Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I paid back my ex fiance, just took it off my credit line

Of course she messaged me "I hope you didn't get back in debt paying me Back"

I didn't even say nothing

Id rather pay the bank interest than a ex holding something over my head


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Thanks breh


no worries. i hope you understand the lesson to be learned here.

next girl u get with, u dont have to spend all ur free time with her. find a hobby (preferably an online business). and never be in the position where ur being taught or helped constantly by your lady.
 

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Good breakup advice, Scarf. Funny thing is, I broke damn near all those key points and I'm mad I did it. It didn't get me anywhere. I knew I should've cut all contact with shorty from the rip but my will wasn't strong enough at the time. You live and you learn as we all know. It's crazy how you can look back and recognize literally every misstep you made but in the moment things aren't so clear. But life experience is what makes us men. There are no failures in life, only lessons.
 

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Well I'm no longer engaged brehs, fiance said she has alot of doubts and returned the ring to me.

Came out of nowhere :snoop:.

Then days later she wanted to talk I went to the washroom and she went through my phone and found a convo with one of my friends who is a girl telling her that she returned the ring to me and I feel so embarrassed. And my friend said she feels like slapping her for wasting my time and I said lol She blew up at me for "discussing our issues with others" yet she's been messaging her sister about us all the time.

Won't lie it stings, I love her but such is life.

Been ghost for a min
But sorry to hear what happen
Gotta say having doubts outta the blue idk been
U know my experience and a lot of shyt i went thru
It's just too random and sudden could she met another dude possible?
As far as u telling ur friend ain't nothing wrong imo
U both got friends before meeting each other what u tell them is between u and the friend
Not her place to go thru ur phone in the first place without ur permission

U need clarity on y she feels doubts if she can't give a legit answer :camby: imo
Waste of ur time
U don't all of a sudden do this and if she had issues with period she could of easily approached u and sat down and talked too u bout it so u both can work it out together as a couple

I notice people asking how long before engagement
I'll tell u all this no matter how long or short it don't mean shyt if the other person ain't shyt

I knew a couple together for 8 years married only 2 years got divorce
Met a lady who married her husband within a week been married still for over 50 years

U just don't know marriage is a chance same as having a kid with someone u don't know if they a good parent till u break up and u see their true colors
 

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Been ghost for a min
But sorry to hear what happen
Gotta say having doubts outta the blue idk been
U know my experience and a lot of shyt i went thru
It's just too random and sudden could she met another dude possible?
As far as u telling ur friend ain't nothing wrong imo
U both got friends before meeting each other what u tell them is between u and the friend
Not her place to go thru ur phone in the first place without ur permission

U need clarity on y she feels doubts if she can't give a legit answer :camby: imo
Waste of ur time
U don't all of a sudden do this and if she had issues with period she could of easily approached u and sat down and talked too u bout it so u both can work it out together as a couple

I notice people asking how long before engagement
I'll tell u all this no matter how long or short it don't mean shyt if the other person ain't shyt

I knew a couple together for 8 years married only 2 years got divorce
Met a lady who married her husband within a week been married still for over 50 years

U just don't know marriage is a chance same as having a kid with someone u don't know if they a good parent till u break up and u see their true colors

thanks breh

I don't think its another guy but who really knows, regardless of how highly you think of awoman i know firsthand you can't push anything past em

Actually having doubts isn't what bothers/bothered me I understand having doubts marriage is a big decision its the not communicating and working through it is what peeved me and then to blame it on me talking to a female friend about us

Yeah its still hard but every day its getting a little easier I just gotta push forward

And I know what you mean it doesn't matter how long or how short, none of ta tmatters
 

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I paid back my ex fiance, just took it off my credit line

Of course she messaged me "I hope you didn't get back in debt paying me Back"

I didn't even say nothing

Id rather pay the bank interest than a ex holding something over my head


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Thanks breh

You know what that means. She's going to start leaving breadcrumbs trying to worm her way back in the not too distant future. I get the sense that she wants to keep the door open between you two.

The question is are you going to entertain it or change your number and be done with her for good :sas1:
 

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Good breakup advice, Scarf. Funny thing is, I broke damn near all those key points and I'm mad I did it. It didn't get me anywhere. I knew I should've cut all contact with shorty from the rip but my will wasn't strong enough at the time. You live and you learn as we all know. It's crazy how you can look back and recognize literally every misstep you made but in the moment things aren't so clear. But life experience is what makes us men. There are no failures in life, only lessons.

happens to us all, every single woman in my life who has broken up with me has dropped the lets still be friends and then they get angry when I don't want to and cut them out of my life

The one thing about my ten commandments is like I say its the fastest and best way for recovery.

I agree with the bolded, I've learned so much from every relationship. Hell I remember back in the day when a woman would dump me I'd be scared of dating agian because what if she found out :heh: even though she's the one who dumped me

I mean yes take the time after a breakup to heal, clear your emotions dont use people etc. but if your over someone in a day or a week then hop right back in
 

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You know what that means. She's going to start leaving breadcrumbs trying to worm her way back in the not too distant future. I get the sense that she wants to keep the door open between you two.

The question is are you going to entertain it or change your number and be done with her for good :sas1:


I won't lie i love her and she's still the best woman I ever dated, I don't even have hatred or bitterness like I did in the past. I'm taking this time working on the areas I need to in life. Like number 1 clearing off my debt and expanding my photography and getting closer with God.
 

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I won't lie i love her and she's still the best woman I ever dated, I don't even have hatred or bitterness like I did in the past. I'm taking this time working on the areas I need to in life. Like number 1 clearing off my debt and expanding my photography and getting closer with God.

Respect breh :salute:

Last time I went through a breakup I took a trip to my favorite state (California) and went on a long drive from So Cal to Nor Cal and that was the most therapeutic experience I've had in a while. Just me, my rental and my thoughts. The mountainside scenery was :noah:

You already know that there's plenty of other fish in the sea, and at this point she's nothing but a memory. Even though it was what you describe as the best relationship of your life, the truth is that she made her choice to end it and she will have to live with that. The red flag on her is the fact that she couldn't even keep it 100 with you on why she decided to do it. In the future you will always have in the back of your head that she can and will just up and abandon ship at a moment's notice.

Enough time will go by and she'll eventually reveal what her true reason if you maintain no contact like a G. Once again, her inability to keep it 100 would make me lose all respect for this woman. Keep doing what you're doing and enjoy life. I believe that God saved you from a severe heartache in the future.

Better to deal with the pain upfront than dealing with the pain of a divorce :manny:
 

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thanks breh

I don't think its another guy but who really knows, regardless of how highly you think of awoman i know firsthand you can't push anything past em

Actually having doubts isn't what bothers/bothered me I understand having doubts marriage is a big decision its the not communicating and working through it is what peeved me and then to blame it on me talking to a female friend about us

Yeah its still hard but every day its getting a little easier I just gotta push forward

And I know what you mean it doesn't matter how long or how short, none of ta tmatters


homie, there's a question you might want to ask yourself. at what point do you stop being the one being broken up with? at what point do you stop being the one on a message board, talking to strangers about ur woman problems? at what point do the women YOU want stop breaking up with u? i understand ur a religious guy. and i find that admirable. but it is not the desire of your god to see ur heart heavy with worry. your guardian angel does not desire to see u live in a almost constant state of disquiet. something has to change.

we can all tell u the different rules of the game. do this, dont do that. but until u perform an internal tune up, this will be a recurring theme for you.

i knew a guy who is very, very good with women. i dont envy a lot of people but i envy this dude at the ease with which women throw themselves at him. one thing he told me was, when i would tell him my woman problems. he said, dude, i goto be honest with u, i cant remember the last time ive felt the way u feel. that heavy pain in the pit of ur stomach, ur heart rate beating fast, terrifying imaginations of some other dude going up inside ur girl.

i envied this dude. so i decided to watch what he does. and the way he's able to avoid being attached is by having multiple women around him. and if he's not with a woman, he throws himself into his work. and some of the women who really liked him always tried to join him when he's working on his projects and he always says no.

my point here is this, do what you must to never find urself attached to any woman. i cant tell u to juggle multiple women if that doesnt vibe with ur personality. but juggle something else, besides the woman ur dating. ur life cant revolve around any woman. dont matter even if shes ur wife.
 
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homie, there's a question you might want to ask yourself. at what point do you stop being the one being broken up with? at what point do you stop being the one on a message board, talking to strangers about ur woman problems? at what point do the women u want stop breaking up with u? i understand ur a religious guy. and i find that admirable. but it is not the desire of your god to see ur heart heavy with worry. your guardian angel does not desire to see u live in a almost constant state of disquiet. something has to change.

we can all tell u the different rules of the game. do this, dont do that. but until u perform an internal tune up, this will be a recurring theme for you.

i knew a guy who is very, very good with women. i dont envy a lot of people but i envy this dude at the ease with which women throw themselves at him. one thing he told me was, when i would tell him my woman problems. he said, dude, i goto be honest with u, i cant remember the last time ive felt the way u feel. that heavy pain in the pit of ur stomach, ur heart rate beating fast, terrifying imaginations of some other dude going up inside ur girl. i envied this dude. so i decided to watch what he does. and the way he;s able to not be attached is by having multiple women around him. and if he's not with a woman, he throws himself into his work. and some of the women who really liked him always tried to join him when he's working on his projects and he always says no.

my point here is this, do what you must to never find urself attached to any woman. i cant tell u to juggle multiple women if that doesnt vibe with ur personality. but juggle something else, besides the woman ur dating. ur life cant revolve around any woman. dont matter even if shes ur wife.
 

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thanks breh

I don't think its another guy but who really knows, regardless of how highly you think of awoman i know firsthand you can't push anything past em

Actually having doubts isn't what bothers/bothered me I understand having doubts marriage is a big decision its the not communicating and working through it is what peeved me and then to blame it on me talking to a female friend about us

Yeah its still hard but every day its getting a little easier I just gotta push forward

And I know what you mean it doesn't matter how long or how short, none of ta tmatters

I feel u on having doubts and that's fine and I can understand that but like u said not communicating would piss me off too
It's the least u can do so we could work it out and see what makes u feel that way in case ur doing something wrong and u don't see it or she misinterpret things wrong on your end

I'm married and I feel sometimes wtf is the point
Say I Do females become a new person u didn't even know existed at all :snoop:

As I get older and longer stay married I realize COMMUNICATION might just be the most important factor cuz when u ain't shyt is a bytch and relationship or marriage killer

I'm sick of hearing these fairy tale as stories females want or think gonna happen even damn dudes
It's not even like that and even if it's a really good or happy thing u got going on truth be told some conflict is needed in it so u can see that side of that person and know how-to handle it
shyt make up sex is godly cuz of conflict

I tell people mines ain't no perfect thing shyt she pisses me off on a daily basis but at same time there is a understanding we have COMMUNICATION we have that works with 90% trust ( i never will trust a female 100% 90 is the max for me ) etc....
At same time she knows and I know we don't need to stay married cuz we both will be aight on our own so it's not forced either
 
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