Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

Malik1time

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Theirs this girl I've seen twice at a bus stop i go twice a week:francis:
Shes a cute redbone:picard:
Im Not sure how i can approach her:francis:
Approach in public is not my foretay
Any tips brehs:francis:
 
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Theirs this girl I've seen twice at a bus stop i go twice a week:francis:
Shes a cute redbone:picard:
Im Not sure how i can approach her:francis:
Approach in public is not my foretay
Any tips brehs:francis:
Don't overthink it.

She's at the bus stop remember, she can't be all that critical of you if she's taking the bus. Doesn't mean she can't curve you but at least you know if she does it probably isn't because of you taking the bus.

Mention how you've seen her there before and ask where she goes, try not to sound like a stalker/ creep (if she's not attracted to you this is inevitable though).

Try not to keep the convo on the bus though, switch it up once you've both established the obvious. If she's receptive ask for her number. If she's standoffish, throw her back and recast your line.
 

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Theirs this girl I've seen twice at a bus stop i go twice a week:francis:
Shes a cute redbone:picard:
Im Not sure how i can approach her:francis:
Approach in public is not my foretay
Any tips brehs:francis:


Since you at the bus stop. Break the ice by asking something related to the bus service times/reliability/alternative routes. Then lead the conversation about where she is going to when catching the bus to ?? school/work??that should lead the convo to her personal life. Crack a few jokes in there, always try to make a woman laugh in the first convo.

Then ask the number after few mins of convo
 

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How to know if you're just a free meal to a chick? If the only time you hear from her is when you hit her up to go out to eat. She'll be busy for everything else except that :francis:.

Me and this girl supposed to go out to eat this Thursday, last time I talked to her was September 1st. Not even a check in text from this broad since that day. I'm always the one calling and checking in. I'm going to cancel our plans Thursday morning :ufdup:
 
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How to know if you're just a free meal to a chick? If the only time you hear from her is when you hit her up to go out to eat. She'll be busy for everything else except that :francis:.

Me and this girl supposed to go out to eat this Thursday, last time I talked to her was September 1st. Not even a check in text from this broad since that day. I'm always the one calling and checking in. I'm going to cancel our plans Thursday morning :ufdup:

If you're putting in way more effort for her than she is for you then she's definitely using you.

How are your convos with her when you guys eat together? Does she just sit there and give dead end responses or does she contribute to the convo?

Honestly depends on how long you guys have been talking, if you just met than I would take things slower. Stop offering to take her out so much. But if it's been awhile than that's not a good sign.
 

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If you're putting in way more effort for her than she is for you then she's definitely using you.

How are your convos with her when you guys eat together? Does she just sit there and give dead end responses or does she contribute to the convo?

Honestly depends on how long you guys have been talking, if you just met than I would take things slower. Stop offering to take her out so much. But if it's been awhile than that's not a good sign.
The convos are cool when we get together, the problem is actually getting together. The last time we went out was back in June. Ever since than, I've tried a few times to try and set something up, but she's always either been busy or something comes up where we have to reschedule. In between all of that, she never really hits me up, I'm the one always reaching out.

Let's me feel like she ain't all that interested, so it's no point in pursuing and wasting anymore time. I'm sure she won't hit me before Thursday, so Ima cancel her entirely on that day.
 

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The convos are cool when we get together, the problem is actually getting together. The last time we went out was back in June. Ever since than, I've tried a few times to try and set something up, but she's always either been busy or something comes up where we have to reschedule. In between all of that, she never really hits me up, I'm the one always reaching out.

Let's me feel like she ain't all that interested, so it's no point in pursuing and wasting anymore time. I'm sure she won't hit me before Thursday, so Ima cancel her entirely on that day.

3 month gap between dates? yeah she don't care.
 

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Theirs this girl I've seen twice at a bus stop i go twice a week:francis:
Shes a cute redbone:picard:
Im Not sure how i can approach her:francis:
Approach in public is not my foretay
Any tips brehs:francis:


put urself around her and make sure u dont have a frown on ur face. smile more. look for anything legit to start a conversation with her on. but dont just ask for her number right away.

dont embarrass urself and mack it to her with people watching u. remember, u goto take that bus frequently u dont wanna ruin ur chances with other females
 

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Since you at the bus stop. Break the ice by asking something related to the bus service times/reliability/alternative routes. Then lead the conversation about where she is going to when catching the bus to ?? school/work??that should lead the convo to her personal life. Crack a few jokes in there, always try to make a woman laugh in the first convo.

Then ask the number after few mins of convo
Thanks breh:ehh: since its a long bus ride I'll just try to ask open ended question:jbhmm: my biggest fear is runing out of things to say:patrice:
I have a lot of confidence in my looks/how i dress i think I'm the most handsome man in the room:yeshrug: not sure if im being cocky but that's how i was ever since i was young:yeshrug: i just wish my mouth piece was just on par:francis:
 

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put urself around her and make sure u dont have a frown on ur face. smile more. look for anything legit to start a conversation with her on. but dont just ask for her number right away.

dont embarrass urself and mack it to her with people watching u. remember, u goto take that bus frequently u dont wanna ruin ur chances with other females
Well if the convo is going good i should ask for her digits:comeon:
 

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The convos are cool when we get together, the problem is actually getting together. The last time we went out was back in June. Ever since than, I've tried a few times to try and set something up, but she's always either been busy or something comes up where we have to reschedule. In between all of that, she never really hits me up, I'm the one always reaching out.

Let's me feel like she ain't all that interested, so it's no point in pursuing and wasting anymore time. I'm sure she won't hit me before Thursday, so Ima cancel her entirely on that day.

holy sh1t dude, u got the patience of Gods. no way in hell im ever hitting a chick back if she cancels a date on me. that is like one of the top ultimate disrespects. think back, how many times have you EVER canceled a date on a chick u really, really, really wanted? Let me use my psychic powers and tell you....wait for it....yup, ZERO!

her: sorry i cant make it. blah blah came up
you: *depending on the situation, its either shes gets a "ok", or no response at all

The chicks who really want u, the conversations will go like this:

her: dont be mad at me. i have to reschedule our meeting tomorrow. im so sorry. blah blah blah happened and i have to do blah blah (they'll give you a seemingly legit reason).
me: ok np
her: how about friday night? they'll ALWAYS suggest a different time.
 

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Well if the convo is going good i should ask for her digits:comeon:

ok. seems like ur bent on doing what u wanna do. so go head and ask for that number if the conversation is going good. what happens will be a learning experience for you, good or bad.
 

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ok. seems like ur bent on doing what u wanna do. so go head and ask for that number if the conversation is going good. what happens will be a learning experience for you, good or bad.
So asking for the number is not the main objective:mjlol::mjlol: what are you talking about:mjlol: so Imma just talk to her and that's it:mjlol:
 

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Interesting scale I think guys should push for 7 and up to be happy in life. If you fall below that to many times than you will have to commit or lie to get to many women. I fluctuate interesting enough based on the season. Because I'm a big guy in the winter in get a lot of 8 and 9 but summer it's 6 and 7. I many get some 10s every here and there.


If it's not a six or a seven at least, you are definitely sharing that chick with a dude that she really wants to be with. If you are 8 - 9, you are at least number two on her list. When women go on online dating sites, they're looking for one through five, and if you were trying to be 6 through 9, more than likely you going in the bushes. More times than not, she got that already.
 

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Had a shorty text me some long message this morning, telling me that I'm weak. She's mad that I cut her off because of her bad attitude and said that I go to the gym every day but I'm too weak to handle real life problems :russ: Yo the mental gymnastics some of these women engage in when you leave them alone is astounding. I might post it in here later for you fellas but right now... I'm headed to the gym :jawalrus: Stay up gentlemen.
 
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