Why Can't I Get a Man?!: How the 2013 'Single and Looking' Woman is Hustling Backwards
In this scene from The Wire, Marlo, a narcissistic drug lord bent on power, swipes a few lollipops while making eye contact with the security guard, just to let him know there was nothing he could do about it.
The security guard, feeling that his manhood was on the line, went outside to confront Marlo. He told them that he realizes Marlo is powerful and could take him out if he chose, but hes still a man with a job to do. Marlos response?
You want it to be one way, but its the other way.
You want to be able to step to me, right or not, without repercussions. You want the world to work in your favor, rewarding the meek for honesty and principle, rather than those who take what they want, running over the meek in the process. You want it to be one way.
But its the other way.
I can relate this quote to the single lady with the PhDs and principles. The 100-point dating deal breakers list and the hold out for Mr. Right until he comes riding in on a chariot way of seeing things.
You gotta let that go, sweetheart.
Not because youre not worth it. We all know you are. Its because thats not how things work, and because the deck is stacked against you.
The deck is stacked against you because men are in a position that gives them more choosing power. Society doesnt encourage men to get married the way it did in previous generations. Men can have kids at age 80, so theres no ticking biological clock. Women are also more educated than ever and able to explore and cultivate their personalities without societal repercussions, so dudes also have more options of interesting women to choose from than before.
While womankind has advanced in terms of lifes rewards, they havent evolved in terms of dating state of mind. What do I mean by that? Lets explore it.
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