Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Digital Omen]

Imma say fukk it and ask the coworker if she's doing anything for valentines day. I know she wants me. Been hearing it around. And she's too precious. Pray for me brehs I'm about to put my life on the line

Thread full of horrible outcomes from shytting where you eat but best of luck to you in all your future HR and MeToo endeavors

 

[Studious one]

I am a woman and I’m going to give you gentleman two gems when dealing with women:DO NOT STRESS THE SEX!!!! We know you want to fukk. We KNOW! You harassing us about the shyt is not going to make us give it to you. Any man with sense will tell you that when you don’t stress sex a woman be ready to fling her panties at you. Act like a regular human being and treat her like a person. Not a p*ssy ( that’s just a part of her anatomy, there is a bigger organ in her head) but a person. Don’t come off like a damn horn dog when you’re first meeting her. Trust me you’ll get further. Also, you know how they say that a woman knows in the first five minutes whether she will fukk a man? Well, that shyt is subject to change at any given point. In both ways. She probably looked at you and said that she would never fukk you, but then you’re an actual nice guy with a great personality and that’s a turn on for her. At the same time, she might definitely want to fukk you, but you’re an a$$hole and that’s a turn off. Lastly, I tell my sons this all the time: every woman wants to be treated like the most beautiful woman in the world. Like the only woman in the world. The crackhead one legged whore on the corner wants to be treated that way, all women do. When you meet someone that you’re digging, remember that.That’s it. That’s all.

 

[Dance_Like_A_Fiend]

Is it wrong that I have a preference for preppy, valley girl, "white washed" black women? They basically don't exist where I live, but the ones I see online date white and asian dudes that look like school shooters 99.9% of the time. That .1 is for the brehs that look like tyson beckford and shemar moore

 

[The ADD]

Is it wrong that I have a preference for preppy, valley girl, "white washed" black women? They basically don't exist where I live, but the ones I see online date white and asian dudes that look like school shooters 99.9% of the time. That .1 is for the brehs that look like tyson beckford and shemar moore

Wrong? No, but it reads like a strange preference.

 

[Dance_Like_A_Fiend]

Wrong? No, but it reads like a strange preference.

That's basically what my cousin said when he asked me what type of girls I liked. That's what prompted me to make the post, I almost made a thread about it.

 

[Duke Wy Lin]

Yea we have. At her core, she feels like its not right to let something affect a person to the point that they dont want to be bothered for a predetermined amount of time (to me thats regular human emotion). And thats about the extent of the conversation.

I have my own thoughts. Bc of her past with her family, and some trauma etc, and i personally feel like thats why she feels the way she does in this situation. My background is different. My pops was in the army and i did 5 years in the military myself. If someone was going through something and they told me it didnt have nothing to do with me, ima leave it alone. But she hears that and takes offense to it. Then it turns into an argument

It is what it is at this point. Like i mentioned she is an amazing person but some of this is just draining

My brother recently broke up with his girl because of the same reason. He's like me (and most dudes tbh) in that he needs his space. She was the opposite due to her upbringing + daddy issues, so she interpreted his need for space as rejection.

Point is, he couldn't get her to understand that as humans they have different needs and should respect each other's needs. If you guys can't accommodate one another in that way, it's pretty much a wrap.

 

[Brandsdale]

Imma say fukk it and ask the coworker if she's doing anything for valentines day. I know she wants me. Been hearing it around. And she's too precious. Pray for me brehs I'm about to put my life on the line

 

[skyrunner1]

Im responding to everyone but im quoting this reply

I would say she is an amazing person, etc. Its just this one thing, bc right now i got lot of moving parts. I had to pivot in my career last year, and now im in school and its pretty aggressive. So rn my time is limited and on top of that $$ is kind of tight till i finish this program in about 3 months

Not sure how to deal with this particular issue bc to me its easy, just give a nikka some space. But she feels differently and thats where we butt heads

Seems what you posted initially is a little different from what you posted here.. Initially it seemed like you were bringing black clouds to the party and from her pov it was bad energy.. But here it seems more like you are tryna detach and get right and she feels neglected.. Not to go too bro psychobabble but seem like classic anxious-avoidant attachment issue.. She get anxious when you withdraw, but it feels natural for you to be avoidant so you can lock in and get your life in order. It makes sense in your head but outside looking in can be frustrating especially for anxious type..

As man and "leader" of relationship you have to understand on people on your "ship" and their needs..

 

[Ahadi]

I am a woman and I’m going to give you gentleman two gems when dealing with women:DO NOT STRESS THE SEX!!!! We know you want to fukk. We KNOW! You harassing us about the shyt is not going to make us give it to you. Any man with sense will tell you that when you don’t stress sex a woman be ready to fling her panties at you. Act like a regular human being and treat her like a person. Not a p*ssy ( that’s just a part of her anatomy, there is a bigger organ in her head) but a person. Don’t come off like a damn horn dog when you’re first meeting her. Trust me you’ll get further. Also, you know how they say that a woman knows in the first five minutes whether she will fukk a man? Well, that shyt is subject to change at any given point. In both ways. She probably looked at you and said that she would never fukk you, but then you’re an actual nice guy with a great personality and that’s a turn on for her. At the same time, she might definitely want to fukk you, but you’re an a$$hole and that’s a turn off. Lastly, I tell my sons this all the time: every woman wants to be treated like the most beautiful woman in the world. Like the only woman in the world. The crackhead one legged whore on the corner wants to be treated that way, all women do. When you meet someone that you’re digging, remember that.That’s it. That’s all.

I agree with the sex part & women changing their minds. But if she wants me now, what changed? The box isn’t going to be as wet compared to if she liked me initially.

The “treat her like the most beautiful woman in the world” doesn’t work, unless you create balance beforehand. Being an a$$hole has got me more ass in my lifetime than being the “actual nice guy”

Maybe when they hit 30, they want that NICE / Clean up / Russell guy, but these prime joints don’t respect it & again it doesn’t get the box wet as if you had the guy who has a killer instinct.

 

[Duke Wy Lin]

Yeah the nice guy part is exhibit A for why you should not take women's dating advice seriously for the most part

 

[Ahadi]

Yeah the nice guy part is exhibit A for why you should not take women's dating advice seriously for the most part

Have you brehs & her sons looking like food.

Look at DDG & Halle. That’s exactly how you need to be lol. She respects him. She don’t want the Disney Guy who would be “good” to her, she wants a project. She wants her emotions to be everywhere. They all do.

That a$$hole part is only a turn off when they get older & been ran through.

 

[WIA20XX]

I am a woman and I’m going to give you gentleman two gems when dealing with women:DO NOT STRESS THE SEX!!!! We know you want to fukk. We KNOW! You harassing us about the shyt is not going to make us give it to you. Any man with sense will tell you that when you don’t stress sex a woman be ready to fling her panties at you. Act like a regular human being and treat her like a person. Not a p*ssy ( that’s just a part of her anatomy, there is a bigger organ in her head) but a person. Don’t come off like a damn horn dog when you’re first meeting her. Trust me you’ll get further. Also, you know how they say that a woman knows in the first five minutes whether she will fukk a man? Well, that shyt is subject to change at any given point. In both ways. She probably looked at you and said that she would never fukk you, but then you’re an actual nice guy with a great personality and that’s a turn on for her. At the same time, she might definitely want to fukk you, but you’re an a$$hole and that’s a turn off. Lastly, I tell my sons this all the time: every woman wants to be treated like the most beautiful woman in the world. Like the only woman in the world. The crackhead one legged whore on the corner wants to be treated that way, all women do. When you meet someone that you’re digging, remember that.That’s it. That’s all.

Don't listen to this interloper, lol. She spreading trick-nology!

Keep the pressure up fellas. (ideally nonverbal pressure, and the right type of pressure is not browbeating and trying to convince her, but setting up situations where she can't stop herself.)

Letting off the gas means she's dictating the flow. Means you gotta jump through all type of her mental hoops, taking chicks out on dates, dinners, gifts, sweet words, lovey dovey on the text messages, "morning beautiful". And those are the easy and visible things. The intangible is how much control she's gonna have over your thoughts and actions - which is her ultimate goal.

But see how they treat men that they can control, and also how they treat men that they cannot control.

It's not about getting in them guts, it's about getting in them guts on a man's timetable, not a woman's.

Furthermore, it's the a-holes that get the most P on their terms. Same with life.

 

[AStrangeName]

Is it wrong that I have a preference for preppy, valley girl, "white washed" black women? They basically don't exist where I live, but the ones I see online date white and asian dudes that look like school shooters 99.9% of the time. That .1 is for the brehs that look like tyson beckford and shemar moore

You out here moving like a masochist, my brother

 

[Brandsdale]

Is it wrong that I have a preference for preppy, valley girl, "white washed" black women? They basically don't exist where I live, but the ones I see online date white and asian dudes that look like school shooters 99.9% of the time. That .1 is for the brehs that look like tyson beckford and shemar moore

 

[A Pimp Named Slickback]

Imma say fukk it and ask the coworker if she's doing anything for valentines day. I know she wants me. Been hearing it around. And she's too precious. Pray for me brehs I'm about to put my life on the line

I gotta leave work early and probably won't get to see her. Might've been a blessing in disguise



When I work wit her again I can just ask if she's single in casual conversation. Either answer she gives imma ask her for dating advice. Go with the flow and playfully flirt when the time is right

What can go wrong