Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Huellz Santana
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My father is funny I saw him today and we talked for about an hour. He was telling me I should mess with cougars and the younger women don't have to mean anything. Basically he was telling me to get as many women as I can and he wants another grandson. He has two from my sister but wants one with his last name.
number 1 and 2 are actually kind of the same when you think about it. i think you might be insecure about the fact that she might be holding back on stuff (and i kind of understand why you might be feeling that way). Almost like you feel she's not super happy and you're probably used to chicks with a litte more emotion. It might make you think that she's the type of chick who will not be happy about something but keep it bottled in and then just leave out of the blue with no warning signs.brehs i got a new chick i been dating that I like a lot except for the following:
1. she has zero passion whatsoever. like she doesn't have an opinion or emotion tied to anything. at first I was likebut now, I don't know. i feel like she'll just agree with whatever I want because that's how she is. i worry that I'll get bored and run all over her.
2. we don't have sexual chemistry. we've done it about 5 times now and I'm starting to think it just isn't there. i've tried to get her to express what she likes but she doesn't give me much to work with. this is a big deal because i think she might have marriage potential and marriage is FOREVER.
other than that she's cool, loyal, cooks, has no baggage, and has a good job.
im trying to keep my mind focused on what's most important but i dunno if these two things will become major issues.
if it seems to be about what i'm saying then here's my advice: seems like she's loving you right now. Do you feel like she's attached to you? those types of chicks are dangerous if you slip emotionally. my advice is to take whatever she says for what it is at face value and not to get too attached. if she's playing a game (which honestly doesn' seem to be the case from what you said) then she won't be able to play you. and if she really is like that naturally (agreeable on most things, not much feedback on sex), then just fukk her EXACTLY how you want to fukk her and as long as she chooses to not give much feedback, keep doing what you want but be at peace with the fact she could flip at any moment. then again maybe she's just naturally submissive like that and in that case what's there to complain about?
see she might not be doing it consciously but by being unresponsive and agreeable on everything to the point where you suspect there is something off or that she's not genuine, if you keep asking her "is everything ok?", "are you enjoying yourself?" "do you like this?" etc, she's getting attention (you worrying about her emotional well being). she has very little incentive to give more feedbacl if she values this attention from you more than the actual expression of her opinions. take away that aspect of your attention and she will either up and leave OR she will start expressing her desires and opinions more.
so the girl at my job just textd me talking about I'm still fake mad and to grow up. lol just because I'm not talking to you don't mean I'm mad.
Where's the URL for the blog? Definitely want to peep that..
honestly as aman the two most important things you have at your disposal is Commitment which i mentioned before and the ability to walk away and never look back.
Every broad out there thinks her puzzy is the greatest, or that hse is so beautiful that no matter what she does she can just say sorry and draw that man back to her.
women will always ask me so what are you good at, and ill always answer cutting people out of my life, as in it doesn't matter if I knew you since last week, or for ten years, if you are not my family and you do something I don't like that's it, I'll cut the cord and never look back.
You may not be 6 feet tall with abs, or some nugga making 6 figures with his it certs, but if your meticulous and patient and think things over and not throw your commitment to any broad with big titties a beautiful face and a big ass and/or not afraid to walk away whether your dating her a week, a month, a few years you will be in selective company and maintain the power and control of the relationship.
Every broad out there thinks her puzzy is the greatest, or that hse is so beautiful that no matter what she does she can just say sorry and draw that man back to her.
women will always ask me so what are you good at, and ill always answer cutting people out of my life, as in it doesn't matter if I knew you since last week, or for ten years, if you are not my family and you do something I don't like that's it, I'll cut the cord and never look back.
You may not be 6 feet tall with abs, or some nugga making 6 figures with his it certs, but if your meticulous and patient and think things over and not throw your commitment to any broad with big titties a beautiful face and a big ass and/or not afraid to walk away whether your dating her a week, a month, a few years you will be in selective company and maintain the power and control of the relationship.
MaccabeanRebel
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lol your father is trying to set you up..he's basically saying he just wants another male heir by any means necessary. My pops did that with my older brother except he fukked up and said that shyt in front of his girlfriend at the time. What do you think happened? That bish got ideas and got pregnant like a month later and my brother is paying that c-support now haha
take fathers advice brehs..
every time i see my mom she always ask when i'm going to get married and start a family etc., my sister is year and a half older than me, been married for 5 years and has two kids and is pregnant with another one.
I really have no desire to get married or even get in a serious relationship. I like my life without the responsibility of caring for someone else who is not my family regardless of selfish that may seem.
Plus being tied down to one women for a long time its jsut something I can't really see myself doing at this point in my life, not sayng I would cheat I would never but just the constant motions. I enjoy my life, I'll go on the odd date or chill session here and there and well that's about it.
I really have no desire to get married or even get in a serious relationship. I like my life without the responsibility of caring for someone else who is not my family regardless of selfish that may seem.
Plus being tied down to one women for a long time its jsut something I can't really see myself doing at this point in my life, not sayng I would cheat I would never but just the constant motions. I enjoy my life, I'll go on the odd date or chill session here and there and well that's about it.
MaccabeanRebel
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I know where your coming from. I'm basically in the same situation...I don't want any heavy responsibilities and I'm in my late 20's with a nice career. For instance, I have enough to drop on a decent downpayment on a crib and I don't want to pull the trigger on a house because I don't want to be contractually tied to a mortgage. And when I think about it If I can't even tie myself to a piece of property I'd be damned to tie myself to another person and be legally binded to them (at least at this point in my life).
I got to much I need to do aswell... I have skills I need to flesh out, research ideas I want to explore, businesses I want to start. I'm honestly on some "bytches are a distraction" shyt...but I have to balance it out because that mindset to the extreme isn't healthy. It's tough though.
daps
I have like 23,000 worth of debt that im working on getting rid of at the moment. But I'm not even stressed, if i get canned at work my severance will be like 25k and will pay that off and i can get a new job easily. Plus i can pay that debt off within two years and still travel live a easy life, with a family etc. Id be stressing like hell.
i caught up wiht a old acquintance on friday who is a single mom and she was tellnig me the one thing she misses more than everyhting is that she can't pick up and go, she's 31 and her child is two, but before she had a child, she would just get up and move to another city, or go travel and live in another country for 6 months working etc.
thast the life i want to have, only mouth i have to worry about feeding is my own.
if i were to get a job offer in say sydney australia i could pack my bags and be gone in 2 weeks, not worrying about moving my family etc.
hell earlier this year when i went to cuba it was a Wednesday i decided let me take the next week of work and by friday i was on a plane by myself.
righ tnow i just want to get rid of my debt so i can truly be free.
Bottom line is, it's just really better to sit back and handle your business and enjoy your life than 'force-fitting' a woman into it. The problem in this day and age is that women weren't taught how to catch nor keep a man. Through television programming and through some of their hood-rattish mothers, a lot of these women were taught to either act masculine or like a prostitute. They have shows like Bad Girls Club, Sex and the City and countless other shows subconsciously influencing their actions. Dealing with women nowadays is almost like fishing in a lake full of mercury infested fish. Catching the fish might be fun, but you're not going to take that fish home to your family because it is too poisonous on the inside. Talking to, flirting with women, etc., is fun, but too many of these women are too poisonous on the inside to really want to build anything with... and you know it's not isolated when you have news paper reporting on how men aren't getting married nearly at the rate that they used to.
The real problem is that men want women they can view as someone they can build something with... like a true friend and not like that sneaky person that claims to be your friend but steals something out your house as soon as your back is turned. In order to keep their interest, it's like you have to reenact some sort of soap opera or you have to do some circus tricks to keep her mind entertained. Once she stops being entertained with you, she not so mysteriously disappears and you find that she is off to the races and dealing with the next man. The real problem is that you could be one of those 'decent dudes' who is doing everything society tells you that you should be to the woman, aka paying all the bills, making sure she has spending money, paying off her school loans, etc., and that's the man that she treats the absolute worst. She will probably end up taking that guy's money and spending it on some guy she met at the club or ride around in her 'man's car' with some guy she met at the school that providerman was paying for. Let's be real. Who honestly wants those kind of characters around them-- characters who, the better you treat them, the worse they treat you? And that you have to keep entertained as if they were children or else they start wandering into territory they shouldn't?
Society is set up now to where you can only treat women like brief encounters or not really deal with them at all. Obviously players are having the times of their lives, or in the terms of PUA, 'alpha males', but men who want to do something serious and look at a woman past sex are opting out because the moment they try to do that is the moment she brings drama into his life or snakes him. So really, is it a surprise that many guys are simply opting to do other things like stack their bread, get out of debt and just enjoy their life than continually chasing women?
Scenario 1: Spend your money on cars, clothes, cash to attract hoes from the club. You'll eventually get bored with this shallow lifestyle and have nothing to show for it... that is if you don't get caught up in an 'unwanted pregnancy', STD scare or even get a false rape case on you.
Scenario 2: Spend your money 'building a future' with that woman you thought was a sweetheart. Make sure the bills are paid, she has food on the table, and some spending money for fun. Find out she was cheating on you because you were too predictable and boring, or how she would say it, "You were working all the time and didn't pay enough attention to me!" Watch her take half of your assets and then pay her streams of money for decades while she spends it on the guy she cheated on you with to spite you even further all for treating her respectfully.
Scenario 3: Stack all of your excess money that comes from avoiding buying overly elaborate clothing, avoiding some super fancy cars to 'impress hoes' and not having to buy all of these elaborate gifts. Get your debt paid off, have a huge back-up fund and watch a lot of your job stress disappear because you know you don't have to put up with your company's nonsense because you have a huge pile of funds to fall back on. Feel free to take trips whenever you want and eat what you want. Have no worries about what your 'girl' is doing when she mysteriously becomes busy out of nowhere.
Is it any real wonder why more and more men are choosing scenario 3? There are those rare unicorn type women that you can actually build with and who actually have a sweet personality, but for the most part, you just save a lot of stress and money not putting up with the drama. There has to be some real benefit beyond what a woman is carrying between her legs for her to get a long-term contract, and in most cases, and more often than not, in this day and age, women are failing to bring that additional value... hence why men are focusing on other endeavors and putting women on the backburner.
The real problem is that men want women they can view as someone they can build something with... like a true friend and not like that sneaky person that claims to be your friend but steals something out your house as soon as your back is turned. In order to keep their interest, it's like you have to reenact some sort of soap opera or you have to do some circus tricks to keep her mind entertained. Once she stops being entertained with you, she not so mysteriously disappears and you find that she is off to the races and dealing with the next man. The real problem is that you could be one of those 'decent dudes' who is doing everything society tells you that you should be to the woman, aka paying all the bills, making sure she has spending money, paying off her school loans, etc., and that's the man that she treats the absolute worst. She will probably end up taking that guy's money and spending it on some guy she met at the club or ride around in her 'man's car' with some guy she met at the school that providerman was paying for. Let's be real. Who honestly wants those kind of characters around them-- characters who, the better you treat them, the worse they treat you? And that you have to keep entertained as if they were children or else they start wandering into territory they shouldn't?
Society is set up now to where you can only treat women like brief encounters or not really deal with them at all. Obviously players are having the times of their lives, or in the terms of PUA, 'alpha males', but men who want to do something serious and look at a woman past sex are opting out because the moment they try to do that is the moment she brings drama into his life or snakes him. So really, is it a surprise that many guys are simply opting to do other things like stack their bread, get out of debt and just enjoy their life than continually chasing women?
Scenario 1: Spend your money on cars, clothes, cash to attract hoes from the club. You'll eventually get bored with this shallow lifestyle and have nothing to show for it... that is if you don't get caught up in an 'unwanted pregnancy', STD scare or even get a false rape case on you.
Scenario 2: Spend your money 'building a future' with that woman you thought was a sweetheart. Make sure the bills are paid, she has food on the table, and some spending money for fun. Find out she was cheating on you because you were too predictable and boring, or how she would say it, "You were working all the time and didn't pay enough attention to me!" Watch her take half of your assets and then pay her streams of money for decades while she spends it on the guy she cheated on you with to spite you even further all for treating her respectfully.
Scenario 3: Stack all of your excess money that comes from avoiding buying overly elaborate clothing, avoiding some super fancy cars to 'impress hoes' and not having to buy all of these elaborate gifts. Get your debt paid off, have a huge back-up fund and watch a lot of your job stress disappear because you know you don't have to put up with your company's nonsense because you have a huge pile of funds to fall back on. Feel free to take trips whenever you want and eat what you want. Have no worries about what your 'girl' is doing when she mysteriously becomes busy out of nowhere.
Is it any real wonder why more and more men are choosing scenario 3? There are those rare unicorn type women that you can actually build with and who actually have a sweet personality, but for the most part, you just save a lot of stress and money not putting up with the drama. There has to be some real benefit beyond what a woman is carrying between her legs for her to get a long-term contract, and in most cases, and more often than not, in this day and age, women are failing to bring that additional value... hence why men are focusing on other endeavors and putting women on the backburner.
write a book, breh. Seriously.
write a series of books.
write a series of books.