Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[TRUEST]

Coming from dudes that always get women. You brehs on here saying that it's 2017 and women are out here busting it wide open. Well.. im going after those women you guys are talking about. I do not need pay for sex when it's free. I want to be that dude that always getting women at a drop of a hat.

how tall are u and whats ur ethnicity?

 

[Shadow King]

It was a looonnnngggg time coming. In high school I got zero play. Short, angry, mean=no puss. As I grew I got a lot more chill and traveled but still would always get the lets just be friends shyt from chicks. I had flings and shyt and one relationship over the next few years but nothing super serious. Then I met my ex a few years ago and she was perfect to me and best part she was totally into me...initially. Over the next two years we broke up so many fukking times (was actually what brought me into this thread) and after one of them @TRUEST told me to read this book by corey wayne. Now a lot of his shyt works, but alot of it doesn't for me but for every dude questioning why hes not getting what he wants from women I think you should read it. After dealing with my ex, reading that book, and getting fed up with how my woman woes were going i just straight up decided to do what works, and throw out the rest. HMMMMM women react well when you make yourself scarce...better blow her phone up every day! shyt like that kills brehs. they know what works but not strong enough to do it.

Beyond that I just built myself into a really really fun nikka to want to be with. I'm obviously still short as shyt. But i'm weird to women. I work in cosmetics, I got a closet full of skin care and shea moisture, but I will fukk their brains out. I'm chill I never pressure women for shyt, why bother, they gonna do what they want just like you are. So while most nikkas are pressuring her to do this that and the third I'm just like hey come be with me when you feel like it. they come they have a great time because I'm a great dude to be around we fukk and after that if theirs real chemistry go from there. they say no I tell them thats cool and if they change they mind hit me up. Its that simple. I feel the biggest arbiter to me being better with women is letting go of desperation. Coming from a place of scarcity is never good in any facet of life especially with women. It could be the first chick I've talked to seriously in months and I won't come off as needy or desperate because I don't really need them. I'd say thats the easiest way to get women. pretty much exude like you don't need them to complete you or some storybook shyt.

That's dope breh that's some real shyt. The biggest thing I'm learning now is the meaning of "get some confidence"...I'll say 18 months ago a breh saying that here would've have been vague as shyt to me but I know that it comes from that self-building; nurturing your own hobbies, taking care of your body, etc. Cause all that fake it till you make shyt is cool until things don't go your way lol then the mask come off and the desperate/needy, whatever side of you comes out. I'd like to get to place where that wouldn't happen. I'm already lifting, I don't notice much of a difference but my family does so I don't know what the hoes see. I could probably be fashionable if I wanted (this is the most female-centric aspect of self-building IMO) but I'm too damn cheap lol. But I think my highest hurdle is the effort to attempt to "date around" or "just have fun" knowing not only the archetype (s) of men women give that license too but also the motions you gotta go through to get there.

Like I'm cerebral (to a fault) and naturally coy, which is why I smacked my own kufi at work this weekend by being overly aggressive (fortunately in the chick's on words I didn't make her uncomfortable). And time is becoming so precious, almost evasive to me that I don't wanna waste it. So I'm on this quest for efficiency I know I'm incapable of now. Every time I think of "putting myself" out there it goes like this;

Spend a good portion of this little salary on a wardrobe upgrade. Spend every or every other Friday going to some club/lounge where bytches just wanna take pics and curve nikkas anyway. Over 4 weeks dance/chat with 25 girls, only 4 give a number. Only 1 actually texts back and is open to chill. Lose that 1 chick before we even link up because I let her know I go Dutch. Or, that's fine but we go on a date or 2 but her hints don't register to me and her fire dies. Or, our vibrations bounce off each other just fine but by date 3 or 4...neither of us got our own spot, so where we letting things escalate? That ones actually pretty big to me because what's the point of opening all these situations when you don't have your own space to invite them to and close?

That's a day in my overactive head but I just feel like I ain't cut out to self-build and still "shoot your shots", or at least the mentality just won't come. It's one of the other for me. But one day it'll be too late just dip my toes in the water, I'll be going on 30 and that point a dude should be versed in how to date correctly while still serving his own best interests. So while there's optimism in that I'm doing some things for me, as far as knowing how enjoy what I'll build, I feel screwed in that regard breh

 

[ZoeGod]

So a home girl of mine wants to visit and chill in my dorm. Long story short I'm in a doctorate program in a university in Connecticut. Anyway we haven't chilled in about 2-3 years. Ever since I got accepted in this doctorate program she has been texting me almost on the daily that she wants to visit and chill. My thing is does she want to fukk. I told her I go to the gun range to shoot and she gets hyped and wants to do that with me. I honestly do not want to waste my weekend with her if I'm not getting skins. Plus I head back to BK in the weekends to see my family. We have been friends since college and she has shown signs she is interested and at other times I am friend zoned. The reason I stopped chilling with her cuz she bore me with her man issues and shyt. I appreciate my time and don't like it being wasted. So should I try to make a move to set the mood. I was gonna buy henny. Another part is like "nikka she probably gonna was ya time anyway. " I have to say she is single and hasn't dated in a long time maybe she sees ya boy in a doctorate program and is like
" imma make this nikka nut in me to get that stimulus package." OR she just wants to chill. I dunno. I have feeling she wants to fukk cuz she keeps texting me when she can come up here. I never initiate these texts she does. So I dunno. Y'all tell me. She is 26 so she is probably feeling desperate as her stock is slowly falling.

 

[True Blue Moon]

That's dope breh that's some real shyt. The biggest thing I'm learning now is the meaning of "get some confidence"...I'll say 18 months ago a breh saying that here would've have been vague as shyt to me but I know that it comes from that self-building; nurturing your own hobbies, taking care of your body, etc. Cause all that fake it till you make shyt is cool until things don't go your way lol then the mask come off and the desperate/needy, whatever side of you comes out. I'd like to get to place where that wouldn't happen. I'm already lifting, I don't notice much of a difference but my family does so I don't know what the hoes see. I could probably be fashionable if I wanted (this is the most female-centric aspect of self-building IMO) but I'm too damn cheap lol. But I think my highest hurdle is the effort to attempt to "date around" or "just have fun" knowing not only the archetype (s) of men women give that license too but also the motions you gotta go through to get there.

Like I'm cerebral (to a fault) and naturally coy, which is why I smacked my own kufi at work this weekend by being overly aggressive (fortunately in the chick's on words I didn't make her uncomfortable). And time is becoming so precious, almost evasive to me that I don't wanna waste it. So I'm on this quest for efficiency I know I'm incapable of now. Every time I think of "putting myself" out there it goes like this;

Spend a good portion of this little salary on a wardrobe upgrade. Spend every or every other Friday going to some club/lounge where bytches just wanna take pics and curve nikkas anywhere. Over 4 weeks dance/chat with 25 girls, only 4 give a number. Only 1 actually texts back and is open to chill. Lose that 1 chick before we even link up because I let her know I go Dutch. Or, that's fine but we go on a date or 2 but her hints don't register to me and her fire dies. Or, our vibrations bounce off each other just fine but by date 3 or 4...neither of us got our own spot, so where we letting things escalate? That ones actually pretty big to me because what's the point of opening all these situations when you don't have your own space to invite them to and close?

That's a day in my overactive head but I just feel like I ain't cut out to self-build and still "shoot your shots", or at least the mentality just won't come. It's one of the other for me. But one day it'll be too late just dip my toes in the water, I'll be going on 30 and that point a dude should be versed in how to date correctly while still serving his own best interests. So while there's optimism in that I'm doing some things for me, as far as knowing how enjoy what I'll build, I feel screwed in that regard breh

Start practicing meditation every day breh. It is working wonders for me and enhances literally every part of your life. So much of what we do is impulsive and based on our brain's wiring, so by learning to detach from the never ending thoughts and seeing them for what they are, rather than being ruled by them, you'll be more in control and at peace with the things you can't control.

 

[Crayola Coyote]

how tall are u and whats ur ethnicity?

6ft (really 5'11 ) black. (Parents from Liberia but I'm consider AA cause I was born here) live in a 80% cac town in southwest Florida. No c00n though..

 

[True Blue Moon]

So a home girl of mine wants to visit and chill in my dorm. Long story short I'm in a doctorate program in a university in Connecticut. Anyway we haven't chilled in about 2-3 years. Ever since I got accepted in this doctorate program she has been texting me almost on the daily that she wants to visit and chill. My thing is does she want to fukk. I old her I go to the gun range to shoot and she gets hyped and wants to do that with me. I honestly do not want to waste my weekend with her if I'm not getting skins. Plus I he'd back to BK in the weekends to see my family. We have been friends since college and she has shown signs she is interested and at other times I am friend zoned. The reason I stopped chilling with her cuz she bore me with her man issues and shyt. I appreciate my time and don't like it being wasted. So should I try to make a move to set the mood. I was gonna buy henny. Another part is like "nikka she probably gonna was ya time anyway. " I have to say she is single and hasn't dated in a long time maybe she sees ya boy in a doctorate program and is like
" imma make this nikka nut in me to get that stimulus package." OR she just wants to chill. I dunno. I have feeling she wants to fukk cuz she keeps texting me when she can come up here. I never initiate these texts she does. So I dunno. Y'all tell me. She is 26 so she is probably feeling desperate as her stock is slowly falling.

She probably wants to fukk, breh. Kind of in line with what a few other dudes in the thread have been going through lately -- most chicks aren't going to be as up front as we are. Her version of "Can I have some dikk?" is wanting to be in your presence and letting you know she's down to spend the night and have fun with you. The moves you make with that invitation are up to you.

BUT, just cuz she might be down, don't go into "get p*ssy or die trying" mode and sabotage yourself. I can't stress enough how important the vibe and mood is to everything with a woman -- including guaranteed p*ssy. Saying or doing some dumb or thirsty shyt can ruin guaranteed ass, even if she's literally sending you naked pics and telling you what she wants to do to you.

So you gotta perish the time wasting thoughts, because the prospect of ass is never 100% with any woman on the planet. Even though you know you want ass, you gotta be unaffected by it and just stay cool. Let the ass come to you. And be willing to take the L if it doesn't pan out.

 

[True Blue Moon]

@Zeu$ Breh can you give us some insight into your makeup career and how it has played into your interactions with women? I'm sure it's different from what women expect or are used to with the run of the mill straight dude, so I know you got some intriguing stories.

 

[ZoeGod]

Start practicing meditation every day breh. It is working wonders for me and enhances literally every part of your life. So much of what we do is impulsive and based on our brain's wiring, so by learning to detach from the never ending thoughts and seeing them for what they are, rather than being ruled by them, you'll be more in control and at peace with the things you can't control.

Aight no doubt. Imma buy the henny and invite her over next weekend. Ill take her to the gun range for like an hour or so. Then just chill and watch a movie in my dorm and pour some drink and see what happens. Ill see what happens if. If it happens its whatever if it doesnt its whatever.

 

[True Blue Moon]

Aight no doubt. Imma buy the henny and invite her over next weekend. Ill take her to the gun range for like an hour or so. Then just chill and watch a movie in my dorm and pour some drink and see what happens. Ill see what happens if. If it happens its whatever if it doesnt its whatever.

That's really all that we have whenever we shoot our shot anyway.

 

[Deafheaven]

@Zeu$ Breh can you give us some insight into your makeup career and how it has played into your interactions with women? I'm sure it's different from what women expect or are used to with the run of the mill straight dude, so I know you got some intriguing stories.

One of the best investment ever. The ability to know exactly how and where to touch a woman is a rarity amongst most men. So just a simple ass massage when I get to the crib is instant draws. Plus you can empathize with the amount of stuff they do to be beautiful because you actually know what it entails. Its a nice dynamic because Im so open with what I like and am passionate about with no shame. So they are instantly put at ease. I randomly get random women at work calling me beautiful and shyt and spilling there life story I just have that affect on people. I get prince all the time. I honestly think being short isnt that bad if you dont fall into the lil bro trap. Im a enigma being in cosmetics and chicks probably wonder just what made me choose this path . Its definitely beneficial tho. And I get hit on at work all the time. These middle age white women are shameless

 

[True Blue Moon]

One of the best investment ever. The ability to know exactly how and where to touch a woman is a rarity amongst most men. So just a simple ass massage when I get to the crib is instant draws. Plus you can empathize with the amount of stuff they do to be beautiful because you actually know what it entails. Its a nice dynamic because Im so open with what I like and am passionate about with no shame. So they are instantly put at ease. I randomly get random women at work calling me beautiful and shyt and spilling there life story I just have that affect on people. I get prince all the time. I honestly think being short isnt that bad if you dont fall into the lil bro trap. Im a enigma being in cosmetics and chicks probably wonder just what made me choose this path . Its definitely beneficial tho. And I get hit on at work all the time. These middle age white women are shameless

Good stuff. A dude setting himself apart with individual interests or passions is definitely seductive to women. They like to see us master things. Especially if it's not just the same thing that every other dude likes or gives his time and energy to.

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

in 2017 women are literally waiting to get finessed out they panties by a confident smooth brother because most nikkas are clones and wack. A lil subtley goes a long way. You don't have to be a thirsty creeper to convey you want to fukk her.

Im about to tag you in a new thread.
I want you to break down something on this post

 

[Astroslik]

Women like sex so I'm gonna talk about sex. I'm tired of talking about bullshyt I'm not interested in with women. Women will not play games if you be upfront with them about your agenda. They have a choice to take it or leave it. I only smashed one chick last year 2016 that was 10 years older than me, just off of me telling her to cut the bullshyt out. "I'm not one of those guys to play these game with." I'm going to take your guys advice cause we all have a goal to achieve. And these women that are in my town are not "hot" but decent/average looking but not enough for you waste your time with them if they reject you. ( have terrible attitudes) Plus they are white/Hispanic and I'm black. Get my drift.

only men with clout and social proofs, i;e athletes, entertainers, get to be blunt this with high conversion rate breh

 

[Crayola Coyote]

only men with clout and social proofs, i;e athletes, entertainers, get to be blunt this with high conversion rate breh

Nope. Any man that work at it can get this skill.

 

[Deafheaven]

Nope. Any man that work at it can get this skill.

I honestly think youre trolling now.