Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[BrokePhiBroke]

Dealing with women who don't have things is a big red flag.

Yes.

Men I've ran into who was on square one looking for a come up off me so why wouldn't y'all think a women isn't.

If she can't take care of herself you don't need her she's not your child.

 

[phcitywarrior]

Something interesting I just noticed here in Starbucks:

Going "smack" is really a cultural thing. In my couple times down South I noticed dudes were more likely to just walk up to a random girl and spit game. Around DC, brehs, from what I've seen at least, run the "friends of friends" thing.

With white people, going smack is almost non-existent.

Saw a white dude who was cleary interested woth some lady in the queue but didn't make a move. A black breh would have been on that with the quickness

 

[Mr.bocario]

I just feel like men are really expendable to a lot of women. For one we provide a lot of attention even when it is undeserved. And number two, a lot of women have been heartbroken and are sick of men and their bullshyt. to most women men aren't hard to come by so why worry about them?

It seems like for men you can be a great catch but if shorty doesnt consciously decide that she's interested in you and wants to see what you're about theres nothing you can really do to get her attention. A lot of girls nowadays aged 20-25 are like that. They're stuck trying to become "savages" and flip the script on men. So the same way men grew up preaching "MOB...money over bytches" is how women are saying "fukk men, i'm worried about my career, money, etc "

Man how'd it miss this post.


I discovered this in college, and it made me very nonchalant around women.

Don't get it twisted, becuz I'll step to them if they're cute, but in the back in my mind I'm know I'm just one of many nikkas she's dealing with

 

[PewPew]

Man i just want to say thank you to all the brehs really sharing and baring their souls. im learning a lot and i want to say i appreciate it. I want to share more but i wish this thread was private because you never know whos watching and reading.

Ive had some interesting developments too that id like advice on brehs AND brehettes. Ill be back later to share

 

[Kokoro]

I just feel like men are really expendable to a lot of women.

This fact cured me of my oneitis

When I realized that any average woman has (I would guess) at least three guys hawking over her at any given moment I had that moment of clarity. If she choosing let her choose. Cant get caught up on what you cant have

On to the next one...

 

[PewPew]

LONG POST AHEAD!

Hey breh and brehettes,

So since my last post In here things are going well but at the same time I feel like there is room for improvement.

I'm slowly getting over my daughters mom and seeing her more as a friend and coparent then potential wife, but I still love her dearly and hope things work out. And to our credit, we have been doing better than ever in the way we act towards each other.

The issue is im back playing the field too and it's turning me into a savage, which I feel is not a good thing. I've been going on dates regularly and even smashed a super super super freak (like ass to mouth super freak), but I'm disappointed in how much focus I put on dating and women.

Last year going into this year, I wasn't really messing with chicks like that. I didn't drink, smoke anything, party, or anything. I was working out and lost a ton of weight. I was working like crazy and stacking up mad money while studying for my CCNA. But I had no girls to text regularly and found myself hunting constantly.

Now, I got some guaranteed smash on call and have a plethora of lady friends that I am consistently entertaining. But the issue is ive picked all my vices back up, don't really hit the gym, stopped working as much at my second job, and haven't studied in a good two weeks. And I'm spending money on alcohol, hotel rooms for one or two nights, eating out, and just shyt I shouldn't be doing.

The easy answer is that I need to focus on myself and leave the women alone until I'm where I want to be. But I am a natural flirt, funny, moderately handsome, and get along well with women so they're always around and accessible if I choose to put in the work.

Just doesn't seem worth it anymore. Like I wouldn't marry any of the chicks I'm fukking or fukking with, except for my daughters mom, but I don't want to just sit around and study study study work work work all day and night. I suppose Balance is what I really need. But I'm an all in or all out type of person and I am getting better at learning how to balance.

I know I'm going to get a bunch of posts saying to focus on me and my studies and money, and you're all correct, but when I'm lonely on a random Thursday and don't feel like studying, what do I do?

I don't have a ton of male friends that I can go out with or just go over and kick it. And the ones I do have are far away and I'm different points in their lives.

I guess I'm saying all that to say be patient bros, what you seek will eventually find its way to you. But always be very careful in what you wish for. Because now i HAVE women and p*ssy but less time and money..

 

[TRUEST]

LONG POST AHEAD!

Hey breh and brehettes,

So since my last post In here things are going well but at the same time I feel like there is room for improvement.

I'm slowly getting over my daughters mom and seeing her more as a friend and coparent then potential wife, but I still love her dearly and hope things work out. And to our credit, we have been doing better than ever in the way we act towards each other.

The issue is im back playing the field too and it's turning me into a savage, which I feel is not a good thing. I've been going on dates regularly and even smashed a super super super freak (like ass to mouth super freak), but I'm disappointed in how much focus I put on dating and women.

Last year going into this year, I wasn't really messing with chicks like that. I didn't drink, smoke anything, party, or anything. I was working out and lost a ton of weight. I was working like crazy and stacking up mad money while studying for my CCNA. But I had no girls to text regularly and found myself hunting constantly.

Now, I got some guaranteed smash on call and have a plethora of lady friends that I am consistently entertaining. But the issue is ive picked all my vices back up, don't really hit the gym, stopped working as much at my second job, and haven't studied in a good two weeks. And I'm spending money on alcohol, hotel rooms for one or two nights, eating out, and just shyt I shouldn't be doing.

The easy answer is that I need to focus on myself and leave the women alone until I'm where I want to be. But I am a natural flirt, funny, moderately handsome, and get along well with women so they're always around and accessible if I choose to put in the work.

Just doesn't seem worth it anymore. Like I wouldn't marry any of the chicks I'm fukking or fukking with, except for my daughters mom, but I don't want to just sit around and study study study work work work all day and night. I suppose Balance is what I really need. But I'm an all in or all out type of person and I am getting better at learning how to balance.

I know I'm going to get a bunch of posts saying to focus on me and my studies and money, and you're all correct, but when I'm lonely on a random Thursday and don't feel like studying, what do I do?

I don't have a ton of male friends that I can go out with or just go over and kick it. And the ones I do have are far away and I'm different points in their lives.

I guess I'm saying all that to say be patient bros, what you seek will eventually find its way to you. But always be very careful in what you wish for. Because now i HAVE women and p*ssy but less time and money..

ima put it to you like this, you're doing the right thing. except, chill on the money being spent. i did something similar to what u did a while back and while it was fun, when i looked back at it, all i saw was the huge sums of money i spent on having fun. that sh1t dont pay the bills my friend. those memories are nice but they dont do sh1t for u in the long run.

i wouldnt say u should study study study or work on urself relentlessly. i say, set aside a day or two (not back to back) per week, that u know are your "fun days". and on the rest of the days, work on ur self. afterall, whats the point of working so hard if u cant enjoy urself with the fruits of ur labor.

i would caution u to be very careful with the ladies though. time is money my friend. i decided to actually calculate how much time i spent on one particular girl i was dating. say she comes over at 8pm on a friday night. and doesnt leave until 12pm the following day. thats 8 hours u coulda spent on things that can actually benefit u (assuming u go to bed at 1am and wake up at 9am).

again, doing that once or twice a week isnt bad. but when ur doing that multiple times a week, then ur no better than the dudes that hang around the streets on the corner, just talking and yapping about bullsh1t.

 

[Jack Michaelson]

Man i just want to say thank you to all the brehs really sharing and baring their souls. im learning a lot and i want to say i appreciate it. I want to share more but i wish this thread was private because you never know whos watching and reading.

Ive had some interesting developments too that id like advice on brehs AND brehettes. Ill be back later to share

Same for me, been lurking on here since August and was ready to apply things I had seen here to me and situations with females I been dealing with the last few years but fukked up and fell for some of the traps again with one in particular.

I'm likely gonna be around her tomorrow since i'm chaperoning my nephew and his class on a trip tomorrow and just hoping shyt is cool and this messy ass broad doesn't say shyt to me or look in my direction...just realized i'm gonna actually be around two crazy ass broads tomorrow on this trip.

Pray for me brehs.

 

[Atlrocafella]

This fact cured me of my oneitis

When I realized that any average woman has (I would guess) at least three guys hawking over her at any given moment I had that moment of clarity. If she choosing let her choose. Cant get caught up on what you cant have

On to the next one...

at your screen name and avi.

But you said some real shyt. You can't worry about what these women are doing, make sure you're on your shyt.

 

[PewPew]

Same for me, been lurking on here since August and was ready to apply things I had seen here to me and situations with females I been dealing with the last few years but fukked up and fell for some of the traps again with one in particular.

I'm likely gonna be around her tomorrow since i'm chaperoning my nephew and his class on a trip tomorrow and just hoping shyt is cool and this messy ass broad doesn't say shyt to me or look in my direction...just realized i'm gonna actually be around two crazy ass broads tomorrow on this trip.

Pray for me brehs.

You got this bro. Always remembers, what angers or elicits emotion out of you, controls you. No matter what, take the high road. It might be a bitter ass pill to swallow but doing the right thing ALWAYS works out better in the long run. If nothing else, they can't say you're the cause of the drama

 

[PewPew]

at your screen name and avi.

But you said some real shyt. You can't worry about what these women are doing, make sure you're on your shyt.

To piggyback off this post, there's no better feeling than walking away from someone/something and having that person/thing find their way back into your life. I recently had an ex of mine, who looking back was beyond wifey material, hit me back up to wish me a happy birthday. She has a kid now and so do I but I'm really thinking about shooting that shot. We dated for three years and I was a scumbag but who knows right??

 

[Jack Michaelson]

You got this bro. Always remembers, what angers or elicits emotion out of you, controls you. No matter what, take the high road. It might be a bitter ass pill to swallow but doing the right thing ALWAYS works out better in the long run. If nothing else, they can't say you're the cause of the drama

Thanks breh. I think things will go well at least where i'm concerned but when it comes to those women I ain't sure but if anything crazy pops off i'll update you guys...also gotta say I love the support that has been shown in this thread. to everyone dropping gems.

 

[Jack Michaelson]

To piggyback off this post, there's no better feeling than walking away from someone/something and having that person/thing find their way back into your life. I recently had an ex of mine, who looking back was beyond wifey material, hit me back up to wish me a happy birthday. She has a kid now and so do I but I'm really thinking about shooting that shot. We dated for three years and I was a scumbag but who knows right??

Go for it breh.

 

[PewPew]

SORRY, ANOTHER LONG POST!



Brehs as I sit here and think, I wonder if what I'm doing is worth it. What I mean is I just turned 28 on Feb.9th, and what I want more and more is to find someone who understands and vibes well with me that I can settle down with.

I was a savage ass nikka in my younger days when it came to females, always treated them however I wanted. But at my older age and stage I don't want the hassle of juggling different people or trying to determine what each person likes or doesn't like. I miss good morning texts, I miss holding hands, I miss kissing in public, I miss romantic dinners, I miss having sex with someone I actually care about.

I wasn't ready before but I really want a good woman to build wth because I'm not with the games anymore honestly. And the time and money spent on these meaningless relationships only make me feel more like that. Problem is i still have A LOT of love for my daughters mom and a part of me is scared to move all the way on in case she wants to try being a family again.

Now I ain't dumb brehs. If my daughters mom was giving me nothing but the cold shoulder and drama, I wouldn't even be entertaining it, but she's not. She's actually showing me a lot of love and care, even going out of the way to do things for me she has no reason too. Everyone who knows us and our situation always ask when we are getting back together.

I truly believe that she is the one for me and I want to keep fighting for her love, but I also don't want to force anything or go back to the relationship and have the same issues arise again. And on the flip side I have other options as well, but none that I see as really viable. Just really something to do. I truly enjoy getting my dikk sucked 4 ways from Sunday but I'd rather it be from someone who I know is 100 percent mine, not to sound possessive, and not someone who may or may not sucked and fukked another nikka that same day.

I want that boring married life brehs. I want to come home and see my family smiling and have dinner together. I don't know, I'm rambling I suppose. I'm just know that I've barely dipped my toe into the dating scene and I'm already getting tired of it.

I got a homey that's sworn off women for the next 5 to 10 years so he can focus on his grind. He's going to make a lot of fukking money buy me personally I'd rather have that type of money and have someone to share it with. Yea losing half might suck but it's just money. Having the chance to share your life with someone who really gets you and only wants the best for you is worth it to me

 

[TRUEST]

SORRY, ANOTHER LONG POST!



Brehs as I sit here and think, I wonder if what I'm doing is worth it. What I mean is I just turned 28 on Feb.9th, and what I want more and more is to find someone who understands and vibes well with me that I can settle down with.

I was a savage ass nikka in my younger days when it came to females, always treated them however I wanted. But at my older age and stage I don't want the hassle of juggling different people or trying to determine what each person likes or doesn't like. I miss good morning texts, I miss holding hands, I miss kissing in public, I miss romantic dinners, I miss having sex with someone I actually care about.

I wasn't ready before but I really want a good woman to build wth because I'm not with the games anymore honestly. And the time and money spent on these meaningless relationships only make me feel more like that. Problem is i still have A LOT of love for my daughters mom and a part of me is scared to move all the way on in case she wants to try being a family again.

Now I ain't dumb brehs. If my daughters mom was giving me nothing but the cold shoulder and drama, I wouldn't even be entertaining it, but she's not. She's actually showing me a lot of love and care, even going out of the way to do things for me she has no reason too. Everyone who knows us and our situation always ask when we are getting back together.

I truly believe that she is the one for me and I want to keep fighting for her love, but I also don't want to force anything or go back to the relationship and have the same issues arise again. And on the flip side I have other options as well, but none that I see as really viable. Just really something to do. I truly enjoy getting my dikk sucked 4 ways from Sunday but I'd rather it be from someone who I know is 100 percent mine, not to sound possessive, and not someone who may or may not sucked and fukked another nikka that same day.

I want that boring married life brehs. I want to come home and see my family smiling and have dinner together. I don't know, I'm rambling I suppose. I'm just know that I've barely dipped my toe into the dating scene and I'm already getting tired of it.

I got a homey that's sworn off women for the next 5 to 10 years so he can focus on his grind. He's going to make a lot of fukking money buy me personally I'd rather have that type of money and have someone to share it with. Yea losing half might suck but it's just money. Having the chance to share your life with someone who really gets you and only wants the best for you is worth it to me

with regards to your babymoms, dude, man up and take her back.

the bolded comes off very sophomoric.