't think the extra she'll get to save will be worth not seeing her 2 months. was a bit offended I told her to grab a quick part time job to cover her bills. Idk she has this guilt complex seeing her nephews when they are barely appreciative when she does come to events. I'll say my goodbyes when I get my exact start date.

 

[Mr210]

dont ever, ever hold up ur dreams for a chick. women who are down for u will be excited to follow u wherever u go. i told a story many pages back about an ex that wanted to follow me to another part of the country. she was ready. all she was waiting for was for me to say do it.

in ur case, even if ur girl comes with u, she'll make u feel shytty for "uprooting" her life and will start making impossible demands on u. if ur not careful, that 20k increase in salary will vanish if u have to take care of her responsibilities, out of guilt. unless she has no marketable skills, she should be able to find a job wherever u go.


if shes not down to go where u are, or is hesitant, u need to sit her down and have a serious conversation. "honey, i love u. i moved here for u. now, i have an opportunity to make my/our life better. if u dont come with me, u'll be making a statement that i cant and wont ignore".

Preach

 

[SpacelySprockets]

why this bytch that curved me at work back in december still being friendly to me all these months later
I just be tryna avoid her, I fell all the way back and she still say shyt to me
then ima think she feeling me again and ask her for her number just to get curved again

 

[Bless't]

Never ever build your life around a woman. You let her tag along in your life, not center your life around her. If you want to have a messed up life, build your life around women. The one thing I know about most women is that they are always setting up new options for themselves and as soon as they find something they feel is better, they are gone, so mentally, you need to have that open door policy of enjoying her while she is there, but opening the door for her when she is ready to leave and not think twice about it.[/QUOTE]

completely agree.

 

[RichieRich]

why this bytch that curved me at work back in december still being friendly to me all these months later
I just be tryna avoid her, I fell all the way back and she still say shyt to me
then ima think she feeling me again and ask her for her number just to get curved again

Ego boost

 

[Solano707]

dont ever, ever hold up ur dreams for a chick. women who are down for u will be excited to follow u wherever u go. i told a story many pages back about an ex that wanted to follow me to another part of the country. she was ready. all she was waiting for was for me to say do it.

in ur case, even if ur girl comes with u, she'll make u feel shytty for "uprooting" her life and will start making impossible demands on u. if ur not careful, that 20k increase in salary will vanish if u have to take care of her responsibilities, out of guilt. unless she has no marketable skills, she should be able to find a job wherever u go.


if shes not down to go where u are, or is hesitant, u need to sit her down and have a serious conversation. "honey, i love u. i moved here for u. now, i have an opportunity to make my/our life better. if u dont come with me, u'll be making a statement that i cant and wont ignore".

So, i was in the exact same boat. I wanted to join Special Forces a while back as an officer in the Army. Wife at the time, said "no" and we always fought about this. She never supported anything really I did in the army. Now guess what? I'm divorced and I am told old and to far in my officer career in the army to try out for Special Forces.

Man, if you hvae dreams and goals -don't put them to the side for NOBODY. Not even your kids - because having regrets is a real mother fukker, breh.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

For my older single and mature young cats.How do you deal with not having any single homies and mostly all your homies are married,in deep relationships etc.

 

[Mr210]

For my older single and mature young cats.How do you deal with not having any single homies and mostly all your homies are married,in deep relationships etc.

That's my issue all my boys and coworkers are married or engaged with anywhere from 1-3 children and most have become homebodies or do family stuff

 

[Throwbacksample]

That's my issue all my boys and coworkers are married or engaged with anywhere from 1-3 children and most have become homebodies or do family stuff

its crazy because most 90% of my homies that are married/engaged and have kids wish they were single

 

[Ronnie Macho]

So, i was in the exact same boat. I wanted to join Special Forces a while back as an officer in the Army. Wife at the time, said "no" and we always fought about this. She never supported anything really I did in the army. Now guess what? I'm divorced and I am told old and to far in my officer career in the army to try out for Special Forces.

Man, if you hvae dreams and goals -don't put them to the side for NOBODY. Not even your kids - because having regrets is a real mother fukker, breh.

Real talk...don't ever give up...most successes happen in older age...the best thing to do is to learn from your experience...my ex-wife didn't believe in my music either then I find her up on YouTube singing...what type of shyt is that?...get to where u going because there's women there too just wanted a real 1 before hypothetically "making it"...if I had stayed married I would have thrown my music away and to the wayside when she wasn't bout me anyway...you see?...so brehs...put your goals over hoes...www.kavinthe1.com