Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[RealAssanova]

And when they feel secure, you can do your thing and you're not going nowhere - a lot of them get bored, get nervous, do something to sabotage the relationship. You're boring, you don't have any swag, she doesn't feel it anymore.

Those are her issues, her insecurities - not a problem with you - but she's holding your heart in her hand, and from time to time, chooses to crush it, rather than deal with things that aren't comfortable. So as usual, her issues become your issues. (The reverse happens, because a lot of them choose to date bums. Broads be more invested in a struggling dude's rap career, than wanting to build with a SysAdmin, I digress...)

All of them? No.
All the time? No.

But, Most of them go through this some of the time though.

One of the problems in the "men's dating advice" corner of the internet - is that we're constantly reacting, constantly trying to manage our behavior to influence her behavior.

As Patrice famously said, You can't make a woman happy.
You can't meet her expectations, because they keep getting bigger and bigger.

For the old heads, "What have you done for me lately?" (c) Janet Jackson. (who famously married a Sheikh and then took his bucks 1 day after their pre-nup was over. Reminds me of Pamela Anderson who married some rich guy, who paid her bills, and got served papers shortly after the check cleared).

So it's 2 things to accept.

1. She's gonna do something dumb. Something anti-social. Something to hurt the relationship.
2. You can't prevent her from doing so, and you can't fix her. (this is the key)

What you can do, is control yourself.

As a result, I usually tell cats to keep working out, keep stacking bread, and stay social. Those are good things in life, in general. Who doesn't want to be healthier, in better shape, and got more money to spend.

WRT females, a good life has 2 effects.

1. She can realize that she's got a good dude and other chicks want him. That's a possibility. It's not a certainty, but it's a possibility. But Lori Harvey shows us that no matter how awesome you are - it might not be enough.
2. But more importantly, by staying a catch, when the relationship ends, you've got places to go/women to see, if you are so inclined.

Facts. Its a tight rope.

Men shouldn’t make a woman feel “too secure” and at the same time, they shouldn’t make her feel “too unsecure” either.

Its about balance. Make her feel secure but let her also know you’re an attractive man that women be checking for and tryna holla at.

Shyt, i even suggest tryna show it to her on purpose but in a way that doesn’t make it obvious.

But if i was forced to pick either extreme, i’d deff rather be toxic and have my girl unsure about me rather than be safe, secure and bored.

 

[re'up]

Regardless of gender, the idea that another person can either make one happy/make one unhappy, is probably (certainly) a flawed and unreasonable position. It cedes way too much control to another. But, that's a popular narrative that someone else can do what we cannot. That's why so much research and therapeutic concepts push being happy on your own first.

 

[Brandsdale]

Depressing in here these days

Very

 

[Mr Olympia]

I told u simp ass Ralph Tresvant r&b nikkas that u can’t have female friends. My brehette friend was peeping my stories while I was out in Miami like a Law & Order detective building a case and when I get back she lit me up for my man hoe activities then blocked me on snapi personally dgaf cuz imma do me but the fact she was saving this shyt up just to flame me was. bytch was on her shyt

 

[africngiant]

Depressing in here these days

my b

 

[DaRealness]

I told u simp ass Ralph Tresvant r&b nikkas that u can’t have female friends. My brehette friend was peeping my stories while I was out in Miami like a Law & Order detective building a case and when I get back she lit me up for my man hoe activities then blocked me on snapi personally dgaf cuz imma do me but the fact she was saving this shyt up just to flame me was. bytch was on her shyt

LOL wtf is it to her? Were you just taking provocative pics with chicks or were they just innocent pictures and ole girl got jealous or something?

 

[Mr Olympia]

LOL wtf is it to her? Were you just taking provocative pics with chicks or were they just innocent pictures and ole girl got jealous or something?

Only 1 story was on some tip, the rest were just me and these girls at different spots eateries, beach, etc. I didn’t think nothin of it at all but bih was jotting down every little detail and shyt. Twas my mistake tho, when u handsome gang these women move just like simps and will “be ya friend” under the guise of potentially getting some d

 

[Ahadi]

I love how we were lied to about money mattering / job / location



It really only matters once the woman can say “I helped him get to this point”

 

[WIA20XX]

Aight fellas, Cuffing season is almost over and we about 8-12 weeks away from Sun Dress season. Valentine's day is the beginning of the down hill and the spring. These broads finna get back to white toe-nail polish and strappy sandals.

Dads - Expect to get Malik and Keisha for the weekend far more often.

Young Guns
If you was bulking, now it's time to start the cut.
You can prolly still get your boat shoes/driving moccasins on sale.
If you let the Afro wolf out, gotta get reacquainted with the barber.

Travel my dudes! And I don't just mean to Miami or the A. They love you long time in 3rd World Philippines but also 1st World Japan (*and she ain't trying to see America or have you spend on her - Ask me how I know!). Don't let the d-watchers stop you from seeing the world. The Black Man brand is strong and timeless.

PAWGSet
Burning Man and Summer Festivals are gonna heat up.

HotepSet
Afropunk will be South Africa.

Pros and Vets - You already know.

Old heads
Now's the time to get the white linen's pressed up.
Blow the dust off one of them high dollar hats.
Switch out the Oyster Perpetual for the White Dial Daytona.
See if you can grab an AirBnB close to Essence Fest.

My phone holster is now Stingray no more pleather, and I done upgraded from the blue tooth earpiece to some airpods.
Might even do the paint correction the 'Lac.

 

[360dagod]

@WIA20XX

Lmfao you spot on

 

[DaRealness]

Only 1 story was on some tip, the rest were just me and these girls at different spots eateries, beach, etc. I didn’t think nothin of it at all but bih was jotting down every little detail and shyt. Twas my mistake tho, when u handsome gang these women move just like simps and will “be ya friend” under the guise of potentially getting some d

bytch sound like a weirdo anyway. You dodged a bullet lol.

 

[NoirDynosaur]

@WIA20XX The referee of game you the MVP fam!

 

[tyfireman15]

Aight fellas, Cuffing season is almost over and we about 8-12 weeks away from Sun Dress season. Valentine's day is the beginning of the down hill and the spring. These broads finna get back to white toe-nail polish and strappy sandals.

Dads - Expect to get Malik and Keisha for the weekend far more often.

Young Guns
If you was bulking, now it's time to start the cut.
You can prolly still get your boat shoes/driving moccasins on sale.
If you let the Afro wolf out, gotta get reacquainted with the barber.

Travel my dudes! And I don't just mean to Miami or the A. They love you long time in 3rd World Philippines but also 1st World Japan (*and she ain't trying to see America or have you spend on her - Ask me how I know!). Don't let the d-watchers stop you from seeing the world. The Black Man brand is strong and timeless.

PAWGSet
Burning Man and Summer Festivals are gonna heat up.

HotepSet
Afropunk will be South Africa.

Pros and Vets - You already know.

Old heads
Now's the time to get the white linen's pressed up.
Blow the dust off one of them high dollar hats.
Switch out the Oyster Perpetual for the White Dial Daytona.
See if you can grab an AirBnB close to Essence Fest.

My phone holster is now Stingray no more pleather, and I done upgraded from the blue tooth earpiece to some airpods.
Might even do the paint correction the 'Lac.

This felt like a pep rally. Thank you. Lol

 

[WIA20XX]

This felt like a pep rally. Thank you. Lol

Don't get it twisted

 

[360dagod]

The way this weather looking in the northeast, March starting to look like it's gonna be up lol