Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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where you 25-35 out of school brehs going to meet women? While I am in the cosmetic industry its a big no no to be hitting on custormers and shyt at work imo I'm not trying to get fired over some bytch taking me giving her a compliment the wrong way or something. So that pretty much leaves bars, lounges, malls etc but none of that shyt really my scene. I'm on the longest drought I've had in a lonnnnnnnnnnnggggggg time (like over two months :sadcam:) and trying to set up some stomping grounds.
I usually hit up events/festivals that I like and most of the time I’ll meet someone there that catches my eye. It’s way easier to approach and spark a conversation because y’all share a similar interest
 

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where you 25-35 out of school brehs going to meet women? While I am in the cosmetic industry its a big no no to be hitting on custormers and shyt at work imo I'm not trying to get fired over some bytch taking me giving her a compliment the wrong way or something. So that pretty much leaves bars, lounges, malls etc but none of that shyt really my scene. I'm on the longest drought I've had in a lonnnnnnnnnnnggggggg time (like over two months :sadcam:) and trying to set up some stomping grounds.
I'm in DC so it might be a little easier than normal for me but Networking events, lounges/happy hours, brunches.
 

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where you 25-35 out of school brehs going to meet women? While I am in the cosmetic industry its a big no no to be hitting on custormers and shyt at work imo I'm not trying to get fired over some bytch taking me giving her a compliment the wrong way or something. So that pretty much leaves bars, lounges, malls etc but none of that shyt really my scene. I'm on the longest drought I've had in a lonnnnnnnnnnnggggggg time (like over two months :sadcam:) and trying to set up some stomping grounds.
I know it's not your scene but give bars and lounges. Trying traveling out of your area and see what's new.
 

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thanks brehs. I might have to. when out clubbin with my mans for his bday last weekend and was getting play but its such a foreign environment for me. full of cacs and bros :ld:
 

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SO check this. Girl I smashed last week...this 28 year old.

Ever since we had sex she has been ignoring me and basically said she will have to ignore me so I don't get sprung and fall in love with her. :skip:

So I got back from Miami after about 8-9 days of not texting her and got down to the point after some banter:


Me: I have a proposition. I think we had great chemistry, had fun together, and enjoyed each other's company. Why not do it again soon? Or we can just not talk to each other again and just be Snapchat buddies but what's the fun in that? ;)


Her: Hey I hear you. I feel really bad because I was definitely getting the "let's settle down" vibes and I just really can't. You're really an amazing guy and I don't want to hold you back because you're a great guy and deserve someone who is open to the possibility and I just am not right now.


Basically told her that I have to entertain the possibility but why not just do things with no labels and no expectations. I'm not trying to marry you today, just hang out.

Oh yeah she just got out of a 4 year relationship a few months ago so of course that's there. She was a fun fukk and I want to do it again I won't lie :lolbron:

I can fukk around with her and do that while finding someone who's more serious. :yeshrug:
Think you just should of kept on smashing until she's the one bringing up that stuff, I would have just messaged to say when am I gonna pipe again, short and sweet and if she's feeling it and says when then so be it.

Otherwise bush her or at least put her in the rear view.
 

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Think you just should of kept on smashing until she's the one bringing up that stuff, I would have just messaged to say when am I gonna pipe again, short and sweet and if she's feeling it so be it.

I talked to her on the phone and we fukked on the first date. I didn't say we should settle down and get cuffed. She just thinks I'm "serious" which I am but at 34 I have to be.
 

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What do you mean by serious? Because that's what probably put her off breh.

Just an intense person. I didn't ask her to marry me but yeah I want kids and family in the future of course. If I talk to a girl I have to think that maybe someday it's something I want. I had a girl straight up tell me last weekend she wanted to get married. I never tell a woman that. I don't give expectations and I just allow things to flow.
 

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I need help breh i always text some girls but the convo goes dry and they never respond to me:francis: my text game is trash but i think I act clingy to hang out with them :hhh: maybe cuz I try to avoid the friend zone so I try to hang out asap:francis: I need help brehs??? I've been striking out way too much:francis: i got 3 numbers last week in school but all 3 have been a total diaster:francis:
Breh u should be calling women when u first meet them. Remember when you getting to know a woman, you not the only dude, she has 2 or 3 other nikkaz after her

Texts are only for when you have hung out or been talking for a while

Send her funny memes or videos when u feel texts are drying up.
 

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Damn. Guess these female out here just wanna use dudes for attention. So the girl I thought that was into me was trying to use me for attention. I knew women were scum. We went on 5 dates but all went on half. I never paid. She would spot me a $20 when we go out and pay me back but when I try to touch her, she would move my hand away. I'm tired of women being stupid. I can't wait to travel outside the country.

Also another problem I got is talking myself out of p*ssy. So I guess I should say less. Come off mysterious and say little about myself and let her talk. Smh that shyt is the worst when you do that. Any other tips to stop talking your way out of p*ssy?

You ain't talking yourself out the p*ssy. The woman is stupid as fukk. She not use to guys talking to her the way you do so she charge herself to the game.
 

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My ex left town for a new job.

She didn't find out the job was out of the city until the morning of her last interview. We talked, I gave her my support but I didn't think she would take it (just because it was out of her comfort zone, family, friends, etc are all in our city).

But she took it, I acted a little spicy when she did and just locked her off coz she didn't even bother calling me. She explained she didn't know how to tell me - but she wanted to be long distance (about 2hr drive/train distance between the cities) and I said nah. So since she started (its been 2/3 weeks) we had one major convo and said probably because of the time and all the travelling, she won't have as much time as she thought. So it's best of being friends until she could find her feet

I agreed, but we still agreed to talk. But since then I been hitting her up and she'd just ignore me, or give me a brief reply and not say much. I messaged her on Friday, and she read the message, she was logged in on WhatsApp until late in the evening and didn't reply (this is lame of me, I know:snoop:). So I just told her I get the message, and I'm going to fall back...she stilllllll didn't reply until today (Sunday):francis:...So I thought something was wrong, like she was ill or something. So I called, no reply then just said if we got an issue, just give me 5 mins so I can understand.

Then I got the wall of txt saying she wanted to get her shyt sorted, she can't reply straight away because she's in a new job etc. I did understand her point, but it got to the stage I thought something had happened with her and I was worried.

Anyway, we have left it where it was. I wished her gd luck...and that's that.

Right now, I feel kinda :dwillhuh: about the whole situation. I'm only her 3rd bf and 3rd person she even slept with (she's 34 and a bit of a prude). Was bussing raw inside her and we were super close over 6 months. But then all of a sudden, blam she's gone:beli:. I didn't even get a phonemail, nothing. Now she acting like I'm bugging her

She did say she never expected to meet someone because she wanted to concentrate on her career and she had no intentions of falling for anyone. She said she never has been in a situation like this. And her reactions just made me feel like she got scared, upped away from her family, friends, her business and ran off:manny:. But she didn't want a family, I did. Which is the huge issue for me, especially being 32 now :flabbynsick:..So maybe a blessing in disguise (don't worry, I didn't specifically ask about us. Just in general how she feels about kids)


2nd fukked up breakup this year. Think I need a year off and just concentrate on self. Honestly don't understand this breakup or how it went down :to:


damn brehito she did you wrong. I wouldn't sweat it though, some chicks do that sort of shyt. She didn't have the balls to tell you she wanted off, so she just ignored you. Look at it this way - better now than later and still in a relationship and she got a side piece where she stay at.
 

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where you 25-35 out of school brehs going to meet women? While I am in the cosmetic industry its a big no no to be hitting on custormers and shyt at work imo I'm not trying to get fired over some bytch taking me giving her a compliment the wrong way or something. So that pretty much leaves bars, lounges, malls etc but none of that shyt really my scene. I'm on the longest drought I've had in a lonnnnnnnnnnnggggggg time (like over two months :sadcam:) and trying to set up some stomping grounds.

Apps nikka:ufdup:

and are you a fruitloop? what you doing in cosmetics?:merchant:

I don't even attempt to bag bytches IRL anymore. Its pointless. I was a true believer in not using tinder/soulswipe but the amount of women that you're able to contact>>>>>>
 

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Had to tell my girl I needed a 2 month break from her. Just too much of a p*ssy to tell her that I'm bored of her and need an aggressive woman or for my girl to be more interesting.
Its sad... my girl sending me snapchat msgs about missing me and saying she will be better while Im on tinder setting up dates nshyt.... this is how women kinda feel when they got simps after em and multiple nikkas hittin em up:wow:

I have set up so much bullshyt for this weekend after I come back from the west coast...

-I've set up like 3 meetups with bytches off tinder for this weekend. I doubt I'll even contact 2 of em on friday or saturday tho. I'm really just wanting to get some new p*ssy for the winter.
-Eritriean bytch I took out last week demoted to smash only. I told her to hit me up later in the week if she was tryna chill and get some food. If we go out, imma turn to the true aggressive/DGAF nikka I am and plan a p*ssy appointment.:ufdup:
-Other Eritriean chick that hates black men and thinks black male have a privledge I smashed couple weeks ago flying in town to visit her bestfriend and party. We already planning a fukkfest:blessed:. Smh, I found her twitter so I be monitoring it to see if she talkin reckless about the kid. Its amazing how nikkas pander to these women on twitter and don't know another nikka blowin her back out.


I forgot how much work it is to be single and get women. shyt is literally like a mental excercise. All the texting, and conversing on dates:picard:
 

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Had to tell my girl I needed a 2 month break from her. Just too much of a p*ssy to tell her that I'm bored of her and need an aggressive woman or for my girl to be more interesting.
Its sad... my girl sending me snapchat msgs about missing me and saying she will be better while Im on tinder setting up dates nshyt.... this is how women kinda feel when they got simps after em and multiple nikkas hittin em up:wow:

I have set up so much bullshyt for this weekend after I come back from the west coast...

-I've set up like 3 meetups with bytches off tinder for this weekend. I doubt I'll even contact 2 of em on friday or saturday tho. I'm really just wanting to get some new p*ssy for the winter.
-Eritriean bytch I took out last week demoted to smash only. I told her to hit me up later in the week if she was tryna chill and get some food. If we go out, imma turn to the true aggressive/DGAF nikka I am and plan a p*ssy appointment.:ufdup:
-Other Eritriean chick that hates black men and thinks black male have a privledge I smashed couple weeks ago flying in town to visit her bestfriend and party. We already planning a fukkfest:blessed:. Smh, I found her twitter so I be monitoring it to see if she talkin reckless about the kid. Its amazing how nikkas pander to these women on twitter and don't know another nikka blowin her back out.


I forgot how much work it is to be single and get women. shyt is literally like a mental excercise. All the texting, and conversing on dates:picard:

The "break" is essentially a break up you know that right?
 
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