Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Mister_DoItNice]

Never believe in the friendzone
People really make it seem like being a "friend" means you have no chance
Anything but
But eh, at least when you stop dealing with her she'll lose her mind trying to deflect her irresponsibility trying to get you back

Why do dudes say stuff like this? Is it to make yourself feel better about the rejection. Who's to say she isn't out here getting hers in right now? Who's to say she actually cares enough that they aren't in contact anymore. If they're done, they're done. All that "she'll drive herself crazy" stuff is unnecessary and leaves a sliver of hope of reconciliation. It's pointless and shouldn't matter.

 

[Uitomy]

Why do dudes say stuff like this? Is it to make yourself feel better about the rejection. Who's to say she isn't out here getting hers in right now? Who's to say she actually cares enough that they aren't in contact anymore. If they're done, they're done. All that "she'll drive herself crazy" stuff is unnecessary and leaves a sliver of hope of reconciliation. It's pointless and shouldn't matter.

I'm clearly over exaggerating

 

[Organic Trees]

how did you find out breh? what did she say about all this? whats her explanation? How long has it been going on for?

this embarrassing but fukk it.
When we were dating she hit me up and told me some dude approached her and she told em she was taken.. Now breh i didn't know she took the nikka number. So she finally admitted that her new "female friend" was actually a dude. And she slept with this dude.

Her explanation was " we got drunk at his place and my back was hurting so i layed down.. And he kissed me"

And whats crazy we been day ones for 5 years beforehand and i stayed loyal to her by dropping my roster

 

[Deafheaven]

this embarrassing but fukk it.
When we were dating she hit me up and told me some dude approached her and she told em she was taken.. Now breh i didn't know she took the nikka number. So she finally admitted that her new "female friend" was actually a dude. And she slept with this dude.

Her explanation was " we got drunk at his place and my back was hurting so i layed down.. And he kissed me"

And whats crazy we been day ones for 5 years beforehand and i stayed loyal to her by dropping my roster

That was her guilt talking to you even saying some nikka approached her. You'll see it in the future, but you'll be straight man. we all been through the fire and emerge like phoenixes and shyt

 

[MaxPain]

this embarrassing but fukk it.
When we were dating she hit me up and told me some dude approached her and she told em she was taken.. Now breh i didn't know she took the nikka number. So she finally admitted that her new "female friend" was actually a dude. And she slept with this dude.

Her explanation was " we got drunk at his place and my back was hurting so i layed down.. And he kissed me"

And whats crazy we been day ones for 5 years beforehand and i stayed loyal to her by dropping my roster

Never drop ur roster. Ever.

 

[Deafheaven]

I think having a roster is vastly overrated lol.

 

[TRUEST]

this embarrassing but fukk it.
When we were dating she hit me up and told me some dude approached her and she told em she was taken.. Now breh i didn't know she took the nikka number. So she finally admitted that her new "female friend" was actually a dude. And she slept with this dude.

Her explanation was " we got drunk at his place and my back was hurting so i layed down.. And he kissed me"

And whats crazy we been day ones for 5 years beforehand and i stayed loyal to her by dropping my roster

where are the dumb dudes in this thread who were against checking up on their girl? u coulda saved urself the pain ur feeling right now if u had checked up on her.

guys need to understand, if a girl tells u about the men who are approaching her - dont be deluded into believing that's a good thing - its not. its actually a very bad thing. thats her way of numbing ur spider senses so u believe shes out there shutting down guys for u.

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

I think having a roster is vastly overrated lol.

I would say that it isn't only in the sense that it helps to keep you from becoming overly invested in any particular woman. You could achieve the same thing by living an active lifestyle or by having business ventures but not every dude is built like that. They get one chick who "seems" interested in them then they latch on and become needy.

 

[MaxPain]

where are the dumb dudes in this thread who were against checking up on their girl? u coulda saved urself the pain ur feeling right now if u had checked up on her.

guys need to understand, if a girl tells u about the men who are approaching her - dont be deluded into believing that's a good thing - its not. its actually a very bad thing. thats her way of numbing ur spider senses so u believe shes out there shutting down guys for u.

Ive never been the type to check but I can see why u say it. I agree. Might start doing it myself.


With the last part, its insecurity on her part

 

[Organic Trees]

where are the dumb dudes in this thread who were against checking up on their girl? u coulda saved urself the pain ur feeling right now if u had checked up on her.

guys need to understand, if a girl tells u about the men who are approaching her - dont be deluded into believing that's a good thing - its not. its actually a very bad thing. thats her way of numbing ur spider senses so u believe shes out there shutting down guys for u.

I'll keep that in mind next time. I got too comfortable.

 

[RealAssanova]

these broads man....smh.

always be wanting to have their cake and eat it too.

they want that attention without having to give up anything in return...and i'm like...how sway? and then when you drop it on them, they like "oh i'm sorry for wasting your time if that was what you wanted...i just wanted to be friends"

so brehs, if broads can be selective with who they fukk with, please be selective in who you give your resources to (ie. time and attention)....cuz that shyt be damn near invaluable.

 

[TRUEST]

Ive never been the type to check but I can see why u say it. I agree. Might start doing it myself.


With the last part, its insecurity on her part

a coworker of mine from years ago was feeling himself cause his girl (she was hot) was telling him how she shut down a dude driving a mercedes benz. his thinking, if she can turn him down, this girl is down for me cause he lived with his parents at the time and drove a sh1t car.

needless to say, come to find out months later she'd been letting some dude from her class get up in her raw at hotels.

 

[Lord Bison]

Why do dudes say stuff like this? Is it to make yourself feel better about the rejection. Who's to say she isn't out here getting hers in right now? Who's to say she actually cares enough that they aren't in contact anymore. If they're done, they're done. All that "she'll drive herself crazy" stuff is unnecessary and leaves a sliver of hope of reconciliation. It's pointless and shouldn't matter.

He's got a point though. Getting out of the friend zone isn't hard if you know what you're doing. All you have to do is ghost her ass with no explanation, you gotta be serious about it tho. Eventually she'll put two and two together and realize that her "friendship" is a little one sided and she has the one thing that could make that "friendship" better..

Then you go for the jugular.

Either she with it or she aint. If she aint, it's no biggie because you got new prospects lined up for a "friendship" that suits your needs.

 

[Deafheaven]

I would say that it isn't only in the sense that it helps to keep you from becoming overly invested in any particular woman. You could achieve the same thing by living an active lifestyle or by having business ventures but not every dude is built like that. They get one chick who "seems" interested in them then they latch on and become needy.

Thats a intrinsic problem that shouldn't be solved by a external solution. If you like having a bunch of women around because you like to fukk a variety of things on a whim cool. but if its because you scared to be alone for a bit when the one youre dating leaves that's weakness not strength to me. this is just my opinion ofc. As long as you don't want a woman more than she wants you you can never be too torn up when she decides to leave. the heartbreak comes when you paint fairytale pictures in your head that this is the one and she'll never leave etc. I've come to the realization for the most part that it aint never your girl really, its just your turn. If she wanted to she could go to the club one night and leave with 18 suitors if she is at least decently attractive. If she wants to stay let her, if not oh well. nikkas would lose they brain cells if they have a endless supply of puss on demand and yet expect women to curtail their desires forever because we don't live the world they do.

tldr. have a roster if you like variety, or are polyamorous. Don't have one to supplicate the empty spot you have when you have no woman in your life. go make some money. get a hobby. anything. you miss a bus another one comes in time. sure you can have lyft, uber, a taxi, and your nikka on speed dial to pick you up but is all that effort really worth it when you know another bus is right around the corner thats probably nicer than the one you was gonna catch anyway

 

[Prynce]

All these old feelings came back and now I'm depressed

I'm a damned fool

Other women, money and material shyt don't do anything to help missing a muthafukka