Collect these likes and match with they ass on Feb 15 lol don't be a lick
the bold is the key. i cant fake that shyt bruh
thing is sometimes doing that shyt just causes the woman to mirror the same shyt. so now everyone taking one or two days to respond, everyone ignoring calls, everyone flaking on plans.
i dont get how yall do it lol. seems like a complete waste
I have this issue I keep running into, and I know the brotha @re'up willlmao
Whenever I meet a chick, the vast majority of the time they will play these cat and mouse games. They will take long to respond, sometimes they may ignore messages, sometimes they may flake on dates, etc. I have improved over the years to where this shyt doesnt affect me as much early on and I am able to play it cool but lately I feel like I have been falling for the okie doke.
The reason I say this is because I am by nature a very direct and forthright communicator. Naturally, after a few dates things will ramp up and the communication will improve and I willl know the girl is starting to fukk with me heavy. However, a lot of the time after ramping up these girls will kinda just distance themselves and I am back to square one feeling like I am walking on eggshells. I know consciously what is going on but instead of staying at an arms length as well, sometimes I get caught up in the moment and will ask them whats up or call them out. I often feel like I chase away girls as a result (though deep down i know these girls are probably up to no good behind the scenes anyway - so maybe its for the best)
This is something I gotta really work on going forward. I discussed it many years ago talking about something I call the whacamole theory but I havent been taking my own advice these days. Maybe its cause I am getting older and less patient. Yall ever deal with this?
funny thing is when you bring this shyt up to some people they will hurl insults at you; call you an incel, say you hate women, blame you for meeting women in the wrong places etc but its quite the opposite.
i have no problem meeting women and fukkin women...i dont want to waste my time and energy doing that though; I want one solid woman to rock with![]()
1000% when we chatted she even said that I wasnt the only one who has talked to her about this; she told me her friend told her its like she hates men or something due to some of the shyt she said. And in trying to understand where some of her rhetoric comes from I would ask questions about last relationships and shyt and its clear that her ex aint even really dog her out or nothing so its probably coming from social media or her girlfriends.
I cant say it enough man. You meet an attractive women past age 28, there is a reason she is single 9/10 times. Social media has a lot of their brains fried when you consider their attention spans, propensities to compare you to the next man, the female red shyt they prolly consume, etc. This one was in a very long relationship most recently so i gave her the benefit of the doubt but she turned out to not be serious/ready.
We dealing with the worst/weirdest crop in history as some brothas in here have said. Overcomplicating even the simplest shyt.
No doubt fam. I am giving shorty the space she wants while I focus on this Nigerian chick who is seemingly more cooperative and straight forward but its just a shame because her and I had A+ chemistry and an A+ attraction to each other. And whenever we would try to make plans it was pretty straight forward to but Iunno, I could just tell that she felt we were getting too close too quick and was tryna keep me at an arms length.
I dont even wanna be talking to multiple chicks at once but these women force us to do it; then they will wonder why every man they encounter seems like a player. Well duh, its because you weed out men who are serious/intentional naturally with the bullshyt games so you end up with men who are players and know how to play the cat and mouse games on all-madden level lol.
Currently experiencing a bit of this. Sometimes it's hard for me to resist the urge to call them on their shyt. I know it will probably end bad if I do, but if I don't I feel like a bytch getting played. I know I'm playing the game, they playing the game, and I wish I didn't have to, but it is what it is. Cuz at the same time I ain't truly ready to settle down with one chick
I will expand on this more later but I feel you brah
this is pretty much where im at in my mid 30si have no problem meeting women and fukkin women...i dont want to waste my time and energy doing that though; I want one solid woman to rock with![]()
this is pretty much where im at in my mid 30s
no problem getting consistent sex out here. The professional types (typically who i deal with) all want their backs blown out on the reg. But their relationship skills are trash, and im sick of the cookie cutter personalities they all get from social media.
Truthfully i probably just need a change of scenery
its why I mainly date when I travel (which I do frequently), when I`m home I don't want to be bothered
Sends a message and a few days later
Omg I'm just seeing this again I swear I replied sorry I've been so busy
These chicks know the Average man will be like no worries lol what's up?
“Could of sworn I replied back to this”The "OMG I'm just seeing this message" kills me. bytch you didn't see the text thread unread with a notification number to it? Now I just do the same shyt
shyt is crazy like they all had the same manual they readSends a message and a few days later
Omg I'm just seeing this again I swear I replied sorry I've been so busy
These chicks know the Average man will be like no worries lol what's up?
What a lot of women do, and men, is they let so many notifications accumulate, that they set a time, or whatever, and then respond to a group or all of them in a 10 minute period, something along those lines. So, yes, they COULD respond to your message, when it comes, but they often aren't responding to lots and lots of messages, until later. Even as recently as like 2 years ago, I would be surprised when some random text I send to whomever, would get replied to 4 days later, at 7:44 AM, when I had forgotten about it. I assumed they were going back into the text thread, but no, they just replied en masse to unread texts.
To understand this, you have to realize that messages/busyness are a status signal/status sign. And also, just the extreme relentlessness of notifications from everywhere. And therefore, people are motivated, kinda like by IG likes, to get as many as possible, and not replying becomes a form or power exercised, and also a form of control.
