Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Robo Squirrel]

Bump

 

[DropTopDoc]

That was gospel with the reference to closure, you just move on even if it hurts because honestly any closure you want, won’t help in the least bit

It's true but as you get older you realize most women 30+ have baggage.The ones who are 35,single,no kids yet are beautiful those end up as crazy ones for some reason Every woman has an ex story or has been "hurt before".Being a single man in his thirties we basically WON the game

I did not hit my stride til i was 25-27 i can’t put a finger on it, but i started to believe i was that nikka, even if i wasn’t, and i got it in, I’m 34 and I’m really running through them, and if i was a slim nikka, i know is really be killing them, but your thirties is where you line up as a man, probably have a career, your own spot, and a whip, and some change in your pocket, your stock as a man goes up as you get older, women are like cars, it drops after 21 and plummets after 30

I need some advice brehs. I'm a 19 year old college student whose been on his hoe'ing shyt. I've never had a serious long term relationship, and I'm really starting to want to. I'm getting tired of chopping up new girls just so I can fukk and KIM. I really don't know how some of ya'll keep it up.

I'm worried it'll be some huge red flag if I end up a twenty-something year old whose only had a series of FWBs, one night stands, and 'situationships.'

Most of my homies are cuffed up too so I'm constantly seeing the positives of having a girl, on some grass is greener type shyt.

At the same time, if I got a girl, I wonder if I'd be missing out on parts of being a young college breh. At this point in my life, do ya'll think it would it be a waste of time, effort, and emotion to get into a LTR? And I do have my family, finances, and education to worry about as well.

Has anyone been in a similar situation, or just has some wisdom they wanna drop? Or am I thinking about it too much?

Relax, you don’t necessarily even know what you want yet. What was important to me at 19 was different at 25 and even more at 34, in different phases of your Life you meet different women, and your taste and wants are different, I know mad nikkas who wifed up they College sweetheart and 3-5 years later they divorced, because they weren’t ready, neither party, and the dude probably still wanted to fukk around, or hang out, or not ready to be the head of the household, and most women despite the need to be married are not ready to be married, they like the idea, but don’t know how.

You don’t get in a relationship because you are lonely, you do it, because you believe that she enhances your life, and makes you happy, because you think of her when you wake up or go to sleep. Some nikkas find they wife at 19 some at 40, but you will know, in the mean time, just do you, get you a career, get you a whip, your own spot, and stack your bread build your credit, read expand your mind and travel by time you are 25 you will be solid as fukk and you thought you were swimming in it before....

 

[twan83]

Thailand. One of the best places a single man can visit in my opinion.

Disneyland of Sex
But be careful of them trannies tho

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

Disneyland of Sex
But be careful of them trannies tho

True but you can spot those easy. There’s a lot more to do there than just fukk bytches though. I know that’s what comes to mind from the beginning lol.

 

[Wargames]

brehs how has dating changed for you in your thirties good or bad?

i've been single in my thirties for the first time as of may and i remember being a young scarf boy and hearing oldheads talking about just wait till your 30 it gets easier, just work on yourself, your career

and

Yeah it is

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

I'm alive. Gotta focus on my career. Dropped out of school. Got a carpenter's apprenticeship interview on Saturday. Military as well but that's in March. I'll see I guess. Damn time

 

[360dagod]

I need some advice brehs. I'm a 19 year old college student whose been on his hoe'ing shyt. I've never had a serious long term relationship, and I'm really starting to want to. I'm getting tired of chopping up new girls just so I can fukk and KIM. I really don't know how some of ya'll keep it up.

I'm worried it'll be some huge red flag if I end up a twenty-something year old whose only had a series of FWBs, one night stands, and 'situationships.'

Most of my homies are cuffed up too so I'm constantly seeing the positives of having a girl, on some grass is greener type shyt.

At the same time, if I got a girl, I wonder if I'd be missing out on parts of being a young college breh. At this point in my life, do ya'll think it would it be a waste of time, effort, and emotion to get into a LTR? And I do have my family, finances, and education to worry about as well.

Has anyone been in a similar situation, or just has some wisdom they wanna drop? Or am I thinking about it too much?

Enjoy your youth and your freedom...

 

[MikelArteta]

That was gospel with the reference to closure, you just move on even if it hurts because honestly any closure you want, won’t help in the least bit



I did not hit my stride til i was 25-27 i can’t put a finger on it, but i started to believe i was that nikka, even if i wasn’t, and i got it in, I’m 34 and I’m really running through them, and if i was a slim nikka, i know is really be killing them, but your thirties is where you line up as a man, probably have a career, your own spot, and a whip, and some change in your pocket, your stock as a man goes up as you get older, women are like cars, it drops after 21 and plummets after 30




Relax, you don’t necessarily even know what you want yet. What was important to me at 19 was different at 25 and even more at 34, in different phases of your Life you meet different women, and your taste and wants are different, I know mad nikkas who wifed up they College sweetheart and 3-5 years later they divorced, because they weren’t ready, neither party, and the dude probably still wanted to fukk around, or hang out, or not ready to be the head of the household, and most women despite the need to be married are not ready to be married, they like the idea, but don’t know how.

You don’t get in a relationship because you are lonely, you do it, because you believe that she enhances your life, and makes you happy, because you think of her when you wake up or go to sleep. Some nikkas find they wife at 19 some at 40, but you will know, in the mean time, just do you, get you a career, get you a whip, your own spot, and stack your bread build your credit, read expand your mind and travel by time you are 25 you will be solid as fukk and you thought you were swimming in it before....

i wish this thread existed when i was like 18/19 i would have been so far ahead

I've dated mad mad mad women, different classes, different cultural backgrounds. I've prob been on dates with over 150 diff women and yet my ex fiance was the only truly good woman I could say I dated . I've been taken to the woodshed more than the average man, but yep as you get older things change. I'm 32 now and it took me till i was 29 to get my head on straight when it comes to woman,

even moments now llike 5 years ago id beg, come crawling back, take disrespect, pour out my heart, simp do anything for another chance, thinking that I was losing something great, or i'd never find a girl as hot or attractive and all that trash.

Life can change in a flash and thats the part of it. At the end of the day all you got is yourself. A woman can be giving you a kidney one day and the next da when your sleeping carving it out and selling it on the black market, friends come and go, women come and go, thats why like my breh sherminator says work and invest in yourself .

Once you invest in yourself you win

 

[twan83]

brehs how has dating changed for you in your thirties good or bad?

i've been single in my thirties for the first time as of may and i remember being a young scarf boy and hearing oldheads talking about just wait till your 30 it gets easier, just work on yourself, your career

and

Honestly dating comes natural for me to be honest but being older when I was single briefly I did find it more easier cuz as u get older ur more wiser and more mature and tend to be more established so females know that and flock so options are more but doesn’t mean quality is either

The game too me is for the most part still the same compared to my younger days regardless of how good or bad you with women BUT the quality has suffered drastically imo it seemed like it was more good quality women then somewhere in my mid 20s they said fukk dudes and switch the game and became more of the lead than the guys were back when I was single

Honestly guys need to focus on them stop worrying so much how to please women. They should be pleasing u and I would say the same thing if I was female guys should be trying to please them so don’t get it twisted I ain’t bias

I just think that dudes try too hard and do too much when they shouldn’t
Then when they get a good female at times they either weren’t ready or couldn’t keep shyt in pants
Or she wasn’t shyt or wasn’t ready
Bottom line you just don’t know no matter and will never know
U can only hope u got a good women by knowing yourself, knowing what u want, what she does for u and over time enjoy the ride for what it is
There is no secret to success
There is only knowledge and hope and living in them moments cuz u never know on a drop of a dime she can change and do u dirty but if she truly loves u and is about u and makes u want to be better I do believe in women like that it can last

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

It never fails. I get into a relationship and now every time we go out somewhere random women coming up to me lookin and hollering like

What is it with these broads?

I know the answer to it. It's what I been saying. Women want men who OTHER women find desirable.

 

[TRUEST]

It never fails. I get into a relationship and now every time we go out somewhere random women coming up to me lookin and hollering like

What is it with these broads?

I know the answer to it. It's what I been saying. Women want men who OTHER women find desirable.

its funny how it never works the opposite way lol. you'll never find a guy who all of a sudden starts liking a nasty b1tch cause some dude was all up on her. i find it amusing how the b1tch will be feeling herself when she sees u walking by on some " do you see this dude right here thirsting over me" and inside i chuckle to myself on some b1tch please that n1gga can have u.

 

[MollyGalaga]

I Give up

 

[Reverie]

So, I met a girl in September at my school's FGC scene because we both play Tekken. Not long after we started talking and getting close. I had no feelings at the time, and just felt like she was a friend to me. Then, she started to do all these things that basically said she liked me. One instance in particular is when she cosplayed as Josie around Halloween and showed up to the local with it on while I was playing. I sure as hell noticed it, and didn't know how to react. I really took it as nothing, then she started to show more signs like flirt with me, always talk to me on the regular, etc. I never noticed any of these until about last week, because I'm a dense fukker. At the same time, I had a little interest in her and was wondering if I could shoot my shot but never did because I thought I was out of her league.

So I tell some of my homeboys about all this shyt and every single one of them said that she clearly likes me if she's been doing all this. She's been over at my house a few times to play Tekken with me alone, and my roommates came home and saw and they even knew from there that she liked me. So Friday, I go to therapy and talk about it to my therapist and she pretty much says the same thing that everyone else has been saying, but to ask her out or just ask her about her feelings. I walked her to work that same day and she asked me "So what do you see me as?" and I said a good friend, but hesitant and took it back to tell her that she's a girl that I'd date. So all of that pretty much confirmed everything that has happened up to this point, but she told me that she can't commit to any relationship right now, and any date she'd go on right now is nothing serious. I think there's something going on in her head making her feel like that, I don't remember what, but I know her only ex treated her like shyt and she's done things like tell me all the ways that she'd like guys to ask her out, told me things she'd tell her girlfriends, and other things. I pretty much accepted what she said and she said it'd be best if we remain as friends for right now. But, recently, I've started actually catching feelings for her. I don't really know what to do but wait. There's no other girls that pique my interest, and at the same time I don't actively chase after people because I stopped that long ago.

I'm just stuck... there's a mutual like here, but she isn't ready to commit. I don't know what else I can do here.

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

Bruh... why are you even talking about commitment with a woman you haven’t even dated yet? Yo y’all young cats are tripping something serious in this thread as of late.

When she told you she wasn’t looking for anything serious that didn’t mean she wasn’t willing to get into some lighthearted fun. Y’all dudes wear your emotions on your sleeve and end up running these girls off before the game even gets started.

My question to you is, why does this need to be serious at all?

 

[Claudex]

So, I met a girl in September at my school's FGC scene because we both play Tekken. Not long after we started talking and getting close. I had no feelings at the time, and just felt like she was a friend to me. This is important, this means that in your head she's a friend first. If you ever get confused about what y'all relationship is remember this part bolded in black ^. Then, she started to do all these things that basically said she liked me. There exists "To like" and there exists "To be attracted to", the only way to be sure which is which is to ask the person. One instance in particular is when she cosplayed as Josie around Halloween and showed up to the local with it on while I was playing. I sure as hell noticed it, and didn't know how to react. I really took it as nothing, then she started to show more signs like flirt with me, always talk to me on the regular, etc. I never noticed any of these until about last week, because I'm a dense fukker. At the same time, I had a little interest in her and was wondering if I could shoot my shot but never did because I thought I was out of her league. You clearly have self-esteem issues, which here just means you don't know yourself, so my advice to you is to avoid confusion by learning to have the balls to cut/see through the bullshyt. You'll learn more quicker that way.

So I tell some of my homeboys about all this shyt and every single one of them said that she clearly likes me if she's been doing all this. I was gonna say something about this, but fukk it. You're a young buck so I guess this is unavoidable. She's been over at my house a few times to play Tekken with me alone, and my roommates came home and saw and they even knew from there that she liked me. See you keep using that word and yet she never confirmed that to you, the only people that used that word were you and everybody else you asked BUT her! You see how immature that is? I hope so. So Friday, I go to therapy and talk about it to my therapist and she pretty much says the same thing that everyone else has been saying, but to ask her out or just ask her about her feelings. See how your therapist gave you the same advice I just did? Until you ask, you can't be sure of shyt. I walked her to work that same day and she asked me "So what do you see me as?" and I said a good friend, but hesitant and took it back to tell her that she's a girl that I'd date. You see how I bolded that part pink? That means that that's quite possibly where you fukked it all up. Hesitation and taking things back is the quickest way to lose a girl. Which is why you must always be honest with yourself about how you feel in regards to every girl that you deal with.So all of that pretty much confirmed everything that has happened up to this point, but she told me that she can't commit to any relationship right now, and any date she'd go on right now is nothing serious. I think there's something going on in her head making her feel like that, I don't remember what, but I know her only ex treated her like shyt and she's done things like tell me all the ways that she'd like guys to ask her out, told me things she'd tell her girlfriends, and other things. I pretty much accepted what she said and she said it'd be best if we remain as friends for right now. But, recently, I've started actually catching feelings for her. Okay finally you're being honest with yourself, so now you've got two choices. I don't really know what to do but wait. Wait for what genius? Just read my reply bellow the quote There's no other girls that pique my interest, and at the same time I don't actively chase after people because I stopped that long ago.

I'm just stuck... there's a mutual like here, but she isn't ready to commit. I don't know what else I can do here.

She isn't ready to commit, so you can either strive for:

1. Start a FWB's situation.
2. Ending the friendship because the moment you started liking her, the dynamic between y'all changed and if you keep pretending you just see her as a friend you WILL become an a$$hole/fukkboy to her one day. I promise you that.