Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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It was ugly out here for a while. Just fine hoes, meaningless sex, intolerable company, and bad af women I was coming across.

Then I met one, fine af, top 2 women personalities I've ever met (and only probably saying that cause I'm reluctant to admit otherwise) and we're ROCKING.

She was adamant about not coming to her house in the beginning and I played the same role. We hung out like 6 times in the first 12 days after actually kicking it the first time. Knew of each other prior.

I loved her look, standards, conversation, morals, body, personality how in sync we were in all that. Getting TOO drunk with her early on had me fighting to keep her in my life after embarrassing displays :dry:

Overcame BS, finally invited her over - folded her up and shyt got stronger. Around 3 months I told her I wanted you be exclusive - wild cause all the time as spent and how things we're going, screamed exclusive. ( felt the need to verbalize cause I started rejecting hoes)

I don't when, where or why but now - I'm indifferent af. Possibly cause we work together :krs: and I was used to seeing her being the one everybody wanted and that changed once everybody went to WFH and I saw her busted for like a month straight. I wish I wasn't shallow cause wtf, she checks all boxes. To the point, I wasn't even checking for other women.

Now here we are wrapping up month 4 and idk. And it might not even be her. I'm getting better, these hoes letting me know I'm fine - the shots I shoot don't miss. I got women throwing themselves at me and I'm like damn - do I wanna continue the life I've lived my whole life or do I want to give this situation an honest attempt.

Took shawty to a game tonight and can honestly say this the first time I didn't enjoy being in her presence. I'm an a$$hole so when I'm upset I'm rude and condescending but with her, I noticed I shut down to prevent further damage. That's what happened tonight - through the game, car ride all that...silence.

Went to a bar, after that... bartender shooting and she half naked. I'm like do I really wanna leave this lifestyle. Talk to me :lupe:
You’ll probably never want to truly settle down with one woman. They will always bore you eventually

That’s the perils of being a player when you’re younger. That shyt don’t leave you. It’s the same reason you cant turn a hoe into a housewife. Cant turn a playa into a papa
 

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Dating apps are exhausting, I’m at a point where I don’t even care anymore

Rather just make friends in real time and whatever happens happens
Hinge dried up for me last year. I don't know of it's because I'm in LA (tough dating market to begin with) or if it's just the natural life cycle of the apps.

I've gone back to low tech.
 
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I say this out of breh to breh love.

Seek therapy.

If you find yourself welling up with animous towards a loved one with no discernable reason why.

I would def talk to a MALE psychologist on why and get to the root of it.


You gon be 50 looking at yourself like an idiot. Solid women are hard to come by

He don't need therapy imo...

When you start leveling up in all 3 phases, you begin to see different combinations of doors open that you didn't think was possible

There are downsides to everything
 

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My older homie mad at me over the same damn female he been tripping over :francis:

I’m just a friendly nikka with this thick ass hoe. I can’t help that I’m low key on some player shyt :manny:

She pulled tight on me in front of both of us. Talking about “where you been at all day?”

I responded by saying “:manny: just been working & staying out the way”

He walked into her than got cussed out. I told her to chill out dissing my big brehdda. She pulled ya boy to the side and asked me to walk with her. We then proceeded to set some shyt up. Ever since im starting to notice that breh been eyeballing me on some weird shyt.

Thinking about leaving her alone so breh can try to get on. These hoes for everybody :manny:
 

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My older homie mad at me over the same damn female he been tripping over :francis:

I’m just a friendly nikka with this thick ass hoe. I can’t help that I’m low key on some player shyt :manny:

She pulled tight on me in front of both of us. Talking about “where you been at all day?”

I responded by saying “:manny: just been working & staying out the way”

He walked into her than got cussed out. I told her to chill out dissing my big brehdda. She pulled ya boy to the side and asked me to walk with her. We then proceeded to set some shyt up. Ever since im starting to notice that breh been eyeballing me on some weird shyt.

Thinking about leaving her alone so breh can try to get on. These hoes for everybody :manny:

Some dudes will always be on some hater shyt, but this chick sounds like she's deliberately trying to cause some friction.
 

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I figured that was the play. Which is why I stay out the way & just play my role. Big breh trying to step on toes but I just keep it moving

Yeah, sounds like you don't need either of them TBH. I can't stand chicks who are troublemakers, but even worse I'm not having a dude I know who is on some hater shyt around me, them type of nikkas are dangerous and won't hesitate to stick the knife in your back at the first opportunity.
 

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It was ugly out here for a while. Just fine hoes, meaningless sex, intolerable company, and bad af women I was coming across.

Then I met one, fine af, top 2 women personalities I've ever met (and only probably saying that cause I'm reluctant to admit otherwise) and we're ROCKING.

She was adamant about not coming to her house in the beginning and I played the same role. We hung out like 6 times in the first 12 days after actually kicking it the first time. Knew of each other prior.

I loved her look, standards, conversation, morals, body, personality how in sync we were in all that. Getting TOO drunk with her early on had me fighting to keep her in my life after embarrassing displays :dry:

Overcame BS, finally invited her over - folded her up and shyt got stronger. Around 3 months I told her I wanted you be exclusive - wild cause all the time as spent and how things we're going, screamed exclusive. ( felt the need to verbalize cause I started rejecting hoes)

I don't when, where or why but now - I'm indifferent af. Possibly cause we work together :krs: and I was used to seeing her being the one everybody wanted and that changed once everybody went to WFH and I saw her busted for like a month straight. I wish I wasn't shallow cause wtf, she checks all boxes. To the point, I wasn't even checking for other women.

Now here we are wrapping up month 4 and idk. And it might not even be her. I'm getting better, these hoes letting me know I'm fine - the shots I shoot don't miss. I got women throwing themselves at me and I'm like damn - do I wanna continue the life I've lived my whole life or do I want to give this situation an honest attempt.

Took shawty to a game tonight and can honestly say this the first time I didn't enjoy being in her presence. I'm an a$$hole so when I'm upset I'm rude and condescending but with her, I noticed I shut down to prevent further damage. That's what happened tonight - through the game, car ride all that...silence.

Went to a bar, after that... bartender shooting and she half naked. I'm like do I really wanna leave this lifestyle. Talk to me :lupe:
The honeymoon stage is over. The first 6 months of a relationship is the honeymoon stage, then reality kicks in!!!!:lolbron:
 
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It was ugly out here for a while. Just fine hoes, meaningless sex, intolerable company, and bad af women I was coming across.

Then I met one, fine af, top 2 women personalities I've ever met (and only probably saying that cause I'm reluctant to admit otherwise) and we're ROCKING....

On to the next. If you feeling like that at month 4 then imagine what a year gonna feel like.
 

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You’ll probably never want to truly settle down with one woman. They will always bore you eventually

That’s the perils of being a player when you’re younger. That shyt don’t leave you. It’s the same reason you cant turn a hoe into a housewife. Cant turn a playa into a papa
Dap + rep...bolded is deeper than Atlantis

Every dude I've known and know currently that steps out on their lady has always been that way

Yeah I got it in in my day but I stayed single when I was running through hoes. When I fell for a chick I only had eyes for her and would cut my fukk buddies off.

Not judging, I live and let live.
 

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Dap + rep...bolded is deeper than Atlantis

Every dude I've known and know currently that steps out on their lady has always been that way

Yeah I got it in in my day but I stayed single when I was running through hoes. When I fell for a chick I only had eyes for her and would cut my fukk buddies off.

Not judging, I live and let live.
yea pretty much
i am the same way

when in a relationship even though i dont fukk or step out on my girl, i will still holla at the odd random chick here and there...may even kick it with them just to keep myself sane. i keep satellites around.

the reason is because as a single man i have always hollaed at women whenever i liked whaat i saw. cant just turn that off over night unless a girl is really doing her job and ticking all the boxes. and lets be honest, youre lucky if you get 70% of what you want in a woman from just one.
 
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