Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[RealCrownHeights]

breh no woman is carer focused.Its all cap to make up for them lacking femininity. Trust me the moment she gets her wedding and baby shower IG likes she gonna shift her whole mindset up on you and not wanna split bills or anything and call her self wanting to be 'traditional'. You are green enough for her to get it off on you too by the looks of it. God literally saving your life getting you out of that situation and you keep rejecting your blessing lol. You made it out with no kids and no financial obligations to her man. You need more like a year alone rather than 6 months.

I may sound harsh but I rather be an a$$hole than you ruin your life and family court have you suicidal or worse.

Nah I appreciate the real talk, she is kind of on that feminist talk a little bit and LGBTQ etc and yea I feel like sometimes she may one to have her cake and eat it too and be traditional when it's too late.

shyt stressful and yea I don't think she would really want to split bills and shyt I mean shyt she don't even want to pay for an uber after going to 3 restaurants

 

[RealCrownHeights]

you're in NYC, man eff them goofy ass apps (apps should be used passively not actively, as in leave it up, maybe check once a week, send out mass messages and a few days later see who responds).

being in NYC you should be out and about, doing things YOU ENJOY, thus you will be in proximity of women with similar interest, thus you can strike up organic conversation opposed to weird ass ugly dude 'cold approaching'. Dont ever exalt these chicks man, they humans just like you.

I only have like one real homie who is of similar predicaments (just got out of a relationship too and knew him since kindergarten ) Everybody else I grew up with got baby mothers and kids, and my college friends that moved here moved out.

I guess I can play solo but I feel like that's weird as shyt in NYC. No but I'm not ugly and I'm in shape etc I never cold approached and it worked though. Only hobbies I have right now is BJJ and the gym and this hotel I study at in LES (all type of awkward to talk to women) Like BJJ I see I caught like 2 girl's eyes but wth we're literally dry humping

 

[Apollo Creed]

Nah I appreciate the real talk, she is kind of on that feminist talk a little bit and LGBTQ etc and yea I feel like sometimes she may one to have her cake and eat it too and be traditional when it's too late.

shyt stressful and yea I don't think she would really want to split bills and shyt I mean shyt she don't even want to pay for an uber after going to 3 restaurants

breh you dont marry a feminist lol. If feminist are your thing then yall gonna be partners so write up your own contract that everything is 50/50 and if a woman is against that then she isn't a real feminist and her card has been pulled. So much wrong with your situation.

1.Block her
2.Unfriend her and hide all her social media content
3.Spend 2022 ALONE, DO NOT GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP. (1st 1-3 months grieve and soul search, months 2-6 pick up new hobbies AND begin a fitness journey to get in the best shape of your life, months 6 and beyond keep consistent, and MAYBE the last 2 months you can entertain dating BUT STILL NO RELATIONSHIP).

I Would spend 2022 rebuilding as a man and learning to be alone, and then early 2023 doing passive dating just cause you may be rusty talking with women, but let Summer 2023 be show time.

 

[mag357]

When me and my ex first started dating I was 25 and she was 23 and she always wanted marriage and kids and I never wanted that until now.

She told me the relationship was a mistake and so I broke up with her at beginning of the covid and she went home. Even though I did not want to break it off, but how could I recover from that as a man. She came back and we started talking again but she never expressed to me until recently that she was crying, sick wanting to kill me etc. And she said I never asked to be her man again when she came back. In our absence I smashed some hinge bytches and realized it's really not shyt out here man, she claimed she went on dates but never fukked anyone and they wasn't me.

I'm 28 now and a man on some sap can't see myself without her. Her line sister set her up on a blind date with this nikka and she been smitten ever since "I guess he paid for every meal and built her a desk one time and never complained" I'm like is that the only complaint? "oh no you just never wanted marriage and kids and now you want it" she called me Lawerence from Insecure. I went to Dubai and brought this girl back diamond earrings mind you and a silk scarf.

She claims the nikka has been waiting for years to date her and all this shyt and I never talked like his before. When she first told me she would continue dating this nikka, I was sick and distraught and still am. I lost 17 pounds, been in church, waiting for my insurance to kick in February. I have been real distraught about this shyt and I don't have any male role models or mentors to talk to about this that are mature enough except my friend who's 29 with a wife and kid and is super Christian and is a father who a pastor. All my close friends my age are big gmb and I thought the same, plus I never saw that work in my life but I want to change that.

Her" I'm just on Facebook and seeing people with kids and marriage and family" Me: Okay my Facebook will have mad baby showers but no marriage and free such and such.

She was saying she would call me when she wanted dikk but if they start fukking she's not mixing both of us. She been face timing me and shyt and she admitted they fukked, and that shyt felt like a nikka stabbed me in my balls man, but 2 weeks ago she called me and told me to come over, I stopped jerking off too and brought the rose toy and everything, went in on her shyt.

She admitted that was one of the best she's had but still say she don't wanna be with me right now

Then yesterday she said if he asks her to be his girl she's gonna say yes, but then saying I look good at the end of the call and saying she love me.

I think this nikka slightly makes more money and I been about that too, like I'm actively studying for sec +, I have no kids, I'm about to get my own place next year in NY, B.A. degree, but she looks at social media and sees shyt and feel like I should be ahead I guess. I'm literally like the savior of my family though, nobody else has even come close to this meanwhile she comes from 2 parent's both college grads.

Breh's Idek how to move forward with this shyt man, I linked with a hinge girl and I couldn't even get hard, for the first time in my life. fukked up about this, and been praying, talking to God, preacher and more positive people but I want her and want to get married and have kids. I know I gotta really level up but I dead can't even focus.

alright man, I'm calling @mag357 for this one.

Sheeeesh ... I just read all that stuff.
And it made my head hurt.
In the past few years... I've realized most people are so deep in this "matrix", that you cant break them out at this point.

Brother, you are that deep.
Even if someone gives you good advice... You would understand it. You'd actually agree with it.
But you'll never be able to get yourself out of this way that you feel about that girl and this situation...

What I usually tell people is... What's going to happen is this shyt is going to end super bad for you....
Like very very bad... But obviously being how you are... Ur going to have to accept that its your fault

Now there's two ways this can go after it goes bad.... Which it definitely will do ... And I'm talking Catastrophic.....

The two ways are ... The shyt goes bad and you let it ruin you even further. You don't learn anything and continue to be how you are. Get out of the funk of shyt going bad... Fine you another chick to get fixated on... And be back to square one with your Bullshytt.

Or... Orrrrr.... You go thru it getting catastrophically bad... You learn that the way you are being is kinda corny, it's a turn off, and it will make any female you like, not like you...
You take that info And get better at life.
You get better at understanding how a man is supposed to prioritize things in his life...
Women shouldn't be high on that list.
They come with all the other things that should be put high on your list....

I believe you can't help anyone who's on your type shyt.... I would just be wasting my breath on you....

It's all on you brother.... Be well

 

[mag357]

I already know you're about to drop the ether

But this brother needs it.

We just trying look out for him.

Just wrote something... Laying down all fat from Holiday food..
Hope I didn't disappoint

 

[Apollo Creed]

I only have like one real homie who is of similar predicaments (just got out of a relationship too and knew him since kindergarten ) Everybody else I grew up with got baby mothers and kids, and my college friends that moved here moved out.

I guess I can play solo but I feel like that's weird as shyt in NYC. No but I'm not ugly and I'm in shape etc I never cold approached and it worked though. Only hobbies I have right now is BJJ and the gym and this hotel I study at in LES (all type of awkward to talk to women) Like BJJ I see I caught like 2 girl's eyes but wth we're literally dry humping

you need to make this journey solo. Often times we use our friends as a crutch, but as a man your journey to figuring out who you are has to be done alone. Your friends won't be there forever and at the end of the day when you die, only you will be in that grave thus you need to find yourself by yourself. Friends and family help make our journey easier but at your stage you cant use them as a crutch, because they can influence you and you end up making decisions that truly are what YOU want.

 

[Serious]

Just wrote something... Laying down all fat from Holiday food..
Hope I didn't disappoint

It was sound advice fam.

I thought you were going divulge into all the fukk shyt ol girl is / has probably been doing behind his back, but like you said that would probably be a waste of breath.

But the truth is, everyone here agrees breh should cold turkey leave the girl alone. Like today, then just take some time to himself before if dealing with any chick

But the reality is, there's a strong chance that he'll just continue fukk with this chick, ignoring our advice, only to end up even deeper down the rabbit hole, more depressed and possible knocking this chick up.

Breh just doesnt know how good he has it where he could make a clean make a break away, and deal with a new woman that has a clean slate and less emotional baggage.

It's so many nikkas that wish they didn't have kids with birds, or stuck paying spousal alimony.

And this breh is on the verge of being manipulated into signing up for that contract. I'm just

 

[RealCrownHeights]

Sheeeesh ... I just read all that stuff.
And it made my head hurt.
In the past few years... I've realized most people are so deep in this "matrix", that you cant break them out at this point.

Brother, you are that deep.
Even if someone gives you good advice... You would understand it. You'd actually agree with it.
But you'll never be able to get yourself out of this way that you feel about that girl and this situation...

What I usually tell people is... What's going to happen is this shyt is going to end super bad for you....
Like very very bad... But obviously being how you are... Ur going to have to accept that its your fault

Now there's two ways this can go after it goes bad.... Which it definitely will do ... And I'm talking Catastrophic.....

The two ways are ... The shyt goes bad and you let it ruin you even further. You don't learn anything and continue to be how you are. Get out of the funk of shyt going bad... Fine you another chick to get fixated on... And be back to square one with your Bullshytt.

Or... Orrrrr.... You go thru it getting catastrophically bad... You learn that the way you are being is kinda corny, it's a turn off, and it will make any female you like, not like you...
You take that info And get better at life.
You get better at understanding how a man is supposed to prioritize things in his life...
Women shouldn't be high on that list.
They come with all the other things that should be put high on your list....

I believe you can't help anyone who's on your type shyt.... I would just be wasting my breath on you....

It's all on you brother.... Be well

I'm here for the advice bro, I honestly came to listen and seriously consider and take head to what everyone is saying. I've been through heartbreak before and was big gmb and on some fukk bytches get money when we broke up but then I realized a lot of women I was meeting was lame, then she starting seriously considering this guy shyt woke me up and had me going through it.

I know the vibes I was given off is corny and off putting whatever, but that's why I'm here to learn. I know I have to be a man and not put women first on the list, know I have to get better with life etc.

 

[RealCrownHeights]

breh you dont marry a feminist lol. If feminist are your thing then yall gonna be partners so write up your own contract that everything is 50/50 and if a woman is against that then she isn't a real feminist and her card has been pulled. So much wrong with your situation.

1.Block her
2.Unfriend her and hide all her social media content
3.Spend 2022 ALONE, DO NOT GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP. (1st 1-3 months grieve and soul search, months 2-6 pick up new hobbies AND begin a fitness journey to get in the best shape of your life, months 6 and beyond keep consistent, and MAYBE the last 2 months you can entertain dating BUT STILL NO RELATIONSHIP).

I Would spend 2022 rebuilding as a man and learning to be alone, and then early 2023 doing passive dating just cause you may be rusty talking with women, but let Summer 2023 be show time.

Yea I will block and unfriend her.
3. Sound advice, I lost 23 pounds being depressed I always worked out and was 198 now I'm 175 on keto. Toned, but lost a lot of weight to the point most of my clothes look like 90's wear. It got to the point where I was so down bad I wouldn't even eat man.
I'm in the bjj and I like it and I'm meeting new friends and people from all walks of life but with this Omricon shyt idk. But you 100% on soul search and find myself as a man and rebuild.

 

[Apollo Creed]

It was sound advice fam.

I thought you were going divulge into all the fukk shyt ol girl is / has probably been doing behind his back, but like you said that would probably be a waste of breath.

But the truth is, everyone here agrees breh should cold turkey leave the girl alone. Like today, then just take some time to himself before if dealing with any chick

But the reality is, there's a strong chance that he'll just continue fukk with this chick, ignoring our advice, only to end up even deeper down the rabbit hole, more depressed and possible knocking this chick up.

Breh just doesnt know how good he has it where he could make a clean make a break away, and deal with a new woman that has a clean slate and less emotional baggage.

It's so many nikkas that wish they didn't have kids with birds, or stuck paying spousal alimony.

And this breh is on the verge of being manipulated into signing up for that contract. I'm just

breh I thank God every day I made it to where I am with no kids or nothing and I'm richer than ever

 

[Apollo Creed]

Yea I will block and unfriend her.
3. Sound advice, I lost 23 pounds being depressed I always worked out and was 198 now I'm 175 on keto. Toned, but lost a lot of weight to the point most of my clothes look like 90's wear. It got to the point where I was so down bad I wouldn't even eat man.
I'm in the bjj and I like it and I'm meeting new friends and people from all walks of life but with this Omricon shyt idk. But you 100% on soul search and find myself as a man and rebuild.

Get in the best shape of your life during the time to yourself, and at the end buy a new wardrobe before you enter the dating game again. Like I said you need to repair yourself mentally, spiritually, physically, and maybe financially too. Once you complete that year you will look back at everything and laughs especially because you will be at a point where you've mastered yourself and everything in life will then start to feel 'easy' because you are no longer dependent on satisfying other people.

 

[RealCrownHeights]

Get in the best shape of your life during the time to yourself, and at the end buy a new wardrobe before you enter the dating game again. Like I said you need to repair yourself mentally, spiritually, physically, and maybe financially too. Once you complete that year you will look back at everything and laughs especially because you will be at a point where you've mastered yourself and everything in life will then start to feel 'easy' because you are no longer dependent on satisfying other people.

Yea entering therapy for the third time in my life in February, I'm in the church now a little, quitting fapping, reading, trying to become a Dev Ops or Network Engineer instead of nonprofit, going to keep working out and BJJ. Need to learn hor to meditate also

 

[Apollo Creed]

Yea entering therapy for the third time in my life in February, I'm in the church now a little, quitting fapping, reading, trying to become a Dev Ops or Network Engineer instead of nonprofit, going to keep working out and BJJ. Need to learn hor to meditate also

Spend that year doing all that + some outdoor (or something outside the house, you mentioned BJJ which is cool, maybe even get into watching UFC/combat sports if you dont already, and traveling to see fights in person or at a minimum going to bars to watch the fight) hobby to keep you busy too. Pretty much keep yourself occupied but also build in self reflection time each day. Keep your phone in another room on do not disturb (add your parents or someone who may hit you for emergencies to your favorites so it only rings for them).

 

[mag357]

I'm here for the advice bro, I honestly came to listen and seriously consider and take head to what everyone is saying. I've been through heartbreak before and was big gmb and on some fukk bytches get money when we broke up but then I realized a lot of women I was meeting was lame, then she starting seriously considering this guy shyt woke me up and had me going through it.

I know the vibes I was given off is corny and off putting whatever, but that's why I'm here to learn. I know I have to be a man and not put women first on the list, know I have to get better with life etc.

I don't know gmb stuff brother....
I see that on here... And it's funny. With some truth to it

But brother, her getting with some dude shouldn't have u feeling any kind of way....
she's a women. They're choices be shytty most of the time anyway.

If I was your homeboy I'm telling u delete her number, block her number, delete anything you have of her from your social media.

If u gotta go thru some emotional cleansing, go thru withdrawal... Shaking and sweating. Having vivid, weird , bad dreams because of completely removing her from your life...
Then that's what's best...

Youll come out of that like a gott damn invincible hard on hoes super hero

It may be the only way for you to win

 

[MikelArteta]

It’s funny the times when I expect nothing are the times it’s

Matched with this chick on hinge yesterday convos were stale as hell . Just said screw it . Today shockingly she messaged me in the morning just asking what I’m up to today i said nothing and she said the same unless I’m trying to change that.

I remember my breh @VertigoKnight forget all that texting and ish and get to meet up asap

Said sure and we met up at like 7pm it’s 221am and I just got home
Went to a restaurant then she said if I want to follow her to her spot for a drink I said sure