Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Had to share the update to this. I feel sad for this cat. But he really needs to take some time out and decide what is best for him.

So him and my friend were sort of on and off before she decided it really wasn't working and they stopped seeing each other. A few messages back and forth over the last few weeks then he sent her a soppy text message last week and they met up for lunch yesterday so they could talk about things.

Lunch goes OK and he asks her to spend the day at his place as she's remote, so she takes her work laptop with her and works at his place for the afternoon. Later he orders dinner and despite talking about wanting to be friends they make-out, but still don't fukk.

End of the night comes and his talking about his exes emotionally cheating on him in the past and him taking them back.

She's:dwillhuh: then she said it was getting late and she had to go. This guy actually breaks down crying talking about he'll miss her now they're not together. She told me she didn't know what to do as she wasn't expecting that at all. Tells him they can talk about it on Sunday when they meet for a walk.

Bad news for buddy that she didn't tell him, she's been dating again and told me she hooked up with a guy last week and is meeting another guy today for a date.

She says after yesterday though his going to probably permanently be a friend as she feels his emotionally not there. I think this guy needs to try and meet chicks who are in the same frame of mind as him for things like waiting until a relationship or marriage for sex.

That's much later down the line for this dude. He's got way bigger problems within himself he needs to be tackling first before he even thinks about dealing with women again.
 

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Met this woman through a mutual friend. She so damn cold

-She an engineer
-Family oriented. Religious though:ld:
-Got a non profit
-Used to hoop in college
-Doesn't club. Will drink socially but not heavily
-5'9 with a fat ass
-Plays a few instruments and speaks 2 languages:dead:

We've only been kicking it a couple weeks but when we do she's asking me hella questions about my family and upbringing. Tryna feel me out. Seeing how i feel about kids etc. I wont lie brehs i wouldn't mind locking it down. With other women i only tolerated them just so i could have regular sex but with this one its different.

I actually want to do every thing with her:pachaha:i hope i can give yall boys an update in a few months with something positive. I literally cant get this woman off my mind:mindblown:
Update, just in case anyone gives a damn. She recently got out of a relationship about 3 months ago, the last guy was cheating on her. So she's saying she wants to make sure to build a friendship with her next partner and make sure they are compatible.

I can respect that but at the same time, at this stage in my life im ready to settle down. Im not afraid to say that. Im not in the military anymore and im not sleeping with women up and down the east coast. We in to some of the same shows and music (Seinfeld, the office, neo soul video games etc) but at this point we're just kicking it with no expectations. Grabbing dinner here and there. She offered to braid my hair the other day.

Idk brehs, im not losing no sleep over it. Im still doing me with being self employed and trying to level up
 

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Update, just in case anyone gives a damn. She recently got out of a relationship about 3 months ago, the last guy was cheating on her. So she's saying she wants to make sure to build a friendship with her next partner and make sure they are compatible.

I can respect that but at the same time, at this stage in my life im ready to settle down. Im not afraid to say that. Im not in the military anymore and im not sleeping with women up and down the east coast. We in to some of the same shows and music (Seinfeld, the office, neo soul video games etc) but at this point we're just kicking it with no expectations. Grabbing dinner here and there. She offered to braid my hair the other day.

Idk brehs, im not losing no sleep over it. Im still doing me with being self employed and trying to level up
Gotta let shyt breath fam. I get wanting to settle down but just enjoy it for what it is. She will want to take it slow until she doesn’t.
 

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Pick up hobbies outside the house, get into movies, read books, every time you make a post in this thread you could be doing something
Staying busy works wonders.
Update, just in case anyone gives a damn. She recently got out of a relationship about 3 months ago, the last guy was cheating on her. So she's saying she wants to make sure to build a friendship with her next partner and make sure they are compatible.

I can respect that but at the same time, at this stage in my life im ready to settle down. Im not afraid to say that. Im not in the military anymore and im not sleeping with women up and down the east coast. We in to some of the same shows and music (Seinfeld, the office, neo soul video games etc) but at this point we're just kicking it with no expectations. Grabbing dinner here and there. She offered to braid my hair the other day.

Idk brehs, im not losing no sleep over it. Im still doing me with being self employed and trying to level up
enjoy the taking it slow shyt, because when women want something, they bug the fukk out of you and its annoying.
 

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I swear these women nowadays gotta be either gay or asexual with the way they move

And I’m not hating either, it’s like men aren’t even on the radar when they out. I wasn’t the only dude getting rejected left and right:gucci:


You gotta be Drake or NBA/NFL athlete level for some of these birds when they out to get the attention
 

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Update, just in case anyone gives a damn. She recently got out of a relationship about 3 months ago, the last guy was cheating on her. So she's saying she wants to make sure to build a friendship with her next partner and make sure they are compatible.

I can respect that but at the same time, at this stage in my life im ready to settle down. Im not afraid to say that. Im not in the military anymore and im not sleeping with women up and down the east coast. We in to some of the same shows and music (Seinfeld, the office, neo soul video games etc) but at this point we're just kicking it with no expectations. Grabbing dinner here and there. She offered to braid my hair the other day.

Idk brehs, im not losing no sleep over it. Im still doing me with being self employed and trying to level up

i wouldnt mess with a chick fhat fresh out of a relationship
 

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Ok guys my girl is furious she has been dating me since November and went through my phone when I was sleeping. Saw i meet a stripper during the summer. made a few 100 payments on cash app because I was sexually frustrated. She went through my phone Friday

We have sex like once a month (with condoms) and she has never been able to get me off without me jerking. She is also mad that I met a female friend of mine without telling her. I eat her out frequently but she doesn't reciprocate so hence I paid like 120 for condom head.

She says I don't love her and I should die alone.

I do a lot for her on my birthday she just got me a birthday card and didn't hand it to me a month later. I help her financially roughly 2k a month not including the 6k I paid for her birthday.

I feel awful but I feel like im not getting what I should be getting compared to what some of my friends get out of their relationships.

She says that I'm such a liar and a piece of shyt but we were not engaged and its not like we have kids. I've been doing the dating thing but it leaves me unhappy.
 

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Ok guys my girl is furious she has been dating me since November and went through my phone when I was sleeping. Saw i meet a stripper during the summer. made a few 100 payments on cash app because I was sexually frustrated. She went through my phone Friday

We have sex like once a month (with condoms) and she has never been able to get me off without me jerking. She is also mad that I met a female friend of mine without telling her. I eat her out frequently but she doesn't reciprocate so hence I paid like 120 for condom head.

She says I don't love her and I should die alone.

I do a lot for her on my birthday she just got me a birthday card and didn't hand it to me a month later. I help her financially roughly 2k a month not including the 6k I paid for her birthday.

I feel awful but I feel like im not getting what I should be getting compared to what some of my friends get out of their relationships.

She says that I'm such a liar and a piece of shyt but we were not engaged and its not like we have kids. I've been doing the dating thing but it leaves me unhappy.
Have you talked to her about the sex issues?
 

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Ok guys my girl is furious she has been dating me since November and went through my phone when I was sleeping. Saw i meet a stripper during the summer. made a few 100 payments on cash app because I was sexually frustrated. She went through my phone Friday

We have sex like once a month (with condoms) and she has never been able to get me off without me jerking. She is also mad that I met a female friend of mine without telling her. I eat her out frequently but she doesn't reciprocate so hence I paid like 120 for condom head.

She says I don't love her and I should die alone.

I do a lot for her on my birthday she just got me a birthday card and didn't hand it to me a month later. I help her financially roughly 2k a month not including the 6k I paid for her birthday.

I feel awful but I feel like im not getting what I should be getting compared to what some of my friends get out of their relationships.

She says that I'm such a liar and a piece of shyt but we were not engaged and its not like we have kids. I've been doing the dating thing but it leaves me unhappy.

Leave her now...:ufdup:

You give her 2 bands a month:huhldup:

You spent 120 for condom head:damn:

Leave her now and START COMPLETELY OVER :ufdup:
 

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Ok guys my girl is furious she has been dating me since November and went through my phone when I was sleeping. Saw i meet a stripper during the summer. made a few 100 payments on cash app because I was sexually frustrated. She went through my phone Friday

We have sex like once a month (with condoms) and she has never been able to get me off without me jerking. She is also mad that I met a female friend of mine without telling her. I eat her out frequently but she doesn't reciprocate so hence I paid like 120 for condom head.

She says I don't love her and I should die alone.

I do a lot for her on my birthday she just got me a birthday card and didn't hand it to me a month later. I help her financially roughly 2k a month not including the 6k I paid for her birthday.

I feel awful but I feel like im not getting what I should be getting compared to what some of my friends get out of their relationships.

She says that I'm such a liar and a piece of shyt but we were not engaged and its not like we have kids. I've been doing the dating thing but it leaves me unhappy.
:francis: Walk away breh. None of this is healthy. Start over fresh.

You’re a Dr., you shouldn’t be dealing with anything like this.
 

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Have you talked to her about the sex issues?

Yes I asked that she watched porn but she felt that I was "holding back" I've made her cum multiple times.She gets mad when I don't initiate but will only do it withs a condom or will give me head for like 2 min.


She before this argument she would say I treat her like shyt. But I got a birthday card one week ago for my birthday in the beginning of July.


We got in an argument about me buying her a new car. Two weeks beforehand she is very pretty and get's lots of male attention
 
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Yes I asked that she watched porn but she felt that I was "holding back" I've made her cum multiple times.She gets made when I don't initiate but will only do it withs a condom or will give me head for like 2 min.

We got in an argument about me buying her a new car. Two weeks beforehand she is very pretty and get's lots of male attention
Y’all ain’t compatible breh. That’s the easy version
 
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