Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

im turning 28 tomorrow :wheww: and i just sit back and ponder on how much ive changed just ten years ago i would have bet my life savings that by 28 i would be married with a few kids

at 18 i was at the height of my popularity, phone contacts bursting at the seams, had many folks i called my friends, folks i thought would be life long friends, had girls hanging out with me all the time, getting unsolicited messages on myspace, i was the man , looking back dating when your young is the best no one cares if you take the bus, your living accomdations, how much you make, what you do for a living, i was unemployed getting allowance lol taking the bus, had women jocking me left and right.

Now ten years later at 28, id say ive lost like 99% of folks i called friends who i thought i could count on gone

but you know what i could care less :barney: , as you get older you appreciate the little things in life the ability to draw breath, the ability to wake up every morning, to go away, silence, a good book. As i get older dating repulses me, everything is hope hope hope, i hope she likes me, i hope she lets me sleep with her, i hope she chooses me, jealously, cheating, heartbreak, $$ being spent, time being wasted all for what? for this thing called love that so few people even know what it is? for sex? one of the easiest acquired things in the world that is being giving away freely, for a dime broad on your arm that wont even look half that good in 10 years.

 

[yoyoyo1]

A lot of these "improve yourself" websites people link from sound just like a Typical Coli nikka. 100k job only writing a blog, jacked and does jiu-jitsu, hunts for his own food and has sex with a new woman every day. Can't take any of those sites owners seriously.

 

[Wild self]

nikkas tried that shaming language shyt on me about the Popping Bottles in the Club thread, and someone called me gay just because I said that the club scene is not the only place to find chicks. nikkas these days are brainwashed and think that they must do everything to be with a chick.

 

[zacharie101]

Any advice for a young guy on approaching females even though your not looking to be in a relationship and just want friends with benefits situation?

Do you still take her on dates and stuff? Do you tell her your not looking for a relationship right now right after getting her number?

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Any advice for a young guy on approaching females even though your not looking to be in a relationship and just want friends with benefits situation?

Do you still take her on dates and stuff? Do you tell her your not looking for a relationship right now right after getting her number?

Be careful with the Friends with Benefits.9 times out of 10 somebody will catch feelings.More then likely her.Im not telling you what to do but just be careful and be honest.Realize there is a chance this can backfire on you and somebody can get hurt.Whatever you do be honest...

 

[zacharie101]

Be careful with the Friends with Benefits.9 times out of 10 somebody will catch feelings.More then likely her.Im not telling you what to do but just be careful and be honest.Realize there is a chance this can backfire on you and somebody can get hurt.Whatever you do be honest...

I know the risk, but how do you go about starting one?

I know for a relationship you approach a girl, get the number, hit her up and later setup something to kick it with her

Since I'm not looking to be in a relationship, how would I go about starting a friends with benefit situation? After getting the number do I tell her I'm not looking for a relationship right now, but still try to kick it with her?

Basically I'm just wondering whats the process for starting one or better yet how to get sex with no strings attached?

 

[Turbulent]

That's Game breh... Many woman's advice columns and books suggest for women to flake out on a dude the first couple of times to get you to chase them...

 

[Rocket Scientist]

I know the risk, but how do you go about starting one?

I know for a relationship you approach a girl, get the number, hit her up and later setup something to kick it with her

Since I'm not looking to be in a relationship, how would I go about starting a friends with benefit situation? After getting the number do I tell her I'm not looking for a relationship right now, but still try to kick it with her?

Basically I'm just wondering whats the process for starting one or better yet how to get sex with no strings attached?

You asking the wrong cat about "Friends With Benefits". I personally dont do those type of relationships.However do like I said and be honest.Tell her you dont want a relationship and you just wanna hang out.There is no such thing as no strings attached.Somebody will catch feelings.After a while,something is gonna enforce feelings.Either way you need to be careful,these type of relationships cna backfire and you never know what type of baggage,craziness a woman has.Choice is yours.Be honest with women,when you start lying thats when stuff happens.

 

[BreezyH]

Brehs, I need guidance...

It's been months and I am still stuck on this same girl. It's the typical beta story... I didn't even get the bang... We were just friends for a very long time and I caught feelings and you know the rest...

It's been nearly 6-months since I've seen her... Don't have her on FB anymore but saw through some tagging she's with some new dude and straight away caught that . Thing is... using advice from this thread, RooshV and the manosphere in general... I've been going out and doing me... Having a great time, too... I'm in the best shape of my life and have dramatically improved my game... But I've yet to meet anyone who makes me feel the same way she did.

What messes me up the most is looking at her objectively... She's a disaster. Cheated on her long term BF, got caught, made up, then left him years later and started f'cking the same dude again. She's turning 28 and before this new dude she was getting knocked down by a dude fresh out of high school and had a pregnancy scare, too. She's fine... but she's immature, lazy and a huge attention seeker. I should be thanking the almighty that this girl is out of my life but I'm still stuck on her.

This girl represents every mistake I ever made with women in the past. She represents the old me that I'm trying to leave behind. So why can't I just leave her in the past and move on? Why is the urge to still so strong?

without being to glib about it, you just need to smash once and know what it is. in case you've got a conscience about it, trust that she's done her thing long enough that this once instance won't break her. i think you'll find that the hold she has on you will quickly fade

 

[MAKAVELI25]

I know the risk, but how do you go about starting one?

I know for a relationship you approach a girl, get the number, hit her up and later setup something to kick it with her

Since I'm not looking to be in a relationship, how would I go about starting a friends with benefit situation? After getting the number do I tell her I'm not looking for a relationship right now, but still try to kick it with her?

Basically I'm just wondering whats the process for starting one or better yet how to get sex with no strings attached?

This might sound kind of cold, but Ive had great success telling women I just got out of a relationship and I just want to chill. That way she believes theres a chance for something in the future and might still give up the goods. Dont hate the player, hate the game

 

[kevm3]

I'mma have to disagree. He doesn't need to smash if he already knows what it is. Cheaters keep their patterns of behavior, and if she's lazy on top of that? You don't want to invite that into your life. He needs to get at another woman because nothing makes you forget about your old woman faster than a new one.

in regards to that 'friends with benefits' question, be upfront. Lying and playing games is just going to cause you more trouble in the long-run. If you're not trying to be serious right now, tell a female that that's your mindset. If she can't handle it, that's on her.

 

[Mofongo]

meditation/prayer (preferably in the morning before you do anything) can help you be more in-tune with what you truly want out of life and out of your experiences. the good thing about doing this in the morning is that it will set the tone for the rest of the day where as if you do it in the evening it's still better than nothing but you go to sleep right after and wake up in another mindset depending on how you slept (credit to Tariq Nasheed). So for example, you could take a few minutes everyday when you wake up to refocus on what your life goals are as well as your objectives for the day. Try to look inside and find out the good and what you need to work on. Figure out what triggers both. And another important (that even i struggle with at times): take some of that time to FORGIVE yourself.

if you are a believer, you can do it through a convo with the higher power. If not you can always do it as meditation and reflection. The good thing about this is that you go about your day and will focus slightly less on chasing women (a step towards indifference). and like we've been saying, this ironically makes you more attractive to women. I'm not saying to become a monk, don't get me wrong. . It just tips the scale more towards what you want and less on what the world wants from you.

Some buddha stuff ive been reading lately touches on this.

 

[Huellz Santana]

a lot of my guy friends are getting engaged and it seems like every single one of them is just tired of going out and dealing with new women and the chase.

nothing wrong with that, but i dont feel like any of them are really that into their women. she's just in the right place at the right time.

isn't this the definition of settling?​

 

[MikelArteta]

a lot of my guy friends are getting engaged and it seems like every single one of them is just tired of going out and dealing with new women and the chase.

nothing wrong with that, but i dont feel like any of them are really that into their women. she's just in the right place at the right time.

isn't this the definition of settling?​

Yuo

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[kevm3]

that's the thing about me. I can't settle. I got to have something that satisfies me or I can't have it at all.