Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[360dagod]

Something that i've got to get out of my chest.


I've been hanging out with this chick.


We've gone out on several dates (met up out and about a couple other times).


Our real initial first date came last Thursday. We met up for drinks, had a really good time.


She was like, "Howie D, you busy this weekend? Let's get together on Saturday!"


In my head, i'm thinking, "Shiit, my girl wanted to take me out for my bday this Sat, maybe i can see this side piece afterwards?!"



Long story short, we eventually hooked up (she was actually with another couple, so when we rendezvous'd at the bar, the pair came along, which was cool because they are the reason i met this chick).


We go out for a couple drinks and then the couple she car pooled with suggested that I give shawty a ride home.


At first, I wasn't thinking much of it, but she goes, "Well, whatever we do, I gotta be up tomorrow at 8:30 and pick up my kids because church is at 9;30.


So now i know what you're thinking, You've got a girlfriend, and you're messing around with a woman who has kids (3 at that).


But this new gal is smart, funny, really great shape after 3 children (she's aboot 32)... and has been divorced for a couple years now (she tells me about the horrors of dating online and the apps and shiit... she thinks its horrible and finds it a very undesirable way to find companionship).


We head back to her crib and i'm seeing pics of her and her kids (none of the daddy around. She really resented him and said he was never really in the picture).



Not too long later, we're petting heavy and she's in nothing but her tube socks, panties and a tang top (and she just got back from AZ so her skin was really supple and tanned - she's mixed btw : black and white. Her children look 100 percent nubian... beautiful looking kids I might add).



So why am I telling this story?



I may be a little bit of a headcase myself. I find myself gravitating towards, not just women with children... but moreso the idea of women with motherly/nurturing qualities (and you can't really have that without kids). Because I was so close to my own mother (whom passed away a couple years back)... i feel like... this is my way of having a maternal figure in my life now that it's gone from me.



Milfs have always been my thing... but now i think it's a deeply rooted psychological absence that I subconsciously seek.



Any who... we have a lot in common: she likes R&B, great with words (that linguistic dexterity is a plus in love interests to me), has a massive tennis shoe collection with boxes every where, enjoys Vegas, loves to chill... and doens't overly talk about her children in fear of scaring me away. LOL.



The thing is... she compliments the hell out of me. Never seen a woman adore and revere me so much (and this is BEFORE we had sex btw).



But i definitely blew her back out Saturday night. She was counting sheep after a good half hour of rompage. It was great. That snap back was premium (three kids, my jigs?!?! Damn... terrific).


You know that one move where your victim is lying flat on her stomach/face and you've got your left arm around her breasts, your right hand around her neck semi-gently choking her while your mean stroking her from the back?!


Her snatch was so moist... it gave Duncan Hines a run for its mullah. Sweet haysoose.





She wants to go eat at some cool places, take a walk in her air maxes and sing Bruno Mars and stuff.



I like that. I'm a basic guy.




... and I miss my momma.




So she'll have to do for the mean time.









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Don't do it to yaself

 

[TRUEST]

I'm currently in a situation where im too comfortable being single in the sense I don't feel like going out of my way for a woman, I enjoy going out by myself because all my friends are washed or in relationships. I meet woman but right now I'm too busy with work, when I'm available I don't feel like dealing all that comes with meeting new woman but I do want keep in touch with them for when I do feel like dating seriously again. Anybody in that situation

same here man. my thing is, i just dont have the energy to sit on the phone and always have to keep a conversation going through text all through the day. not being able to come home everyday and do absolutely nothing. i mean, guess im being selfish. but, im enjoying it.

 

[NeilCartwright]

Have yall had a woman accept your different religious/spiritual beliefs?

Most women i know deal with were raised in a christian household (i think most black people were) but ive been on this black muslim thing lately.

I'll be on snapchat joking and I'll put some shyt up like "Sun is finally out, bismallah this is the day Allah has made"
Or get an unexpected bill in the mail "Another bill. This too shall pass wallahi"
Its just some arabic phrases and i get loads of DM's like "Whats wrong with you, you alright?" "You're not serious, right" Im in the south and people act like you're a devil worshiper if you dont think like them.



I laugh off the DM's but inside im likei hope my beliefs dont hurt my dating life

 

[TheIsleofMan]

N/A

 

[TheArchitect]

Maaan, I feel lame as fukk asking this but.....

How exactly do you get an FWB? I mean, every time I've tried anything with anyone, they on that "relationship" mess....

 

[FIFTY ROUND DRUM]

Have yall had a woman accept your different religious/spiritual beliefs?

Most women i know deal with were raised in a christian household (i think most black people were) but ive been on this black muslim thing lately.

I'll be on snapchat joking and I'll put some shyt up like "Sun is finally out, bismallah this is the day Allah has made"
Or get an unexpected bill in the mail "Another bill. This too shall pass wallahi"
Its just some arabic phrases and i get loads of DM's like "Whats wrong with you, you alright?" "You're not serious, right" Im in the south and people act like you're a devil worshiper if you dont think like them.



I laugh off the DM's but inside im likei hope my beliefs dont hurt my dating life

This is intriguing. Because I've began to take a path similar to yours, granted I keep the arabic phrases to myself for the most part.

I'm in the A too and for some time I've been under the impression that they had a burgeoning Muslim community and things were a lot more tolerable. I've got at least 4-5 Black Muslim friends that I've had way before I began my transitioning.

 

[Cryptocurrency Scarface]

Got ignored by some PAWGs on the Bus when I cold approached but least I tried I'm a good looking breh too

it feels alot better to try than dwell on a missed opportunity

 

[Cryptocurrency Scarface]

Have yall had a woman accept your different religious/spiritual beliefs?

Most women i know deal with were raised in a christian household (i think most black people were) but ive been on this black muslim thing lately.

I'll be on snapchat joking and I'll put some shyt up like "Sun is finally out, bismallah this is the day Allah has made"
Or get an unexpected bill in the mail "Another bill. This too shall pass wallahi"
Its just some arabic phrases and i get loads of DM's like "Whats wrong with you, you alright?" "You're not serious, right" Im in the south and people act like you're a devil worshiper if you dont think like them.



I laugh off the DM's but inside im likei hope my beliefs dont hurt my dating life

I'm Muslim and I never use this language when speaking to anyone outside of Muslims and mostly with Muslims who speak like that.

Basically I'm not openly muslim to non muslims unless someone asks me to eat something with pork which i then refuse

 

[chipmarket]

page 3000 and we still having problems with these broads

 

[StarGirl]

Ah forget it

 

[J Money]

Brehs I need help, I've completely lost mt grove and can't seem to get back my motivation. It's to do with women and all other aspects of my life. It started about a month ago when I had a break off college, had a couple interviews but didn't get the job for whatever reasons, I dunno what it isn't but I have no motivation and I'm back in that I have nothing to lose mode where I don't give a fukk about anything or myself or my health or approaching women. How can I snap out of this?

 

[Dreamzeedream]

You Only Get One Chance At Ths Thing Call LifeOne Chance To Make It Count
Once You Gone Game Over be Blessed N Humble

 

[Atlrocafella]

Brehs, self care is so necessary. Make sure you are walking out the door with the best version of yourself. Hit the gym/work out, keep a clean cut, and dress well. Those 3 things together will take you to the next level no matter where you are. I got cougars and young chicks stay trying to press me

*Edit*- make sure you smell good as well. Invest in a good cologne.

 

[Drip Bayless]

How do y'all approach females at the gym? I had this decent lil bih watching the kid while I was lifting, but I ain't do none cause she had headphones on and I ain't wanna be that lame nikka tapping on her shoulder

 

[Dreamzeedream]

Brehs I need help, I've completely lost mt grove and can't seem to get back my motivation. It's to do with women and all other aspects of my life. It started about a month ago when I had a break off college, had a couple interviews but didn't get the job for whatever reasons, I dunno what it isn't but I have no motivation and I'm back in that I have nothing to lose mode where I don't give a fukk about anything or myself or my health or approaching women. How can I snap out of this?

i think your in A slump breh, you just gotta pull yourself out of it. What motivated you b4?