Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[ViShawn]

My ex and I hung out yesterday. Simped over her while we were together and then thought about it and called her an hour later.

Letting her know that I'm trying to become a better man and apologized for how I acted but she never once apologized or even made an attempt to be a better woman, and she must not truly have loved me bc she waited 5 days after I let her know I got out of the hospital to visit her, and that she's playing games. That's her issue, should've never told her I wouldn't abandon her or she can call me or come over.

But I feel like I at least kept it nice and I think she kinda felt that ether bc the whole time she had felt shed had me wrapped around her finger.

The weird thing was once we met up I was happy and in shape in a cut off shirt and she wanted me to put a sweater on, we're at my apartment and at a cafe and she's acting like I'm hers still staring chicks down, paying for my coffee. Trying to show intimacy but pulling away.

I've been meditating, bc I did discover I do need to work on my anger. But I'm like man I'm over here growing and becoming more of a man, wait till I get back to work and get a check, and you just seem so bitter and angry and miserable that we broke up and you're the one that broke up with me.

I still got love for her, but she's not growing up and she's not coming correct and I'm the best man that she's had, a dude that would actually get her to pray. Intelligent classy athletic and caring and hardworking and clean with morals.

So I'm not hitting that, bird brained bytch up no mo.

Don't go back. Stay strong. We've all go soft spots for exes. I had an ex that broke my heart. She came back 4 years later to 'check in' on me basically. She was now a single mom of two kids, working on her PhD (good for her) but obviously feeling low value in the dating market. She admitted that she checked up on me on FB, looked at videos of me doing cool stuff, etc. She saw my life was good after our break up.

Point is we were going in two separate directions. We met at a certain point but that is no more. Move on and find someone you're better with. I get it though...we all romanticize our exes in one form or another.

 

[ViShawn]

So I've been dating this one girl the past few weeks. Well since late July. Great girl, but man... I sometimes don't know where I'm at with her. Maybe it's the fact it's a woman that is one of the most attractive women that I've dated or something. I get nervous around her but I don't show it.

She's introverted. She has mentioned to me once before that she feels many compliments are insincere... for example today I mentioned her eyes and she said "I do have green eyes" and I almost sensed she was rolling her eyes in her mind.

She doesn't seem huge into PDA but she will touch me every now and then, I will touch her. When she greets me she kisses me.

I see her once a week. She works for the government so it's hectic.

I will say though that if I suggest something for us to do and she can't make it, she offers something else instead. When I see her she spends quality time with me, 4-6 hours usually. She is probably one of the few women that I've seen rarely pull out her phone. She is always present and engaged when we are together.

She also always offers to pay. If I pay for something she will try and make up for it by paying for something else. I appreciate that because a lot of women will waste my money.

So I think her being mad introverted throws me off. I will talk and sometimes I feel like I will say something stupid in front of her and it puts me on edge. But really she is showing me she values our time together in one form or another...whether by thanking me, being present, paying up, etc.

She has mentioned to me that she wants to take things slow and that's what we are doing. I'm not used to this shyt I won't lie. I can lay girls within two dates if they are into me, but this girl is a different breed and I could see a future with her.

Just me ranting and venting. I may be bugging and should be OK with taking it slow since she's quality. I've talked to other women of course but she is the one I want.

 

[TRUEST]

So I've been dating this one girl the past few weeks. Well since late July. Great girl, but man... I sometimes don't know where I'm at with her. Maybe it's the fact it's a woman that is one of the most attractive women that I've dated or something. I get nervous around her but I don't show it.

She's introverted. She has mentioned to me once before that she feels many compliments are insincere... for example today I mentioned her eyes and she said "I do have green eyes" and I almost sensed she was rolling her eyes in her mind.

She doesn't seem huge into PDA but she will touch me every now and then, I will touch her. When she greets me she kisses me.

I see her once a week. She works for the government so it's hectic.

I will say though that if I suggest something for us to do and she can't make it, she offers something else instead. When I see her she spends quality time with me, 4-6 hours usually. She is probably one of the few women that I've seen rarely pull out her phone. She is always present and engaged when we are together.

She also always offers to pay. If I pay for something she will try and make up for it by paying for something else. I appreciate that because a lot of women will waste my money.

So I think her being mad introverted throws me off. I will talk and sometimes I feel like I will say something stupid in front of her and it puts me on edge. But really she is showing me she values our time together in one form or another...whether by thanking me, being present, paying up, etc.

She has mentioned to me that she wants to take things slow and that's what we are doing. I'm not used to this shyt I won't lie. I can lay girls within two dates if they are into me, but this girl is a different breed and I could see a future with her.

Just me ranting and venting. I may be bugging and should be OK with taking it slow since she's quality. I've talked to other women of course but she is the one I want.

Dude, ask her when was her last relationship. How long as she been single. What went wrong in her previous relationship. When was the last time she spoke to the dude in her last relationship.

Point here is, make sure ur not being used as something to pass time, while she recovers from a relatively recent breakup.

Some women are kindhearted. They may not see u as a boyfriend material or have instant attraction to u, but also don't want to use u or have u waste ur money on them.

If a girl ur fuccking is offering and insisting on paying for some of the things y'all do together, that's a very good sign she cares for u. It's not the same for girls u haven't fuccked. Be careful.

 

[ViShawn]

Dude, ask her when was her last relationship. How long as she been single. What went wrong in her previous relationship. When was the last time she spoke to the dude in her last relationship.

Point here is, make sure ur not being used as something to pass time, while she recovers from a relatively recent breakup.

Some women are kindhearted. They may not see u as a boyfriend material or have instant attraction to u, but also don't want to use u or have u waste ur money on them.

If a girl ur fuccking is offering and insisting on paying for some of the things y'all do together, that's a very good sign she cares for u. It's not the same for girls u haven't fuccked. Be careful.

Yeah I think she maybe has something that is preventing her from going forward. It could be something like her work life could be consuming her a lot and she doesn't have time for a relationship, or like you said she may be damaged.

I've asked her has she ever been married. She hasn't. No kids either. It's a bit odd for someone her age to not be cuffed.

First few dates I asked more serious stuff about her relationships. The past few times have been us just doing stuff together and enjoying our time with one another. I mentioned today about me wanting kids to gauge her response. She didn't really answer whether or not she wanted any but she enjoys them. I was hoping she would divulge it.

She will kiss me and even make out with me though, so I don't think she's doing that to pass the time. She could reject me any time.

She knows I'm dealing with my father's death now and I'm going through some job stuff though. She is kind hearted and empathetic sure, but she is showing me signs of interest and it's not a string along. She always drops hints of us doing something in the future.

But I should press and ask her more stuff.

 

[TRUEST]

Yeah I think she maybe has something that is preventing her from going forward. It could be something like her work life could be consuming her a lot and she doesn't have time for a relationship, or like you said she may be damaged.

I've asked her has she ever been married. She hasn't. No kids either. It's a bit odd for someone her age to not be cuffed.

First few dates I asked more serious stuff about her relationships. The past few times have been us just doing stuff together and enjoying our time with one another. I mentioned today about me wanting kids to gauge her response. She didn't really answer whether or not she wanted any but she enjoys them. I was hoping she would divulge it.

She will kiss me and even make out with me though, so I don't think she's doing that to pass the time. She could reject me any time.

She knows I'm dealing with my father's death now and I'm going through some job stuff though. She is kind hearted and empathetic sure, but she is showing me signs of interest and it's not a string along. She always drops hints of us doing something in the future.

But I should press and ask her more stuff.

I can tell u right now, whatever it is she's going thru that's keeping her from fuccking u is not related to work.

 

[ViShawn]

I can tell u right now, whatever it is she's going that's keeping her from fuccking u is not related to work.

She just seems very cautious. If it's that case I don't think it's ME necessarily, you know?

I've seen this girl bite her lips at me, play with her hair around me...all the signals like "kiss me" and I did. What the hell is up with this girl?

 

[TRUEST]

She just seems very cautious. If it's that case I don't think it's ME necessarily, you know?

I've seen this girl bite her lips at me, play with her hair around me...all the signals like "kiss me" and I did. What the hell is up with this girl?

Plan a Netflix and chill night at ur place. Get a bottle of wine she likes. Cuddle while watching the shows. If this doesn't lead to fuccking, don't get ur hopes up.

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

Kissing doesn't mean shyt fam. We grown.

 

[Deafheaven]

Kissing doesn't mean shyt fam. We grown.

Ive met chicks and made out with them within the hour. In 2017 kissing isnt taboo. It means little other than she thinks your at least attractive enough to kiss. Nothing more.

 

[MikelArteta]

What's wrong with that?

That's the mentality you should have


Never beg someone to take your money
Never beg someone to stay with you

I feel emotionless towards relationships now

Like I can still fall in love and all that jazz but if a chick wanna leave or not deal with me I feel nothing lol

 

[Redguard]

One of my friends told me I am too picky when it comes to women. I'm not sure if its a good thing or a bad thing.

 

[Iceson Beckford]

Could just be puberty or hormones but I'm going on the weirdest rollercoaster with attitudes towards relationships.

One minute I'm almost numb about them and dont care at all and next it really fukks me up low little attention I'm getting and borderline depresses me. Doesn't help that my older brothers keep mentioning girls.

I gotta shoot some shots but I aint got the social circle or game to knock them down so I psyche myself out on some Shaq from the Freethrow shyt.

 

[Shadow King]

One of my friends told me I am too picky when it comes to women. I'm not sure if its a good thing or a bad thing.

For relationships it's good. For getting laid it's a terrible trait...I would know.

Could just be puberty or hormones but I'm going on the weirdest rollercoaster with attitudes towards relationships.

One minute I'm almost numb about them and dont care at all and next it really fukks me up low little attention I'm getting and borderline depresses me. Doesn't help that my older brothers keep mentioning girls.

I gotta shoot some shots but I aint got the social circle or game to knock them down so I psyche myself out on some Shaq from the Freethrow shyt.

We got an infant in the house
How old are you?

 

[Collateral]

What do yall do when a chick says she'd rather be friends first before a relationship. I never experienced this.

 

[Iceson Beckford]

For relationships it's good. For getting laid it's a terrible trait...I would know.

We got an infant in the house
How old are you?

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