Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Damn @Krisrunner2049 i fell off my cold approach game again

Back to square one, I been hugging the wall all night these past 2 weeks. Letting those opportunities go by :francis:

I swear I gotta get over this shyt and stay consistent with it.

It’s definitely like going to the gym. This on and off shyt is not it.
 

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Bumble ain’t for us. It’s built for and round yuppie cacs. I’m not even exaggerating.

Use Hinge. It’s the best app out there for a breh.
Yeah Hinge has been getting better for me. Problem is convos are inconsistent. I matched with 4 sistas and it's like waiting on them to respond when half of them started the conversation.
 

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Yeah Hinge has been getting better for me. Problem is convos are inconsistent. I matched with 4 sistas and it's like waiting on them to respond when half of them started the conversation.

breh you gotta realize for every 1 of you there are 20 other dudes they chatting with plus 3-5 dudes taking em on dates all that the same time lol
 

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Yeah Hinge has been getting better for me. Problem is convos are inconsistent. I matched with 4 sistas and it's like waiting on them to respond when half of them started the conversation.
You gotta be original in a sense. There’s so many people on these apps to begin with.

Best to exchange like 2-4 messages and go for the date & number. No sense in chatting on there. You gotta see if they’re really about it or not.
 

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breh you gotta realize for every 1 of you there are 20 other dudes they chatting with plus 3-5 dudes taking em on dates all that the same time lol
Oh I know that for sure. I have no illusions about that. There's a chick that keeps trying to go out on a third date with me but I'm usually too tired to go. She asks every weekend and I'm sure she's talking to other dudes too.
 

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Hmm..

I’ve had this nagging ass thought that has been fukking with me.

I’ve been reading some feminist theory to try and understand things from woman’s perspective. So we all know about their concept of toxic masculinity (dudes beating women, assaulting them, etc.) and how some of the things amen do could be considered toxic. And how we live in a gendered patriarchal society (there’s a gender binary that exists, men are seen as player 1 by default).

Now I know women ain’t a monolith, but you can definitely generalize. Why is it that on one hand I’ll read how women don’t like to be objectified as sex objects, etc….

But on the other hand, I’ll go out and see dudes grabbing women, physically imposing, stopping them, all that shyt at bars and clubs. Things that could be considered toxic online. But the women appear to like that shyt and validate that behavior by either giving play or being real polite. Like I don’t really see em making a fuss over it and a lot of those dudes who embody “toxic” behavior typically get a lot of the play from what I’ve seen.

Very rarely do I see meek overly respectful dudes get play like that. I’ve even experimented a bit myself. It’s always some dude doing the most and really imposing the fact that he’s a masculine figure that gets play (in those environments).

Why is that? Am I missing something or judging it wrong? Reason why I’m asking is I wanna know what’s really going on under the surface.
 

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Hmm..

I’ve had this nagging ass thought that has been fukking with me.

I’ve been reading some feminist theory to try and understand things from woman’s perspective. So we all know about their concept of toxic masculinity (dudes beating women, assaulting them, etc.) and how some of the things amen do could be considered toxic. And how we live in a gendered patriarchal society (there’s a gender binary that exists, men are seen as player 1 by default).

Now I know women ain’t a monolith, but you can definitely generalize. Why is it that on one hand I’ll read how women don’t like to be objectified as sex objects, etc….

But on the other hand, I’ll go out and see dudes grabbing women, physically imposing, stopping them, all that shyt at bars and clubs. Things that could be considered toxic online. But the women appear to like that shyt and validate that behavior by either giving play or being real polite. Like I don’t really see em making a fuss over it and a lot of those dudes who embody “toxic” behavior typically get a lot of the play from what I’ve seen.

Very rarely do I see meek overly respectful dudes get play like that. I’ve even experimented a bit myself. It’s always some dude doing the most and really imposing the fact that he’s a masculine figure that gets play (in those environments).

Why is that? Am I missing something or judging it wrong? Reason why I’m asking is I wanna know what’s really going on under the surface.

how old are you
 

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Hmm..

I’ve had this nagging ass thought that has been fukking with me.

I’ve been reading some feminist theory to try and understand things from woman’s perspective. So we all know about their concept of toxic masculinity (dudes beating women, assaulting them, etc.) and how some of the things amen do could be considered toxic. And how we live in a gendered patriarchal society (there’s a gender binary that exists, men are seen as player 1 by default).

Now I know women ain’t a monolith, but you can definitely generalize. Why is it that on one hand I’ll read how women don’t like to be objectified as sex objects, etc….

But on the other hand, I’ll go out and see dudes grabbing women, physically imposing, stopping them, all that shyt at bars and clubs. Things that could be considered toxic online. But the women appear to like that shyt and validate that behavior by either giving play or being real polite. Like I don’t really see em making a fuss over it and a lot of those dudes who embody “toxic” behavior typically get a lot of the play from what I’ve seen.

Very rarely do I see meek overly respectful dudes get play like that. I’ve even experimented a bit myself. It’s always some dude doing the most and really imposing the fact that he’s a masculine figure that gets play (in those environments).

Why is that? Am I missing something or judging it wrong? Reason why I’m asking is I wanna know what’s really going on under the surface.
If I’m reading this right then of course the guy that’s publicly doing the most is going to be more visible. Along those lines of course a meek (by a good thing) overly respectful breh will appear to not do as well.

Brehs have to separate the what they want from what they don’t. If the type of chick you want is the one that responds to that then you have to adjust your plan accordingly. If it’s not then I wouldn’t waste much time on analyzing it. Not talking about you specifically but I notice on here that a lot of brehs give a lot of energy to to demographics of women they don’t claim to have interest in.
 

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If I’m reading this right then of course the guy that’s publicly doing the most is going to be more visible. Along those lines of course a meek (by a good thing) overly respectful breh will appear to not do as well.

Brehs have to separate the what they want from what they don’t. If the type of chick you want is the one that responds to that then you have to adjust your plan accordingly. If it’s not then I wouldn’t waste much time on analyzing it. Not talking about you specifically but I notice on here that a lot of brehs give a lot of energy to to demographics of women they don’t claim to have interest in.
Hmm I’m hearing you. So it’s moreso of a visibility thing - a more polarizing figure will always get more attention by default. I can definitely see that being the main factor a chaotic environment like a bar or nightclub.

Now onto your second point, I agree as well. And do you think there are universal qualities that attract women, if so what? And I’m asking moreso in the context of introducing yourself to a random woman. That stage of getting initial attention and getting their guards down before you can even demonstrate what kind of guy you are.
 

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Hmm..

I’ve had this nagging ass thought that has been fukking with me.

I’ve been reading some feminist theory to try and understand things from woman’s perspective. So we all know about their concept of toxic masculinity (dudes beating women, assaulting them, etc.) and how some of the things amen do could be considered toxic. And how we live in a gendered patriarchal society (there’s a gender binary that exists, men are seen as player 1 by default).

Now I know women ain’t a monolith, but you can definitely generalize. Why is it that on one hand I’ll read how women don’t like to be objectified as sex objects, etc….

But on the other hand, I’ll go out and see dudes grabbing women, physically imposing, stopping them, all that shyt at bars and clubs. Things that could be considered toxic online. But the women appear to like that shyt and validate that behavior by either giving play or being real polite. Like I don’t really see em making a fuss over it and a lot of those dudes who embody “toxic” behavior typically get a lot of the play from what I’ve seen.

Very rarely do I see meek overly respectful dudes get play like that. I’ve even experimented a bit myself. It’s always some dude doing the most and really imposing the fact that he’s a masculine figure that gets play (in those environments).

Why is that? Am I missing something or judging it wrong? Reason why I’m asking is I wanna know what’s really going on under the surface.
Women like acertivness.
 
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