Not sure if this is the right thread but I just broke up w my girl (dated a year)
It really sucks brehs even if it was my decision
What's the backstory? why did you decide to end it?
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What's the backstory? why did you decide to end it?
She has trust issues, like constantly questioning my interactions with other females. Wanting to check my phone all the time. shyt like that. I tried to make it work but it was too much to handle.
And she wouldn't realize or admit that she had an issue that had to be worked on.
Not sure if this is the right thread but I just broke up w my girl (dated a year)
It really sucks brehs even if it was my decision
I've been there, many of us have. It sucks but just take it a day at a time. She sounds controlling and you can't be with someone who doesn't trust you and invades your privacy. A lot of women never admit that they have issues (or if they do, they do it in a way to make themselves the victim and try to flip the blame onto you).
I dated a chick for two years who had a lot of trust issues too, and I gave it 100% effort to make it work. I did everything that I could but the relationship was destroying me. Towards the end we had a huge blowup and I tried to explain that I think she needs counseling to deal with issues from her childhood (I was much more tactful than that). She flipped it on me and said I was abusive.
The hardest part is what's called the "hoover." This is when a chick tries to suck you back in (like a hoover vacuum) but dangling sex in front of you or trying to convince you that she's changed. After a year you know damn well that she won't change, breh. It's sad but you gotta put yourself first. Those relationships take a lot of out of you. Chill with your boys, lift heavy weights, get your money up, and don't worry about chicks for a while. Just treat yourself and keep your distance because it's easy to get caught back up with an ex like that.
That hoover sex is unreal but it will cloud your judgement.
Thanks breh. I'm just going to focus on the next day and find ways to keep busy. It'll be hard but the relationship was taxing by the end.
Sucks because everything else was good.
Thanks for the advice
STOP OVER THINKING vibe and have fun and if something happens and yall go somewhere cool if not cool it was fun never let ur past effect ur future.
This post hits home because I've been there before breh.
I always thought there was one chick out there for me and I acted accordingly. Only talked to one girl at a time. Only dated one girl at a time. And everytime I would get left with nothing.
Talking to multiple women has helped BIG TIME when it comes to getting rid of feelings of insecurity or acting needy.
But the feeling that the girls I'm talking to could leave me at any time still remains. I'm just mentally prepared for it and realize she's not mine, it's just my turn.
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There is NO such thing as the ONE. It's some good ONES and some BAD ones. That's why when a man or a women dies some of them go off and get somebody else....even in old age. NEVER have one it oneitis brehs . It's billions of people on this planet.
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I post this another thread and felt it belongs in thread as well .
Most men arent getting laid. The reasons vary and are diffrent for most guys. I think also for women they have a lot more options with internet and other apps. Men have to realize that you are playing with house money. You have to take what your strengths are and make them better and pick apart your weakness and make them better to be a more complete man. I believe in being a renaissance man and looking at every level of your life. Spirituality to goals etc . Men cant let women are this "game" mess with them psychologically. This is the biggest weakness I see with men as a whole.
Men are working with house money. In your 20s you have to build yourself up the best you can apart from women . If all goes well mens 30s and 40s are our best years...as far as wisdom goes. That work you put into yourself in your 20s should be paying off. You HAVE to put the work in on YOURSELF.
Guys have to learn HOW to spin plates. Talking to multiple women is aboutabundance and scarcity. Some plates fall off and break, others you may wish to stop spinning altogether and some may not spin as fast as youd like. To be realistic some of your plates you may not sleep with....this is when you use them to learn and improve your game . Depending on what type man you are you can finesse these women into friends to keep learning from the game . The essence of "plate theory" is that a man is as confident and valuable as his options. This is the essence of the abundance mindset- confidence is derived from options. There are mannerisms and attitudes that a man with options will subconsciously convey to prospective women that they interpret, and give this man a value as a commodity to be competed for with other females.
Guys just have to put in work. Rejection on the front end is all you have to worry about. Dont just sleep with anything you can get your hands on it says a lot about you as a man. Swing for the fence and keep approaching women that seem like achallenge and your game with better with time. Dont take the path of least resistance in any area of your life especially with women...and yes that means you will go home empty handed sometimes and women may flak or just not text back.
Most men arent getting laid. The reasons vary and are diffrent for most guys. I think also for women they have a lot more options with internet and other apps. Men have to realize that you are playing with house money. You have to take what your strengths are and make them better and pick apart your weakness and make them better to be a more complete man. I believe in being a renaissance man and looking at every level of your life. Spirituality to goals etc . Men cant let women are this "game" mess with them psychologically. This is the biggest weakness I see with men as a whole.
Men are working with house money. In your 20s you have to build yourself up the best you can apart from women . If all goes well mens 30s and 40s are our best years...as far as wisdom goes. That work you put into yourself in your 20s should be paying off. You HAVE to put the work in on YOURSELF.
Guys have to learn HOW to spin plates. Talking to multiple women is aboutabundance and scarcity. Some plates fall off and break, others you may wish to stop spinning altogether and some may not spin as fast as youd like. To be realistic some of your plates you may not sleep with....this is when you use them to learn and improve your game . Depending on what type man you are you can finesse these women into friends to keep learning from the game . The essence of "plate theory" is that a man is as confident and valuable as his options. This is the essence of the abundance mindset- confidence is derived from options. There are mannerisms and attitudes that a man with options will subconsciously convey to prospective women that they interpret, and give this man a value as a commodity to be competed for with other females.
Guys just have to put in work. Rejection on the front end is all you have to worry about. Dont just sleep with anything you can get your hands on it says a lot about you as a man. Swing for the fence and keep approaching women that seem like achallenge and your game with better with time. Dont take the path of least resistance in any area of your life especially with women...and yes that means you will go home empty handed sometimes and women may flak or just not text back.
Youseenmywork
KING
Bless't
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You made the mature and right decision before things got messy.