Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Jack Michaelson]

Mall out here in Joliet

Thanks, I haven't been out to Joliet in at least 16 years but we have that same thing at different stores here on the southside of the Chi.

 

[Womb Raider]

So I'm single again brehs. The night before finals, me and wifey got into a physical altercation. She hit me because she thought I hit her first, I reacted to her and bruised her up because she kept swinging even after I gripped her up. She broke up with me, kicked me out, deleted me off all of her social media. We tried to talk it out but she kept blaming me for reacting to her.....told me that we were done and I lost a best friend, gf and potential wife/mother. I was tight, went to a party that Saturday night and started fukking with a new chick. Shawty put herself on my snap and my ex found out, blew my phone up trying to talk to me....we talked. Told me we would get back together as long as I don't fukk with any bytches. Long story short, I said ok because I didn't want to argue and I ended up fukking the other bytch twice. My ex found out and called me a liar, cheater, says that I stabbed her in the back and we aren't getting back together. Everytime I call her, it's an argument about how I lied to her and how she can't trust me anymore. I haven't really been talking to her like that but I feel like she just wants me to do what she would do if I broke up with her.....which is be extremely apologetic, keep talking to her no matter what and put all of my effort into trying to get her back. My question is, do y'all think the effort is worth it? Idk if y'all remember but this is the same asian chick that I was talking to that wouldn't be loyal and was fukking other people while talking to me....even admitted she fukked a former teammate of mine right before we started the relationship. I only mention this because I feel like I was in her shoes before, and even tho I lied, I didn't cheat and I should get another chance. Even tho previous efforts have failed....I still have a get outta jail free card that she gave me while we were in a relationship.....should I give it a try? I was gonna pop up at her job with flowers, a card with the get outta jail free card inside of it and what I got her for Xmas....any thoughts?


e: I'm still messing with the other jawn....and last time I hit my ex up she tried to kill me with kindness.

aight well this shyt is done, coli fam.


I'm not gonna excuse my behavior or hers, but I'm done with the situation. I tried to give her some gifts for V Day, hoping that we could work on getting back to good terms. shyt just didn't work out. I ended up giving her the gifts, talking to her a little bit....but when we started talking about expectations and I told her that I expect the same unconditional love I gave her.....it's just clear that we don't have the same love for each other. She didn't even appreciate the gifts, she just hit me with the bs "So how do I know you've really changed and dealt with your anger problem" (although she's the one that caused the fight that broke us up). As soon as I brought up the past and told her to consider that when she's thinking about things between us, she gave my gifts back and got out the car. I went after her to try to talk to her...she told me that we aren't the same person, we were in similar but not the exact same spots and therefore I can't expect the same type of love back....I told her that she's done me dirtier and I just don't need this shyt, got out her car and left. I spent almost $100 on her, just for her to not appreciate it.

I can't chase someone that doesn't want to be chased. I can't attempt to make up for my mistakes when she won't work with me. It's just not worth it. Everytime I try to talk to her, she plays mind games with me and that leads to my anger.....and everything is my fault and if I say anything different, the conversation is over.



fukk it brehs. I'm single.

 

[360dagod]

aight well this shyt is done, coli fam.


I'm not gonna excuse my behavior or hers, but I'm done with the situation. I tried to give her some gifts for V Day, hoping that we could work on getting back to good terms. shyt just didn't work out. I ended up giving her the gifts, talking to her a little bit....but when we started talking about expectations and I told her that I expect the same unconditional love I gave her.....it's just clear that we don't have the same love for each other. She didn't even appreciate the gifts, she just hit me with the bs "So how do I know you've really changed and dealt with your anger problem" (although she's the one that caused the fight that broke us up). As soon as I brought up the past and told her to consider that when she's thinking about things between us, she gave my gifts back and got out the car. I went after her to try to talk to her...she told me that we aren't the same person, we were in similar but not the exact same spots and therefore I can't expect the same type of love back....I told her that she's done me dirtier and I just don't need this shyt, got out her car and left. I spent almost $100 on her, just for her to not appreciate it.

I can't chase someone that doesn't want to be chased. I can't attempt to make up for my mistakes when she won't work with me. It's just not worth it. Everytime I try to talk to her, she plays mind games with me and that leads to my anger.....and everything is my fault and if I say anything different, the conversation is over.



fukk it brehs. I'm single.

thats like giving tom brady the ball with 2 minutes left...your gonna usually go home if your the opposing team

we all learn valuable lessons in negative situations..

let her do the reaching out....she smelled blood and it put you thru the fire

let the female do the reaching out from here on out lil brody

 

[Womb Raider]

thats like giving tom brady the ball with 2 minutes left...your gonna usually go home if your the opposing team

we all learn valuable lessons in negative situations..

let her do the reaching out....she smelled blood and it put you thru the fire

let the female do the reaching out from here on out lil brody

I keep fukking up fam. My dad told me that the only way to beat a mindgame is to not play....and somehow I keep ending up back in the game and losing every fukking time.

It's frustrating that every time I lose my shyt, I get blamed for that. When she loses her shyt, it's different and I'm supposed to deal with it because "You're a man". I'm so upset about this shyt. I had the power even after I hit her ass back for hitting me....then I gave that shyt right back and everytime I think I'm getting it back, I'm really just losing more.


I don't even know what to do.

e: I mean I know I can't reach out to her anymore but mentally I'm just lost

 

[360dagod]

I keep fukking up fam. My dad told me that the only way to beat a mindgame is to not play....and somehow I keep ending up back in the game and losing every fukking time.

It's frustrating that every time I lose my shyt, I get blamed for that. When she loses her shyt, it's different and I'm supposed to deal with it because "You're a man". I'm so upset about this shyt. I had the power even after I hit her ass back for hitting me....then I gave that shyt right back and everytime I think I'm getting it back, I'm really just losing more.


I don't even know what to do.

Your dad gave you real good advice

The paragraph you wrote is you trying to understand her mindgames that you have no business playing

 

[Shadow King]

Bros gotta realize they have options too. A chick actually reminded me of that the other day. She admitted many girls get off on the fact that they get attention from multiple men. However, she said most of them don't realize guys can have it the same way. Generally the guys that are in this situation have their shyt together. I have said it numerous times on here, but getting good at something is what fuels men. This can be something as simple as hitting the gym on a consistent basis. The desire and dedication will give you a natural confidence that people will feel when around you.

You're saying the dudes with their shyt together have that ability? Which we know...or that dudes with their shyt together don't know they have that option.

 

[Spin]

You're saying the dudes with their shyt together have that ability? Which we know...or that dudes with their shyt together don't know they have that option.

Dudes in general don't know they have the option because they don't have their shyt together. When a female knows you're not going to bend or put on a fake nice facade when around her, she will respect you. Anything else you're likely to be put in the friend zone unless you fit her preselected archetype she is looking for. Even if you fit that description, she still won't respect you in the long run if you're not on your game.

All of this starts with respecting yourself. If you eat like crap, don't work out, play video games all day, etc the aura you're giving off is you don't care about yourself. If you're expecting a female to make your life happy, you have already lost. Females don't want to lead (at least the ones that want a man to be a man). Just like finding a job, you have to constantly be putting your resume out there. Applying to one job and expecting to get hired is a fools game. The more applications you have in, the more likely you're to get hired. Dealing with women is no different. The more offers you have, the less any individual one means to you. I understand rejection sucks, but if you have spent any real time working on goals outside of women you will know taking L's is just part of getting to where you want to go.

 

[N*ggerFa*ot]

Some girl ive been messin with taking me to her house to smoke. the only problem is she got a boyfriend i don't know how to handle this

 

[sfgiants]

My boy:
Got with a girl who already had two kids and was a waitress.. knocked her up now there's 4 kids in play. She hasn't gotten a better job since they met + crashed both his cars a week a part from drunk driving a few years ago and now is still tryna go out every weekend to party with her girls n doesn't come home til 3-4am

Poor b*stard has been catching consistent L's since they hooked up I don't know how some dudes do this shyt.

 

[Jack Michaelson]

I think one of the chicks I used to try to fukk with might be bipolar or some shyt. I went to a meeting up at the school and the teacher I posted about a while back was there, one of the older moms who knows about the shyt I been through with this chick was there and told me everytime my name was said this chick would smile and constantly stare at me.

I made it a point not to look in her direction or even talk to her because of all the games and things she has played for almost two years. I feel like i'm gonna have to get harsh and tell her to quit that shyt.

 

[Kal El]

My boy:
Got with a girl who already had two kids and was a waitress.. knocked her up now there's 4 kids in play. She hasn't gotten a better job since they met + crashed both his cars a week a part from drunk driving a few years ago and now is still tryna go out every weekend to party with her girls n doesn't come home til 3-4am

Poor b*stard has been catching consistent L's since they hooked up I don't know how some dudes do this shyt.

I hope my life never gets this low

 

[360dagod]

My boy:
Got with a girl who already had two kids and was a waitress.. knocked her up now there's 4 kids in play. She hasn't gotten a better job since they met + crashed both his cars a week a part from drunk driving a few years ago and now is still tryna go out every weekend to party with her girls n doesn't come home til 3-4am

Poor b*stard has been catching consistent L's since they hooked up I don't know how some dudes do this shyt.

Waitress=stress
4 kids=stress
multiple baby fathers=heartache

Gonna be a rough road ahead

 

[twan83]

Some girl ive been messin with taking me to her house to smoke. the only problem is she got a boyfriend i don't know how to handle this

Smoke by yourself before the boyfriend pop up at the house and smoke ur ass instead

 

[twan83]

My boy:
Got with a girl who already had two kids and was a waitress.. knocked her up now there's 4 kids in play. She hasn't gotten a better job since they met + crashed both his cars a week a part from drunk driving a few years ago and now is still tryna go out every weekend to party with her girls n doesn't come home til 3-4am

Poor b*stard has been catching consistent L's since they hooked up I don't know how some dudes do this shyt.

If ur gonna get with a single mom make sure she got her shyt together
I even have limits for that shyt and I dated them actually almost as much that had no kids

I don't think I can even mess with one that has more than 1 baby daddy

 

[Weaver31]

My boy:
Got with a girl who already had two kids and was a waitress.. knocked her up now there's 4 kids in play. She hasn't gotten a better job since they met + crashed both his cars a week a part from drunk driving a few years ago and now is still tryna go out every weekend to party with her girls n doesn't come home til 3-4am

Poor b*stard has been catching consistent L's since they hooked up I don't know how some dudes do this shyt.

Poor guy...at least he has his seeds to keep his lineage but he got a lot on his plate. She more of a burden when it comes to finances. Its best to get with someone who will work with u instead of making it much harder on u.