Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Lisa Taylor, a healthcare executive from St. Louis who has been online dating for seven years, was sitting outside reading at a hotel this summer when a man came up and asked if she’d like to talk.
“I looked him dead in the face and said, ‘About what?’” says Taylor, 50. She thought she’d done something to bother him and he wanted to complain.
It only dawned on her once she was back in her room: the man was hitting on her.
“It was so out of the norm that I honestly did not know,” she says. “And then I was thinking, I could have handled that a little bit better.”
There was a time when people met significant others through friends, at work, or if they were lucky, by making eye contact across an overcrowded, otherwise terrible bar that suddenly became, in a moment, not so terrible. Then online dating took off. Old ways of meeting didn’t disappear but over time took a back seat to finding love via smartphone. These days, singles seeking long-term partners are tired of swiping and ready—excited even—about the prospect of meeting someone in real life instead.
These articles are never written by hetero men. They're almost always filtered through the eyes of hetero women or LGBT.
If it's written by a guy, it's a happily married man (often a therapist or psych or Academic) decades out of the game.
As a result, 90% of these articles are written from the Female "Gaze"...
This one is written by a woman, and Most of the examples are of women.
For sure. There's the demo of posting on Tik Tok about meeting people in real life lol
what would a male writer maybe say differently? I would say some shyt like I have posted in here, it's HARD to meet someone in public, but the phone/eye contact thing seems true to me. The anxiety phone factor. Of clutching or checking your phone when you walk by someone.
There's a graph that maps out years corresponding to where people meet, and you can see all the diversion happening about around 2015, increasing every year.
In this case, it'd be about the perils of cold approach, not some funny story about a 50 year old (who should know better...)
The problem with taking a hetero male approach to cold approach/meeting people IRL - is that nobody truly wants to hear what's going on in the mind of man on this topic (or any other topic), not in a publication like the Wall Street Journal.
Even if it was GQ/Esquire/Playboy - being truly honest about the subject would be lots of public hate.
Sleepy Floyd
Superstar
Update, she unblocked me and sent me a Friend Request a couple days ago and a message talking about she owes me an apology. And that now we can talk, because she's single. And that the guy was jealous and toxicSo about 8 months ago I fukked this chick 3 times then she sent me a text message saying she couldn't see me anymore because she has a boyfriend. Weird because I'd just had her squirting all over my bed less than 12 hours before that text but ok...Then she blocked me on everything.
Bet, thanks for letting me smash and lettin me buss in ya mouf
Then I forgot about ole girl. Hadn't seen her since.
Anyway, I get a random text message today from her best friend. It was basically like "hi just sending you this message from her, she says if you see her don't say hi to her. She has a boyfriend and he's very jealous"
I'm confused af because I forgot all about the chick. So I replied "Ok" and kept it movin.
Then her best friend calls me
and explains that the chick's boyfriend is letting her start going out to events again, and the chick wants me to know that if I see her at an event, not to say hi to her so her boyfriend doesn't get jealous.
So I replied "she got a boyfriend but she still can't stop thinking about me" and then her friend hung up
I had legit forgot about this chick. I don't even see her the same anymore.She showed up yesterday to a kickboxing class I was teaching and I didn't care. She says she wants to go out. I told her my schedule is full. She insisting but nah
When a chick says something about the dude she dropped, I make a mental note - that's the type of dudes she actually likes
Easy blazeUpdate, she unblocked me and sent me a Friend Request a couple days ago and a message talking about she owes me an apology. And that now we can talk, because she's single. And that the guy was jealous and toxic
She showed up yesterday to a kickboxing class I was teaching and I didn't care. She says she wants to go out. I told her my schedule is full. She insisting but nah
Take advantage
Sleepy Floyd
Superstar
You mean like I should smash?
I know it's a wide open layup but she gotta wait in line and I'm not really feeling her like that
She had the #1 spot but she fumbled it plus she's let herself go since I last saw her. Like she hasn't been working out at all since almost a year ago while she was with dude
Cut her off thenYou mean like I should smash?
I know it's a wide open layup but she gotta wait in line and I'm not really feeling her like that
She had the #1 spot but she fumbled it plus she's let herself go since I last saw her. Like she hasn't been working out at all since almost a year ago while she was with dude
Sleepy Floyd
Superstar
She cut herself offCut her off then
I never responded to any of her messages and she went to my class to ask me in person
Y'all ever just get bored of a chick after she been bullshytting for too long?
Stalker
You're right that I shouldn't be insecure or have fear. Got to be confident and trust more but I believe as a man you got to beat that p*ssy out the frame or someone else will.
That's just my philosophyWhy you think she puts up with me.. the D lol jk
Appreciate your advice, that's right just got to work on trust. Can't stifle her or be controlling, won't ever work.
You never know but I doubt it.
Redwood
Superstar
Straw Hat Luffy
Veteran
I’m not at that stage where if a chick threw it at me I’d turn it down— at least I don’t think.
But I haven’t had that hunting mentality in two or three months. Work and everything be expensive is kicking my ass. And my social battery gets drained af.
I no longer try to create something with girls who aren’t into horror or wrestling or not willing to get into it. Sounds crazy. But knowing there are strong communities full of women with similar interests I’d rather go after them. It’s my life 24/7 and will be the rest of my life… I’ve been with chicks who didn’t like either and it doesn’t feel good.
And another thing that scares me is having a kid with the wrong girl. I’m team no condom lol. And I don’t know if my brain took longer fully to develop but it finally hit me if you have a baby with someone then you’re attached to that person forever lol.
Of course I know what it means but fully digesting the meaning of that is crazy. Chick could be mentally ill and pass it on to your children. She could be on social media making a fool of herself. She could make your life a living hell for 18 years… she could be one of those folks refusing to grow up and always going out every weekend. so much could go wrong getting the wrong chick prego
So now I feel like I do job interviews with 7 steps and the last few times chicks have been failing steps 1 & 2
TLDR; I haven’t made any moves recently
And I’m okay with that
But I haven’t had that hunting mentality in two or three months. Work and everything be expensive is kicking my ass. And my social battery gets drained af.
I no longer try to create something with girls who aren’t into horror or wrestling or not willing to get into it. Sounds crazy. But knowing there are strong communities full of women with similar interests I’d rather go after them. It’s my life 24/7 and will be the rest of my life… I’ve been with chicks who didn’t like either and it doesn’t feel good.
And another thing that scares me is having a kid with the wrong girl. I’m team no condom lol. And I don’t know if my brain took longer fully to develop but it finally hit me if you have a baby with someone then you’re attached to that person forever lol.
Of course I know what it means but fully digesting the meaning of that is crazy. Chick could be mentally ill and pass it on to your children. She could be on social media making a fool of herself. She could make your life a living hell for 18 years… she could be one of those folks refusing to grow up and always going out every weekend. so much could go wrong getting the wrong chick prego
So now I feel like I do job interviews with 7 steps and the last few times chicks have been failing steps 1 & 2
TLDR; I haven’t made any moves recently
And I’m okay with that