Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Bless't]

Note to the fellas. The modern day scene is so bad because most men have no idea of their own value and they are settle-for-less negroes. What women value from you is your attention, and yet so many men give that away cheaply. Stop liking some woman's pictures and blowing up her ego. You're not getting closer to her. You're just one amongst a faceless horde of ego boosters who make this woman think she is something special when she's not doing anything to earn that label. These women can treat you like you don't matter, because to them, you don't. They have a feast of dudes paying them attention, so the average man's attention is of very little worth.

If you text a woman and she doesn't hit you back, just move on. Men have got to stop begging these women and chasing them around. You're devaluing yourself if you give these women the impression they can ignore you and then hit you up at any time and have your full attention. That which is of value is not cheaply priced. These women have to pay some sort of price to deal with you, and that price should be respect.

 

[Bless't]

I come baring GREAT NEWS

Spoiler

I GOT HER NUMBER!


How it started: *me walks into work bathroom*

Me: Hi
Her: Hi
Me: My hair!!! *fake cries*

Her: You don't have my number, do you?
Me: No *tries to act uninterested*
Her:

Me: What is it?

Her: 323- .....

Me: *inside*

Us: Have a 10 minute conversation about hair. Asks me what style I want done.

Me: *ends convo* I'll text you

Her: Yeah, text me

Spoiler

This took SO much out of me. Now I know how guys feel talking to pretty women. I'm a woman myself and I was sweating bullets in that bathroom. Said some shyt that didn't make sense. Had her like .

I can talk to men all day long, no problem. They don't intimidate me or make me nervous, they're just men. But a beautiful woman?

That shyt felt like a marathon

I'm a brand new woman

This is adorable.

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

Yours sound better but my personal opinion is asking someone out always comes off corny to me. I don't even know yet which restaurant I want to go to and don't even know if I want to do the lunch or dinner thing. I got like 2 yrs to figure it out. The good thing is I've known her for 8 yrs so that will make it less nervous

Here's the harsh truth buddy. Women like to be led. Asking her "do you wanna go out?" or "let's hang out" and then spinning your wheels afterwards as to what spot to hit up or what to do, and then asking for her opinion all the while - it doesn't work dude. It might work for certain chicks but as an overall general strategy ... good fukking luck.

Few people respect indecisiveness. You said you don't know yet which restaurant. Figure that shyt out before hitting her up. You shouldn't give her the opportunity to think about or co-plan the first few dates. You are the one in charge and setting the rules. Lay out the plan first, what you are doing, etc, and then hit her up. The only possible responses she should be allowed to give to your propositions are a "yes" or "no". It makes it a lot easier for you this way too. If she says "no" you pretty much know to not waste any more time with her.

 

[WaveGang]

How do you ask women out? Do you say:

I would like to take you out

Will you go out with me

We should go out

I want to get to know you better

Let's hang out sometime

Etc

I wna see you

When are you free

You tryna kick it wit me

 

[RichieRich]

I wna see you

When are you free

You tryna kick it wit me

Nah. Id rather set the date/time than let her set it up

I recently used

Come with me on Saturday

Clean up so I can come over

Both worked

 

[Mr210]

Here's the harsh truth buddy. Women like to be led. Asking her "do you wanna go out?" or "let's hang out" and then spinning your wheels afterwards as to what spot to hit up or what to do, and then asking for her opinion all the while - it doesn't work dude. It might work for certain chicks but as an overall general strategy ... good fukking luck.

Few people respect indecisiveness. You said you don't know yet which restaurant. Figure that shyt out before hitting her up. You shouldn't give her the opportunity to think about or co-plan the first few dates. You are the one in charge and setting the rules. Lay out the plan first, what you are doing, etc, and then hit her up. The only possible responses she should be allowed to give to your propositions are a "yes" or "no". It makes it a lot easier for you this way too. If she says "no" you pretty much know to not waste any more time with her.

I'm not indecisive and I never ask a women's opinion on first few dates, so not sure what you are talking about. I already ideas just haven't settled on one yet, well I will let you know how it goes I'm going to meet her at 1030

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

I'm not indecisive and I never ask a women's opinion on first few dates, so not sure what you are talking about. I already ideas just haven't settled on one yet, well I will let you know how it goes I'm going to meet her at 1030

good luck my g

update the thread on the outcome

 

[TRUEST]

I wna see you

When are you free

You tryna kick it wit me - never use this!!!!! it sounds lame and sounds like u begging

 

[WaveGang]

It's not what u say it's how u say it.

Let's be honest, women are losers.

 

[Mr210]

good luck my g

update the thread on the outcome

It went good, we are on for this weekend

 

[Ohene]

It's not what u say it's how u say it.

Let's be honest, women are losers.

yea yall are bugging with this dont say this and dont say that shyt. point blank if the girl wants to chill she'll jump at the opportunity. theres nothing that guarnatees a yes

 

[RichieRich]

yea yall are bugging with this dont say this and dont say that shyt. point blank if the girl wants to chill she'll jump at the opportunity. theres nothing that guarnatees a yes

It's not about if she wants to or not, its about taking the lead and running the show.

 

[TRUEST]

yea yall are bugging with this dont say this and dont say that shyt. point blank if the girl wants to chill she'll jump at the opportunity. theres nothing that guarnatees a yes

nah u know better than this. women get attracted and easily disattracted by a wide array of things especially when they know they have so many loser guys willing to jump through many hoops for nothing.

with women, unless u got something she cant easily find somewhere else with someone else (i.e. real money, i'm talking millions), u run the risk of easily turning her off before she's gotten to know you.

with the way simps are gassing these girls up, they have unrealistic standards and views. and the way u start off asking a chick out can determine right out the gate who's got the upperhand in the relationship.

yes, some women may look at u and think ur very attractive and then u can open ur mouth and turn them all the way off.

 

[Ohene]

nah u know better than this. women get attracted and easily disattracted by a wide array of things especially when they know they have so many loser guys willing to jump through many hoops for nothing.

with women, unless u got something she cant easily find somewhere else with someone else (i.e. real money, i'm talking millions), u run the risk of easily turning her off before she's gotten to know you.

with the way simps are gassing these girls up, they have unrealistic standards and views. and the way u start off asking a chick out can determine right out the gate who's got the upperhand in the relationship.

yes, some women may look at u and think ur very attractive and then u can open ur mouth and turn them all the way off.

you right, ive definitely talked myself outta p*ssy and there are certain things you definitely should not say. but phrasing it as a question has worked the smae way not phrasing it as a question has. Either way its gonna come across as forced and for that reason I prefer to find a little opening to slide it in personally...using what we've already talked about during the conversation

for example a few weeks ago i was talking to some chick and she said, "happy friday" . I asked what she was doing over the weekend and then she responded and asked what I was doing...I mentioned what I was doing Friday/Saturday and said how on Sunday "I am tryna kick with this cool chick, (her name in the third person) if shes not tired from (what she said she was doing saturday night)." She acknowledged it was smooth and although she couldnt hang out on Sunday she hit me up later that week when she was in town.

Some women will see naming such a specific time and place as being inflexible. In her mind it isnt that you wanna kick it with her in general but only at the time/place. If it doesnt work with their schedule what motivation or confidence will they have to try and set up another date? In her mind you arent trying to get ice cream with her ...you're just going to get ice cream at that specific moment in time so if she cant come there is no other opportunity available. The problem with that is if they dont suggest another time you're probably gonna have to try and set up another rendezvous. And then what if that time doesnt work out either...? Youre gonna run the risk of not just looking inflexible butt being thirsty by always asking to kick it at very specific times. After all, we all know most girls aint going to initiate a rendezvous.

Iunno...I'm rambling but in summary...I've tried both and gotten mixed results with both in my history.

1. let's grab a bite next time you're free.
2. or, im gonna be trying out xyz restaurant tonight.. i want you to come with me.

neither of these makes u look like a cornball, nor do they come off as weak. i'd use the second one

Cant go wrong with #1

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

for example a few weeks ago i was talking to some chick and she said, "happy friday" . I asked what she was doing over the weekend and then she responded and asked what I was doing...I mentioned what I was doing Friday/Saturday and said how on Sunday "I am tryna kick with this cool chick, (her name in the third person) if shes not tired from (what she said she was doing saturday night)." She acknowledged it was smooth and although she couldnt hang out on Sunday she hit me up later that week when she was in town.