Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[re'up]

This is the same principle when they give you their number (or go as far as dialing it on my phone in front of me so I know it's not fake and she has my number now) and then when I reach out it's the ghost.

Why give it to me in the first place? I can handle rejection. Just say no thanks and we can both KIM.

It's jut the ego trip of "I gave him my number and a glimmer of hope and then ghost. I win!"

Happened to me this month, and was disappointing, because I sincerely want to go have dinner with this person, at this dope spot, and if I was reading her body language, our interactions, I would say that she did too.

It's not always as intentional, or ego based, as I think it feels like, I think it's more what I would call situational emotionality, how they felt in the moment they made the plan vs the moment they saw the text.

And I try to take it pretty far, in the in person, like I'm going to text you, but do you actually want to go? But, you can only go so far with that, without coming off a bit insecure, but for me, like you said, it's more about why go through a pointless ritual (number exchange) for no reason? Just tell me to fukk off, I won't take it personally. But don't make me text you for no purpose.

 

[Brandsdale]

told him a 15 minute grace period is reasonable, but after 30, weigh the sunken cost/spent cost. You are already there, ready to go, what's another 15 minutes, really, leaving early to prove some obscure point, to me, is too much.

there are cultural dynamics at work, partially, he understands that she is testing him, on some level. They had already met in person, and had some physical intimacy, so it wasn't like a dating app meetup.

Respecting yourself is important, but I also think you have to analyze the other person, and my thinking is if you can end up having a good/great night, then that little period of waiting is just a minor incident, and then you have a good memory/experience to balance that with, and potentially a new contact.

nope. Sounds like she’s beginning to test what she can get away with.

Give a flying fukk if you fukked the bytch or not, it’s the principle of things and when you let a woman get away with dumb shyt like this she will continue to try and get away with it

 

[re'up]

nope. Sounds like she’s beginning to test what she can get away with.

Give a flying fukk if you fukked the bytch or not, it’s the principle of things and when you let a woman get away with dumb shyt like this she will continue to try and get away with it

Yeah, I understand that perspective. If it were me, and it's not, would have to address it, just so we have better understanding of each other.

but, again, for me, none of it is that serious, what's the move? Send a snide text message, or call? Just ghost? Refuse to see them again?

Seems dramatic for my tastes, but I get it.

 

[A Pimp Named Slickback]

Truss

https://www.thecoli.com/threads/get-hinge-brehs-wow.978035/

 

[Brandsdale]

Yeah, I understand that perspective. If it were me, and it's not, would have to address it, just so we have better understanding of each other.

but, again, for me, none of it is that serious, what's the move? Send a snide text message, or call? Just ghost? Refuse to see them again?

Seems dramatic for my tastes, but I get it.

I feel that. And it’s not even about being dramatic. Just simply notify them you are leaving or ask to reschedule cause they clearly can’t make it.

I’ve literally told a girl “hey I’m going home” because of reasons like this. More times when women play erroneous games like this it’s because she’s not really into you. Playing the whole “cool guy” routine is nice and all but I eventually people get frustrated with people being annoying

 

[RaspberryFitted]

told him a 15 minute grace period is reasonable, but after 30, weigh the sunken cost/spent cost. You are already there, ready to go, what's another 15 minutes, really, leaving early to prove some obscure point, to me, is too much.

another 15 minutes to either commuting back to the crib or actually being in the crib

if she’s late BUT keeping me posted, then nothing is wrong with providing grace depending on the situation

 

[360dagod]

I feel that. And it’s not even about being dramatic. Just simply notify them you are leaving or ask to reschedule cause they clearly can’t make it.

I’ve literally told a girl “hey I’m going home” because of reasons like this. More times when women play erroneous games like this it’s because she’s not really into you. Playing the whole “cool guy” routine is nice and all but I eventually people get frustrated with people being annoying

I can't hide my frustration well, so as soon as my pressure starts to raise, it's best I just leave lol

 

[VertigoKnight]

This is the same principle when they give you their number (or go as far as dialing it on my phone in front of me so I know it's not fake and she has my number now) and then when I reach out it's the ghost.

Why give it to me in the first place? I can handle rejection. Just say no thanks and we can both KIM.

It's jut the ego trip of "I gave him my number and a glimmer of hope and then ghost. I win!"

This one I can understand. For guys like you and me we can take rejection and KIM, but sadly there are some twisted pieces of shyt out here who can't take being told I'm not interested by a woman with any grace.

So it's easier for a woman to let those sorts of guys give her their number and she can block it later.

 

[MikelArteta]

This is why as well you always do something you were going to do anyways on a date.

I was going to see that movie anyways, I was going to try that new restaurant anyways, I was going bowling anyways, I was going for a walk anyways.

So if they flake or are late you were going to do it anyways

 

[MikelArteta]

leaving Dubai today to kampala

Meeting up with a chick right away

 

[re'up]

This is why as well you always do something you were going to do anyways on a date.

I was going to see that movie anyways, I was going to try that new restaurant anyways, I was going bowling anyways, I was going for a walk anyways.

So if they flake or are late you were going to do it anyways

I think this a healthy thing, and it is something I have always done, down to showing up for reservations for two, with just me.

Think that rather than a defense mechanism, it speaks towards having real interests and a sense of self, and not contorting yourself into something else to spend a few hours with someone.

 

[WIA20XX]

It's not as if most of us don't already run most of our lives according to what we want.

But we tend to give up choice and freedom to either get something or accommodate others at the expense of ourselves.

It starts with family and then school. It becomes work. And then that "compromise" mentality extends to relationships with women.

When do you get what you want?

Why does it seem that everyone else gets what they want, in a very real and tangible material sense?

Family get that they want. School get that they want. Job get way more then they deserve, even if you're making 6 figures (that's by design).

And with females, you gotta tiptoe and p*ssyfoot around because chicks get mad, get turned off, get this and that, all the while soaking up your time, effort, attention, and money.

And by the time she slobbing or riding or arching the back - it was never as good as you imagined it would be.

Sure you're into it in the moment, but after the nut, you come to your senses. This raggedy beach is painful to even talk to. And she's back to asking for more, demanding even. And because you're not really trying to get back out there, you give in a little.

She might stay, she might leave.

It's rarely up to you.

So that is why you tolerate the chick taking forever to get ready, always being late, not being in the mood to get ready..

And it's not just her, it's not just the sexy ones, not just the beautiful ones, not even just the ones you date.

You gotta tolerate this sheet from all of them, damn near everywhere. Even your mama trip sometimes.

All I'm saying is for once in your life, tell a hoe she can go kick rocks because of her terrible behavior.

Burn the damn bridge.

She's not going to change, none of them will. In fact, you might end up taking some consequential damage because hoes talk.

But for once, get a taste of freedom, of manhood.

 

[Brandsdale]

It's not as if most of us don't already run most of our lives according to what we want.

But we tend to give up choice and freedom to either get something or accommodate others at the expense of ourselves.

It starts with family and then school. It becomes work. And then that "compromise" mentality extends to relationships with women.

When do you get what you want?

Why does it seem that everyone else gets what they want, in a very real and tangible material sense?

Family get that they want. School get that they want. Job get way more then they deserve, even if you're making 6 figures (that's by design).

And with females, you gotta tiptoe and p*ssyfoot around because chicks get mad, get turned off, get this and that, all the while soaking up your time, effort, attention, and money.

And by the time she slobbing or riding or arching the back - it was never as good as you imagined it would be.

Sure you're into it in the moment, but after the nut, you come to your senses. This raggedy beach is painful to even talk to. And she's back to asking for more, demanding even. And because you're not really trying to get back out there, you give in a little.

She might stay, she might leave.

It's rarely up to you.

So that is why you tolerate the chick taking forever to get ready, always being late, not being in the mood to get ready..

And it's not just her, it's not just the sexy ones, not just the beautiful ones, not even just the ones you date.

You gotta tolerate this sheet from all of them, damn near everywhere. Even your mama trip sometimes.

All I'm saying is for once in your life, tell a hoe she can go kick rocks because of her terrible behavior.

Burn the damn bridge.

She's not going to change, none of them will. In fact, you might end up taking some consequential damage because hoes talk.

But for once, get a taste of freedom, of manhood.

lord knows i be WANTING to but enough is enough

 

[Ohene]

It's not as if most of us don't already run most of our lives according to what we want.

But we tend to give up choice and freedom to either get something or accommodate others at the expense of ourselves.

It starts with family and then school. It becomes work. And then that "compromise" mentality extends to relationships with women.

When do you get what you want?

Why does it seem that everyone else gets what they want, in a very real and tangible material sense?

Family get that they want. School get that they want. Job get way more then they deserve, even if you're making 6 figures (that's by design).

And with females, you gotta tiptoe and p*ssyfoot around because chicks get mad, get turned off, get this and that, all the while soaking up your time, effort, attention, and money.

And by the time she slobbing or riding or arching the back - it was never as good as you imagined it would be.

Sure you're into it in the moment, but after the nut, you come to your senses. This raggedy beach is painful to even talk to. And she's back to asking for more, demanding even. And because you're not really trying to get back out there, you give in a little.

She might stay, she might leave.

It's rarely up to you.

So that is why you tolerate the chick taking forever to get ready, always being late, not being in the mood to get ready..

And it's not just her, it's not just the sexy ones, not just the beautiful ones, not even just the ones you date.

You gotta tolerate this sheet from all of them, damn near everywhere. Even your mama trip sometimes.

All I'm saying is for once in your life, tell a hoe she can go kick rocks because of her terrible behavior.

Burn the damn bridge.

She's not going to change, none of them will. In fact, you might end up taking some consequential damage because hoes talk.

But for once, get a taste of freedom, of manhood.

Needed to see this
Same thought process led to me ending shyt with my last chick

 

[RaspberryFitted]

It's not as if most of us don't already run most of our lives according to what we want.

But we tend to give up choice and freedom to either get something or accommodate others at the expense of ourselves.

It starts with family and then school. It becomes work. And then that "compromise" mentality extends to relationships with women.

When do you get what you want?

Why does it seem that everyone else gets what they want, in a very real and tangible material sense?

Family get that they want. School get that they want. Job get way more then they deserve, even if you're making 6 figures (that's by design).

And with females, you gotta tiptoe and p*ssyfoot around because chicks get mad, get turned off, get this and that, all the while soaking up your time, effort, attention, and money.

And by the time she slobbing or riding or arching the back - it was never as good as you imagined it would be.

Sure you're into it in the moment, but after the nut, you come to your senses. This raggedy beach is painful to even talk to. And she's back to asking for more, demanding even. And because you're not really trying to get back out there, you give in a little.

She might stay, she might leave.

It's rarely up to you.

So that is why you tolerate the chick taking forever to get ready, always being late, not being in the mood to get ready..

And it's not just her, it's not just the sexy ones, not just the beautiful ones, not even just the ones you date.

You gotta tolerate this sheet from all of them, damn near everywhere. Even your mama trip sometimes.

All I'm saying is for once in your life, tell a hoe she can go kick rocks because of her terrible behavior.

Burn the damn bridge.

She's not going to change, none of them will. In fact, you might end up taking some consequential damage because hoes talk.

But for once, get a taste of freedom, of manhood.

good shyt breh.