Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[True Blue Moon]

Unless a neighbor, coworker, and fellow gym rat doesn't count I kind of do this already I just don't keep count

Alright then. When I suggested this a couple weeks ago you said you weren't in a position to take that baby step.

If speaking to strangers isn't a problem for you, take it up a notch and say hi to three women.

 

[Shadow King]

No. The no is the improvement. Go get told no.

Trying to find a yes means, "if I don't get a yes, I failed." That's the opposite of what I'm saying to you.

I want you to go get told no. Every time someone says no to you, you succeeded.

I want you to be, quite literally, surprised when someone says yes. Prepared of course, but surprised.

World beaters didn't get good at finding yeses. They became immune to the word no. Money, sex, power. They're all numbers games. Savvy?

Sounds like what I said in a more poetic form lol but

Alright then. When I suggested this a couple weeks ago you said you weren't in a position to take that baby step.

If speaking to strangers isn't a problem for you, take it up a notch and say hi to three women.

I don't really break my location routine (home-work-gym-repeat) but aight

 

[Atlrocafella]

Hey guys, I've lurked coli since I was in high school haha. I finally decided to make an account after all these years. A lot of what ya'll spitting in here is superfacts. It's a matter of us as men and women working together to make things work. We need them and vice versa. What this thread has also teached me is that you have to preserve your castle.

If I'm seeing someone, and for whatever reason she decides to leave, all I could do is just say thanks and show her the door. I'm still going to have my castle, my fur coats, my jewelry, my excellent credit score, my artpieces I've collected around the world over the years, my cars, and most importantly my sanity.

I'm a late bloomer to this adulthood shyt but progress is what matters.

You all have helped a negro out more than you'd know.

I don't know how people don't think this is the best thread on the site. Nothing but great advice and real ass stories in here. If it wasn't for this thread, i would still be in simp mode chasing women around with their bullshyt

 

[True Blue Moon]

Sounds like what I said in a more poetic form lol but

I don't really break my location routine (home-work-gym-repeat) but aight

There's gonna be plenty of strangers on your routine every day breh. Make sure it's a deliberate hello with eye contact and good energy. Hold eye contact with the girl until she responds however she responds.

Report back

EDIT:

And to kill any potential mental barriers, schedule some time to break out of your routine if you're thinking that there's no opportunity to say hello to a cute chick. It's worth adding to the list of routines, so treat it with the same seriousness of the health, fitness and career goals.

Even outside of success with women, you don't want to be the smart, skilled socially awkward guy either.

 

[Dreamzeedream]

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[ViShawn]

Bumped into a girl downtown I used to work with many years ago. I always thought she was cute but damn she grew the fukk up. Black/Japanese girl.

She dated a former colleague of mine that I later found out was abusive to her. She finally broke up with him many years later.

I ended up making out with her and talking a lot with her. Catching up on life. She told me she was celibate and I told her good. No big deal. No trying to fukk anything to be honest because I am dating other girls, but the attraction was there.


The thing is with girls like above is that girls that think I'm out of their "league" give me more adulation and blow smoke up my ass. I do like that feedback but that's not always good.

The other girl I mentioned I've been on a few dates with, the Latina, compliments me but she isn't up my ass. She rarely compliment. She is supportive but she is mature and a professional woman. She also is taking things a little slower because she wants to be friends first and get to know me.

Personally the Latina is up my alley in terms of maturity and where we want to be in life, but she is withholding a bit of herself right now. Trying not to put all my eggs in one basket, but at the same I know if I go after the girl who has had a crush on me for a long time I won't be happy. I dated a girl that was super into me for years. It turned into neediness, her smothering me, etc.

Also this girl already has anxiety issues (much like my last ex) so I know what the path is.


I feel bad talking to multiple girls though to a degree, especially since the other girl and I have been hitting it off. I really think I should just take the slower pace with the Latina and let things blossom organically.

 

[Ohene]

the game is very very rough brehs, for guys AND girls.

It isn't for the feint of heart. All i can say is always remember to look out for yourself. Protect everything from your emotions, to your ego, to even your physical possessions/habitat. Summer time is almost over, i'm about to hibernate. I just got hit with a bullet

 

[MikelArteta]

What happened breh?

the game is very very rough brehs, for guys AND girls.

It isn't for the feint of heart. All i can say is always remember to look out for yourself. Protect everything from your emotions, to your ego, to even your physical possessions. Summer time is almost over, i'm about to hibernate. I just got hit with a bullet

 

[Ohene]

What happened breh?

i'm just in a bit of a whirlwind breh. i'll message you

 

[MikelArteta]

Hey guys, I've lurked coli since I was in high school haha. I finally decided to make an account after all these years. A lot of what ya'll spitting in here is superfacts. It's a matter of us as men and women working together to make things work. We need them and vice versa. What this thread has also teached me is that you have to preserve your castle.

If I'm seeing someone, and for whatever reason she decides to leave, all I could do is just say thanks and show her the door. I'm still going to have my castle, my fur coats, my jewelry, my excellent credit score, my artpieces I've collected around the world over the years, my cars, and most importantly my sanity.

I'm a late bloomer to this adulthood shyt but progress is what matters.

You all have helped a negro out more than you'd know.

with this mentality you can never lose

 

[HearNoEvil]

We are not monogamous. Men are polygamous and women are hypergamous.

Men want the most, women want the best. Never make the mistake of thinking men and women are the same.

 

[HearNoEvil]

What does hypergamous mean? I'll spell it out in practical terms: if you fall off your A game, she will leave you.

 

[MikelArteta]

almost 3 months post breakup, mostly good days some bad.

Been on two trips (florida/texas and nyc) in the past few months, have more money than I've ever had before, have a wedding gig coming up for my photography shortly. Sometimes feel like to get back in there then I'm like nah, been a long while i've had time just to myself.

 

[Deafheaven]

We are not monogamous. Men are polygamous and women are hypergamous.

Men want the most, women want the best. Never make the mistake of thinking men and women are the same.

as good as it sounds, that poly shyt in 2017 is not the wave.

 

[HearNoEvil]

as good as it sounds, that poly shyt in 2017 is not the wave.

Yah, if only we could go back to having cocubines.

On a serious note: the post explains why both genders cheat.