Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Had a pleasant date on Sunday with this fine Mauritian woman. It wasn't even planned. Met her at my local park on Saturday then decided to meet up the next day at this outdoor eatery then chilled at a huge park that was near there since it was a nice day. We're both on IT so we had a lot to talk about as well as the usual shyt. Hoping to meet up with her again sometime soon.
Nice. Best way to meet genuine folks is just doing stuff you already do (vs forcing proximity).
 

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OGs, I realized that I move relatively slow in relationships or talking. The last girl that had we fell apart for various reasons, but believe on my end me not progressing quickly "sexually" may have contributed as well. I can contribute this my conservative Pentecostal background in my parent household.

My question is what is the best way to not move slowly? I realized that when you move slowly, especially in this dating climate, girls lose interest quick. So, on the first date I should always go for a first kiss? and by what date/time period should I ask a girl to be exclusive? There's probably more to this but I can't think of any more question so y'all expound of yall think about it.
 

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So my gf just broke up with me after one year together. I can’t believe this shyt. She said she can’t do this anymore because of long distance and that she loves me way too much to only be with me once every two months. I’m so damn hurt because I put in so much efforts and time to make sure she was good, to go see her. I only imagine how I would feel if I was 100% invested on her and not myself and my goals. This is why I really can’t fully trust these women. A whole fkkn year and now you can’t do this. I told her to save her reasons and we should just end it now because I can’t be with someone texting me this after a whole year like we didn’t have a relationship. She started this whole shyt three weeks ago blaming it on depression and was being distant. Now I know she was planning it. All the shyt I did for her.:snoop: Only reason I’m not completely devastated is because I already know how the game is. This shyt hurts tho brehs.

Did she ring you or text you?

And yeah she was definitely plotting this for a while. Laying the groundwork to bail, probably finalising it with her friends. shyt always sucks and its good to admit that yes, this shyt does hurt.

But yeah any smart man knows the game now and has to act accordingly.
 

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OGs, I realized that I move relatively slow in relationships or talking. The last girl that had we fell apart for various reasons, but believe on my end me not progressing quickly "sexually" may have contributed as well. I can contribute this my conservative Pentecostal background in my parent household.

My question is what is the best way to not move slowly? I realized that when you move slowly, especially in this dating climate, girls lose interest quick. So, on the first date I should always go for a first kiss? and by what date/time period should I ask a girl to be exclusive? There's probably more to this but I can't think of any more question so y'all expound of yall think about it.

Never ever ask a woman to be exclusive quickest way to see her run for the hills. The woman should always be more into you and she should push for exclusivity. You'll know when a woman is really into you vs mildly tolerating you.

Speaking from the way I tend to move, I usually go for a kiss on a first date if I've laid the groundwork and it feels right. For me it lets her know I want this to be sexual and puts the ball in her court as to what happens next.
 

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OGs, I realized that I move relatively slow in relationships or talking. The last girl that had we fell apart for various reasons, but believe on my end me not progressing quickly "sexually" may have contributed as well. I can contribute this my conservative Pentecostal background in my parent household.

My question is what is the best way to not move slowly? I realized that when you move slowly, especially in this dating climate, girls lose interest quick. So, on the first date I should always go for a first kiss? and by what date/time period should I ask a girl to be exclusive? There's probably more to this but I can't think of any more question so y'all expound of yall think about it.
Find people who match your speed..don't change for these hoes
 

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I feel you breh. Ive been there too :mjcry:


But next time u just gotta remember that women are going to look out for their best interest first, so it would behoove you to do the same.

I used to get in my feelings when ive been broken up with. Nowadays when ppl do this, i just delete the number, dont respond and move on immediately


If your feelings are getting hurt because of the behavior of a chick you’re dating, that’s an indicator that suggests your priorities are in disarray.

I use to suffer from this. But nowadays I legit couldn’t be bothered. I can tell if a woman is a good woman with the first few weeks of dating and I learn to dip fast. That way u avoid the inevitable fruitless distraction.
 

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So my gf just broke up with me after one year together. I can’t believe this shyt. She said she can’t do this anymore because of long distance and that she loves me way too much to only be with me once every two months. I’m so damn hurt because I put in so much efforts and time to make sure she was good, to go see her. I only imagine how I would feel if I was 100% invested on her and not myself and my goals. This is why I really can’t fully trust these women. A whole fkkn year and now you can’t do this. I told her to save her reasons and we should just end it now because I can’t be with someone texting me this after a whole year like we didn’t have a relationship. She started this whole shyt three weeks ago blaming it on depression and was being distant. Now I know she was planning it. All the shyt I did for her.:snoop: Only reason I’m not completely devastated is because I already know how the game is. This shyt hurts tho brehs.
been in this same predicament months ago and it sucks. But the silver lining is that you're free to do as you please now and she dont live in your area so you aint gotta worry bout running into her again

you shouldn't invest in a woman that doesn't live in the same city as you. I'd even say that the woman you end up fukkin wit really should be living within 1 hour of where you live. If you aint moving to the city ya girl is in, or have immediate plans of moving, then you only kinda delaying the inevitable.
 

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Just make sure not to spend too much time talking about work. Women you've just met should mentally associate you with fun, not work.

I know. Most of the convo was general stuff. We had a fun time as we pretty much do the same thing and she enjoyed herself.

Nice. Best way to meet genuine folks is just doing stuff you already do (vs forcing proximity).

Yeah, I always find the best dates are the ones that happen unexpectedly. The flow is better and feels more 'organic' as opposed to meeting chicks on the apps.
 

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So my gf just broke up with me after one year together. I can’t believe this shyt. She said she can’t do this anymore because of long distance and that she loves me way too much to only be with me once every two months. I’m so damn hurt because I put in so much efforts and time to make sure she was good, to go see her. I only imagine how I would feel if I was 100% invested on her and not myself and my goals. This is why I really can’t fully trust these women. A whole fkkn year and now you can’t do this. I told her to save her reasons and we should just end it now because I can’t be with someone texting me this after a whole year like we didn’t have a relationship. She started this whole shyt three weeks ago blaming it on depression and was being distant. Now I know she was planning it. All the shyt I did for her.:snoop: Only reason I’m not completely devastated is because I already know how the game is. This shyt hurts tho brehs.
Breh y’all been together a year and seen each other once every two months :dahell:
 

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OGs, I realized that I move relatively slow in relationships or talking. The last girl that had we fell apart for various reasons, but believe on my end me not progressing quickly "sexually" may have contributed as well. I can contribute this my conservative Pentecostal background in my parent household.

My question is what is the best way to not move slowly? I realized that when you move slowly, especially in this dating climate, girls lose interest quick. So, on the first date I should always go for a first kiss? and by what date/time period should I ask a girl to be exclusive? There's probably more to this but I can't think of any more question so y'all expound of yall think about it.
Don’t blame yourself breh, some girls move fast and some move slow...


Just don’t force if the mood ain’t right.
 

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been in this same predicament months ago and it sucks. But the silver lining is that you're free to do as you please now and she dont live in your area so you aint gotta worry bout running into her again

you shouldn't invest in a woman that doesn't live in the same city as you. I'd even say that the woman you end up fukkin wit really should be living within 1 hour of where you live. If you aint moving to the city ya girl is in, or have immediate plans of moving, then you only kinda delaying the inevitable.
:picard: One hour, nikka if I can’t see her with 20-30 minutes that’s a problem. I’m not wasting one hour to see a chick unless we’re like 100% compatible.
 
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